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I’m hurt reading this your story, I rather die a lonely man than going extra mile to make a woman happy and doesn’t even send you
Op repeat after me, thunder fire her wherever she is

Lol, l won't join you to curse anyone. Life happens. I have not been doing well financially, hence l have stayed away from women for a long time now. But decided to try out something with a sister, having started managing with a coy in the FCT last November, then got my finger burnt. I'm not bitter, have moved on.

obinna58:
I’m hurt reading this your story, I rather die a lonely man than going extra mile to make a woman happy and doesn’t even send you
Op repeat after me, thunder fire her wherever she is

Coolis:
So a man that earn 100k in a month is less than a man? He should just commit suicide. He shouldn't interact or relate with the opposite sex. I'm not going into crime to impress anyone. You have no slightest idea about the struggle so l don't blame you. You might not be more intelligent, you might not have graduated with better result than me . Time and chance happened to us all. Life and Nigeria happens. But then, l 've resolved not to be depressed. I shall emerge stronger and better

Sorry, Sorry..
Don't cry.. Don't cry.
Waste your meagre 100k on the very same gender you people despise and abuse.
Na you sabi.

Me, l'm no gay. I like women, will not give up in trying to get a good woman even if it entails spending the meager 100k as you put it. My father married my mother and they came together as man and woman to have me. The same thing l will do. Set back here and there won't deter me from trying until l meet the right person for me.

spiceadole:
Sorry, Sorry..
Don't cry.. Don't cry.
Waste your meagre 100k on the very same gender you people despise and abuse.
Na you sabi.

My people perish due to lack of knowledge. The worse mistake you will ever make as a man is trying to please a woman.

Don't try to do too much.

That's one of the things I did in my twenties. But I am now in my late 30th.

Even as simple as I am, ladies still feel intimidated around me. I have to always bring myself to their levels and act like their mates to be able to roll with them.

If you misbehave, I will scold you. I won't pet you for acting nonsensical. As a man, don't reward bad attitudes with goodwill. If you do, just know that you are building a monster that will devour you later.

Thank you, comments like yours here, help to make one better.

Mcslize:
My people perish due to lack of knowledge. The worse mistake you will ever make as a man is trying to please a woman.

Don't try to do too much.

That's one of the things I did in my twenties. But I am now in my late 30th.

Even as simple as I am, ladies still feel intimidated around me. I have to always bring myself to their levels and act like their mates to be able to roll with them.

If you misbehave, I will scold you. I won't pet you for acting nonsensical. As a man, don't reward bad attitudes with goodwill. If you do, just know that you are building a monster that will devour you later.

Coolis:
Thank you, comments like yours here, help to make one better.

I like the way you are taking the advice
You will really learn a lot

spiceadole:
But he doesn't have money.
For someone who earns about £50/month
That's too low

even though he does not have money, however little he have the girl go chop am clean mouth, just Watch and see

spiceadole:
But he doesn't have money.
For someone who earns about £50/month
That's too low

she doesn't need you to have much, the little that she see with him, she go chop am clean mouth, already she has other people she is making up with,

I'm sorry but you are an insecure man. You shouldn't have sent that. Women are not robots that you just call and they'd be at your beck and call.

You just shot yourself in the foot and I'm embarrassed on your behalf.

Double0h7:
I think you’re trying too hard and you’re setting yourself up to get hurt then you’ll join the angry men’s club and start calling women names. Learn to respect yourself and others will follow suit. Never call someone you don’t know more than once. If they don’t call you back or acknowledge your efforts then move on.

Na the next woman wey them meet always dey suffer.

spiceadole:
Where you see genuinely kind man for Nigeria?
Even here in Europe, they are known to have ulterior motives for dating/relationship and even marriage

There are still kind men na.

Though might be like finding a needle in a haystack.

From maraba that you will come down at area 1 or area 3 and board another taxi to ShopRite apo 5k, haba

I stay in one-man village after mararaba. From my area to the express is quite a distance on it own. But nawa for you, you're concerned that l exaggerated TP. A lady suggested we meet at ShopRite, so she could size me up whether l would meet her standard or not, is not serious to get your attention but the transport fare l spent on the day? Honestly, l wonder does life actually revolve around money?





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spiceadole:
Where you see genuinely kind man for Nigeria?
Even here in Europe, they are known to have ulterior motives for dating/relationship and even marriage

@ the bolded.

Spice please. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

folake4u:
@ the bolded.

Spice please. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

If Nigerian man shows you kindness, there is an ulterior motive.
Those people are not kind anything

spiceadole:
Where you see genuinely kind man for Nigeria?

Maybe we should get the definition for a genuinely kind man, let's see if it excludes finance.

Even here in Europe, they are known to have ulterior motives for dating/relationship and even marriage

Interesting. The rate of single men and women in their forties and fifties would certainly balloon. Divorce rates go be like water.

The future is interesting.

Gerrard59:
➜Maybe we should get the definition for a genuinely kind man, let's see if it excludes finance.
Interesting. The rate of single men and women in their forties and fifties would certainly balloon. Divorce rates go be like water. The future is interesting.

Better the divorce rates skyrocket so people finally realize that marriage as it is does not work for everyone. People need to carefully configure marriage to best serve and suit both individuals within the marriage, not society or third parties.

Some of all this lover boys nor gey street OT.
Una go dey form smart for watin common sense go solve.

spiceadole:
If Nigerian man shows you kindness, there is an ulterior motive.
Those people are not kind anything

Lol actually there are few genuinely kind Nigerian men I've met with no ulterior motive at all. They've been really good to me.

