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There is this girl I know, I chatted with her just like 3 months ago and asked about her love life.
She explicitly told me that the guy she really loved and was dating wasn't really into her and it seems she was the person pushing the relationship .
She said she had to break up with him because the relationship wasn't heading anywhere.
Just a couple of days now,I am seeing proposal, traditional wedding pics of her flying around.
The bottom line is that once most girls are through with university, they just want to get married.
Once a guy comes and say mar before he says rriage, they have jumped on him.
Some of the girls are lucky though with this act but alot get their fingers burnt.
You need to know the person that you will spend the rest of your life with very well as just knowing someone and getting married to the person within a few months can be catastrophic.
I know most girls won't take the advice as asoebi has to be sewn and jolof rice eaten.

guobe:
➜There is the girl I know, I chatted with her just like 3 months ago and asked about her love life.
She explicitly told me that the guy she really loved and was dating wasn't really into her and it seems she was the person pushing the relationship . She said she had to break up with him because the relationship wasn't heading anywhere. Just a couple of days now,I am seeing proposal, traditional wedding pics of her flying around.
➜ The bottom line is that once most girls are through with university, they just want to get married. Once a guy come and say mar before he says rriage, they have jumped on him. Some of the girls are lucky though with this act but alot get their fingers burnt. You need to know the person that you will spend the rest of your life with very well as just knowing someone and getting married to the person within a few months can be catastrophic. I know most girls won't take the advice as asoebi has to be sewn and jolof rice eaten.

Childhood trauma and neglect in women, coupled with societal pressure, feed romantic/marriage obsession in women. Top that off with poverty, and you have a recipe for disaster to come for most of those women who succumb to that urge/itch.

That said, in 2026, please stop making these inane claims without at least backing them up with facts.

How about some guys getting married the moment they start having extra change because they can no longer do house chores

It's so funny how jobless ladies always talk about marriage

helinues:
How about some guys getting married the moment they start having extra change because they can no longer do house chores

It's so funny how jobless ladies always talk about marriage

It's important to know your partner properly even if you are a guy.
Plenty witches full outside, if you go marry witch na u sabi.

There is nothing wrong with ladies being anxious to get married knowing that they have a biological clock which is running down

AfeezShomorin:
There is nothing wrong with ladies being anxious to get married knowing that they have a biological clock which is running down

Anxious leads to desperation and mistakes can be made.
Knowing your partner properly is the most ideal situation

Time is going na why,I once had a lady like that too, I asked her out years back she refused because she was dating a big boy living in the island and I am a broke student living in the mainland after four years the guy dump her, she came back to me to see if I am still interested but sorry I don move on, no feelings again she try try try try to cajole me into marriage but I can't marry her because of her desperation I don't like her romantically anymore.

Goodmarlian:
Time is going na why,I once had a lady like that too, I asked her out years back she refused because she was dating a big boy living in the island and I am a broke student living in the mainland after four years the guy dump her, she came back to me to see if I am still interested but sorry I don move on, no feelings again she try try try try to cajole me into marriage but I can't marry her because of her desperation I don't like her romantically anymore.

That was an error some of the girls make by going for frivolities and when reality sets in they become desperate .

Kobojunkie:
Childhood trauma and neglect in women, coupled with societal pressure, feed romantic/marriage obsession in women. Top that off with poverty, and you have a recipe for disaster to come for most of those women who succumb to that urge/itch.

That said, in 2026, please stop making these inane claims without at least backing them up with facts.

This neglect only happens in your imagination, don't men get neglected also? Abeg this new year use your critical thinking skills properly.

guobe:
It's important to know your partner properly even if you are a guy.
Plenty witches full outside, if you go marry witch na u sabi.

You must have probably had some bitter experience

helinues:
You must have probably had some bitter experience

From what we see happening, one has to be very conscious in this present day.

guobe:
There is this girl I know, I chatted with her just like 3 months ago and asked about her love life.
She explicitly told me that the guy she really loved and was dating wasn't really into her and it seems she was the person pushing the relationship .
She said she had to break up with him because the relationship wasn't heading anywhere.
Just a couple of days now,I am seeing proposal, traditional wedding pics of her flying around.
The bottom line is that once most girls are through with university, they just want to get married.
Once a guy comes and say mar before he says rriage, they have jumped on him.
Some of the girls are lucky though with this act but alot get their fingers burnt.
You need to know the person that you will spend the rest of your life with very well as just knowing someone and getting married to the person within a few months can be catastrophic.
I know most girls won't take the advice as asoebi has to be sewn and jolof rice eaten.

There is nothing wrong in a lady that have graduated from the university to desire to marry and start her own home, if she is lucky enough to find a man stable and serious to marry her, and she finds him okay, why is it a problem?


