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There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I meet about a year and half ago..we meet and vibe then start about a week after we meet..she was loving real not materialistic and very smart this make me fall more for her..she was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship she was always active infact she was more dedicated and active than me.so I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her so fast forward to a month ago she suddenly changed..she stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me..for a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..it really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Did I just read She didn't let her studies affect our relationship...?


I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all



She has probably already spotted a red flag from far. Na only her dey and know her mind but this suggests you are probably the aggressive type to abuse a woman either physically or emotionally. It might not have happened already but the tendencies might be there for her to notice.


As for your question when a woman leaves just like that without explanation and insists nothing is wrong... it's best just to let her go. Forget her and move on!

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I meet about a year and half ago..we meet and vibe then start about a week after we meet..she was loving real not materialistic and very smart this make me fall more for her..she was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship she was always active infact she was more dedicated and active than me.so I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her so fast forward to a month ago she suddenly changed..she stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me..for a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..it really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

Young man,leave that banny alone and move on with your life. Focus on your goals and that ought to be your most important thing in life right now.

As for her, she's long gone bro. I mean that's how bannies are wired. You'll just be surprised to discover that someone whom you guys used to vibe so well, can just suddenly change and be behaving like a witch without any reason at all

I've had my own taste of their witchcraft. That's why anything wey concern relationship for now dey increase my anger issues 😡

Lmao

Once them throw poor man pikin one stone, he go just fall jakata.

So because she's yet to show you her materialistic side, she didn't let her studies come in-between her temporary love for you, she deceived you in thinking she's active and more dedicated to the relationship more than you, automatically you have now waiting to wife her up immediately she finishes her final year, lol.

How e cun be you now?

Next time flow with nature, don't ever try to rush it.

Good guy.........

amancalledgodd:
Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

Indeed women are very important

I know you haven't eaten all day. Anyways , move on and let her focus on her studies.

Bro. I know it's hard but if you can, let her go. That's if you have truly asked why her sudden change in behaviour.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I meet about a year and half ago..we meet and vibe then start about a week after we meet..she was loving real not materialistic and very smart this make me fall more for her..she was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship she was always active infact she was more dedicated and active than me.so I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her so fast forward to a month ago she suddenly changed..she stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me..for a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..it really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Mr. Romeo, Face your study or dedicate your energy on how to make money.

Dude, never you second guess yourself when it comes to women or emotional matters. The chasm in the "relationship" is already widening. Move the 4uck on. It's hard but you would be thankful for taking dat step.

amancalledgodd:
Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

I second this. Spoil your woman make another man no snatch am. A word is enough for a fool.

I can bet 1million naira , she already have someone she's dating.

No just dey waste your time. If she ever comes back to start acting right , it is because her relationship with the new guy didn't work.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I meet about a year and half ago..we meet and vibe then start about a week after we meet..she was loving real not materialistic and very smart this make me fall more for her..she was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship she was always active infact she was more dedicated and active than me.so I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her so fast forward to a month ago she suddenly changed..she stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me..for a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..it really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

A senior loverboy or spender already stolen her from you, it would take almighty grace for you to recover her back because her heart is completely in the hand loverboy/spender, even if you succeeded in taking her back, she already introduced to the streets, and street girl not meant for nice guy.

Guys who are expert in manipulation know, how to snatch woman from good weak guy.

Tenrack:
I second this. Spoil your woman make another man no snatch am. A word is enough for a fool.

I also pray you won't be indirectly spending money for your fellow guy using your woman as a medium of exchange.( Collecting money from you and given it to guys she really loves)

I think you're jobless

amancalledgodd:
Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

Op I know you are young and don't understand how rls game works...it's ok.

But in everything you do..do not listen to the above guy I quoted they are tagged "nice guyz" by women and they always finish last.

You can still get that girl but this time not as a serious gf but just to be fuvvvcking her ..She has ghosted you...To get her and every other lady of your choice..your only redemption is REDPILL...go and swallow it and practice everything you read and you will never forget this day.

Keep trying, there's light at the end of the tunnel.

PROBABLY ABOUT TO JAPA, MY HONEST TAKE

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Bro I don't understand you oh.

