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kelechi50:
Take this bitter truth in human relationships, a married woman opened up to me about her marriage and what she is passing through with her husband.

She said if not for her kids, she is done with her husband.

the moment they move to the one they love, they will love another, that's nature

Your mother has a man she loves more than your dad..
Your wife has another man she loves than you, I guess that's why you came up with tagging every married women..

That's who they are ,yes but it's not same with every married women..

Some have values greater than the below average women I mentioned up there.

You’re laying out a view a lot of people whisper about but rarely say out loud: that women also have “unmet boxes” and may idealize other men the way men talk about physical attraction.

A few things people on the other side of this debate usually point to:

1. Cheating isn’t gender-exclusive
Surveys and studies across cultures show both men and women cheat, and the reasons overlap a lot: emotional disconnection, lack of attention, opportunity, or feeling undervalued. The “who cheats more” stats swing depending on how you ask the question – self-report vs anonymous, emotional vs physical infidelity.

2. “Marrying for security vs attraction” cuts both ways
People of all genders often marry for a mix of traits: stability, kindness, compatibility, chemistry. No one person ticks every box. That gap doesn’t automatically lead to cheating – it also leads to acceptance, compromise, or, in some cases, ending the relationship.

3. The polygamy argument
Some cultures allow men multiple spouses, others don’t. In places where polyandry exists, it’s rare and driven by economics, not just desire. Claiming women are “more polygamous by nature” is contested – evolutionary psychologists disagree, and most data show variation is huge across individuals, not neatly split by gender.

4. Opportunity and proximity matter
You mentioned bosses, colleagues, workplace proximity. That’s actually one of the strongest predictors of infidelity for both men and women: time spent together, emotional intimacy, secrecy. It’s less about gender and more about circumstance + choices.

Your Rongai proverb at the end – about “trying new bedroom techniques = cheating” – is a good example of how cultural scripts differ. In some places that’s normal marital communication, in others it’s taboo.

Bottom line: the idea that “every woman has another man she loves more” is a cynical take that fits some experiences and misses others. Same way the opposite claim – “if you love her right she’ll never look at another man” – misses reality too.

The life of pornstars.
Freelife with its own consequences for both men and women involved.

Some pornstars are happily married.

giftson102:
Every married woman has one man she loves more than her husband.

I know many of you will argue, but it's just the truth. If you give women the chance to marry more than one man, many of them will marry more than four men..
Sometimes, women idealize other men, creating unrealistic expectations..

A married woman once told me that she didn't marry her husband because he was her spec.
She married him because he is caring, family orientated and rich. But in looks, body structure and other things that personal, he's not her spec.

As a man, it's important to have in mind that you cannot tick all her boxes when it comes to the qualities she wants in a man.

If her boxes are 10 and you tick 5 or 6, she will consider you. But that doesn't stop her from admiring other men who possesses the other options you did not possess..
At that point, they will wish the man is her husband and if care is not taken, cheating is likely to occur.

If culture permits women, many of them will marry more than 4 men.
Women are more polygamous in nature than men and that's why they cheat the most, but the society is not ready for this conversation..

No matter how much your claim to love you, there's another man she still loves and wishes he was her husband/boyfriend.

And if that man she loves happens to be her Boss or her colleague at her workplace or even someone within her reach, there's nothing that would stop her from cheating on you with that man.

So, the earlier you understand that there's another man your woman loves, the better for you..

Have it in mind that you can NEVER tick all the boxes of a woman and those boxes you did not tick, there's another man out there who would tick it..

My sermon always sounds like a joke to some men but it's to whom it may concern..

I don't want to say much again but before I close the sermon, let me leave you with a Rongai proverb that says, "A woman who pushes her husband to try brand-new bedroom techniques is cheating."

Always speak for yourself and your likes who know nothing about karma,and do not believe in judgment day,nor do you truly believe in the existence of supreme God of gods.
Mtchew, Oyinbo life wannabee

I'm the 1st, the last and the only

And you think men are any differen? Give us chance to carry 16 more....

