₦airaland Forum

EponObi:
Keep deceiving yourself. "Everything is not money" is one of the biggest traps the society set for the unenlightened. Is it when you are poor that you are happy?

We are heading for historical, unprecedented global inflation in the next decade, but yea "Everything is not money"

My dear, everything is money. You live in a capitalist world; it's delusional to think otherwise.

While you don't need to be rich like the OP has portrayed, abeg, it's important to be financially comfortable at least before considering marriage.

Check the global trend, the rate of marriage and birth are nosediving, so much people like Elon Musk are sounding the alarm. Do you think people don't want to get married or give birth? People are no longer brainwashed with sayings like this. People now understand that if you follow societal trends and pressure that your financial muscles can't withstand, you will face the consequence yourself. People are rather checking out instead of facing lifetime financial pressure to take care children.

Diamond098454:
Everything is not money

You can have money but the happiness is not there.

Host78:
A hungry girl cannot love. But worst, a covetous girl cannot love.

The world is not hard, your hunger for a certain lifestyle makes your world hard for you.

More than 90% of Nigerian families live paycheck to paycheck.

Yes it's challenging, but they do it. No one is saying poverty makes you happy. What we are saying is money also will not make you happy.

Instead be genuinely interested in your partner. Get married to the person, not their wealth because of your selfish desire to escape poverty.

Don't you think your partner wants a person who loves them genuinely and not the money they have?

Diamond098454:
Money is good but it's doesn't grantees happiness that's the area am going.

Host78:
This is wrong in every way.

Marriage is kept by love not money. I hate that we try to tie everything to money nowadays.

People who are rich also get divorced. So clearly, money will not keep marriage.

If you have all the money in the world and you get married to someone with all the money too without any desire for each other, it's clearly won't work.

But if you love someone genuinely and without any money, then you both can work together and live a modest life together.

There are government schools in this country where you can school your children for free.

Most Nigerians have little incomes over 100k per month and are successfully married and raising their kids.

Yes sometimes, life gets hard for these people, but they endure it together.

My father was a police man with 5 children. We lived for a long time in a single room and all of us attended school.

It wasn't money keeping his marriage but love.

Most of us came from humble beginnings. It wasn't money but genuine desire by our parents to build a beautiful family.

They didn't revolve their entire world around finance.

Finance was not worshipped.

You may say, one day emergency will come and you'll need enormous amount of money to solve the problem.

But I tell you, this almost never happens. And if it happens, well it happens. Not every problem can be solved.

There are also health issues which your money cannot solve.

Steve Jobs with all his billions died of cancer like every other poor man would have.

Please I beg you as a young woman or man, build your house on love.

My father was a police man with 5 children. We lived for a long time in a single room and all of us attended school.

Host78:
A hungry girl cannot love. But worst, a covetous girl cannot love.

The world is not hard, your hunger for a certain lifestyle makes your world hard for you.

More than 90% of Nigerian families live paycheck to paycheck.

Yes it's challenging, but they do it. No one is saying poverty makes you happy. What we are saying is money also will not make you happy.

Instead be genuinely interested in your partner. Get married to the person, not their wealth because of your selfish desire to escape poverty.

Don't you think your partner wants a person who loves them genuinely and not the money they have?

RollinTNDA:
I know a very rich lady who sleeps with me behind her husband back. Why??

Her husband is super rich.

But she confess to me that she lost the excitement of LIFE. That her husband over provide and this made him look unattractive and boring.

So she wanted to feel human again
That's why she cheats behind his back .
That the adrenaline and excitement fear of being caught makes her feel alive

If you like get 200$ billion.
Una 2 will definitely be bored of each other
Look at Will smith
Upon all the fame and money and praises he shower his wife. She still go sleep with one guy called August Alsina

A poor man thinks money is everything
Until they get it and find out it can't buy true love

Wealthyonos:
But some children are somewhere in a forest

RealityKings1:
The first thing that will make you happy in the modern world is money😅... There are so many empirical evidence

emmaodet:
LOVE?
Why do i feel uncomfortable with that word .... Love.


