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Ibkay32:
I’m a single guy, and there are days the loneliness hits me deeper than I expect. Sometimes it feels heavy, like something is missing. There are moments I just wish I had someone to talk to someone who would listen, understand, and remind me that I’m not alone but 🥲

And there's nothing stopping you from achieving that... the only obstacle is "you". Whilst you may find true happiness and companionship in a person, nobody says you cannot find it whilst doing the things that you love...

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

Did you use filter to attract your man?
Did you use make up to cover up your face?
Did you wear fake bumbum pad or chest pad?

Did you enhance your physical appearance to attract and keep him?

Do you have other qualities that made him marry you other than your looks?

If you did any of these, the chances of him losing interest so fast is like 95%

Lol.
Mod deleted my comment.

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

It is well

Felimax:
I can relate! I know the depths of what you are saying.
Trust me, you can work it out and still awesomely desirable.

You can still get all the spice you want you only may not need to increase your body count any longer.

Break free from those shackles and redefine what love may be to you in marriage. You can unlearn and relearn.

Get busy! Pursue your dreams...

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

This kind of thinking is narcissistic. It is like saying, "You can't have a headache because I don't," or "That is the same bank I use, so your experience can't be true." Different people can experience the same situation differently; and both can be valid.

Some people would rather protect a familiar narrative than listen to uncomfortable truths. As a result, a lot of pain goes unheard and unacknowledged. It is troubling how easily people dismiss others' experiences. Invalidating someone's feelings simply because they don't align with your beliefs is not logic; it is a lack of empathy. Pain does not need permission to exist.

Marriage does not guarantee affection, presence, or emotional fulfillment. Many people are married and deeply lonely. Some couples are not deeply connected; they are merely coexisting. Walk into the streets and ask married women the last time their husbands said "I love you," showed affection, or made intentional romantic effort. You would understand that many carry unspoken feelings.

There are times in relationships when a partner is physically present but emotionally unavailable. Some people stop investing once the relationship feels secure. This is why time matters, long-term relationships often reveal the true quality of connection.

Ibkay32:
I’m a single guy, and there are days the loneliness hits me deeper than I expect. Sometimes it feels heavy, like something is missing. There are moments I just wish I had someone to talk to someone who would listen, understand, and remind me that I’m not alone but 🥲

Get a dog or a doll bro. You'll thank me later.
These girls are not who you share your feelings with. You only leave them to do all the talking and sharing, while you bang the hell out of them and move on.
They hate to admit it, but their actions always speak louder than their words.

Check yourself first

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

OP, this resonates with me because I’m experiencing something similar. If you’re male, we can connect and support each other; if you’re female, we can explore being L partners. Life is too short to be lonely. I’m being genuine.

Dtruthspeaker:
See, deflection. That means that i am right. You are the same as QueenQQ

Yes I'm Sexyrosey. I confess. Didn't know it'd be so easy to detect it despite all my coverup.
Everybody, we have a real genius here. Clap for him!

You can’t blame your loneliness on another person. I have a feeling that your spouse is an introvert, but you have envisaged being with someone as fun as Davido.
If you cannot create fun for yourself, please leave the innocent man out of your fantasy.

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

Work on 'you' and walk out if still the same situationship

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

Little thing now, you don yakata and open legs for another man bed.

That's why I still said in another thread that married women are the easiest to take to bed.

Just give this woman all that she missed....being wanted, being admired, being spoken to in soft voice, being praised of her beauty, she will be all yours.

Get busy, and you not even notice who desire you and who don't.

It's lazy, dreamless people that desire affection like this. Get to work

advanceDNA:
If I ask you now...when was the last time you were all over your spouse? Initiate a surprise outing,? When was the last time you seduced your partner....?? Make your spouse feel desired...?? When was the last time u got home first and sent ur spouse a message that made him rush home to be with you...

The thing is y'all like one sided effort.....y'all expect the other person to keep the spark alive.....it's always the responsibility of the other person.....not me....

If u ask them too....they probably have the same complain as you......

Life happens....pple have to go to work and get tired when the day is over....if y'all are not deliberately intentional with investing in your relationship.....the spark will just fizzle out and become the everyday norm....

you don talk everything wey dey my mind. The truth be say... You can never please a woman! End of story.

IronCondemned:
Little thing now, you don yakata and open legs for another man bed.

That's why I still said in another thread that married women are the easiest to take to bed

She has already envisaged marrying someone as fun as Davido, only to end up with an introvert in real world. That’s the problem with most of these Gen Z wives. If you check well, the husband is doing his best to provide for the family, but she’s looking for a social guy.
Man doesn’t beat you, doesn’t insult you, doesn’t cheat, provides basic needs in the home and she’s still lonely. I’ve heard it before.

Kobojunkie:
1. The problem with these statements of yours is that it fails in recognizing the source of lack — loneliness — you feel. Loneless is a result of inner emptiness . No amount of external affection, attention, connection, romance, passion, etc., can cure emptiness. The solution has to come from within yourself —self-love.

