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Diamond098454:
Money is good but it's doesn't grantees happiness that's the area am going.

Poverty is NOT good and it DOESN'T still guarantee happiness

QuinQ:
Here's what the OP wrote: "People will quote you love. They will quote you compatibility. They will quote you chemistry. Nobody will quote you school fees."

it is not that all those other things are not important, it is that practical things like school fees and house rent are very rarely considered. It is always all about "love" - which by the way also changes just like money!

Point is, as you are looking at "love" and "chemistry", also be looking at the eventual financial aspects of the union!

You are so right on this point of love changes just like financial circumstances change.

The pressures on love and financial stability would be reduced if we expect our local and state government legislators and chairmen/governors to prioritise the IGR and budget for employment of teachers to make education free for all children.

It’s quite sad that all the 150 governors in the last 27 years have failed to leverage federal matching funds through UBEC that was established in 1999 by Obasanjo/ Atiku administration to help states achieve nine years of free and compulsory education.

anonimi:
Ratio of public to private schools in Lagos State is one to 22 ― Commissioner
September 4, 2022

The Lagos State government has said the ratio of public to private schools at both primary and secondary school levels in the state is one to 22.

The state’s Commissioner for Education, Mrs Folasade Adefisayo, gave the revelation in her remark at the 2022 edition of the Total School Support Seminar Exhibition (TOSSE) held at Oregun in Ikeja between Thursday and Friday.

https://tribuneonlineng.com/ratio-of-public-to-private-schools-in-lagos-state-is-one-to-22-%E2%80%95-commissioner/

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NUT commends Oyo over recruitment of 19,500 teachers

The Nigeria Union of Teachers, Oyo State, has commended Governor Seyi Makinde-led government for recruiting 19,500 teachers in five years.

The union, in a statement signed by the NUT Chairman, Oladimeji Raji and the Secretary, Salami Olukayode, noted that the appointment of 5,000 teachers in his first term and 14,500 since the inception of his second term into the state primary and secondary schools was noteworthy.

The union said the ripple effects of the recruitment were that it would address the problems of inadequate manpower in the education sector and promote teaching and learning.

The statement read, “Your disposition towards turning the tide of the education system of Oyo State remains unprecedented and unmatched not only in the annals of recruitment history of our dear state in recent times but also across the entire 36 states of the Federation including the Federal Capital Territory.

“Your Excellency Sir, your achievements in the education sector since assumption of office particularly, on the successful recruitment of over 14,000 qualified teaching professionals and about 3,500 non- teaching personnel, aside from an appreciative number of caregivers is a clear cut and a perfect reflection of your results-oriented style of leadership aimed at providing free, qualitative and quantitative education to the amiable citizens of Oyo State. This gesture shall, without doubt, have a significant touch in our classroom and as well enhance educational service delivery to our school children.”

https://punchng.com/nut-commends-oyo-over-recruitment-of-19500-teachers/?amp[/quote]

I know better, I've seen so many marriages collapse because of poverty, some survived,mind you but they were barely happy, just managing

Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured, try get money, not much but enough to sort one or two, no let society and motivational speakers whyne you

anonimi:
You are so right on this point of love changes just like financial circumstances change.

The pressures on love and financial stability would be reduced if we expect our local and state government legislators and chairmen/governors to prioritise the IGR and budget for employment of teachers to make education free for all children.

It’s quite sad that all the 150 governors in the last 27 years have failed to leverage federal matching funds through UBEC that was established in 1999 by Obasanjo/ Atiku administration to help states achieve nine years of free and compulsory education.


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NUT commends Oyo over recruitment of 19,500 teachers

The Nigeria Union of Teachers, Oyo State, has commended Governor Seyi Makinde-led government for recruiting 19,500 teachers in five years.

The union, in a statement signed by the NUT Chairman, Oladimeji Raji and the Secretary, Salami Olukayode, noted that the appointment of 5,000 teachers in his first term and 14,500 since the inception of his second term into the state primary and secondary schools was noteworthy.

The union said the ripple effects of the recruitment were that it would address the problems of inadequate manpower in the education sector and promote teaching and learning.

The statement read, “Your disposition towards turning the tide of the education system of Oyo State remains unprecedented and unmatched not only in the annals of recruitment history of our dear state in recent times but also across the entire 36 states of the Federation including the Federal Capital Territory.