Fiscus105:
I also you won't be indirectly spending money for your fellow guy using your woman as a medium of exchange.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

What you're describing is difficult because the change was so sudden and doesn't seem to match the relationship you experienced for a year and a half.

Based on what you've shared, a few things stand out:

She didn't slowly drift away; she made a clear request: "leave me alone."

She hasn't given you an explanation, even after you've repeatedly asked.

You haven't described a major fight, betrayal, or ongoing conflict that would obviously explain the change.

Her behavior before this was consistent, invested, and affectionate.

The hard reality is that when someone asks for space or asks you to leave them alone, you generally have to respect that, even when you don't understand why.

That doesn't mean her reasons are necessarily bad. There could be many possibilities:

She may have gone through a personal issue she doesn't want to discuss.

Her feelings may have changed.

Family pressures or future plans may have influenced her.

She may have become unhappy about something she never communicated.

She may have met someone else.

She may have felt overwhelmed and decided to withdraw.

The truth is that you don't know, and right now neither of us can know.

What I would not recommend is spending months chasing answers from someone who has already asked for distance. That often leads to more frustration and less self-respect.

A balanced approach would be:

1. Send one final calm message (if you haven't already). Something like: "I respect your decision and will give you the space you've asked for. I care about you and wish you well. If there's ever something you'd like to explain or discuss in the future, I'm open to listening."

2. Stop pursuing her after that. No repeated messages, no pressure, no trying to force a conversation.


3. Give yourself a timeline. For example, tell yourself: "I'm moving forward with my life. If she chooses to reach out later, I'll decide then whether I want to continue."


Notice the difference between waiting and being open.

Waiting means putting your life on hold for someone who may never return.

Being open means continuing with your life while accepting that she may contact you someday.

One other thing caught my attention: you mentioned getting angry when she missed appointments. If those incidents happened often or were more intense than you realize, it's possible they affected her more than she expressed. Some calm and conflict-avoidant people don't argue; they quietly absorb frustrations until they eventually withdraw. I'm not saying that's what happened, only that it's worth honestly reflecting on.

My answer to your question is:

Don't keep hoping indefinitely for answers. Respect her request, send one respectful closing message if necessary, and start moving forward. If she genuinely values the relationship and wants to explain, she knows how to reach you.

I'm curious about one detail: when she told you to leave her alone, was it a cold, angry message, or was it more like a polite but firm request? The tone can reveal quite a lot about what may be happening.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

You never see anything, your emotions will be toiled with.
You will be messed up for not doing anything wrong. Haven't you heard that relationship is not for the weak

Keep trying you will meet your Waterloo

omooba969:
Keep trying, there's light at the end of the tunnel.

That light fit later burn op to ashes if care is not taken

Guys like me will probably leave her alone because what is mine... I don't force it....
But other people will advise you to press her to know what's wrong....
But u sef.. No deh allow Conji control you...
If she say she no fit come after u booked an appointment, u take am like that.... All the ones u don knack before... How many u vex put.. Na one or 2 days go make u die?? Make una dey get patience with some of these girls them especially the good ones..... I hope u sort yourself out sha

She used you to cross that final year bridge. Your role in her movie is over.. Probably she met a better actor who can pay the bills you couldn't pay or didn't want to pay..
Move on oga.

I hope you didn't invest much financially?

That one can pain

Women will sacrifice anything for a high value man if you need to struggle to please her it means that you are a low value guy.
And Among all the insecurities and big problems in this country your outmost concern is how to keep a liability that is begging and crushing on a high value d!Ck man Will you discard that rubb!sh you called partner and stay focused on how to be physically, spiritually, militarily and financially sufficient.

amancalledgodd:
Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

Woman wrapper. Na your type women go take do sacrifice or Aso-Ebi🤣

If you value your life and want to stay alive in happiness and good health . Let her go. If you dare follow al those mills and boons live stories ,you will eventually find yourself 6 ft under the soil

Leave her alone as she said, nothing more nothing less

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

you go turn to mugu very soon

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in [b]her final year in school [/b]when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

She is in her final year in school, and that period in stressfull.

Leave alone, if she comeback let her explain herself before you accept her back.