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Hezmatosky210:
Mine parents was just junior civil servants on a low key. They trained the seven of us through university. But right now bro, I am a big boy of my own, but just to train two children for primary school na hard thing🤣
Dad&Mum, you're the strongest. I bow🧎‍♂️

Wakanakarue:
The things our parents did and achieved in life as normal people are the things rich people struggle to achieve today.


They got married before 30 in most cases, gave birth to children they fed and trained with some ease, build houses in the village at 40 and some in the city too and they weren't even rich .

Drsnives:
The cost of living then was low compared to now.
How much was your school then?
My dad with a salary of 15k then trained about 4 of us..
Today even if you are earning 300k, to train 2 in a private sec school self Na war

hakeemhakeem:
Things weren't cheap at any particular time

emmaodet:
Why private school?

Did your dad trained you guys in private school or public?
If you are to send your kids to public school today, don't you think you will have extra to do other things?

emmaodet:
10 of you guys??
Wawuuuuuuu
It is well
I don't even know what to say

Dpsychologist:
One of the biggest shocks of adulthood is discovering that life is much harder than it looked when you were a child.

Many young people grow up feeling disappointed in their parents. They see poverty, financial struggles, unfinished dreams, and hardships. Some even tell themselves, "I will work harder than my parents and become far more successful."

At first, it sounds easy until adulthood arrives. Bills begin to pile up. Jobs become difficult to find. Businesses fail. Responsibilities multiply. Unexpected emergencies appear. The same person who once criticized their parents now finds themselves working long hours, struggling to save money, and fighting daily battles nobody sees.

Suddenly, a painful realization emerges.

The parents they looked down on were raising children, paying rent, feeding a family, handling pressure, and surviving in circumstances that were often worse than what they face today.

Many people eventually discover that their parents achieved more with fewer opportunities.

This does not mean every parent made perfect decisions. Some certainly made mistakes. However, adulthood teaches a valuable lesson: surviving is often harder than judging.

Life has a way of humbling people.

The father you thought lacked ambition may have been carrying burdens you never knew about. The mother you believed was not successful may have been sacrificing her own dreams to keep the family together.

Growing older often replaces criticism with respect. Nothing exposes the weight your parents carried more than carrying your own.

Adulthood is the stage where many people stop asking, "Why didn't my parents do better?" and start asking, "How did they manage to do all that and still keep going?"

Sometimes wisdom is realizing that the people you once thought were weak were actually stronger than you ever imagined.

Now our time is more difficult than theirs. Things are more expensive and life is more difficult.

Afrah04:
They would have been thoughtful by not having children or less, as a way of cutting down responsibility. But no, "children are blessings", now we're caught in a frenzy

Nice2023:
The most surprising facts today is that,many in our parents age are better compared to the present day children.

At a certain age,many of them built their houses while in this generation,they are still waiting for jobs,seeking opportunities here and there and some may end up not having the job las las.

However,times have changed seriously,it is painful to see many of our parents still taking care of their children who are supposed to take care of them at old age still living with them,with no income,no means of survival for himself,I mean what a surprising world.

Ciscogod:
As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize that my dad loved us more than anyone else. Thank God it wasn’t too late for me to understand and appreciate that.

Men, take care of your parents—especially your father. In many cases, he is the one man who genuinely wants you to surpass him and achieve greater things in life. Sadly, many of us only come to this realization after he is gone.

If your dad is still here, cherish him, appreciate him, and make time for him while you still can.

emmaodet:
Because the standard of living has risen astronomically than your parent's own.

Most of our parents didn't drive cars throughout their service time, No pressure to change phone or wife's own, no pressure to send kids to private schools, many lived in 2 rooms alone and not flats etc.
All these saves money that can be channeled into doing projects like house building.
Many ladies won't even take your marriage proposal serious if you are not staying in a flat today and if possible have a car.
If they try what we are doing now, many of them will die broke long before reaching 50 years.
Our standard of living and taste will not allow us to have disposable income to fund projects.
We can't eat our cakes and have it.

Elzazzi:
I agree with you. Our parents had too many kids. It also aggravated the struggles!

Afrah04:
Honestly, now the chances for us to wriggle out of such situations is slim given how harsh the economic situation is getting; anyways my contribution to the society is to not bring any living thing to this world in a less average state.

Difrent:
My Papa that was an 'ordinary' plumber bought a brand new car and used to fly economy class of Nigerian airways
Me never even enter plane before

Mattswaggz:
Basic amenities were cheaper compared to minimum wage at their time.

hakeemhakeem:
Kindly give examples of amenities that were cheaper

Mattswaggz:
Fuel,food,rent, electricity etc.

hakeemhakeem:
All you mentioned weren't in terms of earnings and prices coefficients.foods were relatively cheap because alot people still farms and people in the villages would send foods stuff to their people in the cities, electricity we have always paying what we don't used.

Dpsychologist:
One of the biggest shocks of adulthood is discovering that life is much harder than it looked when you were a child.

Many young people grow up feeling disappointed in their parents. They see poverty, financial struggles, unfinished dreams, and hardships. Some even tell themselves, "I will work harder than my parents and become far more successful."

At first, it sounds easy until adulthood arrives. Bills begin to pile up. Jobs become difficult to find. Businesses fail. Responsibilities multiply. Unexpected emergencies appear. The same person who once criticized their parents now finds themselves working long hours, struggling to save money, and fighting daily battles nobody sees.

Suddenly, a painful realization emerges.

The parents they looked down on were raising children, paying rent, feeding a family, handling pressure, and surviving in circumstances that were often worse than what they face today.

Many people eventually discover that their parents achieved more with fewer opportunities.

This does not mean every parent made perfect decisions. Some certainly made mistakes. However, adulthood teaches a valuable lesson: surviving is often harder than judging.

Life has a way of humbling people.

The father you thought lacked ambition may have been carrying burdens you never knew about. The mother you believed was not successful may have been sacrificing her own dreams to keep the family together.

Growing older often replaces criticism with respect. Nothing exposes the weight your parents carried more than carrying your own.

Adulthood is the stage where many people stop asking, "Why didn't my parents do better?" and start asking, "How did they manage to do all that and still keep going?"

Sometimes wisdom is realizing that the people you once thought were weak were actually stronger than you ever imagined.

Now our time is more difficult than theirs. Things are more expensive and life is more difficult.