₦airaland Forum

SpencerForbes:
My take is simple: Mother and Wife are the only two women entitled to your finances. Your girlfriend is entitled to her father's money, period. She should redirect her financial requests to her dad.

If you are financially comfortable, feel free to spoil your wife (not your girlfriend), but always draw the line. Don’t be so kind that she mistakes you for a fool and begins to exploit your willingness to provide.

So, technically, her assessment is correct.

SlavaUkraini:
What about the woman's money ?

It should also reflect on the man since the two of them are now one.

The man's money will reflect on her...

while her own money will reflect in her bank account.

Let's face it: its not like the women point a gun to the head of men... most nigerian men are naturally stupid and have no self-worth. We tend to feel so miserable that we almost consider it a taboo to evn spend on ourselves and look like true human beings.

Man go make small rabba, next thing hin go dey look for na how to shower it on a woman who never loved him when he was without it. Who do us like this, o God!

Utanisco:
His woman abi
Not wife

If every man is like me
The world will actually see the useless creation of women on earth

My money is for me, myself n my life
If u want to be part of my life
Go n work

Unam ikot

Wickedtruths:
Must be an Igbo lady.
There is a reason why they sell them like loaves of bread.

flexyrule:
Look at her sad-gold-recognising face!


In Igbo land , you’ll see a man wearing a short nicker and looking anyhow but if you want to know he’s rich, look at his wife”


Please, let this madness remain in Igboland. Don't export it to saner climes.

Guestmale:
She is on point,I mean if it's on wife and children but not girlfriend.

JooEeL:
U go be real intentional man. For a short while lose that source of revenue u use in decorating her, and come back to give us lectures on love and matrimonial home 🤣🤣

JooEeL:
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Like I don't get it. Do Igbo men take it as a pride or what sef?

JooEeL:
U go be real intentional man. For a short while lose that source of revenue u use in decorating her, and come back to give us lectures on love and matrimonial home 🤣🤣

SpencerForbes:
My take is simple: Mother and Wife are the only two women entitled to your finances. Your girlfriend is entitled to her father's money, period. She should redirect her financial requests to her dad.

If you are financially comfortable, feel free to spoil your wife (not your girlfriend), but always draw the line. Don’t be so kind that she mistakes you for a fool and begins to exploit your willingness to provide.

So, technically, her assessment is correct.

aswani:
See the height of entitlement, instead of trying to carve out your own niche in life, you want to rely on a man.

Don't worry Anti, the man's money will reflect on all of you multiple women of his.

In this day and age, judging yourself by the success of another human being, imagine.

Later you will start disturbing us with stories that touch.

Arostar2023:
Wetin una really want, Nigerian men? Una want women that will be submissive, dedicated, faithful and overlooking una philandering and all that. Yet you want her to make her own money and build a career. Don't you guys know that independency comes at a cost? A man is meant to take care of his family (wife and kids). You can't be rich and your family members are wretched. Love and giving go hand-in-hand.

DyshApp:
A Nigerian lady has stirred intense debate online after sharing her opinion that a man’s financial success should be visible through the appearance and lifestyle of the woman he is with.

The lady made this known while being featured in the Honest Bunch podcast.

In her argument, she stated that a man who is doing well financially naturally ensures that his partner looks good, is well taken care of, and reflects his level of prosperity.

She pointed out that in some Igbo communities, men are known for dressing modestly, sometimes appearing in very simple clothing.

However, she added that observers often look at the wife to determine whether the man is truly wealthy, as her appearance typically reveals the family’s financial status.

“A man’s money should reflect on his woman. It shows you are doing well.

In Igbo land , you’ll see a man wearing a short nicker and looking anyhow but if you want to know he’s rich, look at his wife”

UniQue84:
if love and giving goes hand in hand is it applicable to only the Male gender ...women nu they love so why dem nu master giving ?

Kobojunkie:
What is this love and how does love reflect? 🥱🥱🥱

casualobserver:
statements like this are part of the problem i have with the influx of Ibos and their value system into yorubaland. It is a given that a man must take care of his wife and children but that money must reflect on a woman is an ibo thing. Flamboyance for flamboyance sake or to display wealth for the sake of it is an ibo thing, that you must see the wealth of an ibo man in his wife is your thing, it's not our way.

It is quite common in yoruba land for the wife to be the one with money because in yorubaland, the status of a yoruba man is in his occupation, thats why you will see yoruba men who are professionals or civil servants and their wives are business women. if you introduce a friend to a typical yoruba father, the first thing he will likely ask you is what work does your friend do or what work does his gfather do? not how much money do you have. Thats also why you will see yoruba names that refer to their occupations like Agbede (ironsmith) . Like i said it is normal in yoruba man for the wife to be the one with the moeny or richer than the husband because it is usually the women who are the traders/business women.

DyshApp:
A Nigerian lady has stirred intense debate online after sharing her opinion that a man’s financial success should be visible through the appearance and lifestyle of the woman he is with.

The lady made this known while being featured in the Honest Bunch podcast.

In her argument, she stated that a man who is doing well financially naturally ensures that his partner looks good, is well taken care of, and reflects his level of prosperity.

She pointed out that in some Igbo communities, men are known for dressing modestly, sometimes appearing in very simple clothing.

However, she added that observers often look at the wife to determine whether the man is truly wealthy, as her appearance typically reveals the family’s financial status.

“A man’s money should reflect on his woman. It shows you are doing well.

In Igbo land , you’ll see a man wearing a short nicker and looking anyhow but if you want to know he’s rich, look at his wife”

jiggyman:
✓ No body in the world can explain love! They just ramble like broken radio

SpencerForbes:
I definitely don't agree with that 😂! I naturally try to make sure everyone around me is happy. However, the moment I sense even a hint of entitlement or exploitation of my kindness, I will absolutely withdraw. I've completely mastered the art of pulling back, and that applies even to entitled children.