Abi u want them to remain single so that u can be using them to learn different sex-style in that your unholy bachelor bed ba?

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franchasofficia:
There is nothing wrong in a lady that have graduated from the university to desire to marry and start her own home, if she is lucky enough to find a man stable and serious to marry her, and she finds him okay, why is it a problem?


Abi u want them to remain single so that u can be using them to learn different sex-style in that your unholy bachelor bed ba?

If you go through my write up properly, you will see where I said some may be lucky while most get their fingers burnt.
It is not really about getting married but staying married.
If you rush into marriage ,you might probably rush out.

franchasofficia:
There is nothing wrong in a lady that have graduated from the university to desire to marry and start her own home, if she is lucky enough to find a man stable and serious to marry her, and she finds him okay, why is it a problem?


Abi u want them to remain single so that u can be using them to learn different sex-style in that your unholy bachelor bed ba?

that's not the point he's making bro....what he's tryna say is that any lady that's displaying desperation to get married, could fall victim to someone who would just wanna play her and probably waste her time ....

guobe:
From what we see happening, one has to be very conscious in this present day.

Dating someone for years does not guarantee a superb marriage should you guys marry.


Marriage is a gamble.

Many ladies and guys pretend and hide certain bad qualities in them during dating until you marry them, then u can uncover some of those dirty characters and attitude.


What matters most is to make sure you are physically attracted to the person, number 1.


Secondly, he/she has fear of God, two.

Thirdly, he/she has empathy and human conscience.


For ladies, she must be respectful and have a forgiven heart cos you must offend her severally self. If she is an unforgiven person, na war, and u can decode all these qualities in few months of dating and knowing if you are serious to know.


Lastly, her family background matters, how is the relationship among the siblings and between the children and the parents.


Money management. If she is a spender who only find joy and happiness when she is spending money, run!


If he is violent and find it easy to raise his hands to beat, run and don't look back.


If he does illegal things and crimes to earn a living, run!



Lastly, follow your inner spirit if you havent destroyed it in the past.


Over familiarity can breed contempt, dating for too long can lead to over familiarity and growing apart. People should not date beyond 3 years unless it's due to financial lack, then both should agree and work together to improve their finances if they truly wish to marry

dynicks:
that's not the point he's making bro....what he's tryna day is that any lary that's displaying desperation to get married, could fall victim to someone who would just wanna play her and probably waste her time ....

Exactly the message I'm passing.
They may marry you,even have 3 kids with them and the beast in them comes out and they are through.
I have seen it happen to so many girls.
There is nothing as good as marrying a Friend you are used to as it guarantees marital bliss.

franchasofficia:
Dating someone for years does not guarantee a superb marriage should you guys marry.


Marriage is a gamble.

Many ladies and guys pretend and hide certain bad qualities in them during dating until you marry them, then u can uncover some of those dirty characters and attitude.


What matters most is to make sure you are physically attracted to the person, number 1.


Secondly, he/she has fear of God, two.

Thirdly, he/she has empathy and human conscience.


For ladies, she must be respectful and have a forgiven heart cos you must offend her severally self. If she is an unforgiven person, na war, and u can decode all these qualities in few months of dating and knowing if you are serious to know.


Lastly, her family background matters, how is the relationship among the siblings and between the children and the parents.


Money management. If she is a spender who only find joy and happiness when she is spending money, run!


If he is violent and find it easy to raise his hands to beat, run and don't look back.


If he does illegal things and crimes to earn a living, run!



Lastly, follow your inner spirit if you havent destroyed it in the past.


Over familiarity can breed contempt, dating for too long can lead to over familiarity and growing apart. People should not date beyond 3 years unless it's due to financial lack, then both should agree and work together to improve their finances if they truly wish to marry

You just said it yourself, how will she know these traits within 3 months.
If one that have dated for sometime is a gamble then the one that have dated for just 3 months should be ready for an electric shock.

dynicks:
that's not the point he's making bro....what he's tryna say is that any lady that's displaying desperation to get married, could fall victim to someone who would just wanna play her and probably waste her time ....

In as much as I agree with your own point, but what the op is saying is another different thing from what you just said.


OP is saying that rushing to marry someone you just met as a lady can lead to marrying a wrong person that may cause the marriage to fail sooner than later.


And I dont really agree with him cos we all have seen and heard people that dated for years and married and still ended up divorcing after marriage.


Paul Okoye is one.

AY Comedy is two.


Basket Mouth is three.


Tiwa Savage and her first husband is four.


I also know many that are not popular and I also know friends that just married their wives through recommendation/matchmaking and they are doing very fine as couples today, some even came down to Nigeria from abroad.


