₦airaland Forum

georgeakins:
Carry your mumu commot here.
There is 'introduction' in Ibo culture

If truly you're one of us then you should know it's "Igbo" and not "Ibo"!

MarkNsukkaBread:
Must you bring tribalism and insults into every discussion you're involved in?!

Every Discussion?..
Give 3 screenshots to back up your talk or remain a trash talker

Introduction is not marriage where I come from.

I am Yoruba and they call it mo mi n mo e, translated literally I know you , you know me.

Members of the grooms family will be introduced to the brides family and vice versa, they will introduce the nuclear and extended members of the family. Shikena.

Just that some families add a lot of feferity to it.

The proper traditional marriage - Igbeyawo is what some Yoruba people call engagement I think the use of the word engagement is wrong though but it has stuck over the years . It's marriage -Igbeyawo all items to be brought from the list are exchanged and all , and more feferity.

There's no legal, traditional , religious/spiritual binding for introduction .

Introduction is not marriage at least from my own tribe.

In Igbo land, doing introduction doesn't mean you are married. You are married after you pay bride price.

CoolKizzy:
It depends on the tribe in question.
In Igbo culture, nothing like introduction.
Iku aka or idonye mmanya or Iju ese.
All these things are not marriage. It’s just a declaration of interest.
If you bring wine (idonye mmanya) depending on the town and a maiden’s father accepts the drink from you, you have three months (7 modern weeks) to come and pay bride price (ime ego). More like booking. Within that three months the girl’s father will not accept drinks (mmanya) from any other man. Once the three months is over and you’re not forth coming, it will be assumed you’re no longer interested. Another man can bring drinks and the girl’s father will accept.

Summary.
1. Ime ego (bride price / dowry payment) is the legitimate marriage in Igbo land. And must be completed in full.
2 igba nkwu is the wedding ceremony. More like party for the family. This can be done later or in little installments or some portion waived by the bride’s family. All depending on the town and family strength in the umunna.

Well said, kindly educate the poster above you too.

AllBlack:
In his yoruba head. Na so dem dey do.

They will do intro with cheap coke and fanta and the whole family will start calling you IYAWO, OUR WIFE and rope the babe till she is confused and trapped with pregnancy.

O TI LO

why do you think they are called YORUBA DEMONS? 😂

Your angle to life is not the only angle. We can't do things the okoooooro way only.

Kobicove:
If truly you're one of us then you should know it's "Igbo" and not "Ibo"!

Stop hallucinating it's ibo

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh.

Many of you still do not get it how these things work. Do not be decieved by the nomenclature, if you do introduction, you are already married! Both of you are already entangled.

Introduction is even the most important as it officially commences the exchange of vow rites before God, your parents, families, man and the law. If that is not marriage, what then is it?

Don't get entangled at all till the introduction level. If you have strong doubts about the union, cut him or her off before introduction!
It is already too late after introduction because you are already married to the person.

No sir.

Introduction = Acceptance and Recognition of intention to Marry Daughter
Engagement= Betrothal of Daughter to Man and beginning of preparation for formal wedding ceremony
Wedding= Official release of Daughter to Man as Wife


Each have their purpose.
This was how Churchill fooled Rossy

maivd:
Stop hallucinating it's ibo

My friend go and sit down, you don't know my tribe better than me!

why

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh.

Go and ask Mr Tunde Ayeni, Yoruba and former Chairman of Skye Bank Plc., who had 'ordinary' introduction with his Igbo side chick. They nearly killed him after he assumed it is ordinary.

Your own problem is hypocrisy and I am done wasting my time counselling you and exposing your ignorance and hypocrisy.

please keep quiet. I'm a Yoruba and in my state in Ekiti introduction is not marriage


introduction is the time the two parents get to meet themselves first before the wedding. it's just like not meeting themselves for the first time at the wedding venue that's what birth introduction.


you should talk on behalf of your lineage not Yoruba people again

TenQ:
No sir.

Introduction = Acceptance and Recognition of intention to Marry Daughter
Engagement= Betrothal of Daughter to Man and beginning of preparation for formal wedding ceremony
Wedding= Official release of Daughter to Man as Wife


Each have their purpose.
This was how Churchill fooled Rossy

What all the pre-introduction knaacking that has transpired plus the fact many ladies were not virgins were not disvirgined by their would be husbands? How do you factor those?

Una dey mugu, na who collect eve bride price.

AfDapone:
What all the pre-introduction knaacking that has transpired plus the fact many ladies were not virgins were not disvirgined by their would be husbands? How do you factor those?

Any pre-wedding sex is illegally done and it is called FORNICATION!
QED!!

Intercourse is legal only after the marriage rites have been fully conducted.

CoolKizzy:
It depends on the tribe in question.
In Igbo culture, nothing like introduction.
Iku aka or idonye mmanya or Iju ese.
All these things are not marriage. It’s just a declaration of interest.
If you bring wine (idonye mmanya) depending on the town and a maiden’s father accepts the drink from you, you have three months (7 modern weeks) to come and pay bride price (ime ego). More like booking. Within that three months the girl’s father will not accept drinks (mmanya) from any other man. Once the three months is over and you’re not forth coming, it will be assumed you’re no longer interested. Another man can bring drinks and the girl’s father will accept.

Summary.
1. Ime ego (bride price / dowry payment) is the legitimate marriage in Igbo land. And must be completed in full.
2 igba nkwu is the wedding ceremony. More like party for the family. This can be done later or in little installments or some portion waived by the bride’s family. All depending on the town and family strength in the umunna.

