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Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage...✍🏽

When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."
Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.
The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the holy say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.
Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and also be his maid.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear friends...✍

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So what would the future husband enjoy if the lady already slept with uncountable guys?

But husbands still frown and are unhappy when wives refuse to have sex.. lol

I just need you to be intelligent only. We can have sex once a year.

Sex is so overrated. It would seems as if you want to die if you haven't got it for a long time, but immediately you're on it, anger sets in. You feel like it isn't the answer to how you're feeling.

Sex is also submission, but women will have to be extra submissive (i.e non sexual submission) by respecting their husbands and listening to him. Some women are so beautiful and sexually active but they disrespect their husbands, on the long run they loose their marriage and blame it on the devil. I just threw my wives things outta the house yesterday night before I stumbled on this post this morning. My wife is so disrespectful if I say a word she will reply with 50 extra words. So I got tired and threw her out.

I support you

sorosoke101:
Sex is also submission, but women will have to be extra submissive (i.e non sexual submission) by respecting their husbands and listening to him. Some women are so beautiful and sexually active but they disrespect their husbands, on the long run they loose their marriage and blame it on the devil. I just threw my wives things outta the house yesterday night before I stumbled on this post this morning. My wife is so disrespectful if I say a word she will reply with 50 extra words. So I got tired and threw her out.

Any woman that doesn't value peace and respect is not good for marriage!!!!!!!

Life without peace is death loading no matter the money and investment you have made.
Peace and happiness is the foundation of a true marriage and family.

Men should never be in haste to marry cos when they do the end is inevitable.

May God give you peace in your home.

sorosoke101:
Sex is also submission, but women will have to be extra submissive (i.e non sexual submission) by respecting their husbands and listening to him. Some women are so beautiful and sexually active but they disrespect their husbands, on the long run they loose their marriage and blame it on the devil. I just threw my wives things outta the house yesterday night before I stumbled on this post this morning. My wife is so disrespectful if I say a word she will reply with 50 extra words. So I got tired and threw her out.

Submission don't mean being a slave

Btw, you saw the attitudes of your wife before marrying her but chose to ignore.

One of the common mistakes in relationships or marriage is, people who are not interested in changing themselves but will be thinking they can change others

Most women don't know you can control a man when you respect him as the head and you the crown.

A diamond crown can never be seen without a head to place it on. When you give a man peace, respect and dignity. He can move mountains for you and your generation to reciprocate your loyalty as a wise wife and mother of his kids.

The respect of a woman is how she value her husband, kids, family and home.

If you like be the most beautiful woman in the world, without respect, peace and dignity you have no value to REAL men that knows exactly what the want in a woman.

In a nutshell, the value of a woman is not in her beauty but her character and attitude of life.

Many will marry late, less than they deserve and be thrown out of marriage until they work on their value which is character and attitude.

helinues:
Submission don't mean being a slave

Btw, you saw the attitudes of your wife before marrying her but chose to ignore.

One of the common mistakes in relationships or marriage is, people who are not interested in changing themselves but will be thinking they can change others

don't worry you will get married one day, and if you are married pray never to experience your wife been disrespectful.

I'll be betraying my gender if I share how ladies can require a man to marry her.
No asking, no begging, no forcing just requirement.

A disrespectful woman is an ugly woman - Mcslize 2026.

Is marriage a favour to a woman? Why should a woman ignore herself and live according to the bidding of a man who is also a human being like her? Women are not dogs to be chained and controlled.

If you are a woman still falling for useless write-ups like this, you need a serious mental check-up.

Many marriages in Nigeria are built on a master-slave structure. So why are so many women suffering and unhappy? Why do we hear so many bitter stories in the media about gullible, submissive women who went through hell? Why did Osinachi die, even though she was humble?

The societal structure of marriage in Nigeria often brings suffering to women, but women can choose to enjoy their lives by loving themselves and prioritizing themselves first.

The major issue in many marriages is choosing the wrong partner. If a woman marries a man who truly loves her, she will naturally enjoy the marriage without stress. There are men who cannot stand seeing their woman in pain or suffering.

It is exhausting that in 2026, we are still hearing, "my husband destroyed my life." You could be a destiny carrier or holder of immense potential; don't let anyone destroy you. Stay away from men who want to ruin your mission and purpose. Be intentional about choosing the right partner. Your life isn't just about being a wife; you can be a wife, a mother, a professional, and a trailblazer.

Though by nature, I am not loud or troublesome, I am calm and soft-spoken; but my actions speak very loudly. When I know what is right for me, I act; even if it upsets others. I may apologize to calm the waters, but I never compromise my values or allow anyone to control my life.

If it is petty decisions like "don't go there" or "do this or that," I can let it go. But when someone starts meddling in my career or priorities, that is when they see the real me.

You see those women who shout, argue, and get emotional? They are nice. Me? I don't have the energy for physical arguments. When I know something is wrong for me and could have a negative impact, and my partner insists on his way, I quietly do what I know is right. If he finds out and makes a big deal, I might apologize to calm things down. If it happens again, I repeat the action and continue doing my thing until he learns.

