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Like, reading the comment section, you'll clearly the reasoning of most persons. So, because he's a pastor, he shouldn't date a lady? He wasn't in marriage either. Infact, the lady himself stated that she so much love the pastor in question and not the other way round. Like normal human being, they had their moments and businesses...

See a pastor as a normal human being. The said pastor is a man and how he chooses his kind of woman to marry he is choice! The lady in question should even be arrested for not keeping the tenets of marriage. You were married and not allowing your husband to sleep with you cos you thought your hope is in another man's house. See foolishness and you now expect the Pastor to marry you and when he travels for ministration, he remembers your behaviour with your first husband... The lady could just develop another likeness for someone else and treat the pastor with same kind of treatment she gave her ex husband. The Pastor here has everything to lose and not her, reasons she's trending now trying to break him. The lady has nothing to lose. If you give her money right now, she'll be quiet and that's what she wants

Until we understand you're a child of God, you'll not rate pastors as too significant. You're an apple in the eyes of God. Carry yourself that way and not elevating a pastor unnecessary

HaneefahRN:
Stupid question. So you can't see your pastors as role models for living a righteous life, every olosho in town is their customer

No I don't see Pastors as role models. To me and every other wise person, Pastors are normal human beings who are Titular Leaders in a Religious Business Company.

Anything more than this is your own headache, not mine.

essentialone:
You know I will always ask for permission and forgiveness from you before I hit the nail on the head. Can I say something you may not like?

yes but before you said anything

I didn't sleep in the same roof with him.


I lodged in a hotel

essentialone:
No I don't see Pastors as role models. To me and every other wise person, Pastors are normal human beings who are Titular Leaders in a Religious Business Company.

Anything more than this is your own headache, not mine.

Your headache, you came to my mention. I like that you called it a business sha. Men of God isonu

Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha I showed him his room upstairs take him around the house should incase he needs anything . Make food available for him

My sis said i should give him samo and vegetable soup I make sure his comfortable

I didn't sleep in my house

Usain Bolt. Hahahahhaha.

Diamond098454:
husband should sleep in my house.
Well, he's already here in my house.

Always trying so hard to make ur inlaw look like a sexual predator that is focused on you. Na so you fine reach abi na your toto sweet pass?

OP just dey excuse immorality up and down.

But then again, this is Nigeria. Most boys in this country see girls as olosho and treat accordingly. Most girls see men as money package, and treat accordingly. (I'm being a bit cynical, but you get the picture)

That is why you have someone here excusing sexual immorality among christians and calling it realism. I comment my reserve. So, if a soldier or athlete cannot maintain discipline....

Men, there was this man , Sheikh Gumi's father...who died in 1992, so most people no go know am here. He makes his son look like a moderate muslim. He once said back in 1986 that Nigeria had 5% christians. He was 'wrong' but with the way so called pastors behave, and so called women who want to marry them behave, I just dey begin think that he was right.

You have a woman that wants to be a pastor's whifey that is divorced, that threw away her husband for the pastor, and that obviously did so in the name of lust, and was sleeping with the pastor without marriage. Knowing what pastor's wives have to do in the church (many of them are automatically running the women's section, and also have to counsel people, including children, teenagers, and people wey wan marry)...how can they do their duties when they know na marriage made in immorality.

Same thing for the man. PASTOR that essentially helped to break up someone's home in the name of lust, and then dump am and wan marry birgin? How that one go take preach message on adultery? (Yes, bible dey talk a lot about adultery.. )

If you no fit do christian, you can pack your bags and leave the faith. IT IS NOT BY FORCE.

essentialone:
Guys before you criticize Pastor Okafor: Did you marry all the ladies you sexed?

So pastors are now supposed to have sex, is that the question you're asking?

Isn't premarital sex suppose to be a sin, according to christian doctrine? And to those who say they're christians?

The hypocrisy surrounding many christians nowadays is something else.

Diamond098454:
so what..... Is that all you can say? He should fulfill his promise

just the way you fulfilled every promise you ever made?

You want him to fulfill his promise to someone who BROKE A VOW?

She better look for one neat TRANSFORMER and get cozy with it.

Diamond098454:
yes but before you said anything

I didn't sleep in the same roof with him.


I lodged in a hotel

I like you a lot. Of course you already know that.

But your level of Indulgence is too high and uncomfortable. As in like you indulge people to do things even when you are not comfortable with it. That is not kindness or humility but naivety.