Same with men too.
It's human nature.
Always feeling there's light at d side

Her son. Her father

Most people marry who they love. Who can knack more does not equal love. Those who marry young especially will marry based on love. Those who marry older will know that love is not the only thing you need to live a good life as an adult. So they will consider many factors before deciding with love being a part of it.

Anyone that wants to cheat is just a cheat. Period. Virgin or not. In fact virgins are more likely to cheat when they taste the forbidden fruit. They just keep imagining who is carrying what and what they can do with it.

I do not have any man I love romantically more than Mine. I say romantically because women have fathers, sons and brothers.

This is only a projection of your reality.

Sorry you couldn't get a woman who can forsake all others for you.

I don't care whether she get another spec....u can't control that.

Marry her, sex her , impregnate her, make she born...

You don already gain from her at this point.

As a man, you really don't need her to be 100...just focus on the bag and watch your back.

Are people actually ready for this convo?
Anyways, I’m very well aware that women are already changing the so called”narrative”.

Cum4me:
You're right a lot of married women marry because of society pressure and time is not on there side. Most married women don't enjoy sex with there husband. My ex girlfriend is married she keeps telling me how much she missed how I FK her I smoke marijuana most times to knack her watin no good. Her current husband is the religious type that doesn't think about MouthAction talkless of going multiple rounds always. I have to delete her number to avoid unnecessary drama. I've spoilt her so much that only a street oriented niggas can give her what I gave her. That's why I keep telling men that are not spoilt to marry virgin don't look at beauty I believe that girl will cheat on him with time. Sex is like good food to an exposed woman. A woman that has tasted good DK cannot stay with a weak man. If you like carry her go Switzerland and Dubai she will still crave for that good DK.

If you were as good as you claim why then did she leave you to marry someone else?

I advice you to stop copy and paste.
It's not going to help your life in anyway

How many married women did you interview to make this generalization?

This generation and the obsession with unfaithful sex and cheating!

pocohantas:
I do not have any man I love romantically more than Mine.

Sorry you couldn't get a woman who can forsake all others for you.

Hehe. Sorry, I just have to.
Okies!
,The word, " mine " was an intentional choice, instead of " husband ". Always playing it safe and being clever in your ways. 😁
You careful picked that word because you knew better. Because, you know that many nairalnaders know your hubby drought case hasn't ended.

The OP is talking about wives and husbands, and not boyfriends or girlfriends or sugarbabies or sugar daddy or a boytoy. " Oko " ati iyawo. Till then.

kelechi50:
Take this bitter truth in human relationships, a married woman opened up to me about her marriage and what she is passing through with her husband.

She said if not for her kids, she is done with her husband.

No married woman ever tells you she is enjoying her marriage abi? Becs one married woman told you that, you are making it to generalized all married woman.

Stephen0mozzy:
It's a human thing - not women only.
You can say it's the animal trait in us to desire variety.

When society was civilizing, exclusivity of sexual partners made monogamy look like a good idea.

But the truth is, our kinks and desires change, but disciplining that love for variety is why society frowns on promiscuity in men and women.

But, the bigger truth is, no one man or woman can COMPLETELY fulfill the:
1. Financial Need
2. Emotional Need
3. Attention and Care Need
4. Sexual Need
5. Fetish and Fantasy Needs
6. Naughtiness Needs

...of another person. So, when a man or woman settles down with another human, it's all about SCALE OF PREFERENCE.

So yeah, admiration will exist outside your partner. But the question is DO YOU DISRESPECT YOUR PARTNER ENOUGH to go outside and act on those illegal desires?

