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That's your insecurities talking.

Onkoolos:
Op If you follow this advice my brother you are dating yourself!!!… Person wey u won marry make uno disturb am with call or text aam. Infact some girls will not even allow you to call na dem go dey disturb you call if dem rate u. Op please move on, I hardly use 1 week with girls like this.. All this are flimsy excuse that you don’t want to be the foundation of your relationship… Any girl wey Dey act like say I Dey disturb her with call, no be me and her go continue the relationship, na disrespect of the highest order, if you don’t know

Walezy2020:
good intention or no good intention ladies & money na 5&6 I heard a guy talking with his friends today that a lady left her guy after the guy had spent like 2M for her naim I reached there & said forget it there might be someone somewhere that had spent more than what the guy that spent 2M na highest bidder they will follow

You will think na only by money until dem shock with you with another pattern.. 😂😂😂

Hahaha hahaha hahaha
Sorry for your experience but that shouldn't stop you from loving again

LUAN1:
it's a mix feelings, Laughing and weeping. It it was a terrible experience, that i have not experienced since I was born. I pray make my enemy nor experience am or mumu like me

Diamond098454:
Hahaha hahaha hahaha
Sorry for your experience but that shouldn't stop you from loving again

i nor dey love again.

Walezy2020:
good intention or no good intention ladies & money na 5&6 I heard a guy talking with his friends today that a lady left her guy after the guy had spent like 2M for her naim I reached there & said forget it there might be someone somewhere that had spent more than what the guy that spent 2M na highest bidder they will follow

you are right because she later called to narrate what they guy has gotten for her, the iPhone 16 he promised her, her rent, her this and that. That was when i realized that my spending nor near, and the highest bidder won. Person wey dey earn 120k as salary in Lagos Island dey find house of 1.5m 😂,

LUAN1:
i believe my own is the worst case in 21st century 😂. If I sit you down to narrate everything, you fit slap me 😂.

I go like slap you o oya SiMPly narrate ham short

Nah Dem Dem!!

Onkoolos:
Op If you follow this advice my brother you are dating yourself!!!… Person wey u won marry make uno disturb am with call or text aam. Infact some girls will not even allow you to call na dem go dey disturb you call if dem rate u. Op please move on, I hardly use 1 week with girls like this.. All this are flimsy excuse that you don’t want to be the foundation of your relationship… Any girl wey Dey act like say I Dey disturb her with call, no be me and her go continue the relationship, na disrespect of the highest order, if you don’t know

Anyguy wey never still see say that girl na dev no like himself

Sonnobax15:
it hurts bro, I totally understand that. But sometimes, it's preferable to just accept the reality and of course with time,man will definitely heal and be wiser.

If I tell you wetin my own use my eyes see recently,you no go believe say na me wey dey form strong man for Nairaland Dem use shine like that 😊

Shebi i bin tell you, you kon abuse me

Onkoolos:
You will think na only by money until dem shock with you with another pattern.. 😂😂😂

Tell am.

LUAN1:
you are right because she later called to narrate what they guy has gotten for her, the iPhone 16 he promised her, her rent, her this and that. That was when i realized that my spending nor near, and the highest bidder won. Person wey dey earn 120k as salary in Lagos Island dey find house of 1.5m 😂,

Actually, she just moved on to the next musquare wey still never learn who woman be.

Dtruthspeaker:
Actually, she just moved on to the next musquare wey still never learn who woman be.

because they must always abe a richer dude

Ki11YurSev:
I go like slap you o oya SiMPly narrate ham short

just give me simp d'or award brother. It was More than simping. Normal i am not a simp but I strip myself off standard, all my masculinity just to be intentional. I SIMply endure her till i got what i deserved 😂

Samantha125:
His life, his choice... Get a life and stop being so clingy, it's unattractive.

Not saying he's cheating though without reason but don't you think your answer would be off if your partner is actually cheating?

Being that you are the first to collect life threatening infections as dear wife.

It would have still been his life and his choice, what do want me to say?

zedegit:
Not saying he's cheating though without reason but don't you think your answer would be off if your partner is actually cheating?

Being that you are the first to collect life threatening infections as dear wife.

LUAN1:
just give me simp d'or award brother. It was More than simping. Normal i am not a simp but I strip myself off standard, all my masculinity just to be intentional. I SIMply endure her till i got what i deserved 😂

Bro! Some guys own bad wella so nor reason ham. You don jaa yasef homie 😂

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

Weak man, she's doesn't like you.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

May be you should stop calling her. If she fails to call, move on. Nobody is too busy. It all depends on how important you're to them and what they can benefit from you. I quite understand some people are naturally like this especially introvert but this is a relationship. It's not supposed to be so.

