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There are two lessons you must never forget in life.
#1. Never marry a single mother.
#2. Never forget lesson #1.

Wetin dem do u? Wtin ur eye see?

Bro abeg relate your experience make youngings wey dey think say dem fit just chop and run learn. Single moms are misfortune waiting to happen to the average man. Run away from them. Nothing good can come from being in a relationship with one.

3. Never marry a single father as well... For his children from his previous relationships will only pop out of nowhere after his death to inherit everything you'd have built together with him.

Samantha125:
3. Never marry a single father as well... For his children from his previous relationships will only pop out of nowhere after his death to inherit everything you'd have built together with him.

That's not true. It's why there's a will. A man might have a child outside that he doesn't recognize based on certain circumstances surrounding the birth. If he then dies without reconciliation with the child, the child is just his bastxd unfortunately

It's not all of them...but I've never met the exception.

What if paternity DNA tests are conducted and they come back positive? The child can contest the will and inherit his or her share even as an illegitimate child.

kiddaz:
That's not true. It's why there's a will. A man might have a child outside that he doesn't recognize based on certain circumstances surrounding the birth. If he then dies without reconciliation with the child, the child remaining a bastxd unfortunately

Samantha125:
What if paternity DNA tests are conducted and they come back positive? The child can contest the will and inherit his or her share even as an illegitimate child.

Well if paternity DNA is confirmed, the child can only get a piece and not alll like you presumed initially and definitely not as much as the legitimate children in the original testament so there's nothing to fear

He or she will be entitled to inherit an equal share as the rest of the legitimate children... If it was possible, single parents should only be getting married amongst themselves, but unfortunately, we can't control matters of the heart.

kiddaz:
Well if paternity DNA is confirmed, the child can only get a piece and not alll like you presumed initially and definitely not as much as the legitimate children in the original testament so there's nothing to fear

Samantha125:
He or she will be entitled to inherit an equal share as the rest of the legitimate children... If it was possible, single parents should only be getting married amongst themselves, but unfortunately, we can't control matters of the heart.

Now this isn't even about single fathers per say but an absentee dad who's child didn't grow around him and according to the law he does not recognize the child as his while alive he / she can never inherit equal share. So again no woman can come out of nowhere to claim I'm her child's father when I had nothing to do with them or acknowledged it while still alive. That's the law and then where I come from, traditionally, it's another different ball game that runs deep and unfavorable to a child without my name or acknowledgement as mine while alive
Men with children out of wedlock have lesser baggages than single mothers. It will never be the same. The only thing similar is having the child. Without bias, Men become absentee fathers due to failure to acknowledge the child for reasons, separation from their spouse which 80% rests on the woman's decisions (most times to prove a pointless point) , now I'm not absorbing men from any of this as some men are just really willing deadbeats or runaway at the mention of pregnancy but in reality no man willingly wants to be separated from his child, especially if he was previously available there, never abandoned the woman during the beginning but took charge of things as best he could. But then shiii happens but an absentee father and a single mother aren't the same situation at all. Especially psychologically. So you really shouldn't be comparing both situations though

Still, all single parents should get married amongst themselves, whether the father is an absentee or not, he should get married to a single mother as his child or children from his previous relationships will still be eligible to claim part of his assets upon his demise, I've seen this happening many times before.

At bolded, is this law that you're referring to recognised by your country's constitution? Because remember that unwritten laws are deemed as null and void within the court of law.

