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| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Lokoyen(m): 1:16am On Jul 12 |
MrPresident1:All over the world. Educate yourself. My friends in US work 4 jobs |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Lokoyen(m): 1:17am On Jul 12 |
Wotowotoman:This people don see UK finish. No be their fault. I have friends in US and Canada that work 4 jobs. Why is UK different 🤷 |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 7:19am On Jul 12 |
Lokoyen:Four jobs in 24 hours? Your friend is a slave |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 7:23am On Jul 12 |
Nigerians in UK have to work three or four times more to send in a fraction of what the indians are sending into their own country as diaspora remittances It looks like modern day slavery. Shikena: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Shikena(m): 11:18am On Jul 12 |
Explain what you mean? Any evidence of this segregated pay structure in the UK? I'm hearing this for the first time, it's a clear violation of UK employment law, and I don't want to simply jump off to google or AI summarized search analysis since you appear to have some evidence. Let's fact check this obvious misinformation. *Out of curiosity, have you ever stepped outside Nigeria? MrPresident1: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by lagonovo: 12:09pm On Jul 12 |
MrPresident1:Make una stop this open display of ignorance na. It's better to be in read-only mode and learn than these embarrassing comments. You be back bencher for school. Tools dey to verify things even if you live in a village. |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 12:20pm On Jul 12 |
No be you present evidence of segregated pay structure? I should propound evidence for what you said, is that what ytou are saying? How many Indians are care workers in UK compared to Nigerians? So if there are more Nigerian care workers it means they have to work five or more jobs every 24hours? How do they keep up? Are they donkeys? Why are you forming knowledgeable on other peoples matters, do you know Nigerian labour law? See you talking about 'violation of UK employment law' na yua papa formulate the UK employment !aw? Can you know more about it than the formulators? Shikena: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 12:22pm On Jul 12 |
Who be this one? Are you one of the people doing 5 jobs in 24 hours in UK? lagonovo: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by lagonovo: 2:03pm On Jul 12 |
You sound angry, hope all is well? It's actually sleepless 7 jobs in "28 hours" every day for me as an agile God-blessed man not wasting away his youth hoping on Tinubu, Atiku or Obi for mercy and better days. That is slavery. My 7 paychecks from my productive years is mine and I am not living off of corruption thinking I'm doing welll and no one anywhere in the world can call me a lazy youth. I support people comfortably and I also invest wisely in government backed investment portfolios and I will get 10 jobs if I feel I need it to attain my goods ![]() MrPresident1: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Shikena(m): 2:42pm On Jul 12 |
I see where you mixed up my point. I mentioned individual paycheck differences to de-emphasize an unnecessary comparison. India's immigrants population in the UK is estimated to be about 4 times Nigeria's figure of about 400,000 people. Guess what, Nigeria's annual private remittance total from the UK is also approximately a quarter of India's figure. In conclusion, Nigerians are comfortably at the top of diaspora remittances per capita alongside other top flyers. There is no basis for any conclusion that a Nigerian works more jobs for equivalent paycheck. Anyone who has lived out there knows this. More job is just to earn more in total not because of lower hourly income compared with Indians, for example. My reference to paycheck disparity is about different workplace wages and not about nationality. There is a UK law that re-emhasized that even in 2010. By the way, I work with a global consulting firm & move around a lot. Not that it matters here. MrPresident1: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Nefort: 2:42pm On Jul 12 |
ksam:You guys always talk like if you migrate to the UK you will automatically become a billionaire. Life is hard everywhere. |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Shikena(m): 2:46pm On Jul 12 |
I don't see any reference to such in his comment. Where did he say that? Nefort: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 2:57pm On Jul 12 |
Does this mean that you are a donkey? Seven jobs in 28 hours you're trying oh lagonovo: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 3:07pm On Jul 12 |
