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A Nigerian bride has shared her emotional experience online after calling off her wedding just a day before the ceremony.

The lady, identified as @joyblessed114 on TikTok, revealed that she caught her fiancé in a romantic act with one of her bridesmaids during his bachelor party, leaving her devastated.

The betrayal had a severe impact on her well-being, and she disclosed that she required medical attention following the incident.

The emotional shock was so intense that it physically affected her, highlighting the profound pain she experienced.

Due to the heartbreak, the lady chose to cancel the wedding, saying that her decision was driven by the need to protect her mental and emotional health.

“Life so private that no one knows I caught my fiancé with one of my bridesmaids on his bachelor’s night, just a day before our wedding. I’m healing and ready to move on. So help me God. Yesss I cancelled so I can stay alive for my loved ones and live my life in peace and happiness. If it gets your turn continue, marriage isn’t a do or die thing. Since I left him I don move on with my life but the mugu no move on he no fit get my type anywhere I am rare. I landed in the hospital. It’s not funny thou.”

“Life so private that no one knows I caught my fiancé with one of my bridesmaids on his bachelor’s night, just a day before our wedding. I’m healing and ready to move on. So help me God. Yesss I cancelled so I can stay alive for my loved ones and live my life in peace and happiness. If it gets your turn continue, marriage isn’t a do or die thing. Since I left him I don move on with my life but the mugu no move on he no fit get my type anywhere I am rare. I landed in the hospital. It’s not funny thou.”

“Life so private that no one knows I caught my fiancé with one of my bridesmaids on his bachelor’s night, just a day before our wedding. I’m healing and ready to move on. So help me God. Yesss I cancelled so I can stay alive for my loved ones and live my life in peace and happiness. If it gets your turn continue, marriage isn’t a do or die thing. Since I left him I don move on with my life but the mugu no move on he no fit get my type anywhere I am rare. I landed in the hospital. It’s not funny thou.”

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A Nigerian bride has shared her emotional experience online after calling off her wedding just a day before the ceremony.
The lady, identified as @joyblessed114 on TikTok, revealed that she caught her fiancé in a romantic act with one of her bridesmaids during his bachelor party, leaving her devastated.
The betrayal had a severe impact on her well-being, and she disclosed that she required medical attention following the incident.
The emotional shock was so intense that it physically affected her, highlighting the profound pain she experienced.

Is this a new story? Her face looks familiar!

Anyways, she should thank her stars that she did not marry him, else she would have been stuck wondering whether she should endure for that infamous Mrs badge Nigerian women like to suffer-worship while married to community dick.

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I don't know if i should commend her for taking a bold step or if I should tell her congratulations for knowing her worth. But whatever sha, you're welcome back to the street. A lady once said and I quote "If you mistakenly miss a good man, dem go knack you scatter before you go fit see another one again". But even if I wan cheat, not with my fiancee's bridesmaid na. But if you look at it carefully, na those kind knacking wey you know say fit scatter your reputation na dey sweet pass. In such a scenario, the friend go dey far more tighter and sweeter than your babe . Devil bad sha!!!

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

See how this OP just dey copy and paste like drunkard.






There're some women I can never do anything romantic with.......

* My girlfriend's/Wife's friends or relatives
* Staff/Colleagues


When you do it you either subject yourself to see finish or you downgrade your partner to the side chick.

Oloshoic bridesmaids are friends of oloshoic brides. Quote me daily, twice when you see it's true. Birds of one feather, flock together.

What a selfish entitled woman…

She should be proud that she won the prize…. Now the man will go ahead and marry the bridesmaid and this is not Nollywood where bad things will happen to them, instead , they will live happily and have beautiful kids while she would remain single for a very long time and may end up frustrated as a bitter feminist or single mother

Kobojunkie:
Is this a new story? Her face looks familiar!

Anyways, she should thank her stars that she did not marry him, else she would have been stuck wondering whether she should endure for that infamous Mrs badge Nigerian women like to suffer-worship while married to community dick.

