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Jeezuzpick:
You are NOT a feminist.

I am one. Marry your type and rest.
Even with your wives submitting, una still no get peace of mind. Why??

Jeezuzpick:
Go and enjoy your "strength"

I'm fine in my marriage of almost 20 years.

So why are you asking me to submit to you when you already have what you want?

That said, I wonder how she feels.

pocohantas:
I am a dangerous feminist, I have a happy home. My husband is not the one crying on NL or bothered over the choices of other women. If you are so happy in your homes, you would tell us more about those homes. We would see the evidence of submission and maybe learn one or two.

What's annoying the most is that these weak boys will bring their daughters up to be weak submissive wifes to some pig who does not appreciate them.

Tufia! Says I.

pocohantas:
I am one. Marry your type and rest.
Even with your wives submitting, una still no get peace of mind. Why??

I'm happily married, girl.

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

Sister calm down. The man of God says submission can only take place if Christ lives in you. Marriage isn't do or die affair. Marriage is tolerance, patience, understanding and love.

Jeezuzpick:
I'm happily married, girl.

Then tell us more about that marriage and submitting woman.

budaatum:
You are assuming you and I are the same category when it us obvious that we are not.

First, my work is not compulsory. It is an obligation I take on for the wage I am paid, and which I can walk away from whenever I like. I am no one's slave.

Second, I am far too developed for marriage to me to be "open you legs, cook, clean the house and do dishes and others... bath the baby, wash, clean, and it goes on", which on reading actually made me laugh.

My parents, you see, educated me to be a boss in my own right, so all those things you listed are joint duties in my house, since the man is not the only one bringing home our bacon. We make decisions together too, since our joint resource is involved. And thankfully he is not arrogant and stup¹d enough to think only him did God give a brain.

Those "policies" you mention might work with the uneducated girl you went to your village to marry, but that's not me, thank you very much.

Its an insight problem for you madam.


Whether its Royco or Maggi, its the same chicken bullion.

You obviously haven't reconciled this reality, hence you think they are different...well yes they are, but on the packaging level.

In both, you have gratifications, one is called salary, the other is called emotional gratification.

Your solace is as in the ostrich burying its head in hay for safety

budaatum:
What's annoying the most is that these weak boys will bring their daughters up to be weak submissive wifes to some pig who does not appreciate them.

Tufia! Says I.

Pocahontas' husband is not a pig, ooooo!

Please clarify before she takes up arms!

budaatum:
What's annoying the most is that these weak boys will bring their daughters up to be weak submissive wifes to some pig who does not appreciate them.

Tufia! Says I.

They rarely raise their daughters to be same way. MC Oluomo was videod at his daughter's wedding telling her husband not to cheat. That his daughter is a GenZ and they are not as tolerant as the older generation. This is a man with multiple wives and known concubines. 😂😂😂

budaatum:
So why are you asking me to submit to you when you already have what you want?

That said, I wonder how she feels.

You ke?

From where I know you?

ariesbull:
That is what the Bible said


IF YOUR WIFE CAN'T SUBMIT TO YOU... DIVORCE HER


Good News and Catholic Bible said

Book of Sirach Chapter 25 vs 24 - 27

. 24 Sin began with a woman, and we must all die because of her.

25 Don't let a bad wife have her way, any more than you would allow water to leak from your cistern.

26 If she won't do as you tell her, divorce her



Na Bible talk am

U woo rugged pastor

princearch:
Sister calm down. The man of God says submission can only take place if Christ lives in you. Marriage isn't do or die affair. Marriage is tolerance, patience, understanding and love.

Christ did not tell me to submit to some man, and even if he did I'd have told him to go do one, since he did not submit to the rulers of his day but said woe unto them who don't enter and don't let others enter. As to your "Sister calm down", first, I am very calm, and second, you don't tell me what to do or be, thank you very much.

That said, I so like your "Marriage is tolerance, patience, understanding and love", so long as it cuts both ways. You'd even get me to agree with you if you say we are going to be submitting to one another.

In fact, can I love you already? You must work on telling me to calm down however, because that will be you lacking understanding.

I can not tolerate weak pigs who need submission though, please kindly patiently lovingly dearly unsubmissively note.

chieveboy:
In both, you have gratifications, one is called salary, the other is called emotional gratification.