You know in today's world, this is not right.

I will rather take average money plus average Love over full Love/Little or No money or Full money/No Love

EponObi:
Your still living on El Dorado.

Be financially stable before considering marriage. That's all. No where in my post did I say you should be rich. Financial stability is not equal to richness.

Host78:
No. The first thing that will make you happy is knowing how little you need to be happy.

Greed and covetousnes is what has been marketed into us to desire things we don't need.

I grew up in a single room. I know I need very little to live

RealityKings1:
In 2021 I lived in alone in a single room for 2 years or there about. It wasn't because I liked it, it was because I couldn't afford a much better place.
I'm sure you were raised in a single room not because you guys didn't want a much better place.

Host78:
You have to understand when to stop. There's always going to be a bigger and better place.

If you are choosing your life partner based on money, there's always going to be a better man or woman out there.

This is why people keep cheating on their partner.

Yes, single room is not convenient but you worked your way out of it because it's not a fixed constant.

Finance is not fixed. It goes up and down. Getting tied to someone for something as fickle as money is a recipe for disaster.

You want someone who genuinely loves you, choose to be by your side whether your money is rising or dipping. Someone loyal to you first.

Your finance can change anything for good or bad, your marriage should not be held by such glue.

Can you imagine someone getting married to you with no desire other than the life you can provide for them?

Let's use our senses please. Money is not all that important except it has been so marketed to us that we have accepted the illusion.

Host78:
No. You be financially stable before you get married and then find someone who will marry you because of the luxury life you can provide for them so you can see how deep that rabbit hole will go for you.

EponObi:
You need to head to Google to learn what it means to be financially stable.

Diamond098454:
Everything is not money

You can have money but the happiness is not there.

Diamond098454:
Everything is not money

You can have money but the happiness is not there.

Host78:
No. The first thing that will make you happy is knowing how little you need to be happy.

Greed and covetousnes is what has been marketed into us to desire things we don't need.

I grew up in a single room. I know I need very little to live

muyico:
➜Poor man wife No fit demand all dis tinz u mentioned here

QuinQ:
I tbis not greed. It is that your wife and kids will be feeling embarrassed that your raggedy old car is parked next to your neighbor's shiny new car

Kobojunkie:
If we advise women to stay away from poor men naw, na your kind go flare up say na evil we dey suggest. 😒

Host78:
And this is the summation of a man with no direction.

A man ruled by covetousnes. A family ruled by greed.

A family raising potential criminals and ritualists who will do everything to keep up with the Jones.

Nah man, I do not dream to have a family who think like this.

Host78:
You have to understand when to stop. There's always going to be a bigger and better place.

If you are choosing your life partner based on money, there's always going to be a better man or woman out there.

This is why people keep cheating on their partner.

Yes, single room is not convenient but you worked your way out of it because it's not a fixed constant.

Finance is not fixed. It goes up and down. Getting tied to someone for something as fickle as money is a recipe for disaster.

You want someone who genuinely loves you, choose to be by your side whether your money is rising or dipping. Someone loyal to you first.

Your finance can change anything for good or bad, your marriage should not be held by such glue.

Can you imagine someone getting married to you with no desire other than the life you can provide for them?

Let's use our senses please. Money is not all that important except it has been so marketed to us that we have accepted the illusion.

Host78:
A hungry girl cannot love. But worst, a covetous girl cannot love.

The world is not hard, your hunger for a certain lifestyle makes your world hard for you.

More than 90% of Nigerian families live paycheck to paycheck.

Yes it's challenging, but they do it. No one is saying poverty makes you happy. What we are saying is money also will not make you happy.

Instead be genuinely interested in your partner. Get married to the person, not their wealth because of your selfish desire to escape poverty.

Don't you think your partner wants a person who loves them genuinely and not the money they have?