Au contrairé. Look at it this way: suppose she didn't catch him? But she actually caught him. Someone said marriage consists a lot of gathering evidence. Now she has something to her advantage right at the beginning. And everyone will hear about it, including their children. That man will spend that marriage trying to prove he doesn't even look at other women.
Besides, the next person may be worse, except that she won’t know!

EmperorIsaac:
Oloshoic bridesmaids are friends of oloshoic brides. Quote me daily, twice when you see it's true. Birds of one feather, flock together.

It is not oloshoic. It is human nature. Every bridesmaid wants to seduce the groom - even if he were someone they normally won't even talk to

QuinQ:
It is not oloshoic. It is human nature. Every bridesmaid wants to seduce the groom - even if he were someone they normally won't even talk to

Since ladies know this truth, why did the Bride take it too serious? I thought Bachelor's eve is a night for the Groom to fulfill all his wildest fantasies with other single ladies in the oza room?


Now the lady is back to the street, and you know that the streets of today is very brutal to single ladies; the devil she ran from to preserve her mental health might end up becoming the least evil she would be dealing with on the streets lolz.


Her case was a case of standing between falling into an ocean and falling into a burning furnace; if I were her, I would have tried my luck by falling into the ocean, at least I could be lucky and got rescued by fishermen unlike the streets which is like the furnace where it burns for unknown period or even forever


By the way, marriage they said is for better for worse, and she got tested at the start and she chickened out, ire oh



Disclaimer: this comment is based on my bad man side.

franchasofficia:
Since ladies know this truth, why did the Bride take it too serious? I thought Bachelor's eve is a night for the Groom to fulfill all his wildest fantasies with other single ladies in the oza room?


Now the lady is back to the street, and you know that the streets of today is very brutal to single ladies; the devil she ran from to preserve her mental health might end up becoming the least evil she would be dealing with on the streets lolz.


Her case was a case of standing between falling into an ocean and falling into a burning furnace; if I were her, I would have tried my luck by falling into the ocean, at least I could be lucky and got rescued by fishermen unlike the furnace where it burns forever


By the way, marriage they said is for better for worse, and she got tested at the start and she chickened out, ire oh



Disclaimer: this comment is based on my bad man side.

Supports what I posted above.
Here it is:

Au contrairé. Look at it this way: suppose she didn't catch him? But she actually caught him. Someone said marriage consists a lot of gathering evidence . Now she has something to her advantage right at the beginning. And everyone will hear about it, including their children. That man will spend that marriage trying to prove he doesn't even look at another woman.
Besides, the next person may be worse, except she won’t know!

QuinQ:
Supports what I posted above.
Here it is:

Au contriré. Look at it this way: suppose she didn't catch him? But she actually caught him. Someone said marriage consists a lot of gathering evidence . Now she has something to her advantage right at the beginning. And everyone will hear about it, including their children. That man will spend that marriage trying to prove he doesn't even look at another woman.
Besides, the next person may be worse, except she won’t know!

wow, what an interesting reasoning, are you a she or a he please?

QuinQ:
➜Au contriré. Look at it this way: suppose she didn't catch him? But she actually caught him. Someone said marriage consists a lot of gathering evidence. Now she has something to her advantage right at the beginning. And everyone will hear about it, including their children. That man will spend that marriage trying to prove he doesn't even look at another woman.
Besides, the next person may be worse, except she won’t know!

Nonsense! Nigerian women like to spin their own Nollywood tales in their heads to keep them enduring bullsheet!

What is the worth of the useless evidence gathered if it is all to be used to shackle yourself to a miserable existence at the end of the day, all in the name of marriage? Which kain yeye evidence-gathering nonsense is this? Abi, you never read about all the women who spent years gathering evidence in vain, like Annie Idibia or what was her name, who was eventually abandoned like trash in the end? Or have you not read about May Edochie, who kept gathering evidence until she, too, was abandoned by the man in the end? There are not many more of these "evidence-gathering" wives out there who knew but thought they were smart gathering cheating reports on their sleeze bags of a husband, only for them to be abandoned — left high and dry —scrambling to save themselves in the end?