I can see that you fail to understand that I gain no emotional gratification from submitting to anyone.

In marriage I am not your employee that you pay and order about. Even my boss, when I had one, wouldn't dare, because they hired me for my brain and not to slave for them.

I married you for us to help each other achieve our life goals, and not just to be your slave. And if you can not emotionally gratify me as I demand and deserve, I'll kick your ass aside and go find a better person who would. That's if I made the error and married you to start with.

And on that note, granddaugther. I got to go take beautiful powerful unsubmissive her to dinner.

budaatum:
I can see that you fail to understand that I gain no emotional gratification from submitting to anyone.

In marriage I am not your employee that you pay and order about. Even my boss, when I had one, wouldn't dare, because they hired me for my brain and not to slave for them.

I married you for us to help each other achieve our life goals, and not just to be your slave. And if you can not emotionally gratify me as I demand and deserve, I'll kick your ass aside and go find a better person who would. That's if I made the error and married you to start with.

And on that note, granddaugther. I got to go take beautiful powerful unsubmissive her to dinner.

Nicely said. What you said above goes with the saying two cannot coexist unless they agree.

So if you agree, your actually are submitting one to the other. He can ask you to go fetch a plate and you too could (if both done under the condition of love which marriages are about).

But then even at that, if he disagrees you go to a night club or keep certain characters close to the family as your friend and you insist, then you are in for a lesson or two regarding the male or positive energy make up of a man.


You obviously did not understand what submission is. You think its coersion and disharmony.

budaatum:
First, you are not "all men". And who told you the Bible is some sort of authority and not your comprehension of your reading it? Did Christ not send you the Holy Spirit of discernment for a reason?But let me.

I'm sure you've heard of Adam. The Adam that was commanded not to acquire knowledge or he will die? Eve the woman came along and acquired knowledge and freed herself and her ignorant naked Adam from slavery, and they went on to not die as they'd been lied to believe, but became self employed, hence not submitting to no one, and populated the earth with, eventually, you.

Play is not all we will be doing when we marry, you see. We'd instead be building a family of very powerful non-submissive sons and daughters who will go on to rule and subdue and multiply and be blessed, instead of rearing ignorant children that will submit to some imaginary fear and be naked slaves in a garden.

The below says girls, but read "our sons" too, and let me know if we are getting married please. I'm too old to have kids now but we can always adopt.

Oh, your last statement. You said you are too old to have kids. Don't you think your unnatural principles kept you away from seeing a man to get married to until you got to this age.
Scripture remains the foundation for anything you can think of. If you live outside the teachings there will always be a consequence. Adam and Eve face their consequences. I think it's I time you dropped the philosophy that you are currently operating with and relearn the principle that can work. Otherwise you will go in a cycle, repeating same errors and getting same results while hoping for something different to happen.
Training my girls to subdue the world, as Queens to reign over their world does not mean that when it comes to marriage they won't know their role. Submission does not mean weakness or enslaving, does not mean that the right of a woman will be abridged. You must know and understand what to do at each time.
You said you want to get married to me, smiles.... Our visions and directions are different with your response. Different philosophy of life.

ogascomax:
Submission does not mean weakness or enslaving, does not mean that the right of a woman will be abridged. You must know and understand what to do at each time.
You said you want to get married to me, smiles.... Our visions and directions are different with your response. Different philosophy of life.

Then do it. 😂😂

ogascomax:
Oh, your last statement. You said you are too old to have kids. Don't you think your unnatural principles kept you away from seeing a man to get married to until you got to this age.

Scripture remains the ...

Too old to have any more kids, please. As for marrying you, I doubt you can handle a grandma, and my granddaughters will not marry you because your visions and directions and philosophy of life are very different to the ones I brought them up to have.

And for your information, those who live by scripture alone shall die young and unfulfilled, which is why Christ sent the Holy Ghost to minister to you.

Funfact...Two drivers cannot be in charge of a car

chieveboy:
So if you agree, your actually are submitting one to the other. He can ask you to go fetch a plate and you too could (if both done under the condition of love which marriages are about).

No sir, I am not submitting because I go and fetch a plate for him. I could simply be fetching the plate for him because I love him dearly!

chieveboy:
But then even at that, if he disagrees you go to a night club or keep certain characters close to the family as your friend and you insist, then you are in for a lesson or two regarding the male or positive energy make up of a man.

