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Rutherinspace:
This is a very faulty reasoning but I'm not surprised because it's regurgitated in different forms.

The claim that all men are “created” to cheat is not biology — it’s justification.

Yes, men can feel attraction to multiple women.
But attraction is not the same as action.

Human beings are not animals ruled by impulse. We have: Self-control, moral reasoning, and Empathy. The ability to choose long-term stability over short-term pleasure

If “natural desire” excused behavior, then anger would justify violence, and greed would justify theft. Society exists because adults control impulses.

Plenty of men feel attraction and still choose loyalty. That proves it is a decision, not a biological destiny.

The claim that faithful men are either extremely religious, or too poor/unattractive to cheat is insulting to men and tells a lot about your personality.

Many financially successful, attractive, socially powerful men remain faithful. Not because they lack options — but because they value integrity and emotional peace

I always say it loudly. The family defines society - if a man cannot keep to a simple commitment to a woman, how can the same man fulfill political promises to society?

In environments where men are praised for cheating, more will cheat.
In environments where integrity is respected, more men remain faithful.

This shows its cultural conditioning — not biological inevitability.

Behavior is shaped by upbringing, peer influence, and cultural norms. I have many male friends who are financially successful and stick with their wives. I tell everyone extra marital affairs is expensive and not worth it.

Please, let's reject such lazy, backward thinking in favor of accountability and open communication.

A good read: Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men

If you are a man, I doubt you are financially buoyant and successful, until you attain that height, let's leave the discussion till then, have a great day and thanks for your attention to this matter

I have been married for 5 years and i can tell you that cheating is more expensive than being faithful.

Its stressful also and one can remain faithful if he wants to.

zedman1:
Are you a man? Are your married? If yes, for how long? If not, as faithful as you think you are now, get married first and pray never to fall.

franchasofficia:
If you are a man, I doubt you are financially buoyant and successful, until you attain that height, let's leave the discussion till then, have a great day and thanks for your attention to this matter

The way some of you reason here on this matter is just somehow! Is it that you don't know that there are many principled men out there who would not want to break their vows of fidelity and commitment to their wives regardless how rich they become or what? I don't know the cycle of men you have around you but my own cycle of men are principled and level-headed men who would not compromise their integrity for a few minutes of pleasure with some side chicks. And some these men I'm referring to are bastardly rich and influential in the society!

So, you guys need to stop with this annoying generalisation of all men as being incapable of staying faithful to one wife.

Jman06:
The way some of you reason here on this matter is just somehow! Is it that you don't know that there are many principled men out there who would not want to break their vows of fidelity and commitment to their wives regardless how rich they become or what? I don't know the cycle of men you have around you but my own cycle of men are principled and level-headed men who would not compromise their integrity for a few minutes of pleasure with some side chicks. And some these men I'm referring to are bastardly rich and influential in the society!

So, you guys need to stop with this annoying generalisation of all men as being incapable of staying faithful to one wife.

I hear you sir, well done to you and your wonderful circle of principled wealthy married men, you guys rock

Gunayo:
The funniest thing is that she might not satisfy you and always deny you sex for flimsy excuses.

be like say you dey live with us....madam fit close gate for 3weeks.....only open gate when she feels like ...
I no vex cos....it's helping me....I wanted 2 kids..I dn get am..a boy and a girl....last born is now 8yrs old......we dey use am as our family planning.

9galen217:
You are not alone.
10 years and counting... I can't bring myself to cheat on her. Not sure how those other men do it.
Stay committed and faithful.

sometimes na fear of STDs dey make me abstain.....rest of mind dey as ...I no dey go hospital unless she wan deliver baby...no unnecessary spending on drugs ...
Price dey for uncontrolled sex life

stainlink:
I have been married for 5 years and i can tell you that cheating is more expensive than being faithful.

Its stressful also and one can remain faithful if he wants to.

That's very impressive. But by "you can tell..." I hope you haven't...Anyways, my point isn't to make anyone confess. It's the temptation to cheat that I'm all about.

OmoOshodi:
be like say you dey live with us....madam fit close gate for 3weeks.....only open gate when she feels like ...
I no vex cos....it's helping me....I wanted 2 kids..I dn get am..a boy and a girl....last born is now 8yrs old......we dey use am as our family planning.

Abi o.

Lifestone:
Huh. Say it again. What else

The only reason you are afraid is that the pot will run dry is not why border

Let him cheat he will still come back to you for the kids

Unless you have a bad habit of not letting him warships the Lord in your temple

Jman06:
The way some of you reason here on this matter is just somehow! Is it that you don't know that there are many principled men out there who would not want to break their vows of fidelity and commitment to their wives regardless how rich they become or what? I don't know the cycle of men you have around you but my own cycle of men are principled and level-headed men who would not compromise their integrity for a few minutes of pleasure with some side chicks. And some these men I'm referring to are bastardly rich and influential in the society!