1. I expected you to inform your cousin before now that you will appreciate being close to his husband only when she is there. Tell her that it's not because anything happened but because you do not want anything to happen. She will say no I trust my husband, that he is not that kind of man. If she gives that line, don't argue with her. Just remind her that it is not her husband that you don't trust. Rather that is yourself that you don't trust. Be respectful in the way you say it but also be firm.

2. If she says she does not want her husband to lodge in a hotel, it means she does not trust her husband. If she does not trust her husband around ladies, then ask her if you are not a lady. She is now shifting the burden of Trust on you, and you are too delicate for that.

3. You cannot accommodate in your house a guest you are not comfortable staying with. How can a guest who is supposed to lodge in a hotel, come and sleep in my house, then I will now go and lodge in a hotel? That's absurd.

HaneefahRN:
Your headache, you came to my mention. I like that you called it a business sha. Men of God isonu

You don't know me yet if you think I am supporting una Pastor. All Church is a Business to me. All Church. All Pastor is a normal business man to me. All Pastor even Pope.

essentialone:
Usain Bolt. Hahahahhaha.

hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha you no well after the meeting today he will be going back

My sister love him so much and I will protect her interest. I respect my sis so much

joseph1832:
So pastors are now supposed to have sex, is that the question you're asking?

Isn't premarital sex suppose to be a sin, according to christian doctrine? And to those who say they're christians?

The hypocrisy surrounding many christians nowadays is something else.

Welcome. I guess you just joined. Go through the Comments to understand my points better.

A supposed pastor committing adultery and fornication and no one is talking about it.
Next service will still be jam-packed and none of the congregation will ever think of
Mat 7:20-23

essentialone:
I like you a lot. Of course you already know that.

But your level of Indulgence is too high and uncomfortable. As in like you indulge people to do things even when you are not comfortable with it. That is not kindness or humility but naivety.

1. I expected you to inform your cousin before now that you will appreciate being close to his husband only when she is there. Tell her that it's not because anything happened but because you do not want anything to happen. She will say no I trust my husband, that he is not that kind of man. If she gives that line, don't argue with her. Just remind her that it is not her husband that you don't trust. Rather that is yourself that you don't trust. Be respectful in the way you say it but also be firm.

2. If she says she does not want her husband to lodge in a hotel, it means she does not trust her husband. If she does not trust her husband around ladies, then ask her if you are not a lady. She is now shifting the burden of Trust on you, and you are too delicate for that.

3. You cannot accommodate in your house a guest you are not comfortable staying with. How can a guest who is supposed to lodge in a hotel, come and sleep in my house, then I will now go and lodge in a hotel? That's absurd.

I can say no to other relatives but not this one. I'm free from my parents bondage in the name of protecting me is her

I'm schooling in ph today is her
I can't say no to her

SpencerForbes:
Her attraction to the role of a 'Mommy G.O.' clearly clouded her discernment. Ladies must understand that sex is not a currency for commitment; relying on it suggests a lack of deeper value to bring to the table. I can presume she rejected other suitors and invested heavily in this her dream of becoming ‘Pastor Mrs’, yet she failed to verify the man's genuine intent. Ultimately, she is responsible for the outcome by being driven by ambition than by wisdom and common sense.

She was driven by money and societal status. She even divorced her husband for the pastor. Reason why some people are saying she deserved what she got.

As long as it is not you the girl messed up...the girl this the girl that... typical Nigerian people.... Like say every body get sense ....just pray not to fall in such situations plenty judges

pansophist:
As far women choose not to marry before open legs, they will always fall into the hands of bad men.

As far men wants to be sponsoring women they haven’t marry, they will always be scammed by bad women.

Now, you may go ahead and play against this sacred rules, but don’t come out and cry like a victim if you’re played.

You can’t blame the other party for exploiting your foolishness and lack of boundaries.

The only sacred rule there is to avoid sex before marriage, not the other. Concerned by the increasing rate of mature singles, I was asking why, and God said same thing to me. If every lady refuses pre-marital sex as commanded, men will have no option than to marry. Forget all the excuses about economy blah blah. If marriage is the only option for men to have sex, they will be married by all means. If more women can close their legs till marriage, rates of marriages will skyrocket.

God is wise, it's us in our foolishness that are causing problems for ourselves.

essentialone:
I like you a lot. Of course you already know that.

But your level of Indulgence is too high and uncomfortable. As in like you indulge people to do things even when you are not comfortable with it. That is not kindness or humility but naivety.

