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Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

Kingsasian:
perhaps she needs you for company. I still believe it is too early for her to move on. I won't advise you to fall for her

Kobicove:
You're in love with her money, say the truth and let the devil be ashamed

Onegai:
Savvy19,

Please end it with her.

Don't even fool yourself by saying "oh let us be friends and I'll be hanging out, move in with you and loving you (but we won't define the relationship) whilst you heal". It's a stupid, manipulative tactic and her family and kids will see through it and hate you even more.

End it. Turn her into a friend from afar.

She's not ready to date anyone. She just left a 15-17 year marriage. You are such a REBOUND you may as well be a UEFA cup football hitting the goalpost.

She's wonderful to you right now because you're in the Honeymoon stage: her ego is bruised, she's broken emotionally, she hasn't recovered from her ex, she's trying to prove to the world that her ex was the problem (so trust me, you're getting the Ikoyi version of her, reality will be Aguda when it hits or Mushin when both of you realize it was a Rebound Relationship and you're in the Wow-This-Was-A-Bad-Idea era).

She needs to sit by herself and heal and focus on herself for a while, get herself together before dating.

Men do what she's doing: rush from Marriage into a Long-term Relationship and Another Marriage. They look happier than Yul Edochie and 2face and swear loudly about finally finding "peace".

In 5 years' time, they will quietly stop posting happy piz online and start sounding philosophical on their WhatsApp status (eye don clear and they've started to regret). It's why 2nd marriages fail higher than 1st marriages.

For your sake, protect your heart and give her space and distance. In 2-3 years' time if she's still available, go for her.

Onegai:
Savvy19, my advice has NOTHING to do with her Single motherhood.

There are a lot of Single Mum's who make great 2nd wives (one comes to my mind )

But she's rushing into a relationship for all the wrong reasons.

She has casual friends and acquaintances telling her to "move on! That man has moved on with other women! Don't dull yasef!" (We all underestimate how much BAD ADVICE recently divorcees and separated people are given).

Her family and people who truly love her will be telling her to focus on herself and her kids for now (which is correct).

She's lonely, Hot and emotionally broken and here you show up, like Sir Galahad, giving her attention that her ex hasn't given her in over a year.

Of course she will respond like an Angel.

But it can't last and that's where reality will hit and you'll find yourself wondering how you slept in Bourdillon and woke up in Agege.

Then you'll start to shout "Omo never date a Single Mum o!"

Same thing with Single Dad's: go and ask the women who rushed and dated him before he had healed. Someone that just wanted to bleep but was confusedly asking you to step into his wife's role without recovering himself, his family and kids will hate you (but nobody will say anything. Then one day, small fight and "I never asked you to move in with me! You're the reason I couldn't reconcile with my wife!" just know that the cane that they used for the 1st wife has been brought out of the cupboard to use on you. Na your turn to cry

BItt:
You can not be in love with a single mother, she's tricking you. Remember, her heart will always be tied to those kids and the men she bore them for.

Look for another younger person to date.
A woman with 4 kids cannot love you, she's lying to you bro

Savvy19:
I think you are right about her heart being tied to her kids. Cos there was a day I ask her to come spend the night with me at my place, but she refused to come because of the kids

Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. .

infogenius:
@ op

Bros, let me give it to you straight with correct pepper 😂:

You’re in love with a woman who has four kids (eldest 15), and she’s nice, caring, homely, understanding, cooks premium jollof, and still doesn’t clear your account.

My guy, this one na WIFE MATERIAL with four free bonuses attached! 🤣

But let’s talk like men:
1. Four children no be beans. When you marry her, you’re signing up for a whole starting XI. School fees, JAMB, “Daddy I need iPhone 16 for assignment”… all of una go dey speak English together.

2. The 15-year-old go soon reach 18 and fit dey call you “bros” while still raiding fridge at 2 a.m. 😂 Are you ready for that energy?

3. She’s been separated over a year and doesn’t stress you for money? That’s a massive green flag. Many with one child will reset your account before you spell “babe.”
This one is managing four and still has love left to give you. Protect her!

4. The real question isn’t “should I continue?”
It’s: “Can I love these four children like my own, even when they’re forming Gen-Z and dragging me on TikTok?”

If your heart says YES without you first checking Bet9ja balance, then bro, you’ve found a rare treasure.

If you’re already sweating when you calculate school fees, quietly love her from afar and let another man with deeper pocket and stronger heart carry the baton.

Bottom line:
A good woman with four kids is still a good woman.
But love no be Nollywood; e get Part 2, 3, 4… and the children no dey pause.
Pray, count the cost, and if God says “enter,” enter with full chest.
If not, wish her well and run before the 15-year-old starts calling you “Uncle Daddy” 😂🏃‍♂️

You go dey alright, king! ❤️

Baronthecelebri:
Get her pregnant first

Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now. She doesn’t demand money from me.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

Savvy19:
➜I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now. She doesn’t demand money from me.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

Savvy19:
I am in love with a single mother of four kids. The eldest is 15 years old. She is nice, caring, loving, homely and understanding lady. She has all the qualities I want in a woman. I love her but I’m concerned about the welfare of the kids afterwards in the relationship. She has been separated from the father of her kids for over a year now. She doesn’t demand money from me.
I don’t know if it is a good idea for me to continue with the relationship, or I just let it go . This lady has really been good to me.

Savvy19:
I think you are right about her heart being tied to her kids. Cos there was a day I ask her to come spend the night with me at my place, but she refused to come because of the kids

AllBlack:
✅ keep it up
As long as you love her Don't listen to anyone here

Adebisi444:
That thing you dey find.. you will eventually see it.