So, you guys need to stop with this annoying generalisation of all men as being incapable of staying faithful to one wife.

It's not a sin to marryany rether it's something implanted on us by the women forks

For safety of there comfort
Guaranty of the own selfish accomplishments which they want to gain from you only that's making them believe it's a promise to them alone you should commit

There is no Bible or Quran or traditional quote that say one man one women for ever

bewla:
It's not a sin to marryany rether it's something implanted on us by the women forks

For safety of there comfort
Guaranty of the own selfish accomplishments which they want to gain from you only that's making them believe it's a promise to them alone you should commit

There is no Bible or Quran or traditional quote that say one man one women for ever

Thou shalt not commit adultery.

How do you do polygamy without committing adultery?

https://www.nairaland.com/8032594/deuteronomy-17-17-shows-god#128966884

OmoOshodi:
sometimes na fear of STDs dey make me abstain.....rest of mind dey as ...I no dey go hospital unless she wan deliver baby...no unnecessary spending on drugs ...
Price dey for uncontrolled sex life

And you are sad for it? And you say you like rest of mind?

Rutherinspace:
This is a very faulty reasoning but I'm not surprised because it's regurgitated in different forms.

The claim that all men are “created” to cheat is not biology — it’s justification.

Yes, men can feel attraction to multiple women.
But attraction is not the same as action.

Human beings are not animals ruled by impulse. We have: Self-control, moral reasoning, and Empathy. The ability to choose long-term stability over short-term pleasure

If “natural desire” excused behavior, then anger would justify violence, and greed would justify theft. Society exists because adults control impulses....

Beautiful!! When last did i hear a flowery of perfect doctrine?

Guy, you have sweetened my morning

9galen217:
You are not alone.
10 years and counting... I can't bring myself to cheat on her. Not sure how those other men do it.
Stay committed and faithful.

Bros no loud am oo make Satan no hear you.

Damn, too late.

Sirtee19:
Can you substantiate your assertion of "all men cheat". If you have said most men, I wouldn't have objected to your assertion. If you believe that all men cheat, then all women cheat too. Which means you are a cheat too. There will always be an exception in every ALL.

Bros Tee, we are all cheats just that some are still on their way to cheating, so till death bed before we can know

pocohantas:
Good for you, but I will leave immediately.
It is not my body you will release strange demons and diseases into. There are women like you that don't mind, hopefully cheating men can find your type and marry you all.

Ehn, like you would leave Davido for cheating

franchasofficia:
....God created man and woman differently with various weaknesses and deficiencies more peculiar to different genders and if you dig deeper, they are for a reason, but as humans, we want to make sure we forcefully balance every human affair/activities in order to maintain a false sense of gender equality and balance which can never be achieved till the world ends.
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Rutherinspace already answered you perfectly.

Human beings are not animals ruled by impulse. We have: the power Self-control, moral reasoning, and Empathy.

Claiming impulse has never been a good defence anywhere

franchasofficia:
If you are a man, I doubt you are financially buoyant and successful, until you attain that height, let's leave the discussion till then, have a great day and thanks for your attention to this matter

See, you have no reasonable counter to what he said for all that he has said is True.

Rutherinspace:
This is a very faulty reasoning but I'm not surprised because it's regurgitated in different forms.

The claim that all men are “created” to cheat is not biology — it’s justification.

Yes, men can feel attraction to multiple women.
But attraction is not the same as action.

Human beings are not animals ruled by impulse. We have: Self-control, moral reasoning, and Empathy. The ability to choose long-term stability over short-term pleasure

If “natural desire” excused behavior, then anger would justify violence, and greed would justify theft. Society exists because adults control impulses.

Plenty of men feel attraction and still choose loyalty. That proves it is a decision, not a biological destiny.

The claim that faithful men are either extremely religious, or too poor/unattractive to cheat is insulting to men and tells a lot about your personality.

Many financially successful, attractive, socially powerful men remain faithful. Not because they lack options — but because they value integrity and emotional peace

I always say it loudly. The family defines society - if a man cannot keep to a simple commitment to a woman, how can the same man fulfill political promises to society?

In environments where men are praised for cheating, more will cheat.
In environments where integrity is respected, more men remain faithful.

This shows its cultural conditioning — not biological inevitability.

Behavior is shaped by upbringing, peer influence, and cultural norms. I have many male friends who are financially successful and stick with their wives. I tell everyone extra marital affairs is expensive and not worth it.

Please, let's reject such lazy, backward thinking in favor of accountability and open communication.

A good read: Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men

Wisdom has spoken through you.

Dtruthspeaker:
Thou not commit adultery.

