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There is a reason behind this post.

Too many times some men have tried finding a good woman to settle down with but sometimes they end up with a broken relationship.

Some feel it's something they are not doing right.

And some like my friend who has only dated one girl who he's convinced is supposed to be his future wife is currently unhappy because he felt he has lost his chance of ever finding happiness.

I try to reason him that many people fall in love multiple times before they eventually settle down.

But he thinks it's not so.

So, that prompt this question. How many times were you genuinely in a loving relationship and it ended. And then you finally got to settle down?

Ladies can also contribute.

Thanks guys

I am still in the dating game.

More gals please 🙏

Host78:
➜There is a reason behind this post. Too many times some men have tried finding a good woman to settle down with but sometimes they end up with a broken relationship. Some feel it's something they are not doing right. And some like my friend who has only dated one girl who he's convinced is supposed to be his future wife is currently unhappy because he felt he has lost his chance of ever finding happiness. I try to reason him that many people fall in love multiple times before they eventually settle down. But he thinks it's not so. So, that prompt this question. How many times were you genuinely in a loving relationship and it ended. And then you finally got to settle down? Ladies can also contribute. Thanks guys

. First of all, understanding what dating is all about. It is not a dimensional activity. Neither is it all about finding the other person, but also about finding yourself.(Yes, during the dating phase, you are also meant to do a lot of self-assessment and self-reflection and do major work to better yourself as an individual, so better people will find you in general.) It is erroneous to think of it as some numbers game where the less you do it the better, or the more you do it the worse. You unnecessarily get frustrated by reasoning along those lines.

Another thing you need to know when dating is that there is no one potential mate or partner out there for you. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator splits personalities into 16 different types. And there are possibly those out there who fall in between more than one personality. 🥱🥱

When you consider other factors, such as emotional, social, and mental intelligence of individuals, you realize that dating could never be as straightforward as you would like for it to be. Finding the right person for you — emotional, social, and mental intelligence at any given point in your development — is wholly on you, not really on the other person. A person may be right for you at age 25, but totally wrong for you by the time you reach age 30. So, again, it is all mostly about you and where you are, and not necessarily about the other person. 🥱🥱

Still a virgin, am a legend.

Let's ask that yellow self proclaimed pastors

Kobojunkie:
. First of all, understanding what dating is all about. It is not a dimensional activity. Neither is it all about finding the other person, but also about finding yourself.(Yes, during the dating phase, you are also meant to do a lot of self-assessment and self-reflection and do major work to better yourself as an individual, so better people will find you in general.) It is erroneous to think of it as some numbers game where the less you do it the better, or the more you do it the worse. You unnecessarily get frustrated by reasoning along those lines.

Another thing you need to know when dating is that there is no one potential mate or partner out there for you. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator splits personalities into 16 different types. And there are possibly those out there who fall in between more than one personality. 🥱🥱

When you consider other factors, such as emotional, social, and mental intelligence of individuals, you realize that dating could never be as straightforward as you would like for it to be. Finding the right person for you — emotional, social, and mental intelligence at any given point in your development — is wholly on you, not really on the other person. A person may be right for you at age 25, but totally wrong for you by the time you reach age 30. So, again, it is all mostly about you and where you are, and not necessarily about the other person. 🥱🥱

Makes sense

Savvy19:
Makes sense

The notion that there is one person out there for each, doesn't make sense. The myth of Soulmates, put forward by Aristophanes in Plato's Symposium makes even less sense when you consider that the idea was completely dismantled by one of the attendees at the party 1000s of years ago.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDvMRvWjI9Q?si=v6oZzRTP3AUbxKPT

That people hold on to the idea even at that shows how ignorance will always rule in the mind of the ignorant and blind.🥱🥱

I never marry na only 2 I don date.

Some times particular women come into your life to prepare you for your wife. It's both side thing!!!!!!!!

No perfect woman out there, the problem is most men fall in love with the wrong women. They become broken when disappointed, refuse to heal before meeting their life partner and they sabotage the true connection.

As a man you don't fall in love , whatever falls breaks and is why you must be broken when you fall in love.

A real man only grow in love with his woman, when it's not a divine connection they go separate ways with the lessons of growth.
That experience leads to true connection with clarity.


So men should stop falling rather learn to grow in love.


Your friend need to heal and prepare himself for his wife.

There's nothing like loving relationship after your first heart break, ... other relationship after your first breakfast is mere games and role playing.
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Then deciding to settle with a gal afterwards is just a matter of chance or gamble

NiRfreak:
✓ There's nothing like loving relationship after your first heart break, ... other relationship after your first breakfast is mere games and role playing.
2. Then deciding to settle with a gal afterwards is just a matter of chance or gamble

1. This is untrue for all. 🥱🥱

2. Also untrue! The moment you settle, you have lost the gamble.

Kobojunkie:
1. This is untrue for all. 🥱🥱

2. Also untrue! The moment you settle, you have lost the gamble.

It's very true for most men. I hope you are man anyway.
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The first heart break of a man is usually the most painful, most men get callous and become a player who see fine girls as game and trophy for sex..... That life makes them feel confused when it's time to marry that they just pick one gamble

NiRfreak:
✓ It's very true for most men. I hope you are man anyway.
✓ The first heart break of a man is usually the most painful, most men get callous and become a player who see fine girls as game and trophy for sex..... That life makes them feel confused when it's time to marry that they just pick one gamble

1. Wrong! When it comes to relationships there are no separate truths! 🥱🥱

2. Wrong! There are men who have gone on to experience worse heartbreaks even after the first, some eventually killing themselves. Again, there are no separate truths for men and for women when it comes to matters of the heart. 🥱🥱