“Your Excellency Sir, your achievements in the education sector since assumption of office particularly, on the successful recruitment of over 14,000 qualified teaching professionals and about 3,500 non- teaching personnel, aside from an appreciative number of caregivers is a clear cut and a perfect reflection of your results-oriented style of leadership aimed at providing free, qualitative and quantitative education to the amiable citizens of Oyo State. This gesture shall, without doubt, have a significant touch in our classroom and as well enhance educational service delivery to our school children.”

https://punchng.com/nut-commends-oyo-over-recruitment-of-19500-teachers/?amp

Private school owners will not let that happen. Lagos private schools have become a real scam. They charge ridiculous amounts of monies for all sorts of things, then pay the teachers peanuts.

2RightHands1Coc:
Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured, try get money, not much but enough to sort one or two, no let society and motivational speakers whyne you

@bolded, what did Host78 do to you?🤣😂😅

QuinQ:
Private school owners will not let that happen. Lagos private schools have become a real scam. They charge ridiculous amounts of monies for all sorts of things, then pay the teachers peanuts.

Smart Lagosians are clearly comfortable with their double jeopardy status quo of paying forever ♾️♾️ increasing taxes without getting free education for their children in return, among other government failures.

What do you think will happen when a critical mass of people stop bragging about their double jeopardy private school fees, and start expecting quality public schools to teach their children free, like it used to be 46 years ago

QuinQ:
@bolded, what did Host78 do to you?🤣😂😅

Abeg what is Host78 about

QuinQ:
Here's what the OP wrote: "People will quote you love. They will quote you compatibility. They will quote you chemistry. Nobody will quote you school fees." it is not that all those other things are not important, it is that practical things like school fees and house rent are very rarely considered. It is always all about "love" - which by the way also changes just like money!

Point is, as you are looking at "love" and "chemistry", also be looking at the eventual financial aspects of the union!

Of course I am not against that. Finances are very important tools in every day life. The quality of life, is always better when your finances are going good. I'm not and won't argue against getting money (man or woman) because it adds to the beauty of life itself and is actually a very important aspect of family. My own point is this. It should never be the basis of committing to another. When money is the basis of commitment, it means a relationship, agreement, or loyalty is primarily driven by financial incentives, transactional value, or monetary compensation rather than genuine emotional attachment, shared values, or long-term dedication...Capiche?

EponObi:
Keep deceiving yourself. "Everything is not money" is one of the biggest traps the society set for the unenlightened. Is it when you are poor that you are happy?

We are heading for historical, unprecedented global inflation in the next decade, but yea "Everything is not money"

My dear, everything is money. You live in a capitalist world; it's delusional to think otherwise.

While you don't need to be rich like the OP has portrayed, abeg, it's important to be financially comfortable at least before considering marriage.

Check the global trend, the rate of marriage and birth are nosediving, so much people like Elon Musk are sounding the alarm. Do you think people don't want to get married or give birth? People are no longer brainwashed with sayings like this. People now understand that if you follow societal trends and pressure that your financial muscles can't withstand, you will face the consequence yourself. People are rather checking out instead of facing lifetime financial pressure to take care children.

Mindset of everything is money is the true destruction and doom of a society
Very simple
This mindset can be used to justify everything that is caustic to society

From prostitution to govt corruption to kidnapping

The common mindset behind it all is Money must be made by all means

I remember being truly happy just minding my business cos i had no one to compare to on facebook or whatsapp status

Social media is really something

anonimi:
Smart Lagosians are clearly comfortable with their double jeopardy status quo of paying forever ♾️♾️ increasing taxes without getting free education for their children in return, among other government failures.

What do you think will happen when a critical mass of people stop bragging about their double jeopardy private school fees, and start expecting quality public schools to teach their children free, like it used to be 46 years ago

Will never happen. Because too many parents derive their self worth from paying totally ridiculous sums of money for their children's schooling; even if it means going into debt

anonimi:
Abeg what is Host78 about

Oh, he's been dropping motivational nuggets for us, things like, "you don't need money to be happy"

QuinQ:
Will never happen.

Because too many parents derive their self worth from paying totally ridiculous sums of money for their children's schooling; even if it means going into debt

Never say never, remember

A lot of enlightenment work goes a long way to change mindsets.

Again. A lost man

QuinQ:
No my dear, it is summation of a man living in the real world, not in La la land where you don't need anything to be happy. Even if you yourself don't need anything, your people do! You may not be embarrassed by your raggedy old car always parked next to your neighbor's shiny, but your family will be. It is called human nature. It will kill you inside having to explain to your child why they have to go to the poor school while all other neighborhood kids attend the better school. That's why men kill themselves trying to make money - not because they need so much themselves to be happy!

Babatunjo:
People will quote you love. They will quote you compatibility. They will quote you chemistry.

Nobody will quote you school fees. Nobody will quote you the family holiday in Dubai, the anniversary dinner at Nok by Alara, the wife's Range Rover, the children's private school in Lekki.