Nightclub? You are showing your age. Try, go for a conference in Sweden for a week and he disagrees, lol, for that's more my level.

And what is it that you are suggesting he will do with his so called "male or positive energy make up of a man"? Will he beat his slave or what?

It's about levels, you see. You are night club level, while my level is a week long conference in Sweden while he's at home feeding and bathing and helping our wonderful children with their homework when he gets back from his work.

Neither of us us submitting to each other, because we don't want to kill each others spirit. We both raise each other up and flourish in our own right for the glory of our togetherness.

Now, about that plate you asked me to fetch for you, i hope it's because you are feeding the baby, or what's wrong with your own hands and legs that stops you going to get plates for both of us? Did you marry the housegirl, perhaps?

CodeTemplar:
Copy n Paste pastors. Ride on.

Obviously you don't know whom you are talking about.

This is the only Pastor I listen to in Nigeria right now

What’s the definition of the submit abeg

dominique:
Lolol😂, that's the lies your fathers told to mothers of yesteryears and successfully turned them to doormats . We ain't falling for that BS this 21st century

Dragging his ancestors and forefathers into this conversation already tells you are a walking red flags with rainbow colors on your forehead

He's not wrong.

If you are a Christian woman in a Christian marriage, you follow the teachings of Christ.

However, a lot of Pastors preach and omit stuff.

If you are a Christian man in a Christian marriage, you follow the teachings of Christ.

And God is very clear: wives respect and submit, husbands love your wives and be prepared to lay your life down for her.

If your wife is fighting submission, it's because you don't love her like Christ loved the Church.

So stop telling women to submit and tell me to love their wives the way God intended and not in the selfish and foolish manner most humans call "Love". And watch how submission will come naturally to her.

Onegai:
He's not wrong.

If you are a Christian woman in a Christian marriage, you follow the teachings of Christ.

However, a lot of Pastors preach and omit stuff.

If you are a Christian man in a Christian marriage, you follow the teachings of Christ.

And God is very clear: wives respect and submit, husbands love your wives and be prepared to lay your life down for her.

If your wife is fighting submission, it's because you don't love her like Christ loved the Church.

So stop telling women to submit and tell me to love their wives the way God intended and not in the selfish and foolish manner most humans call "Love". And watch how submission will come naturally to her.

There is something wrong with the teaching of submission in the first place. A marriage should be a partnership of equal respect. Both parties to love and respect one another and decisions should be made in joint thinking. The concept of one party bowing down to the other in submission is a relic of the past and should be done away with.

femi4:
Funfact...Two drivers cannot be in charge of a car

Yes they can. They just don't need to be grabbing the steering wheel at the same time!

If we are driving from Lagos to London, you drive some and I drive some, and we'd get there quicker than if only you drive, and we'd both be less tired when we arrive too.

ukaface:
What’s the definition of the submit abeg

See here.

Submission generally refers to the act of yielding to a higher authority, or the presentation of a document, proposal, or artwork for consideration. The term carries distinct meanings depending on the context in which it is used.

Common Definitions by Context Everyday Usage:
The act of submitting a physical or digital item (such as a manuscript, application, or competition entry) for review or judgment. It can also denote the condition of being humble or obedient to another person's control.

Combat Sports & Martial Arts: The act of forcing an opponent to yield or tap out due to the application of a painful lock, choke, or hold (common in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, wrestling, and MMA).

Psychology & Sociology:
Behaviours that signal a lower social rank or the acceptance of another's dominance.

budaatum:
Yes they can. They just don't need to be grabbing the steering wheel at the same time!

If we are driving from Lagos to London, you drive some and I drive some, and we'd get there quicker than if only you drive, and we'd both be less tired when we arrive too.

In charge means handling the steering...don't be overwise

femi4:
In charge means handling the steering...don't be overwise

Exactly. So you handle the steering wheel for a while and handover when you tired.

Or would you rather we rest in a hotel on the way from Lagos to London because only you is handling the steering wheel?

Just think of the money and time we would have saved if we'd shared the driving.

femi4:
don't be overwise

This is like telling me to not use the brain in my head, by the way. Such stu¹dity is way beyond me.

pocohantas:
If the best way to control a man is be humble to him, why are men not being humble to me. So they can control me that way too? 😂

They are from Mars so it works the opposite with them