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I am still a student of the university of uyo 25 years of age, I am writing this with deep pains in my heart . Our tenant ( a single mother) in our compound has a 19 year old daughter who stays with her father in another town oku iboku. She do occasionally visit her mother and spend at least a month with her mother (she's in ss3 though),Well when she do come to see her mother I normally don't talk to her because of my introvertedness untill she started asking wether I have a girlfriend, talking about sex etc it then got to a point she indirectly asked me to sex her. After the first sex we started having sex almost throughout that month last year ... I later proceeded in asking her out of which she agreed. Her mother bought a phone before she returned to the place she is schooling ( she wants to write waec) fast forward today she came two weeks ago.. she has stopped giving me attention and sex, most of the time ignores me as if I don't exist. I even overhead a guy asking wether she has seen her period on phone
I am so heartbroken... This is my first ever relationship, she kinda approach me first although indirectly I was kinda thinking it will last. She left today.... Please advise me it's really tough

Kpele na so first love/heart break dey always be...


You would get over it!

Are you in deep pains because you're too shy to talk to girls, you're sex-starved, and the only free pyssay you had served to you on a platter of compound plate, has started to ignore you?

A secondary school student, whether she's 19 or 20 is still naive, and you were bedding her.

In the very possible scenario, if she had gotten pregnant all those 1 month you were bedding her, will your weekly feeding money have been sufficient to become a father?

Una lecturer nor dey give una serious assignment again.

Next time you want to try relationship , try someone much older and someone that has already started future plan.

A 19 year old girl (which i don't think she's even 19, but this keeps you out of jail) someone still in secondary school will still be exercising her youthful exuberance.

Find someone around 23 - 24 who is already done with university or at least 300 level if you want someone to that will take relationship serious

Stephen0mozzy:
Are you in deep pains because you're too shy to talk to girls, you're sex-starved, and the only free pyssay you had served to you on a platter of compound plate, has started to ignore you?

A secondary school student, whether she's 19 or 20 is still naive, and you were bedding her.

In the very possible scenario, if she had gotten pregnant all those 1 month you were bedding her, will your weekly feeding money have been sufficient to become a father?

Una lecturer nor dey give una serious assignment again.

19 years old is actually an adult...



Responsible for her decisions in life irrespective of whether she is in secondary school.


Though I suspect the op might have not been entirely truthful about her age!

brain54:
19 years old is actually an adult...



Responsible for her decisions in life irrespective of whether she is in secondary school.


Though I suspect the op might have not been entirely truthful about her age!

A whole brain equating age with maturity?
Egbon, a 30year old secondary school student is still an infantile legal adult.

Legally, she has a right to her decision, but come on, are we now lowering the bar? For undergraduates to be taking advantage of puberty-driven ho-_-rny secondary school students?

brain54:
Kpele na so first love/heart break dey always be...


You would get over it!

hmmm. Omo one day like that I find her go farm as I reach there she say guy rape.... Guy rape you your back no dirty, clothe no tear she come tell me say make i know confront the guy .... Omo I just weak


The girl is a hoe.... Small girl ... Chai

Stephen0mozzy:
A whole brain equating age with maturity?
Egbon, a 30year old secondary school student is still an infantile legal adult.

Legally, she has a right to her decision, but come on, are we now lowering the bar? For undergraduates to be taking advantage of puberty-driven ho-_-rny secondary school students?

I never took advantage of her anything mind your words

Stephen0mozzy:
A whole brain equating age with maturity?
Egbon, a 30year old secondary school student is still an infantile legal adult.

Legally, she has a right to her decision, but come on, are we now lowering the bar? For undergraduates to be taking advantage of puberty-driven ho-_-rny secondary school students?

Oh no I didn't equate her age with maturity...


I just pointed out that she is responsible for her decisions as an adult. A 30 year old can still be immature but that doesn't make them not responsible for their actions.


A 30 year old in secondary school is well old enough to do whatever they want to do with their life.


I really don't think a 25 year old dating a 19 year old is taking advantage. If you are saying they should both be focused on their studies that is a different thing and even at that not a bad thing if they are both mature ( please note I didn't say old enough) and can cope and handle a relationship.