kiddaz:
Now this isn't even about single fathers per say but an absentee dad who's child didn't grow around him and according to the law he does not recognize the child as his while alive he / she can never inherit equal share. So again no woman can come out of nowhere to claim I'm her child's father when I had nothing to do with them or acknowledged it while still alive. [b]That's the law [/b]and then where I come from, traditionally, it's another different ball game that runs deep and unfavorable to a child without my name or acknowledgement as mine while alive
Men with children out of wedlock have lesser baggages than single mothers. It will never be the same. The only thing similar is having the child. Without bias, Men become absentee fathers due to failure to acknowledge the child for reasons, separation from their spouse which 80% rests on the woman's decisions (most times to prove a pointless point) , now I'm not absorbing men from any of this as some men are just really willing deadbeats or runaway at the mention of pregnancy but in reality no man willingly wants to be separated from his child, especially if he was previously available there, never abandoned the woman during the beginning but took charge of things as best he could. But then shiii happens but an absentee father and a single mother aren't the same situation at all. Especially psychologically. So you really shouldn't be comparing both situations though

Samantha125:
Still, all single parents should get married amongst themselves, whether the father is an absentee or not, he should get married to a single mother as his child or children from his previous relationships will still be eligible to claim part of his assets upon his demise, I've seen this happening many times before.

At bolded, is this law that you're referring to recognised by your country's constitution? Because remember that unwritten laws are deemed as null and void within the court of law.

Lol that marriage arrangements doesn't even make sense

It's almost similar to the recognized laws but a bit extensive

kiddaz:
Lol that marriage arrangements doesn't even make sense

It's almost similar to the recognized laws but a bit extensive

You're yet to reply

You're not answering my question, are these laws that you're talking about written and recognised by your country's constitution?

It's like you're a member of the Single Fathers Association...😂😂😂

kiddaz:
Lol that marriage arrangements doesn't even make sense

It's almost similar to the recognized laws but a bit extensive

Samantha125:
You're not answering my question, are these laws that you're talking about written and recognised by your country's constitution?

It's like you're a member of the Single Fathers Association ...😂😂😂

Lol, we all know tradition has its jurisdiction and it's not officially recognised by any Constitution.

Well, maybe I am. I still have younger, single girls stepping up and stepping in. I'm that good so no problems here

kiddaz:
Lol, we all know tradition has its jurisdiction and it's not officially recognised by any Constitution.

Well, maybe I am. I still have younger, single girls stepping up and stepping in. I'm that good so no problems here

Pls check mail

Those traditional laws are inadmissible in the court of law, so they'd be useless in this case.

I just don't see why you saw the need to reason with me for stating my preference from a woman's perspective when you didn't seem to be triggered by the op's preferences.

This is not about you, but about your children... Do those young girls that you're consoling yourself with love your children or just using you for their own selfish gain?

Because if we're to be honest, no childless woman wants to raise another woman's child or children from her husband's previous relationships unless if she's infertile and desperate... We women are selfish in nature.

kiddaz:
Lol, we all know tradition has its jurisdiction and it's not officially recognised by any Constitution.

Well, maybe I am. I still have younger, single girls stepping up and stepping in. I'm that good so no problems here

Samantha125:
Those traditional laws are inadmissible in the court of law, so they'd be useless in this case.

I just don't see why you saw the need to reason with me for stating my preference from a woman's perspective when you didn't seem to be triggered by the op's preferences.

This is not about you, but about your children... Do those young girls that you're consoling yourself with love your children or just using you for their own selfish gain?

Because if we're to be honest, no childless woman wants to raise another woman's child or children from her husband's previous relationships unless if she's infertile and desperate ... We women are selfish in nature.

Very funny, but all women aren't the same

kiddaz:
Very funny, but all women aren't the same

It's well bro

Malagans:
It's well bro

Replied you already. Dey calm down na. We all have things to do out of here. I just came online and replied you

So all of a sudden not all women are the same when they're childless, but get painted with the same brush the moment they become single mothers? Okay...

No childless woman wants to raise her husband's children from his previous relationships, but go ahead and keep consoling yourself...

kiddaz:
Very funny, but all women aren't the same

Samantha125:
So all of a sudden not all women are the same when they're childless, but get painted with the same brush the moment they become single mothers? Okay...

No childless woman wants to raise her husband's children from his previous relationships, but go ahead and keep consoling yourself...

