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He who uses sugarcane as a walking stick will soon eat it. And you cannot keep a monkey and a banana in the same place.

Let’s stop pretending. A man and a woman cannot be besties for long without emotions getting involved — especially when they’re constantly together, talking daily, sharing secrets, and soothing each other’s emotional wounds. You can call it “pure friendship” all you want, but biology and human nature have never signed that agreement with you.

Every emotional bond carries a seed of attraction. And when that seed is watered with consistency, vulnerability, and comfort, it will germinate. That’s not temptation — that’s science and psychology teaming up against your denial.

When your girlfriend has a male bestie or your boyfriend has a female bestie, you’re not being insecure for feeling uneasy. You’re being observant. History has receipts, and patterns don’t lie.

It always starts innocently — a late-night chat, inside jokes, venting about the main partner, “we just vibe differently,” and before long, they’re emotionally entangled. Then one weak moment later, it becomes “it was the devil’s handwork.”
No, it wasn’t. It was poor boundaries wearing perfume and smiling.

Let’s be honest — emotional intimacy is more dangerous than physical touch. When someone knows your deepest fears, insecurities, and dreams, they gain access to your heart’s password. And the moment your partner finds that comfort in another person, emotional betrayal has already begun — long before any physical line is crossed.

So no, it’s not paranoia to draw boundaries. It’s wisdom.
Because prevention will always be cheaper than damage control.

If you don’t want chaos, don’t build the stage for it.
If you don’t want to “blame the devil,” stop giving him rehearsal space in your friendship.

Men and women can be friends — yes.
But best friends? Constantly close, emotionally bonded, and always available? That’s not friendship anymore — that’s a slow-motion love story waiting for the right mistake.

Boundaries are not mistrust. They’re respect for reality.
Because as long as blood flows through veins and attraction remains a human instinct, no one is immune to the fire that emotional closeness can ignite.

So before you say “it was the devil’s handwork,” remember — the devil doesn’t force hands. He just creates opportunities.

#BoundariesSaveRelationships
#PatternsDontLie
#PreventionOverExcuses

Are you saying it's not the devil's work that we have more non-virgins (fairly used) than virgins(pure and undefiled)?
Are you saying that the high rate of paternity fraud by non-virgins isn't from the workshop of the devil?
Are you saying that the rate at which non-virgins commit abortions isn't a craft of the devil? Oga, devil hand dey inside

What do I really know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Devils handwork sabi sweet?
all does naive and insecure girls
it is always good to practice handwork to become perfect

Nothing like devil's handwork.
Cheating is very calculated and intentional.
In many cases you think you can eat once and not go back. Then you convince yourself it is not that deep and keep going back.

Generally the culprits bank on lack of consequences or the ignorance of their spouses.

pocohantas:
Nothing like devil's handwork.
Cheating is very calculated and intentional.

poco baby
were u once naive and insecure?

Dey whine yourself

You never see girls wey get 10 besties
Out of that 10 only 2 go don knack.

Women know this game better than men.

A woman can get close to you just so she can benefit from you. Not sex
Na man dey always think sex sex sex

For a woman no sexual relationship with a guy is the best. Because the guy will do anything to please her with the hope of getting some puna

That is the rabbit chasing carrot
Back in the days a girl I was toasting I saw her contact list and my name was saved as Daniel crunchies. Imagine just because we dey like hang out for crunches...

You go see Mathhew blue car
Who be Mathew blue car?? Another simp she dey call when she need free ride for campus

After then I realize why women like to have male friends. Na her slaves be that
She can have many male friends that are competing to get a sniff of her puna

Out of that many guys she call bestie.
90%are doing free manual labour
only 10% of them go don chop her on the low

Devil has no handwork...so why the blame?

Shout-out to chess players on nairaland earning via the game.

Men understand this from day 1 but woman live in denial from the onset.

Same thing sultan of sokoto will say after Trump is on their case .

This is a common knowledge nah

One of the most intentional stuffs you can think of is CHEATING!!!

The intention to cheat is a willful resolve. No body should rationalize it.

DMCA:
poco baby
were u once naive and insecure?