1. I expected you to inform your cousin before now that you will appreciate being close to his husband only when she is there. Tell her that it's not because anything happened but because you do not want anything to happen. She will say no I trust my husband, that he is not that kind of man. If she gives that line, don't argue with her. Just remind her that it is not her husband that you don't trust. Rather that is yourself that you don't trust. Be respectful in the way you say it but also be firm.

2. If she says she does not want her husband to lodge in a hotel, it means she does not trust her husband. If she does not trust her husband around ladies, then ask her if you are not a lady. She is now shifting the burden of Trust on you, and you are too delicate for that.

3. You cannot accommodate in your house a guest you are not comfortable staying with. How can a guest who is supposed to lodge in a hotel, come and sleep in my house, then I will now go and lodge in a hotel? That's absurd.

Essential dear you are right

I will discuss with her this morning and see how she will respond

essentialone:
Exactly. Sex is mutual fun. It is ladies who always use it to blackmail guys. That is wrong.

A man of God having sex is just seen as norms

Kai God may I not be used to water down your holiness

Where did you get your own info from?

Who told you he was using marriage to deceive her?

Where you there when they were arranging thier f*ck appointments?

Does she look like someone that one even needs to deceive before she agrees to multiple rounds of ta tat ta! ?

Where you there when she was shouting "harder! Harder!! Harder!!!"

If you answered "no" to any of those questions, you better go and advise her to carry her victim mentally acting into a real movie. We are not buying this one she is dishing out for free.

Diamond098454:
but he's a pastor, he should stop using marriage to deceived all this aged divorcees and single mothers

Okafor will always ignore teaching the part of the bible that talked about fornication henceforth to hidms gullible members

Chibuezem:
A man of God having sex is just seen as norms

Kai God may I not be used to water down your holiness

This one is still living in 1960. Get lost ooo.

essentialone:
Guys before you criticize Pastor Okafor: Did you marry all the ladies you sexed?

You are as disgusting as that your pastor. We're you sexing those girls as a pastor? Candy your sinful dirty soul distinguish between a regular sinful dirty soul like yours and a man that eats pussy before climbing pulpit to claim shepherd?

cuteboy2:
Where did you get your own info from?

Who told you he was using marriage to deceive her?

Where you there when they were arranging thier f*ck appointments?

Does she look like someone that one even needs to deceive before she agrees to multiple rounds of ta tat ta! ?

Where you there when she was shouting "harder! Harder!! Harder!!!"

If you answered "no" to any of those questions, you better go and advise her to carry her victim mentally acting into a real movie. We are not buying this one she is dishing out for free.

hahaha hahaha hahaha brotherhood is angry

Diamond098454:
she desperately wanted to have the man thinking she will hold him down with her banging body

Hmmmmmm. Banging body. Is she the only one with banging body? Ladies should rely on wisdom and common sense

Diamond098454:
I can say no to other relatives but not this one. I'm free from my parents bondage in the name of protecting me is her

I'm schooling in ph today is her
I can't say no to her

Okay I get the picture now. You feel kinda indebted to her.

More reason to put a stop to things that you are not comfortable with. If not, one day she will tell you, AFTER ALL I HAVE DONE FOR YOU, YOU CHOOSE TO BETRAY ME. She will never agree that she was the Cause of it all. She will shift all blame to you. She won't even blame her husband ooo. I have seen it all.

AllBlack:
just the way you fulfilled every promise you ever made?

You want him to fulfill his promise to someone who BROKE A VOW?

She better look for one neat TRANSFORMER and get cozy with it.

hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha

AllBlack:
Always trying so hard to make ur inlaw look like a sexual predator that is focused on you. Na so you fine reach abi na your toto sweet pass?

you are too raw and it's not good for gentlemen

MiamiLord:
It baffles me when you call men like that pastors.
The funny part is the gullible ones that still attend their churches just to go and hear good english and stories from the bible.

We know those who are genuine men of God.

Not all this money mongers

How this one still attract worshippers is beyond me.
This is a guy that was caught in a comfirmed fake miracle scandal months ago!

essentialone:
Okay I get the picture now. You feel kinda indebted to her.

More reason to put a stop to things that you are not comfortable with. If not, one day she will tell you, AFTER ALL I HAVE DONE FOR YOU, YOU CHOOSE TO BETRAY ME. She will never agree that she was the Cause of it all. She will shift all blame to you. She won't even blame her husband ooo. I have seen it all.

I will have a serious discussion with her on this.

Essential , to be honest with you I'm not comfortable with that guy . I told him last night to respect my cousin sis his lovely wife