2. Capable of love, or performance of love? I am of the mind that one is not able to love if one does not first love oneself. You say you are still capable of love, insinuating that you have been loving all this time before now. Is this really the case? I suggest you consider carefully what you think love is, and consider whether it has instead been you playing a part which you confuse with love. Love comes from a whole inside, not one battling loneliness. Please consider becoming more self-focused so you can once and for all resolve the reasons why you still have yet to love yourself more than anything else first. 🥱🥱

Chat GPT answer spotted. Na wa

Truth be told..Na to knack Dey worry you..

advanceDNA:
If I ask you now...when was the last time you were all over your spouse? Initiate a surprise outing,? When was the last time you seduced your partner....?? Make your spouse feel desired...?? When was the last time u got home first and sent ur spouse a message that made him rush home to be with you...

The thing is y'all like one sided effort.....y'all expect the other person to keep the spark alive.....it's always the responsibility of the other person.....not me....

If u ask them too....they probably have the same complain as you......

Life happens....pple have to go to work and get tired when the day is over....if y'all are not deliberately intentional with investing in your relationship.....the spark will just fizzle out and become the everyday norm....

They just don't get it, do they? They sometimes struggle to come to terms with the fact that we sometimes receive by giving.

Wotowotoman:
Chat GPT answer spotted. Na wa

You Gerrit! That thing is making people dumber by the day.

Breathing exercises, contemplation and concentration will lead you to deep meditation. You will no longer need anybody. Just have your music, data, tv, magazines, films etc.

I no say make you join we the big boys but alcohol and certain items also help us.

Sexyrosey:
➜Yes, I understand. Even though it’s not easy to put yourself first in an “African marriage” settings, a marriage where the success and failure of a marriage rest solely on the woman especially when children are involved. But I will try.

I spent the day looking for this video, and hope you will take a listen. What you are dealing with is common to most married women out there. Attempting to manage it the same way many of our mothers and grandmothers did will definitely not be to your advantage. 🥱🥱

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvU4xWsN7-A?si=u4Z8noRfJr2RedRM
Loving yourself means choosing you. Choosing to protect that which is behind your loneliness will not be to your benefit, nor to the benefit of your children after you. 🥱

QuinQQ:
😆 Well said. Dtruthspeaker guy won't know the truth if it hit him in the face.
This actually deserves Frontpage

We made it - Frontpage!
Sexyrosey you only have 13 posts and already on Frontpage with your first topic😅
While people like my buddy here have millions of posts and topics and never smell Frontpage!😂

Juliearth:
And there's nothing stopping you from achieving that... the only obstacle is "you". Whilst you may find true happiness and companionship in a person, nobody says you cannot find it whilst doing the things that you love...

The is like saying the warmth you get on a cold day from another human body lying next to you is same as the heat you get from a heater!

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

You are suffering green grass syndrome.... You think you can get these things outside.... Dem go knack you... Your V will do Gbim

Then it will be too late .. focus on your kids

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

this is a classic sign of immaturity.

De

kiddaz:
None is perfect including your spouse and yourself. So I wouldn't bother myself with whatever you did or he did that made things go south. Start by loving yourself first the way no one else can. Nobody has it all and the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Make time for yourself. Sometimes loneliness gets heavy especially when no one is there after all the world shuts down. Live more, laugh more, love more and fear nothing because one day you will wake up to find out there's really not enough time to even live so why focus on the negatives? Life is too short it's why I only focus on the positive in everything and shut down every form of negativity and it has made me a far better man than I ever was. Enjoy your life. You will never have the chance twice.

I hardly see this kind of wisdom in nairaland. Take your flowers 🌹 abeg

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

Women n attention..the poor man could be thinking about how to make money

ariesbull:
You are suffering green grass syndrome.... You think you can get these things outside.... Dem go knack you... Your V will do Gbim

Then it will be too late .. focus on your kids

She ll end up been used all in the name of looking for attention

Ibkay32:
I’m a single guy, and there are days the loneliness hits me deeper than I expect. Sometimes it feels heavy, like something is missing. There are moments I just wish I had someone to talk to someone who would listen, understand, and remind me that I’m not alone but 🥲

We introverts can’t relate. So sorry

advanceDNA:
If I ask you now...when was the last time you were all over your spouse? Initiate a surprise outing,? When was the last time you seduced your partner....?? Make your spouse feel desired...?? When was the last time u got home first and sent ur spouse a message that made him rush home to be with you...

The thing is y'all like one sided effort.....y'all expect the other person to keep the spark alive.....it's always the responsibility of the other person.....not me....

If u ask them too....they probably have the same complain as you......

Life happens....pple have to go to work and get tired when the day is over....if y'all are not deliberately intentional with investing in your relationship.....the spark will just fizzle out and become the everyday norm....

Did you read where she said she's "Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent."?
Bedides, what if he's sending clear signals he doesn't want any of these from you and it actually irritates him. He just want you to be

Wotowotoman:
Chat GPT answer spotted. Na wa

Three em dashes

Chatgpt no doubt