Have you asked yourself, WHAT DOES GOD THE MAKER OF MAN, WOMAN AND ALL THAT IS IN THIS WORLD say about marriage? I m talking about Christian marriage. In the Bible He says- IN THE BEGINNING HE MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE. Also said in Genesis 2... A MAN LIVES HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND CLEAVES TO HIS WIFE AND BOTH BECOME ONE FLESH. I don't know about other religions, but for us Christians we live and move and have our being in God by doing only what He commands and not following our feelings which mostly goes against God's commands.
Self control is it!
We are not animals like dogs and goats, etc

pocohantas:
I do not have any man I love romantically more than Mine. I say romantically because women have fathers, sons and brothers.

This is only a projection of your reality.

Sorry you couldn't get a woman who can forsake all others for you.

If you keep liking men, calling them bestie, a day is coming, the man you like platonically, will be loved by you romantically,this bitter truth you will never, ever accepted. I have seen several people in serious relationship/marriage from platonic to romantic.

That's what destroys marriage most. And that's the plain truth. Meanwhile all na mirage. All women experience this in their marriage but most dont allow this destroy their marriage while some bcs of this crush, crush their marriage. The crush that will never be willing to take the position of the real husband by the time these foolish women bcs of him destroy their marriage.
Men know this today and have peace, anytime ur wife starts misbehaving, and disrespecting u, just know she has an option, there is a crush somewhere. Women are not that foolish but always all follow same pattern.

Dtruthspeaker:
I think animals are more faithful than humans. So, it is an untrained greed and pagan behaviourial thing.

If people were not trained to hate stealing,killing, lying, they would have been normal like fornication and unfaithfulness.

Nope, animals are not more faithful per say 😂

But as you've said, it's a matter of individual training (moral discipline).

If you know the very evil things we are capable of doing as humans, even devil will shout "Jesu!".

But thank God for civilization and general common sense that frowns upon doing evil, and punishes defaulters.

It's an aftermath of most women marrying a man that is financial ready and not those they are in love with....

In this Tinubu economy, how many bachelors are financial ready to marry?? Not too many. That's why weekend marriages seem fewer these days.


Doesn't apply to every woman though....

Mumu post from genz who thinks they know or understand life through addiction on their phones and social media

mirrael68:
Have you asked yourself, WHAT DOES GOD THE MAKER OF MAN, WOMAN AND ALL THAT IS IN THIS WORLD say about marriage? I m talking about Christian marriage. In the Bible He says- IN THE BEGINNING HE MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE. Also said in Genesis 2... A MAN LIVES HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND CLEAVES TO HIS WIFE AND BOTH BECOME ONE FLESH. I don't know about other religions, but for us Christians we live and move and have our being in God by doing only what He commands and not following our feelings which mostly goes against God's commands.
Self control is it!
We are not animals like dogs and goats, etc

Now, the first flaw in your argument is that your premise is that ONLY THE CHRISTIAN RELIGION IS TRUE...as established by the Christian doctrine, but it doesn't account for how humans lived in diverse societies for thousands and thousands of years before the Christian religion.

You don't need religion for morality, and that's why WHAT'S OKAY or NOT OKAY is defined by the society where the human animal finds himself per time.

But all society that moralizes fidelity to one's partner requires that its people are TRAINED TO ABSTAIN FROM THEIR BASE INSTINCTS - it doesn't eradicate it. It's in all of us. You can't FAITH IT AWAY, ONLY DISCIPLINE.

Fiscus105:
If you keep liking men, calling them bestie, a day is coming, the man you like platonically, will be loved by you romantically,this bitter truth you will never ever accepted. I have seen several people, in serious relationship and married from platonic to romantic.

I do not encourage male bestie and I have said it many times. I don't even like men enough to have them as besties. 🤝

Stop saying nonsense.

Nigerians and their definition of love! Every human feels it could be better with the other man or woman but it does not equate to love. Enter house with the other man or woman you go know say human beings are truly different. Na manage we all dey manage relationship. No one is best. Give and take, sacrifice, no perfect machine!

I appreciate.

Dtruthspeaker:
Women want EVERY better man. So, there are always many "other men" under the bed that she always wants to have.

Talk here, talk there.

I don't think this applies to all married women. I'd agree it's the case with 90% of them, but definitely not all.