You caught a man cheating before you even married him. (He literally displayed that not only does he not value or respect you, but that by sleeping with your bridesmaid, he probably hates you as an individual and only wants to wife you to make you a housemaid/cook/baby mama/ convenient bang maid(all unpaid services until he gets tired of you). And you think the sensible thing to do would be to marry him and then spend your life living anxious and wondering who he may be cheating on you next with? Whatever convinced you that such a hellish existence is a sensible existence for anyone to choose? 😫😫😫

Ask yourself this. If that man had caught you banging his friend or even any man in the same manner, would he have also spun tales in his head and proceeded with the marriage anyway? That man would not only humiliate your arse, but even drag your parents for having you. He would have his friend label you a disgusting slut for humiliating him. You will be forced to flee that locality before the week's end, and maybe even have to change your phone number as well.🥱🥱

Please, have some dignity for yourself. No one will give it to you. You have to desire and get it for yourself.

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! Nigerian women like to spin their own Nollywood tales in their heads to keep them enduring bullsheet!

You caught a man cheating before you even married him. (He literally displayed that not only does he not value or respect you, but that by sleeping with your bridesmaid, he probably hates you as an individual and only wants to wife you to make you a housemaid/cook/baby mama/ convenient bang maid(all unpaid services until he gets tired of you). And you think the sensible thing to do would be to marry him and then spend your life living anxious and wondering who he may be cheating on you next with? Whatever convinced you that such a hellish existence is a sensible existence for anyone to choose? 😫😫😫

Ask yourself this. If that man had caught you banging his friend or even any man in the same manner, would he have also spun tales in his head and proceeded with the marriage anyway? That man would not only humiliate your arse, but even drag your parents for having you. He would have his friend label you a disgusting slut for humiliating him. You will be forced to flee that locality before the week's end, and maybe even have to change your phone number as well.🥱🥱

Please, have some dignity for yourself. No one will give it to you. You have to desire and get it for yourself.

You are not being REALISTIC. Almost all hot-bloded (and likely a bit drunk) young men can be seduced by a bridesmaid. He will later settle into being a husband and father and providing for his family which will leave him little time and resources for "bridesmaids".
In taking action always consider the alternative. Do you have a perfect guy who'd never look
at a bridesmaid on his bachelor's eve waiting to marry her?

QuinQ:
➜You are not being REALISTIC. Almost all hot-bloded (and likely a bit drunk) young men can be seduced by a bridesmaid. He will later settle into being a husband and father and providing for his family which will leave him little time and resources for "bridesmaids".
➜ In taking action always consider the alternative. Do you have a perfect guy who'd never look at a bridesmaid on his bachelor's eve waiting to marry her?

1. Basically, what you are wanting us to be is that the 1000s of millions of women before you who failed to realize that ideal in the cheat they married — that very same delusion you spun there—, most have not met you, is why? And let me guess, you will be the one and only woman in history —1 in over 4 billion —to make that happen, abi?

2. There are no perfect guys out there; therefore, women ought to accept humiliation and regret all because marriage is by force, abi?

Anyway, I am going to interpret this all as sarcasm. Because I cannot for the life of me imagine, in the year 2025, that there exists a woman out there on Nairaland who has no self-respect for herself at least.

I'm happy that she cancel the wedding

Kobojunkie:
1. Basically, what you are wanting us to be is that the 1000s of millions of women before you who failed to realize that ideal in the cheat they married — that very same delusion you spun there—, most have not met you, is why? And let me guess, you will be the one and only woman in history —1 in over 4 billion —to make that happen, abi?

2. There are no perfect guys out there; therefore, women ought to accept humiliation and regret all because marriage is by force, abi?

Anyway, I am going to interpret this all as sarcasm. Because I cannot for the life of me imagine, in the year 2025, that there exists a woman out there on Nairaland who has no self-respect for herself at least.

Words to bear in mind:
REALISTIC
PRAGMATIC

QuinQ:
➜Words to bear in mind: REALISTIC PRAGMATIC

Marriage na by force?

Kobojunkie:
Marriage na by force?