If anyone took advantage of anyone here it's actually the 19 year old girl who I also agree with you was just honey!

Speedstar7:
I am still a student of the university of uyo 25 years of age, I am writing this with deep pains in my heart . Our tenant ( a single mother) in our compound has a 19 year old daughter who stays with her father in another town oku iboku. She do occasionally visit her mother and spend at least a month with her mother (she's in ss3 though),Well when she do come to see her mother I normally don't talk to her because of my introvertedness untill she started asking wether I have a girlfriend, talking about sex etc it then got to a point she indirectly asked me to sex her. After the first sex we started having sex almost throughout that month last year ... I later proceeded in asking her out of which she agreed. Her mother bought a phone before she returned to the place she is schooling ( she wants to write waec) fast forward today she came two weeks ago.. she has stopped giving me attention and sex, most of the time ignores me as if I don't exist. I even overhead a guy asking wether she has seen her period on phone
I am so heartbroken... This is my first ever relationship, she kinda approach me first although indirectly I was kinda thinking it will last. She left today.... Please advise me it's really tough

She don use u get belle wey she dey find....

Speedstar7:
I never took advantage of her anything mind your words

You wan beat me?
If you see, I was having a conversation with someone else.

And of course you didn't take advantage of her. A girl in secondary school you don't talk to, started drawing close to you, talking about sex and asking you if you have a girlfriend, and you didn't start a relationship, you started having sex.

Speedstar7:
hmmm. Omo one day like that I find her go farm as I reach there she say guy rape.... Guy rape you your back no dirty, clothe no tear she come tell me say make i know confront the guy .... Omo I just weak


The girl is a hoe.... Small girl ... Chai

You should be happy to have dodged a bullet...


Instead of getting broken hearted!

brain54:
Oh no I didn't equate her age with maturity...


I just pointed out that she is responsible for her decisions as an adult. A 30 year old can still be immature but that doesn't make them not responsible for their actions.


A 30 year old in secondary school is well old enough to do whatever they want to do with their life.


I really don't think a 25 year old dating a 19 year old is taking advantage. If you are saying they should both be focused on their studies that is a different thing and even at that not a bad thing if they are both mature ( please note I didn't say old enough) and can cope and handle a relationship.


If anyone took advantage of anyone here it's actually the 19 year old girl who I also agree with you was just honey!

Noted boss.

My statement is borne out of the belief that, when we're older than people who are trying to "use us for inappropriate behaviours" it boils down on us to try to correct them, or at the very least decline to be a tool in their hands.

OP could have earned her respect for life, but he exchanged that for a heartbreak that is beyond reasonable doubt.

Stephen0mozzy:
Noted boss.

My statement is borne out of the belief that, when we're older than people who are trying to "use us for inappropriate behaviours" it boils down on us to try to correct them, or at the very least decline to be a tool in their hands.

OP could have earned her respect for life, but he exchanged that for a heartbreak that is beyond reasonable doubt.

I agree with you again to a large extent...


But it still falls right back to maturity you talked about. That someone is 25 or 40 years old don't necessarily make them mature!

brain54:
I agree with you again to a large extent...


But it still falls right back to maturity you talked about. That someone is 25 or 40 years old don't necessarily make them mature!

Hmmm. True that 💯

I guess I assumed too much expectations of maturity on the 25yr old in question.

Cheers.

Speedstar7:
hmmm. Omo one day like that I find her go farm as I reach there she say guy rape.... Guy rape you your back no dirty, clothe no tear she come tell me say make i know confront the guy .... Omo I just weak


The girl is a hoe.... Small girl ... Chai

Oh so u know 😏

The young girl na nympho


She only want to add you to the long list of her Bleep boiz...u dey there dey see love for where lust headquarter dey..


The babe just wan nak....and you can Imagine the numbers of guys willing to give her what she wants.