But those things will show up. And they will not wait for love to sort them out.

A marriage without money is not a love story. It is an endurance test. Two people grinding against each other's frustrations and calling it commitment.

Get your money right first. The love will have somewhere comfortable to land.

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Not so fast!

So Lekki is the only place to live and attend private school...Range Rover is the only car to drive...Every family must go on holiday to Dubai.

This is how some silly men put unnecessary pressure on their lives and die young from stress. Then the wife finds a more reasonable man and "chop" the remaining account balance in peace.

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Everyone knows you need to pay rent.

Everyone knows you need to be able to afford necessities.

What we are saying is that this should not be the basis for choosing a partner.

A man/woman should not be loved simply because they can provide these necessities for you.

It's selfish and destructive.

LOVE someone first genuinely and then live according to your means. As you are, you have a means of survival already. Your partner should be able to love you at this point and be ready to survive at this level with you.

No one says you should not pay rent but you should not be loved solely because you are being fed off on.

QuinQ:
This is La la land talk. In the real world what makes a person happy is being able to well afford it when the rent is due. What makes a person unhappy is being stressed out when rent is due, and having to bring out a calculator, and inevitably end up dodging the landlord and frantically running around looking for a way to borrow money. That's what makes a person unhappy in the real world!

It's sickening.

They keep setting useless standards which are not standards.

Yesterday I was watching a video where a girl was saying as a girl, you have a boyfriend and you're still trekking, don't have an iPhone and still plaiting all back without having bone straight.

To such girls, this is what makes marriage or love.

It's not. People are being blinded by the illusion of money/luxury/standards and worst, they can't even tell the difference.

InvertedHammer:
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Not so fast!

So Lekki is the only place to live and attend private school...Range Rover is the only car to drive...Every family must go on holiday to Dubai.

This is how some silly men put unnecessary pressure on their lives and die young from stress. Then the wife finds a more reasonable man and "chop" the remaining account balance in peace.

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Diamond098454:
Everything is not money

You can have money but the happiness is not there.

You can also be poor and the happiness will not be there.

Let's stop pretending money is not good. Everybody is better off with money in the bank.

People like to console themselves because it's hard to be rich.

BTW if you're rich but unhappy, you are the problem, not money.

RollinTNDA:
I know a very rich lady who sleeps with me behind her husband back. Why??

Her husband is super rich.

But she confess to me that she lost the excitement of LIFE. That her husband over provide and this made him look unattractive and boring.

So she wanted to feel human again
That's why she cheats behind his back .
That the adrenaline and excitement fear of being caught makes her feel alive

If you like get 200$ billion.
Una 2 will definitely be bored of each other
Look at Will smith
Upon all the fame and money and praises he shower his wife. She still go sleep with one guy called August Alsina

A poor man thinks money is everything
Until they get it and find out it can't buy true love

And those who are poor cheat because of lack of comfort.
Life is mysterious

Auditt:
Every mallam and hin kettle, as if all the married Nigerian are vacating in Dubai yearly. Also, all the married people are leaving in Lekki, and every children attend private schools.

We use our hands to create standards we can’t maintain. The most important thing in life is happiness

Most of you don't want to say it as it is.

It takes money to cultivate happiness. You cannot be happy without money unless u dey disguise.

Everything that makes you happy involves money.

Decent shelter is money.

Good diet is money.

Good education is money.

Good healthcare is money.

All these things listed above are even more expensive in nigeria.

RollinTNDA:
I know a very rich lady who sleeps with me behind her husband back. Why??

Her husband is super rich.

But she confess to me that she lost the excitement of LIFE. That her husband over provide and this made him look unattractive and boring.

So she wanted to feel human again
That's why she cheats behind his back .
That the adrenaline and excitement fear of being caught makes her feel alive

If you like get 200$ billion.
Una 2 will definitely be bored of each other
Look at Will smith
Upon all the fame and money and praises he shower his wife. She still go sleep with one guy called August Alsina

A poor man thinks money is everything
Until they get it and find out it can't buy true love

And who told you poor couples too don't get tired of each other.

But yall pay more attention to the rich and whatever they do.

Nobody said money is everything, nobody said you can't be miserable with money.

A man without game is a man without game, money can get him chicks but will not cure his game problem.

The rich guy whose wife you're forking is a boring person, but the money is not the cause of the boredom, it's the guy.

However, the rich guy is better off with his money, because without the money, that wife would either have left him for you or he would never have gotten to marry her in the first place.

Money is a big advantage always.

RollinTNDA:
The crazy thing is the people saying this came from poor homes.