No but be realistic and always consider the alternative. Bear in mind that people change - for the better and for the worse. And people go through phases. There are some old happy couples today who almost divorced because one of them went through a "sleep around" phase

QuinQ:
➜No but be realistic and always consider the alternative. Bear in mind that people change - for the better and for the worse.
➜ And people go through phases.
➜ There are some old happy couples today who almost divorced because one of them went through a "sleep around" phase

. People don't change because you want them to; as a matter of fact, most people double down the moment the person they are in a relationship with demands change from them. That is being realistic.

2. People — men and women alike — only go through what they are themselves willing to go through. Not what a third-party, no matter how well-intended, tells them to.

3. That is only in Nollywood movies and where performance is required. Most old Nigerian couples are not happy. If you lived every day with them, — beyond occasional visits here and there —you would not miss the truth of this. And if you check well, most of those women had to put up with a lot of bullsheet and misery too. That is no life any person should wish on themselves or their kids.

So, again, I ask you, Marriage na by force?

Kobojunkie:
. People don't change because you want them to; as a matter of fact, most people double down the moment the person they are in a relationship with demands change from them. That is being realistic.

2. People — men and women alike — only go through what they are themselves willing to go through. Not what a third-party, no matter how well-intended, tells them to.

3. That is only in Nollywood movies and where performance is required. Most old Nigerian couples are not happy. If you lived every day with them, — beyond occasional visits here and there —you would not miss the truth of this. And if you check well, most of those women had to put up with a lot of bullsheet and misery too. That is no life any person should wish on themselves or their kids.

So, again, I ask you, Marriage na by force?

So why don't the old people leave the marriage? And why is it that when one dies the other will quickly follow? What's your answer? And bear in mind, there are also polygamous families - you KNOW your husband is sleeping with different women. Compare to seeing him ONCE while drunk on his bachelor's eve!

People do change. All the time. Many "sleep-around" young men devote themselves exclusively to their wives and families in later years. Then there was the chaste pastor's wife who decided she wanted to be a prostitute!

Eh he should marry the bridesmaid na.

QuinQ:
✓ So why don't the old people leave the marriage? And why is it that when one dies the other will quickly follow? What's your answer? And bear in mind, there are also polygamous families - you KNOW your husband is sleeping with different women. Compare to seeing him ONCE while drunk on his bachelor's eve!
✓ People do change. All the time. Many "sleep around" young men devote themselves exclusively to their wives and families in later years. Then there was the chaste pastor's wife who decided she wanted to be a prostitute!

1. Studies have revealed that the major reason many women refuse to leave abusive/humiliation filled situation is simply either that because:
a) they lack financially resources to fund their new life
b) they are afraid of what society and those around them might say
c) they are afraid of change -- many of them have spent much of their adult lives married-- some where married as teenagers or children, and know no other life than with the man in marriage
d) a combination of one or more of the above.

2. As for those of them whom you believe died not long after their husbands, how certain are you they are not suicides? We know now that there is nothing like dying of a broken heart. Either a person was previously ill or they literally committed suicide out of despair aka depression (suicidal tendencies or ideation, a common symptom) . There are lots of such cases that have been researched to reveal this to be the possible causes of most death-by-heart-ache claims. 😕🥱🥱

And no, it ain't necessarily the case that the spouse who died not long after the other missed the dead but more that the spouse left behind saw no meaning to their continued existence after the one they had invested all of their life into was no more. There are some others who think they choose death in order not to become a burden to those left behind. 🥱🥱

There is a lot in this you need to research for yourself. Fairy tales are called that for a reason. They are stories told only by fantastical beings who don't even exist. Stop gulping them down at your age.

3. People change for better yet Nigeria turned out the cesspit that it is today with you literally saying a non cheating man is hard to find. People change for better yet since 1960 , Nigeria and Nigerians have consistently gotten worse over the last 65 years? 🥱🥱

No matter how much you are willing to lie to yourself, you cannot change the reality of this life and the lives of the people in it by it. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. Studies have revealed that the major reason many women refuse to leave abusive/humiliation filled situation is simply either that because:
a) they lack financially resources to fund their new life
b) they are afraid of what society and those around them might say
c) they are afraid of change -- many of them have spent much of their adult lives married-- some where married as teenagers or children, and know no other life than with the man in marriage
d) a combination of one or more of the above.