You are a true son of Igboland and knowledgeable about the marriage rites .
I only want to add as you have said after the ime ego or bride price have been settled the marriage is done and dusted, official and legal.
Igba nkwu is traditional marriage ceremony, merely ceremonial and most times waived by families and couples who deem it unnecessary or waste of money.
Many people enter into huge and avoidable debts to impress people with igba nkwu in the hope that people will give them gifts and money when such is not the case the start their marriage in financial crisis which could have been avoided.

Is it introduction that is usually called traditional marriage?

Saladdin:
I beg to slightly differ. Introduction is the first step towards marriage not the major step. As long as there's no weeding ceremony, Introduction is still what it is, Introduction. I dislike seeing people spend so much on Introduction, whereby they can just host the wedding and call it a day. Why do people needlessly complicate their lives?

It's better to do a very small introduction ceremony instead of spending huge amount of money on it, whereas it can fund a decent wedding ceremony which will make you HUSBAND AND WIFE.

Without a marriage ceremony, no matter how small, both of them are not married.

Is introduction and traditional-marriage the same thing?

NoToPile:
Introduction is not marriage where I come from.

I am Yoruba and they call it mo mi n mo e, translated literally I know you , you know me.

Members of the grooms family will be introduced to the brides family and vice versa, they will introduce the nuclear and extended members of the family. Shikena.

Just that some families add a lot of feferity to it.

The proper traditional marriage - Igbeyawo is what some Yoruba people call engagement I think the use of the word engagement is wrong though but it has stuck over the years . It's marriage -Igbeyawo all items to be brought from the list are exchanged and all , and more feferity.

There's no legal, traditional , religious/spiritual binding for introduction .

Introduction is not marriage at least from my own tribe.

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh.

Many of you still do not get it how these things work. Do not be decieved by the nomenclature, if you do introduction, you are already married! Both of you are already entangled.

Introduction is even the most important as it officially commences the exchange of vow rites before God, your parents, families, man and the law. If that is not marriage, what then is it?

Don't get entangled at all till the introduction level. If you have strong doubts about the union, cut him or her off before introduction!
It is already too late after introduction because you are already married to the person.

Are you confusing introduction to traditional wedding? Introduction is not traditional wedding therefore the lady is still very much single. A lady is married when her bride price has been paid to her family in the presence of few representatives from both families. Doesn't matter wether there is elaborate ceremony or not.

If i may ask, what is traditional marriage.

And confused with dis introduction stuff.

Or is traditional marriage and introduction the same?

MrCaesar:
In Igbo land, doing introduction doesn't mean you are married. You are married after you pay bride price.

VYourstories:
My dad once made a statement that instantly changed my mindset towards relationships.

In his words: “Princess, introduction is not marriage. So stop acting so cozy with a guy who has done the bare minimum.”

Shockingly, his words hooked my heart the way a fish gets caught in a net , suddenly, completely, with no escape.

From that moment, this one statement made me develop a visceral hatred for a particular phrase: “Our wife.”

Any attempt for someone to call me “our wife,” I will instantly rebuke the person and respond, “I am not his wife yet.”

I usually receive that instant look of surprise, as though I have said something extreme.

But to me, it was my way of helping myself stay aware of reality without beautifying it.

In my opinion, the introduction ceremony in Nigerian culture is when the lady introduces the man she is interested in marrying to the family.

You owe your father at least one chilled bottle of beer.

Love800:
Is introduction and traditional-marriage the same thing?

No, at least not where I come from

Love800:
Is it introduction that is usually called traditional marriage?

No, it's not. Introduction is original meant to be a small get together where the families of the prospective spouses will know each other and the family of the groom will state their intent.

Traditional marriage is usually when the couples decide to marry in their local style and fulfill with most cultural elements (gifts, foodstuff etc.) being exchanged.

Why I decided to vent is when you see couples doing:

i. Introduction Ceremony (with cakes and co )
ii. Traditional Wedding Ceremony (Some still do most of what was done in the introduction)
iii. Formal Wedding Ceremony (Couple be Islamic Nikkah or Church Wedding depending on their faith)
iv. Reception
v. After-party
Etc.

It's just unnecessary complications.

CoolKizzy:
It depends on the tribe in question.
In Igbo culture, nothing like introduction.
Iku aka or idonye mmanya or Iju ese.
All these things are not marriage. It’s just a declaration of interest.
If you bring wine (idonye mmanya) depending on the town and a maiden’s father accepts the drink from you, you have three months (7 modern weeks) to come and pay bride price (ime ego). More like booking. Within that three months the girl’s father will not accept drinks (mmanya) from any other man. Once the three months is over and you’re not forth coming, it will be assumed you’re no longer interested. Another man can bring drinks and the girl’s father will accept.

Summary.
1. Ime ego (bride price / dowry payment) is the legitimate marriage in Igbo land. And must be completed in full.
2 igba nkwu is the wedding ceremony. More like party for the family. This can be done later or in little installments or some portion waived by the bride’s family. All depending on the town and family strength in the umunna.

Lovely culture. This can be reviewed in favour of our time and exposure. One or two exemptions can be introduced so as not to jeopardize young couples future.

Kobicove:
My friend go and sit down, you don't know my tribe better than me!

We can see through your shallowness, history knows what you don't.

I appreciate.

NoToPile:
No, at least not where I come from

I appreciate.

Saladdin:
No, it's not. Introduction is original meant to be a small get together where the families of the prospective spouses will know each other and the family of the groom will state their intent.

Traditional marriage is usually when the couples decide to marry in their local style and fulfill with most cultural elements (gifts, foodstuff etc.) being exchanged.

Why I decided to vent is when you see couples doing:

i. Introduction Ceremony (with cakes and co )
ii. Traditional Wedding Ceremony (Some still do most of what was done in the introduction)
iii. Formal Wedding Ceremony (Couple be Islamic Nikkah or Church Wedding depending on their faith)
iv. Reception
v. After-party
Etc.

It's just unnecessary complications.