I swear and she no allow me make a knack her that day .....e be like that day she collect heavy knacking that day .......after a 2 weeks I come lie give her say I don ask the guy that thing Omo she come the para oo...fear girls abeg....and this girl been the promise me true love and loyalty she even been they show am by constant check up on me....I dey pained I swear

Starz825:
Oh so u know 😏

The young girl na nympho


She only want to add you to the long list of her Bleep boiz...u dey there dey see love for where lust headquarter dey..


The babe just wan nak....and you can Imagine the numbers of guys willing to give her what she wants.

Speedstar7:
I swear and she no allow me make a knack her that day .....e be like that day she collect heavy knacking that day .......after a 2 weeks I come lie give her say I don ask the guy that thing Omo she come the para oo...fear girls abeg....and this girl been the promise me true love and loyalty she even been they show am by constant check up on me....I dey pained I swear

You must learn from this experience or perish..

Listen: Woman love no dey reliable...As a man, its a terrible thing to rely solely on a woman's love....you will become miserable if you do...

You are a man and this is what no one tells you: Your life is bigger than what a woman can offer...
So now focus on your life and women will surround you....I repeat focus on your life...not just making money....

Focus on your:,

Confidence
Appearance
Positive energy
Project/purpose
Ideology/Psychology of life


Women go surround you like flies...cos at this point...

>you would have learnt how to handle rejection and still feel good while moving on with life

> you will come to know that as a man, you need more than a woman's attention or affection to survive this harsh world..

All of these are naturally going to attract women to you....

So Bro brace up.. you the man

Welcome to the game. Now is the time to hunt for another girl as soon as possible.
Do well to Delete every picture of the SS3 girl and her phone number on your phone. That will stop you from thinking anything about her after a while.

You have the upper hand, they are your tenant. If you want to be heartless, you'll start pushing unfavorable rules.

Gen Z
Can't stop to amaze me

Here's the gist of it all, in a nutshell, right? It's all about the vibes, really. It's a simple, straightforward message. It's all about the feeling, really. It's a lovely, lovely message.

Op, despite all our teachings here

Falling in love in this economy, please be strong o

Ozuor better focus on your studies and graduate in peace. Imagine Uni boy cant even get a uni babe...be bending a smallie..

Why can't you share this story with your parents?
You know they will give you the best advice with koboko.

She only wanted a one night stand but you don fall in love, oga move on.


Two things are involved here :

1. Maybe the thing nor sweet her well the first time, she would have come back for more.

2. Guilty conscience of cheating on her boyfriend.

This your story get as e be. 🙄

MAKE HIN GO KII HIMSELF NAO.

WHO STILL DEY GIVE HEADACHE FOR ALL THESE GALS

Baba talk true. Na the sex you dey miss

I

Speedstar7:
I am still a student of the university of uyo 25 years of age, I am writing this with deep pains in my heart . Our tenant ( a single mother) in our compound has a 19 year old daughter who stays with her father in another town oku iboku. She do occasionally visit her mother and spend at least a month with her mother (she's in ss3 though),Well when she do come to see her mother I normally don't talk to her because of my introvertedness untill she started asking wether I have a girlfriend, talking about sex etc it then got to a point she indirectly asked me to sex her. After the first sex we started having sex almost throughout that month last year ... I later proceeded in asking her out of which she agreed. Her mother bought a phone before she returned to the place she is schooling ( she wants to write waec) fast forward today she came two weeks ago.. she has stopped giving me attention and sex, most of the time ignores me as if I don't exist. I even overhead a guy asking wether she has seen her period on phone
I am so heartbroken... This is my first ever relationship, she kinda approach me first although indirectly I was kinda thinking it will last. She left today.... Please advise me it's really tough

U dey knack person daughter wey still secondary skool....

U said she's 19 so we don't backlash u for dating a minor abi. But within me, I know that u know that u aren't telling us the Truth about her age.
My advice for u is that u should change ur tactics, act like she doesn't exist anymore. Post pictures on ur dp where she can view them and feel jealous.
Even when she comes, dress neatly and look more sophy, and atimes play music

Nah her tew tew dey hungry u.Person wey u go discard like orange soon/after you graduate. Focus on your acada now.You'll another soon..




Hope you are ready to become a father now