RollinTNDA:
I want poor people to try and understand

I get it, you lack money.
So it will feel like $200 billion will make you the happiest person alive

I'm here to tell you that you can have $2 million and still feel depressed.
I can't explain the feeling but it's crazy

That was when I understand one rich french fashion designer commit suicide.

To a thirsty man, water is everything
Until he fall inside river and drown

muyico:
Poor man wife
No fit demand all dis tinz u mentioned here

RealityKings1:
Everyone deserves a good life

Host78:
You have to understand when to stop. There's always going to be a bigger and better place.

kiddaz:
This is a man who KNOWS! Unfortunately 90% of the world is blinded and sold out but they don't know they're being played

RealityKings1:
Everyone deserves a good life

InvertedHammer:
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It is by far better than Enugu.

500 gallons of water go for N20k. Multiply by 4 in a month, that's N80k. By extrapolation, that's N960k in a year on water alone. Why? Because the governor believes that clean and accessible water is the least of his worries. Yet they prance around like Enugu is Abuja even though the red muddy soil will have residents looking like they went tomb-raiding at night.

But then, considering where it was before Peter Mba, one can understand the accolades being that he moved the town from 16th Century to 17th Century but not anywhere near 20th Century. 21st Century is a stretch. EEDC? The worst of all.

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fergie001:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5v-F81hNTs

The Permanent Secretary, Office of Drainage Services and Water Resources in Lagos State, Mahmood Adegbite, has said that people drilling borehole in the Lekki axis of the state is probably drinking ‘’shit water.”

While speaking at a stakeholders meeting in the state recently, Adegbite noted that contaminated boreholes in Lekki pose health risk and added that treatment of waste water would eradicate any form of disease that may arise from it.

He said, “On waste water treatment, I will say that everyone digging borehole within the Lekki axis is probably drinking what I will call ‘shit water.’

https://punchng.com/video-everyone-digging-borehole-in-lekki-is-probably-drinking-shit-water-lagos-govt/?fbclid=IwQ0xDSwMABDJjbGNrAwAEK2V4dG4DYWVtAjExAAEewOd7728C0FSKQJNWar4yKRxNpNKt1owSlw47y57FKAux2QxvQL24Iu18rtw_aem_3kB5Sd2GjpdqjN6zFuIs7w

RollinTNDA:
I know a very rich lady who sleeps with me behind her husband back. Why??

Her husband is super rich.

But she confess to me that she lost the excitement of LIFE. That her husband over provide and this made him look unattractive and boring.

So she wanted to feel human again
That's why she cheats behind his back .
That the adrenaline and excitement fear of being caught makes her feel alive

If you like get 200$ billion.
Una 2 will definitely be bored of each other
Look at Will smith
Upon all the fame and money and praises he shower his wife. She still go sleep with one guy called August Alsina

A poor man thinks money is everything
Until they get it and find out it can't buy true love

Host78:
This is wrong in every way.

Marriage is kept by love not money. I hate that we try to tie everything to money nowadays.

People who are rich also get divorced. So clearly, money will not keep marriage.

If you have all the money in the world and you get married to someone with all the money too without any desire for each other, it's clearly won't work.

But if you love someone genuinely and without any money, then you both can work together and live a modest life together.

There are government schools in this country where you can school your children for free.

Most Nigerians have little incomes over 100k per month and are successfully married and raising their kids.

Yes sometimes, life gets hard for these people, but they endure it together.

My father was a police man with 5 children. We lived for a long time in a single room and all of us attended school.

It wasn't money keeping his marriage but love.

Most of us came from humble beginnings. It wasn't money but genuine desire by our parents to build a beautiful family.

They didn't revolve their entire world around finance.

Finance was not worshipped.

You may say, one day emergency will come and you'll need enormous amount of money to solve the problem.

But I tell you, this almost never happens. And if it happens, well it happens. Not every problem can be solved.

There are also health issues which your money cannot solve.

Steve Jobs with all his billions died of cancer like every other poor man would have.

Please I beg you as a young woman or man, build your house on love.