Probably. She's been educating the girls on this platform for some time now which is good news for the future generations. Experience they say is the best teacher....

Let's be straight. The writer of this piece is 💯 correct.
Set boundaries with the opposite gender if u want to have a peaceful, meaningful and long lasting relationship.

"It was the devil's handwork"

But when the d eek slipped out, you used your hands to put it back inside.

AirBere:
Probably, she's been educating the girls on this platform for some time now which is good news for the future generations. Experience they say is the best teacher....

how i wish i was opportune to be pocohantas teacher

Shawarmagirl:
I don't believe in that crab 'DEVIL HANDWORK'. Before it happened, you were aware, you are intentional about it. People term to call it devils handwork because they were caught. If they were not caught, it's normal.

Even though, largely it's calculated to know the end from beginning, but on few occasions, innocently and ignorantly (from both side), they slide into deep shit.

BOTH WOULD START FRIENDSHIP INNOCENTLY, BUT WILL END UP IN DEEP EMOTIONAL LOVE.

Opposite sex in which one or both are into serious relationship, shouldn't play a dangerous game of bestie.

Las las, it's still the devil's handiwork

Shawarmagirl:
I don't believe in that crab 'DEVIL HANDWORK'. Before it happened, you were aware, you are intentional about it. People term to call it devils handwork because they were caught. If they were not caught, it's normal.

can u visit me let me buy u shawarma ?

Religion always need bad guy to give them relevance

DMCA:
how i wish i was opportune to be pocohantas teacher

If wishes were horses....you know the rest

DMCA:
Devils handwork sabi sweet?
all does naive and insecure girls
it is always good to practice handwork to become perfect

Na so o....

My old professor would ask why devil no push you enter road make trailer kih you troway. Na to go knack person wife or person wife to go knack another person.... 😁

That old man words still plenty for my head up till this day. A professor that drinks with his student. No be werey be that.... Smh

AirBere:
If wishes were horses....you know the rest

wishes can always be horses when location is known and convenient

That's why most of these are called "commit" or "commission".


You don't just fall into these things. You are 'committed' and invested in them; you plan the location and timing, you have many opportunities to discontinue; and you most likely know there would be a regret in the end.

DMCA:
wishes can always be horses when location is known and convenient

Good luck with that lmao 😂😂😂😂

correctguy101:
Na so o....

My old professor would ask why devil no push you enter road make trailer kih you troway. Na to go knack person wife or person wife to go knack another person.... 😁

That old man words still plenty for my head up till this day. A professor that drinks with his student. No be werey be that.... Smh

devil sabi make me run hand for dem body, if objection no come, na to adjust am off pant knack am such that d next time wey we jam e no go fit look me inside face.
u go read humility, respect and submission all in one for their face.
that kind look na confirmation say i fit run round 2 and I no dey waste time.

You fall into temptations because of your own inner desires.

AirBere:
Good luck with that lmao 😂😂😂😂

pocohantas drop location

If the devil was ia human being he would have had many people to sue or kill for lying against him

Yorubastardz:
Dey whine yourself

You never see girls wey get 10 besties
Out of that 10 only 2 go don knack.

Women know this game better than men.

A woman can get close to you just so she can benefit from you. Not sex
Na man dey always think sex sex sex

For a woman no sexual relationship with a guy is the best. Because the guy will do anything to please her with the hope of getting some puna

That is the rabbit chasing carrot
Back in the days a girl I was toasting I saw her contact list and my name was saved as Daniel crunchies. Imagine just because we dey like hang out for crunches...

You go see Mathhew blue car
Who be Mathew blue car?? Another simp she dey call when she need free ride for campus

After then I realize why women like to have male friends. Na her slaves be that
She can have many male friends that are competing to get a sniff of her puna

Out of that many guys she call bestie.
90%are doing free manual labour
only 10% of them go don chop her on the low

Stop playing lol

A girl who has 10 besties and only 2 don nack am, had 10 besties who were simps.

If a girl has 10 alpha besties, all would've turned her to shreds unless the alpha males were just not interested in getting her laid.

Moral of the story, don't double date as a girl. Focus on yourself and your current fiancé. Because if you jam MEN you go collect. There's absolutely no question about this.