If their papa follow this advice.
They won't be here typing rubbish

I noticed that people from poor homes usually have very high unrealistic taste; they even package pass people from middle class and elite class home.
Majority of girls from poor homes are very dangerous, avoid them like a plague. Na them dey carry hookup for head and other social vices.

Babatunjo:
People will quote you love. They will quote you compatibility. They will quote you chemistry.

Nobody will quote you school fees. Nobody will quote you the family holiday in Dubai, the anniversary dinner at Nok by Alara, the wife's Range Rover, the children's private school in Lekki.

But those things will show up. And they will not wait for love to sort them out.

A marriage without money is not a love story. It is an endurance test. Two people grinding against each other's frustrations and calling it commitment.

Get your money right first. The love will have somewhere comfortable to land.

Money is not enough

So no money no marriage is the reason why at 50, you haven’t establishes anything for yourself

Tflex01:
You too get sense. 😊

God bless you.

I lost my only sibling, the only sibling i have in this world money couldn't save him. But there are those that doesn't have money but they are alive, healthy and happy. They will get sick and recover without visiting a health center
Now you see one of the reasons i said money is not everything

realG101:
You can also be poor and the happiness will not be there.

Let's stop pretending money is not good. Everybody is better off with money in the bank.

People like to console themselves because it's hard to be rich.

BTW if you're rich but unhappy, you are the problem, not money.

Are you sure? People from poor home are always happy, they have unlimited freedom, they have a lot of friends and they visit friends without anyone questioning them. Is that not pure joy? Are they not happy? What can of happiness are you looking for again?

GravityDefier:
Poverty is NOT good and it DOESN'T still guarantee happiness

RealityKings1:
I wish those children were taught how to kidnap the kidnappers before the kidnappers came and kidnapped the kids.
But it's not too late! It's not too late, the best form of defense is attack.

I saw what you did there 👌😏

realG101:
You can also be poor and the happiness will not be there.

Let's stop pretending money is not good. Everybody is better off with money in the bank.

People like to console themselves because it's hard to be rich.

BTW if you're rich but unhappy, you are the problem, not money.

nigga I'm not the person to pretend or to delude myself about not knowing the importance of money or the benefits of money
Balance is everything is life being broke is not even a good thing but money isn't everything dat's the truth ppl who claim money is everything are shallow minded individuals
Money has advantages and disadvantages just as being broke has disadvantages and few advantages
The main thing is balance is the key
In the aspect of relationships and marriage money should an important part and addition to the courtship not the main focal point of it because it's a recipe for disaster
Well a word is enough for the 🦉

realG101:
And who told you poor couples too don't get tired of each other.

But yall pay more attention to the rich and whatever they do.

Nobody said money is everything, nobody said you can't be miserable with money.

A man without game is a man without game, money can get him chicks but will not cure his game problem.

The rich guy whose wife you're forking is a boring person, but the money is not the cause of the boredom, it's the guy.

However, the rich guy is better off with his money, because without the money, that wife would either have left him for you or he would never have gotten to marry her in the first place.

Money is a big advantage always.

Nice comment I respect it 👌

Diamond098454:
I lost my only sibling, the only sibling i have in this world money couldn't save him. But there are those that doesn't have money but they are alive, healthy and happy. They will get sick and recover without visiting a health center
Now you see one of the reasons i said money is not everything

Never mind. It's purely psychology of thinking
We can only manage with little.. but can never do without nothing

Money is merely a tools and blessing to intelligent nigga but a curse and source of insatiable to stupid nigga

Marc3500:
I saw what you did there 👌😏

😂😂😂😂

RollinTNDA:
I know a very rich lady who sleeps with me behind her husband back. Why??

Her husband is super rich.

But she confess to me that she lost the excitement of LIFE. That her husband over provide and this made him look unattractive and boring.

So she wanted to feel human again
That's why she cheats behind his back .
That the adrenaline and excitement fear of being caught makes her feel alive

If you like get 200$ billion.
Una 2 will definitely be bored of each other
Look at Will smith
Upon all the fame and money and praises he shower his wife. She still go sleep with one guy called August Alsina

A poor man thinks money is everything
Until they get it and find out it can't buy true love

You dey bang person wife?
That's a big no no....

Diamond098454:
I lost my only sibling, the only sibling i have in this world money couldn't save him. But there are those that doesn't have money but they are alive, healthy and happy. They will get sick and recover without visiting a health center
Now you see one of the reasons i said money is not everything

Topic of discussion here is that (if you can) you should endeavor to marry such that your only sibling doesn't die while you were running around trying to borrow the money you have to pay before the hospital can begin treatment