Emphasis on FEW.

folake4u:
Lol actually there are few genuinely kind Nigerian men I've met with no ulterior motive at all. They've been really good to me.

Emphasis on FEW.

Loose guard and see if they won't want to shift ya panties or clear your account if you have money

spiceadole:
Loose guard and see if they won't want to shift ya panties or clear your account if you have money

Hmm I hear you, Mama Spice.

We will be on the lookout.

Coolis:
Been hearing of red flag, don't know if there is one here already.

Met this lady toward the end of last year in Maraba area of Nasarawa state. I reside in one-man villagers area of Nasarawa state while she reside in the lokogoma area in the FCT.
We 've been chatting. l realized she doesn't like typing much words so she doesn't give out enough information about herself. l decided we meet physically again last Saturday so we can get to know more about each other and that l would be coming to her area. I asked her to send me the address of where she stays in the FCT but she suggested we meet at one of the eateries in their area which l agreed.
She suggested ShopRite in Apo/lokogoma area and l said okay.

NOTE-
1, l like her a lot.
2, my income is about 100k in a month.
3, To and fro one-man village to lokogoma area in the FCT using public transport will take 5k or more.

I had about 15k on the day which l thought could take care of my TP and what she would eat. I knew eating out at ShopRite would be quite expensive than the regular eateries like Chicken republic and the likes.

I cut my coat according to my size. We agreed to meet at ShopRite by 3pm but l decided to get there earlier by 2pm to find out their food and snacks prices.
Meat pie and a bottle of soft drink N2500. Fried/jollof rice with a drink N6200.

I ate well from my house so as not to order their food. I also thought
that someone coming out for a date at an eatery by 3pm, would have eaten from their house and wouldn't order food but light refreshment like a snack and bottle of soft drink but l was wrong.
After a while of my friend joining me, l told her let's go to the service desk so she could make her order. Without hesitation, she told them she wanted fried rice with fish and a bottle of coke N6200. The moment l was told of her bill which must be settled before the food is given to her, l decided not to order anything at all but on a second thought, l asked they add one bottle of Schweppes(1k) for me. I know you will call me a SIMP here but it's better only her eat than the both of us to eat which would have taken all the money in my pocket and going back to my area a serious challenge.

When we were done at ShopRite, at our departure point, she was joining along taxi to her area, l gave 1k to her to settle the taxi man, she didn't want to take it but l insisted and she accepted it.

Now, here's is why l asked if there is already a Red flag.

I told her l would call her in the evening of the day, the l idea was to find out if she had a great time and if we could do it again soon. I called her around 7:30pm twice, the phone rang but no response. I called again around 9:45pm still no response. Then l sent a message to her on watsapp that it looks like l didn't measure up to her standard and that l couldn't believe she didn't answer all calls l put across to her. I told her it seems our meeting meant nothing to her.

After a few minutes later, she replied me that she went for a program that lasted more than she thought. That was why she couldn't answer. I replied her that she should have sent a message acknowledging my missed calls and l wouldn't have insinuated our meeting meant nothing to her.
I haven't reached out to her since then and haven't heard from her either.
Men and brethren, you have it all. What do you think? Is there a red flag yet? Should l still reach out and maintain contact or to forget her? Thank you

You are forcing yourself on her bro 😎
If you are chatting with someone and they are not interested or responding fine just free the idiot unless you want to knack her by all means .

Don’t try to impress a lady it’s a waste of time and money who like you will like you .

Okay, noted. Thank you

Smartguyboy:
You are forcing yourself on her bro 😎
If you are chatting with someone and they are not interested or responding fine just free the idiot unless you want to knack her by all means .

Don’t try to impress a lady it’s a waste of time and money who like you will like you .

Oga, you English too much. Stop stressing people. We don't need that kind stress for this economy.

Kobojunkie:
A woman is not a toy but a living, breathing entity exactly like you. The only difference is that she has a different plumbing system than you do. That is all. 🥱🥱

Reading this post of yours, I will recommend that the girl never contact you again because all it shows is that you are not ready to date anyone at all. How can you say you want to date anyone, only for you to hyper focus on the mundane and not on what matters, which is supposedly chemistry between the two of you? 🥱🥱

If that girl had come concerned only about how much she would obtain from you, would you have considered her sensible? 🥱🥱

E be like you be mumu



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Coolis:
Haba, lol l'm not bother about what has gone. My concern now is not to engage in another wasteful spending if there is a red flag but judging by comments so far, there isn't much of a red flag yet so l will still try shall . Thank you

Haba, you don't have to be insulting to pass your message na

Ernezydbrook:
E be like you be mumu



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brain54:
I don't know if it's a red flag or not...



I just want to comment that men dey suffer o. After spending your hard earned but scarce resources you are still the one calling her to ask if she enjoyed her day and if she could do it again sometime. Do it again sometime like come and chop my hard earned scarce resources again


Na you dey beg her to come spend your money be that.

Back to the question I know I said I wasn't sure if it was red flag or not but on second thought. I think it is.

After eating Free meal she didn't even call to say thank you.

Use one eye dey look her for now!

Were you expecting he doesn't spend on the date, even you would do more than the op.

MONEY247:
Anytime I see guys giving ladies money as per relationship...

It breaks me..... I have never and will never give any lady money... As per romantic relationship... Except I am comfortable with you and the lady has spent on me...

Well you can call and apologize.... Maybe you two just had a rough start.

Stop deceiving yourself, just stop it.

Courtesy demand you pay for the date, you can only resist and interject when she is over doing the normality, like ordering for takeaway, or ordering way above your budget.

Or were you expecting she orders water?