Don't bend or shrink your core values. If a man wants to leave because you refuse to let him destroy your life, open the door wide and let him go. You are not a sacrificial lamb; you don't have to die, suffer, or end up bitter like so many women today.

Marriage is not a place where a woman loses herself to prove loyalty. It is meant to be a safe space, not a battlefield. It is where two people come together to support each other's dreams, purpose, and happiness; not where one person disappears.

Ladies, you are allowed to exist fully, to grow, and to choose yourself without guilt. Don't let your marriage reduce, silence, or erase you.

#YouMatterJustAsMuchAsHeDoes

Mcslize:
A disrespectful woman is an ugly woman - Mcslize 2026.

A controlling man is a useless, worthless, and ugly beast - Wise Woman 2026

sorosoke101:
Sex is also submission, but women will have to be extra submissive (i.e non sexual submission) by respecting their husbands and listening to him. Some women are so beautiful and sexually active but they disrespect their husbands, on the long run they loose their marriage and blame it on the devil. I just threw my wives things outta the house yesterday night before I stumbled on this post this morning. My wife is so disrespectful if I say a word she will reply with 50 extra words. So I got tired and threw her out.

See how this one is feeling like he is Elon Musk😂. My dear, no sensible woman would agree to be submissive. If you wish to order people around, build a company and employ workers.

ManknowThyself:
Any woman that doesn't value peace and respect is not good for marriage!!!!!!!

Life without peace is death loading no matter the money and investment you have made.
Peace and happiness is the foundation of a true marriage and family.

Men should never be in haste to marry cos when they do the end is inevitable.

May God give you peace in your home.

Neither should a woman be in haste to marry, because there are a lot of useless, worthless men out there. They have absolutely nothing to add to society; all they do is try to shrink their partners to feel big.

Merry100:
See how this one is feeling like he is Elon Musk😂. My dear, no sensible woman would agree to be submissive. If you wish to order people around, build a company and employ workers.

So would you like it if your husband opts to be the submissive partner while you dominate and control him. In marriage, one partner must take charge and it must not be the man. There are many successful female-led relationships (FLRs)

pussyphilia:
So would you like it if your husband opts to be the submissive partner while you dominate and control him. In marriage, one partner must take charge and it must not be the man. There are many successful female-led relationships (FLRs)

There will be no place for submission in my marriage. To submit is to surrender your own reasoning, even your common sense, and obey blindly; even when it doesn't make sense.

Power struggles are pointless. Recognize each other's strengths and let each partner perform in their best area. One may handle finances, the other planning or emotional matters. Pride and the desire to control are what hold families back. Instead of working together, they pull each other down; or destroy one another.

I trust my partner's judgment. In fact, he makes most of the decisions, but I question any choice that seems unsafe, selfish, or harmful.

No one has to be in charge. Decisions can be made together. I don't believe in female-led relationships or submission of any kind. I believe in partnership, respect, and standing your ground when necessary.

Submission chains; respect empowers. It gives you the freedom to say no and protect yourself.

Merry100:
There will be no place for submission in my marriage. To submit is to surrender your own reasoning, even your common sense, and obey blindly; even when it doesn't make sense.

Power struggles are pointless. Recognize each other's strengths and let each partner perform in their best area. One may handle finances, the other planning or emotional matters. Pride and the desire to control are what hold families back. Instead of working together, they pull each other down; or destroy one another.

I trust my partner's judgment. In fact, he makes most of the decisions, but I question any choice that seems unsafe, selfish, or harmful.

No one has to be in charge. Decisions can be made together. I don't believe in female-led relationships or submission of any kind. I believe in partnership, respect, and standing your ground when necessary.

Submission chains; respect empowers. It gives you the freedom to say no and protect yourself.

In every relationship between two humans, there must be one who drives the relationship more. There must be a leader. Marriage is not like a business contract where you can talk about equal partnership based on amount of shares held by each partner. Marriage doesn't work that way, there must be a leader who takes bulk of the family's decisions. If you are honest enough you'll acknowledge the fact that marriage requires a leader.

pussyphilia:
In every relationship between two humans, there must be one who drives the relationship more. There must be a leader. Marriage is not like a business contract where you can talk about equal partnership based on amount of shares held by each partner. Marriage doesn't work that way, there must be a leader who takes bulk of the family's decisions. If you are honest enough you'll acknowledge the fact that marriage requires a leader.

Leadership in the sense of control is not acceptable in a healthy marriage. True leadership is situational and collaborative; it is about offering guidance in certain areas, not controlling the other partner or limiting the other person's rights.

Natural influence is not authority. Even when one partner takes the lead occasionally in certain matters, this does not give them absolute authority or ownership of the marriage. Both partners maintain the right to question, discuss, and challenge decisions that seem wrong or unfair.

Certain personal decisions, such as career paths, religious beliefs, or core values, are not matters of leadership. A partner may offer advice or share their perspective, but the ultimate decision belongs to the individual.

Peace, submittion, affection, respect and sex (enough) is all I need in marriage.
I can't say about you.