2. As for those of them whom you believe died not long after their husbands, how certain are you they are not suicides? We know now that there is nothing like dying of a broken heart. Either a person was previously ill or they literally committed suicide out of despair aka depression (suicidal tendencies or ideation, a common symptom) . There are lots of such cases that have been researched to reveal this to be the possible causes of most death-by-heart-ache claims. 😕🥱🥱

And no, it ain't necessarily the case that the spouse who died not long after the other missed the dead but more that the spouse left behind saw no meaning to their continued existence after the one they had invested all of their life into was no more. There are some others who think they choose death in order not to become a burden to those left behind. 🥱🥱

There is a lot in this you need to research for yourself. Fairy tales are called that for a reason. They are stories told only by fantastical beings who don't even exist. Stop gulping them down at your age.

3. People change for better yet Nigeria turned out the cesspit that it is today with you literally saying a non cheating man is hard to find. People change for better yet since 1960 , Nigeria and Nigerians have consistently gotten worse over the last 65 years? 🥱🥱

No matter how much you are willing to lie to yourself, you cannot change the reality of this life and the lives of the people in it by it. 🥱🥱

At least you concede they found meaning in life based on that relationship, so much so that they found no reason to continue living after it. See below, an excerpt from "Things Fall Apart" about the simultaneous deaths of an elderly husband and wife. This happens a lot. If you don't call that love what do you call it?
Nigeria is not a human being. I don't see how you are arguing that people change!

THIS ONE IS MAD


Is the groom in question not entitled to more than one wife

She should post them on social media. Both of them need to be shamed.

Kobojunkie:
Is this a new story? Her face looks familiar!

Anyways, she should thank her stars that she did not marry him, else she would have been stuck wondering whether she should endure for that infamous Mrs badge Nigerian women like to suffer-worship while married to community dick.

THIS GUY AGAIN

QuinQ:
✓ At least you concede they found meaning in life based on that relationship, so much so that they found no reason to continue living after it.
✓ See below, an excerpt from "Things Fall Apart" about he simultaneous deaths of an elderly husband and wife.
✓ This happens a lot. If you don't call that love what do you call it?
✓ Nigeria is not a human being. I don't see how you are arguing that people change!

Finding meaning in being a slave to another human being since you were never allowed to mature and find other meaning outside of the marriage! 🤐🤐

2. You do know that Things Fall Apart was a work of fiction, right? 🤐🤐🤐

3. The actual phenomenon -- which is in fact death brought on by stress of a loss which never causes or mmics a heart attack-- is said to be quite rare. But here you are insisting it is quite common. 🤔🤔🤔

4. You mean Nigeria has not been populated and steered in the direction it has been heading in the last 65 years by its citizens -- flesh and blood humans? 🤔🤔

Kobojunkie:
Finding meaning in being a slave to another human being since you were never allowed to mature and find other meaning outside of the marriage! 🤐🤐

2. You do know that Things Fall Apart was a work of fiction, right? 🤐🤐🤐

3. The actual phenomenon -- which is in fact death brought on by stress of a loss which never causes or mmics a heart attack-- is said to be quite rare. But here you are insisting it is quite common. 🤔🤔🤔

4. You mean Nigeria has not been populated and steered in the direction it has been heading in the last 65 years by its citizens -- flesh and blood humans? 🤔🤔

1) Infact the woman becomes dominant as couples get old

2) Based on real life

3) Who said heart attack? They die for lack of reason to keep on living

4) Nigeria is not the only country in the world. Some have changed for the bettet7

She shouldn't have posted the incident online at all. Now predators will come for her.

NotOfThisWorld:
She should post them on social media. Both of them need to be shamed.

If truly you are rare he won't have in anyway done what he did..

Be deceiving yourself