The girl is in another relationship.... The signs are there already......once u're dating a girl and she's not picking ur calls or hardly reply text ..just know she's in a relationship.... she's using u as a backup... But if u're ready to become a backup then u can continue.🙄

Goodmarlian:
Why do you want to know our age,give your advice or forget it.

If she's working in a health care or hospitality, or banking industry, then she will or might not respond to all your chat. You have to find the balance and understanding.

I once have a good friend that she doesn't pick call or reply but when she apologize, I told her I will do same in my shoes being a doctor

Gotocourt:
Weak man, she's doesn't like you.

it's not that she doesn't like him .... she's using him as a backup plan..... ..men dey suffer o

Stop undervaluing yourself by constantly seeking someone else's attention or validation. In many cases, excessive calling or texting can create an imbalance, making it seem as though you are pursuing the relationship far more than the other person. Healthy relationships involve mutual effort and interest.
Pay attention to actions rather than hopes. If someone genuinely values and cares about you, they will usually make consistent efforts to communicate and stay connected. If you find yourself doing all the work while receiving minimal effort in return, it is worth considering where you truly stand in that person's priorities.
Be honest with yourself about any warning signs you see. Entering a long-term commitment while ignoring clear concerns can lead to disappointment later. While no one can tell you whether to marry someone or not, it is important to evaluate the relationship based on reality, not on the expectation that things will automatically change.
Most importantly, never beg for love, affection, or commitment. A strong relationship is built on mutual respect, genuine interest, and equal investment from both people. Know your worth and choose someone who is equally excited about building a future with you.

This is what I see

One-sided effort in communication and maintaining the relationship.
Lack of strong interest or enthusiasm from her.
Delayed or inconsistent responses.
Not being treated as a priority.
Possibility of being a backup option rather than her first choice.
Ignoring warning signs and hoping things will change after marriage.
Chasing affection, validation, or commitment.
Unequal emotional investment in the relationship.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

bro. this isn’t a relationship. You’re the one taking it beyond expectations. Seeing red flags is enough message to let you know you just have to move on. You no go break any Person heart. She’s got collections.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

Some of us hate calls and chats like mad.

Once we are alone we just want to be left alone. Your girl may fall in that category and it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you.

I’m surprised you are the one craving attention like a woman.

Don’t lose a good woman because she doesn’t like it calls.

These calls and chats you dey talk about, do you call or text her while she's at work? Another thing, she don hold you with this "i don't care" attitude. Make you do your own "i no send" attitude and watch her change. BTW, seems you care more about the relationship than she does. She don hook you.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

She is hiding something. If you can’t find the thing out now, you will regret it when you later discover that thing. E.g she may be spending time with the main guy. It may be that you are a spare

Redoil:
the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I and she see all this as waste of precious time for people like us are always busy with our brain and not phone
guy you are the problem not the girl.

Na you busy pass na. This is how you defend your inadequacy. That was how my girl wanted to defend herself until I pick all the loopholes. I told her that she is not busy as she thought she was. I have worked in an industry that phone was not permitted but I smuggled phone to communicate. A communicator will always find a way. You can't be busy 24 hours a day and seven days in a week.
You need to fix yourself and stop telling us trash.

Goodmarlian:
II just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

Dont enter into a long term contract with such an obvious red-flag like poor communication. It will get worse in marriage. Look for someone who matches your energy.

Some people don't know how to check chats and are not aggressive social media users. My wife may go 2 months without checking her chats. If someone loves you, they will check your chats at the end of the daily job. Mind you her job may be too demanding for social media responses.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

If you just want to continue the relationship for fun while you find someone else who is ready and prioritizes you for marriage
then you don't need to seek for advice again nah just be rolling with her and leading her on until you find someone else if a man or a woman really values you he/she will always make time to chat with you no matter how tight their schedule is no job that can be busier than factory workers,bank workers ad private school teachers yet they still fund time to chat with their loved ones!

I even prefer chatting with someone than calls because during that calling time frame I may not have much to say.That girl has her main boyfriend you are just the side rooster me that I even love my guy to be chatting with me everytime even if she is mostly not online when you are on watsapp or Facebook still she will see your chats when she logs in and she can reply them.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

I want you to know that she knows exactly what she is doing. Any girl that will not bring herself to your level and state of life don't marry her. Especially when it has to do with simple thing. Even if she was busy at work all through what about when she gets home. You can't be busy at work through out the week and you can't have five minutes to communicate or to reply that please I am busy right now or to say something. Never, it's not possible. Is she a surgeon carrying out an operation. Even people wey dey do operations dey still dey get break or still be done with their job. I told my girl that you are not busy as you thought. I analyses her job for her and she could not defend it. They just decide not to communicate. Your own state is even bad because mine do but we are even other issues though but she is better with what you wrote up there.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

she's just waiting for a better option to come, is she schooling in UNIBEN?