What is the number of Indians doing care giving jobs to Nigerians doing same, and what is the ratio of Indians to Nigerians in the skilled high paying jobs? Are Indians also doing five jobs in 24 hours to keep up? See this one forming knowledgeable about another peoples laws while knowing nothing about his. If Nigerian population in UK diaspora is one fourth of India's and Indians are in more skilled highly paying jobs, and still yet Nigerians doing care giving are remitting one fourth of India's total remittance, it can only mean the Nigerians in the UK are doing donkey work. Global consulting firm yua left ball there Shikena: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Shikena(m): 3:14pm On Jul 12 |
Oh ok, my bad. I see you are dealing with other personal issues. I understand and God will surely grant you peace of mind. Enjoy your week .MrPresident1: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Shikena(m): 3:19pm On Jul 12 |
You understand his language. Guess he was deported, this is very personal to him. Better to ignore him.lagonovo: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 3:21pm On Jul 12 |
Mr Too knows working in global consulting firm, pulling five jobs in 24hours ah han, una dey try o May God give you peace as you junket about the world in pursuit of paper money. Shikena: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by lagonovo: 3:59pm On Jul 12 |
Hmmm real talk - the mental health impact of deportation, persistent visa denial or other painful experience is real. Real talk, a typical Nigerian does not care much about what's going on with people in the UK but someone suffering from some impact would. My cousin's girlfriend moved to the UK and dumped him for a solid Naija guy there, it took him years to get over it and still talks down on inits till today. Shikena: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by lagonovo: 4:45pm On Jul 12*. Modified: 5:02pm On Jul 12 |
He rattled you with consulting firm ![]() Those are actually large employers abroad and many Nigerians are with Accenture, PwC, Delloitte and EY. It's not always care job in the UK. You can learn a lot if you listen ![]() MrPresident1: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Lokoyen(m): 7:59am On Jul 13 |
MrPresident1:He lives comfortable and has four duplexes in Nigeria. Dey play! You think working conditions in US is same as Nigeria 🤷 |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by MrPresident1: 8:03am On Jul 13 |
Oh that's nice! Four duplexes wow! Him next of kings will enjoy well well 7 jobs in 28 hours smh Lokoyen: |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Lokoyen(m): 8:16am On Jul 13 |
MrPresident1:Dey play! It is easy for you guys to call people slaves yet, same job people do back home and they can't afford modest living. He is already enjoying his handwork. He doesn't need to work like that all his life. It is just to settle down and now he work better job. Make Una carry that yeye suffering and smiling mentality they deceive Una self. Have a good week ahead. |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by lagonovo: 12:25pm On Jul 13 |
@MrPresident1 cc: @Shikena So you stop fooling yourself by playing the ostrich. BWALA, WHERE DO YOU LIVE?! – A Scathing Open Letter to a Clueless Adviser Who Thinks ₦60k Is Living Large. By RRH LANE Mr. Daniel Bwala, with all due respect (which is currently hovering at exactly ₦0.00), which country are you living in? Because it certainly isn't the Nigeria the rest of us are desperately trying to survive in. You sat comfortably—likely in an air-conditioned room with stable NEPA (sorry, grumbling generators) and a full fridge—and told Nigerians earning ₦60,000 that they are "better off" than those who "Japa" to the UK. You called care home workers "modern-day slaves." Mr. Bwala, hypocrisy is not a policy communication strategy, and gaslighting a starving population is not a job description. Let's peel this onion until it burns your eyes, shall we? 1. ₦60,000? That's Not a Salary; That's a Death Sentence Let's do basic mathematics—the kind they teach in Primary 3. · A 50kg bag of rice today? ₦80,000 - ₦85,000. · A litre of petrol? Pushing ₦900 - ₦1,000. · Transport to work in Lagos for one month? At least ₦40,000 if you're lucky. Mr. Bwala, if a Nigerian earns ₦60,000, they cannot afford just the bag of rice for the month, let alone transport, rent, school fees, or healthcare. They are not "better off"—they are one sickness away from the village cemetery. You are telling a man with a bleeding ulcer to reject a £2,600 monthly salary in the UK because he'll pay high rent? Meanwhile, in Nigeria, he can't even afford the paracetamol to stop the headache you're giving us with your foolish talk! 2. The Hypocrisy Hall of Fame: You Ran There First! Here