How do you do polygamy without committing adultery?

https://www.nairaland.com/8032594/deuteronomy-17-17-shows-god#128966884

You call it polygamy

While we call it wifes
Some say second wife

It all depends on how logical it sound to you

Like I started quote any of the manuscript that said you should not take second. Wife or third or fourth

If you can charterr for them

Don't let woman brain wash you

They only think of them self
Until old age then you begin to reason as you are supposed to
Because then when your children. Start to give birth and she start to visit
While you mostly alone then you ask your self some sensible. Question. That you need to ask your self now

Pls leave let me enjoy my morning. Roll

The issue isn’t sex alone, it’s trust

Both parties have equal rights
Do your things out there and respect your partner👬

franchasofficia:
I said it on the other thread.

A worthy man or a great husband is not determined by his sexual conduct alone. Any lady that rates a man based on his sexual weakness alone will definitely end up with horrible men.






The only perceived wrongdoing I know many good and wonderful married men commit against their wives is "having extramarital affairs" or keeping mistresses outside their marriage, and why I don't usually see this as a big deal is because that is how every sexually active man was created from birth; to want to explore or mate with other women he finds attractive, it's a natural deficiency in all sexually active men.


The few sexually active men (if any exist) that stay sexually faithful to one partner till death are those that did it out of extreme commitment to religious doctrines and those that lacked the privilege, the opportunities and financial capacity to explore.



So long as a man respects his wife, treats her well, takes very good care of her and the kids, takes full responsibility of the family and dependents, respects himself by being absolutely discreet with his affairs, I see no big deal in him having extramarital affairs responsibly, only his maker and God can judge him on the last day, thank you all for your attention to this matter

Temptation is a constant thing. It is the determination not to fall into it that makes you a faithful person.

It is not easy (for both a man and woman) but it is possible.

zedman1:
That's very impressive. But by "you can tell..." I hope you haven't...Anyways, my point isn't to make anyone confess. It's the temptation to cheat that I'm all about.

stainlink:
Temptation is a constant thing. It is the determination not to fall into it that makes you a faithful person.

It is not easy (for both a man and woman) but it is possible.

"But it is poss...". Good, good, you're getting there. You're a great person.....but somehow, again, my point is... you shouldn't forget about one weird, sometimes disgusting but great and simple law - Do not judge.... I wish you never ever fall bro. Take care.

zedman1:
"But it is poss...". Good, good, you're getting there. You're a great person.....but somehow, again, my point is... you shouldn't forget about one weird, sometimes disgusting but great and simple law - Do not judge.... I wish you never ever fall bro. Take care.

I mean it is possible to stick to one partner. It should be a deliberate action never to fall for the unending temptation of cheating.

One love bro

Towma:
What about STDs? Should wives also keep quiet and be treating diseases because their husbands are animals that lack self control?

shey the man is not afraid of STD abi. He would just sleep with any woman without condom?

bewla:
You call it polygamy

While we call it wifes
Some say second wife

It all depends on how logical it sound to you

Like I started quote any of the manuscript that said you should not take second. Wife or third or fourth

If you can charterr for them

Don't let woman brain wash you

They only think of them self
Until old age then you begin to reason as you are supposed to
Because then when your children. Start to give birth and she start to visit
While you mostly alone then you ask your self some sensible. Question. That you need to ask your self now

Pls leave let me enjoy my morning. Roll

Calling it wifes does not change the fact that it is polygamy.

And from the Bible stand, the Law on adultery stands against the practice of polygamy.

And so i asked How do you do polygamy without committing adultery? and you have not answered it

So, you are lying against the Bible unless you think you can answer the question

Ovieemmanuel:
shey the man is not afraid of STD abi. He would just sleep with any woman without condom?

Condoms don't protect against every single STD.
Condoms break during intercourse. They are not 100% safe.

Dtruthspeaker:
Calling it wifes does not change the fact that it is polygamy.

And from the Bible stand, the Law on adultery stands against the practice of polygamy.

And so i asked How do you do polygamy without committing adultery? and you have not answered it

So, you are lying against the Bible unless you think you can answer the question

Exodus 21 vs 10


Check and don't tell me it's old thing ooooo

Funny Enough , same lady that left his wife will become a side chick to married Woman , some ended up being sec or third wife .

Goo0dHardDick:
Any woman who lives a man because he cheated on her is an unwise woman!

She'll be replaced with his side chick. It her loss

bewla:
Exodus 21 vs 10
Check and don't tell me it's old thing ooooo

And this does not still answer the question how do you do polygamy without committing adultery?

For remember that this Law was given to people who already in the pagan practice of polygamy in Exodus and God was bringing them out of it and that is why you see in Exodus 20, they are commanded to put away their paganism and their gods like giving Nigerians this Law in 1627 when everyone was a pagan practicing polygamy

After David do you see anyone having more than one wife?

In Ezra 10: 19 And they gave their hands that they would put away their wives; and being guilty, they offered a ram of the flock for their trespass. So you are wrong