You have a point about women not wanting to raise other children from other women. I get that but then who says she would be raising the child when the child still has a mom? All she need a to know is I have a child and she doesn't need to be the one to raise her. But the child can come stay over whenever I want cos I can't be with the mom as a husband but there will definitely be an understanding between everyone. That's not a difficult situation or arrangement. Getting married to a guy who co-parents with the mother of his child isn't that hard is it? She just has to play step mom once in a while. Our kids are ours and my kid is ours too. Life isn't difficult

Come stay over so that he or she can keep reminding the lady of how she's not his or her mother whenever she tries to reprimand him or her?

The child will still be entitled to inherit what she'd have built together with you... And it's no secret that some of you guys would be using the children as an excuse to be still sleeping with your baby mamas.

What's so difficult in settling down with a single mother as a single father?🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

kiddaz:
You have a point about women not wanting to raise other children from other women. I get that but then who says she would be raising the child when the child still has a mom? All she need a to know is I have a child and she doesn't need to be the one to raise her. But the child can come stay over whenever I want cos I can't be with the mom as a husband but there will definitely be an understanding between everyone. That's not a difficult situation or arrangement. Getting married to a guy who co-parents with the mother of his child isn't that hard is it? She just has to play step mom once in a while. Our kids are ours and my kid is ours too. Life isn't difficult

Samantha125:
Come stay over so that he or she can keep reminding the lady of how she's not his or her mother whenever she tries to reprimand him or her?

The child will still be entitled to inherit what she'd have built together with you... And it's no secret that some of you guys would be using the children as an excuse to be still sleeping with your baby mamas.

What's so difficult in settling down with a single mother as a single father?🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

Because from experience single mothers are a handful and I don't have that energy

Same can be also said about single fathers, they'd just bring their children home and dump them on their wives to look after as if they don't have their own mothers...🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

You guys and single mothers are birds of the same feathers and therefore, should flock together.

kiddaz:
Because from experience single mothers are a handful and I don't have that energy

I feel very sorry for women who don't have children but end up marrying single fathers.
Left for me, single fathers will marry single mothers

When I was single, one of the things I investigated thoroughly about a potential suitor was to find out if he already had a kid(s) .
Once that's the case, I just ghost without explanation.
My first child must be your first child.
I don't have strength to deal with other people's baggages

Odebayo4010:
There are two lessons you must never forget in life.
#1. Never marry a single mother.
#2. Never forget lesson #1.

Make it 3.

#3. Be wary of involving yourself with the daughter of a single mother. Know why the mum is single and understand that the lingering bitterness, if any, would permeate to the daughter.

Samantha125:
Same can be also said about single fathers, they'd just bring their children home and dump them on their wives to look after as if they don't have their own mothers...🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

You guys and single mothers are birds of the same feathers and therefore, should flock together.

Lol be ranting. Younger, single women are still falling in line

How am I ranting when you quoted me first though? Was I supposed to not respond?

And do those young single women love your children or only what you have to offer?

kiddaz:
Lol be ranting. Younger, single women are still falling in line

Samantha125:
How am I ranting when you quoted me first though? Was I supposed to not respond?

And do those young single women love your children or only what you have to offer?

Child not children. And yes cos she's a beautiful angel. Offer ke? Me? Lol dey play

There's more to step-parenthood than just having a cute baby.

She might be your angel, but it might not always be the case to those young ladies of yours, but go ahead and keep deceiving yourself, it's fine.

kiddaz:
Child not children. And yes cos she's a beautiful angel. Offer ke? Me? Lol dey play

Samantha125:
There's more to step-parenthood than just having a cute baby.

She might be your angel, but it might not always be the case to those young ladies of yours, but go ahead and keep deceiving yourself, it's fine.

Lol why you like wahala. There's always someone for everyone and I will find the one who will love me and my pretty little angel despite anything. One even said she wanted to be the one to give me a son. But in reality I'm not even looking for all that. I love my life, and I just want to get better everyday for my princess