is the part that makes my blood boil: You are a UK resident! You, Daniel Bwala, have tasted the comfort of the West. You know what it feels like to walk on paved roads without dodging okada riders. You know what it feels like to have 24/7 electricity. You know what it means to send your child to a school where they actually teach without being kidnapped. And now that you've secured your spot in the cold, you want to turn around and lock the door behind you? You want to tell the young Nigerian doctor, the brilliant engineer, the desperate graduate that they should "stay" and suffer because you say so? You cannot enjoy the chicken in the UK and tell the man in Nigeria to be happy with the bones. That is not advice; that is wickedness dressed in a suit. 3. "Modern-Day Slavery"? Insult to the Migrant, Insult to History You had the audacity to call UK care work "modern-day slavery." Mr. Bwala, do you know what modern-day slavery looks like? It looks like a Nigerian lecturer earning ₦60k after 10 years of service, forced to hawk sachet water after work to feed his kids. It looks like a nurse in a government hospital treating 50 patients with two pairs of gloves because there are no supplies. Those migrants you mock are heroes. They work 12-hour shifts in care homes, scrub toilets, and carry the elderly—not because they love it, but because they are fighting for their families. They send those "scraps" you mock back home as remittances—over $22 billion annually—keeping the Nigerian economy afloat while your government mismanages oil money. Without them, Nigeria would have collapsed already. Show some respect! 4. The Real Delusion: Your Salary vs. Their Reality Let's talk about your paycheck, Mr. Special Adviser. How much does the Federal Government pay you? Is it ₦60,000? No! Is it ₦600,000? Probably more! You live in a bubble of SUVs, security details, and diplomatic passports. You have no idea what it means to wake up at 4 AM to queue for fuel, or to sit in traffic for 4 hours on the Lagos-Ibadan road, or to pay "levies" to touts just to sell pure water. You lecture us about "family support cushions" while you sit in the Presidential Villa. Do you know that for the average Nigerian, "family support" means 10 unemployed relatives sleeping on your parlor floor, all depending on that ₦60k? That is not a cushion; that is a millstone around the neck! 5. The Challenge: Come and Survive on ₦60k for One Month Here is my final word to you, Mr. Bwala. If you truly believe that ₦60,000 is a "superior" life, resign your job immediately. Forfeit your UK visa. Cancel your children's UK schooling. Move to a face-me-I-face-you apartment in Mushin or Ajegunle. Live on exactly ₦60,000 for 30 days—no generator, no driver, no security, no family sending you foreign currency. Try to feed, transport, and hydrate yourself for just one week. If you survive, come back and talk. But we both know you wouldn't last 48 hours. So please, Mr. Bwala, spare us the lectures. Japa is not the disease—it is the symptom of a government that fails to provide light, security, or hope. Until you fix the country, stop mocking the people who are smart enough to run away from the dumpster fire. You are out of touch. You are out of order. And frankly, you are out of your mind. #DanielBwala #Japa #JapaIsNotTheDisease #NigeriaEconomy #EndBadGovernance #60kIsPoverty #HypocrisyAtItsPeak #BwalaMustHear #NaijaYouth #BrainDrain #RemittancesKeepUsAlive #TinubuAdviser #GaslightingNigeria #ComeAndSurviveOn60k #OurMothersAreNotSlaves #JapaMovement #NigeriaWeHustle #EarnYourKeep #SpeakTruthToPower #PepperDem |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Sophocles5050: 2:38pm On Jul 13 |
naturefellow:Care to show me anything I missed? |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Sirhush(m): 2:55pm On Jul 13 |
lagonovo:💪🏿💚 |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by naturefellow(m): 3:43pm On Jul 13 |
Sophocles5050:you miss comprehension |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Sladem05: 4:20am On Jul 14 |
motymop:Hit or miss? This is some serious coping, the ones that date out can meet them anywhere and not all the immigrants in relationships in western countries are transactional. Much of the time, the ones that come from parts of the world like Asia end up dating someone in the western world and come there and overachieve. It’s not to say that other races can’t be materialistic, transactional etc in relationships but it is far worse with us blacks and Africans. |
| Re: The UK Dating Trap: What Many Nigerians Don't See Coming by Sladem05: 4:27am On Jul 14 |
NaijaCrusader:It is hard everywhere truth be told. Western world is nowhere as great as it seems. The whites lied. |
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