So marriage somehow is a gamble, just check the vital qualities that are very important to you and make sure he or she ticks it, overlook some that are not so crucial to you, then pray to your maker and have faith that all will end well. Also do proper family background checks, its very important and many modern youths of today ignore this because they believe they live in the city and attending firefire Church, okay oh

franchasofficia:
In as much as I agree with your own point, but what the op is saying is another different thing from what you just said.


OP is saying that rushing to marry someone you just met as a lady can lead to marrying a wrong person that may cause the marriage to fail sooner than later.


And I dont really agree with him cos we all have seen and heard people that dated for years and married and still ended up divorcing after marriage.


Paul Okoye is one.

AY Comedy is two.


Basket Mouth is three.


Tiwa Savage and her first husband is four.


I also know many that are not popular and I also know friends that just married their wives through recommendation/matchmaking and they are doing very fine as couples today, some even came down to Nigeria from abroad.


So marriage somehow is a gamble, just check the vital qualities that are very important to you and make sure he or she ticks it, overlook some that are not so crucial to you, then pray to your maker and have faith that all will end well. Also do proper family background checks, its very important and many modern youths of today ignore this because they believe they live in the city and attending firefire Church, okay oh

..well u correct too......life itself is a gamble....we just should hope for the best of what we desire

Gbam

This is not new. Has been like that for like 20 plus years

Omoh the way some of them talk to me, I always know they want sharp sharp relationships that leads to marriage. If I be anyhow guy I for don use them

emmy512:
Omoh the way some of them talk to me, I always know they want sharp sharp relationships that leads to marriage. If I be anyhow guy I for don use them

I think marriage is now for the highest bidder currently.
Just have money and pick one,no need to date .If it fails everyone goes his or her separate ways.

ednut1:
This is not new. Has been like that for like 20 plus years

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That is how it is currently.

franchasofficia:
Dating someone for years does not guarantee a superb marriage should you guys marry.

Marriage is a gamble.

Many ladies and guys pretend and hide certain bad qualities in them during dating until you marry them, then u can uncover some of those dirty characters and attitude.
What matters most is to make sure you are physically attracted to the person, number 1.


Secondly, he/she has fear of God, two.

Thirdly, he/she has empathy and human conscience.


For ladies, she must be respectful and have a forgiven heart cos you must offend her severally self. If she is an unforgiven person, na war, and u can decode all these qualities in few months of dating and knowing if you are serious to know.


Lastly, her family background matters, how is the relationship among the siblings and between the children and the parents.


Money management. If she is a spender who only find joy and happiness when she is spending money, run!


If he is violent and find it easy to raise his hands to beat, run and don't look back.


If he does illegal things and crimes to earn a living, run!

Lastly, follow your inner spirit if you havent destroyed it in the past.

Over should agree and work together to improve their finances if they truly wish to marry

How do people destroy their inner spirit? What are the ways?

I agree with the rest of your comment.

guobe:
There is this girl I know, I chatted with her just like 3 months ago and asked about her love life.
She with him because the relationship wasn't heading anywhere.
Just a couple of days now,I am seeing proposal, traditional wedding pics of her flying around.
The bottom line is that once most girls are through with university, they just want to get married.
Once a guy comes and say mar before he says rriage, they have jumped on him.
Some of rice eaten.

To avoid being called "evening newspapers" by social media alpha males. However, the "rush" to marry mostly happens in states with fewer corporate jobs. States like Kwara, Ebonyi, Ekiti, Bayesla, Kogi and the rest of the north. If I be woman wey just finish school in such states, me sef go quick marry.

YoshihideSuga:
To avoid being called "evening newspapers" by social media alpha males. However, the "rush" to marry mostly happens in states with fewer corporate jobs. States like Kwara, Ebonyi, Ekiti, Bayesla, Kogi and the rest of the north. If I be woman wey just finish school in such states, me sef go quick marry.

Lol very true ,you won't really blame them as even their parents wen de shield boys from coming to see them since will now be on their necks asking them to bring a man they will marry.

Kobojunkie:
Childhood trauma and neglect in women, coupled with societal pressure, feed romantic/marriage obsession in women. Top that off with poverty, and you have a recipe for disaster to come for most of those women who succumb to that urge/itch.

That said, in 2026, please stop making these inane claims without at least backing them up with facts.

I know say i go find this Junkie for here😂😂

After dem don do countlessly abortions. I pity Nigerian men.

If de get money let dem com nd do somtin fr my head then build house 4 me

YoshihideSuga:
How do people destroy their inner spirit? What are the ways?

I agree with the rest of your comment.

Through continuous wicked and harmful acts, repeatedly.

You lie against innocent people and implicate them to the extent they pay costly price, some lose their lives.


You ki,ll

You commit dangerous crimes without remorse.

You plot evil against others.

You gangup against innocent person or people for selfish gains.


etc