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Osuman:
Telling me no sex before marriage, but making videos calls with men older enough to be her father, leaving school of nursing to spend weekend in the hotel and telling me her close friend invite her to the hotel to spend time together because of the issue between us without her parents knowing she is in town not in school, changing her Whatsapp chat to disappearing message. Baba she don chop that can 35k from me oh but ehn that is the end we continue our friendship but no more spending. I don too mumu

Mariangeles:
Na the bike man I pity for this nonsense.

Even if the girl didn't respect the bike man, what about you?
Why did you have to call him back to that shenanigan?

As for the girl, that one will not respect nor regard anyone.

Sonnobax15:
For this single act, you'll definitely live long my bro.

pappilo:
No be the first time o and even I did not expect this to lead to ending the relationship. It has happened many times over the past 5 years from this same sister. The rest of her family her lovely. On this day their were just too many Bleep ups, she dey send me message, no give me food for party wey dem dey run. I just decided that I had to draw the line with the disrespect. I probably wouldn't have slapped her if it happened again but I wouldn't have kept quiet like before, I would have given her a proper response.

What ended the relationship was that my ex supported her sister's bad behaviour fully. Dey tell.me.dontbtalk about my sister, I dont 2ant to hear anything about my sister. That means she had probably not spoken to her about incidents in the past or spoken to her about it lightheartedly.

E no go better for love. She sef no believe say na 'small' ting like that go end every. Person wey don do major Bleep up before wey I no end relationship. E shock am!

Mariangeles:
The question is, how did you get to that point, that level of disrespect?
It depends on how you carried yourself around them [the family].

Even tolerating disrespect from a partner is wrong, and has nothing to do with love.

You should not have stood up from where you were seated in the first place, when she beckoned for you to come.
When no be say na your mama.

You must be a jeje guy sha.

What you tolerate will determine how people respect you.

pappilo:
Disrespect/No regard

Whilst I can handle/take disrespect from the person I am seeing, one must properly deal with any disrespect from their family member immediately otherwise you go still meet am for front.

I am 12 years older than my ex. She is 2 years older than her sister. Whenever we are together with her sister na so she go dey send me message, dey take hand call me.

Let me give an example. We were all together on holiday and I was in a hotel lobby chatting with the said sisters husband. Na so the girl dey take hand beckon me, I pointed to her husband and shook her head and she motioned for both of us. Na so we waka go meet she and my ex. The girl then said to me and her husband "go and bring down our suitcases from the room". This wasnt her first time but this was the worst one. Me wey I get bad mouth but I have always held my tongue. I later complained to my ex yet again.

It happened again just over a month ago at a party and because I didnt want to cause no drama I waited till we go home and told my ex that she should tell her sister that the next time she talks to me like that I will slap her.

Omo see voltron. My ex defended her sister. She was not even having it dey shout ontop my head say if him sister dey disrespect their papa, who I be wey dem no fit disrespect. Na so I know say that relationship don finish. I will take some disrespect from the person I am seeing because that come a with the territory but you see from family members especially when you cosign it. That will never fly

ravensckar:
Of all the things I read today, this your own touched my soul.

Bros, you really went through a lot in that relationship o.

Eeeehhhh? On top wetin? My sister in-law, send me message? Or disrespect me in any way? Na that day thunder wey get lapalapa go strike her.


#Picks_tooth

Threedoorsdown:
Nothing irritate me pass that calling any guy pet names. My love, babe,.....nonsense

writetopoker:
Ever getting close to a lady who have more of male companions and love sitting out with different men and claims they are just friends

Dmthreads:
Mine was poor communication. Anytime there was an issue, they would either go completely silent or avoid the conversation until I was the one apologizing just to restore peace. I dismissed it as "they just need space." Later, I realized you can't build a healthy relationship with someone who refuses to communicate. Problems don't disappear because they're ignored—they only grow bigger. That was a red flag I wish I had taken seriously from the beginning.

vick00:
I don't know why I have never been in more than 2 relationship all my life. I only care about how I will eat and live a better life. Do you think it is normal?? I'm 27

Oisagbai78:
Converted to Christian, met her in the church. Thought she had really changed. Her real character showed when we eventually Married. Note, I am not a religious Bigot.
Secondly, She was a homely girl that her parents abandoned for years due to the nature of their Jobs. Father was a Federal Government worker that wasn't in Lagos for years, her Mum was always with her husband anywhere her was transferred. I thought I would change this, but it really showed in her behavior. This loneliness affected our communication. Thank God the rest is history now. We are divorced and I have since remarried and enjoying my wife now!

Demigod22:
Boundaries. Dating someone that doesn't know where to draw the line. Every guy celebrating birthday must be on her status with poem. She can call any guy my love because they are just words. Cooking for other guys, not knowing when to cut another guy off because she doesn't understand boundaries.

Entitlement. He must pay for my house rent, buy me a new phone, give me allowance, do this for me or do that for me.

Single mother, this is subjective. However, no matter how good a woman is, as long as she's a single Mom, I am not doing.

IamOrei:
Do u have money?
are u doing well financially?
i was like that too when i was ur age but things changed when i began to be financially ok; no serios man will think of woman when he's still chasing the bag, so, NOTHING IS WORNG WITH U BRO

pappilo:
Disrespect/No regard

Whilst I can handle/take disrespect from the person I am seeing, one must properly deal with any disrespect from their family member immediately otherwise you go still meet am for front.

I am 12 years older than my ex. She is 2 years older than her sister. Whenever we are together with her sister na so she go dey send me message, dey take hand call me.

Let me give an example. We were all together on holiday and I was in a hotel lobby chatting with the said sisters husband. Na so the girl dey take hand beckon me, I pointed to her husband and shook her head and she motioned for both of us. Na so we waka go meet she and my ex. The girl then said to me and her husband "go and bring down our suitcases from the room". This wasnt her first time but this was the worst one. Me wey I get bad mouth but I have always held my tongue. I later complained to my ex yet again.

It happened again just over a month ago at a party and because I didnt want to cause no drama I waited till we go home and told my ex that she should tell her sister that the next time she talks to me like that I will slap her.

Omo see voltron. My ex defended her sister. She was not even having it dey shout ontop my head say if him sister dey disrespect their papa, who I be wey dem no fit disrespect. Na so I know say that relationship don finish. I will take some disrespect from the person I am seeing because that come a with the territory but you see from family members especially when you cosign it. That will never fly

vick00:
Actually, I'm not rich but at least I'm sustaining myself I will be able to start a family if want to but anytime, I get the big bag, my mind shifts totally away from woman, all I do is go and try different foods like going to Chinese restaurants and and going to lodge in a good apartments and I always do this alone without having any desire to take any lady with me. It is not that I have feeling towards woman, don't get me wrong. But anytime I get big bag I don't think about women until I'm don't have much left.

Tooh... u will get over it anyway, its just a matter of time

VenExchangee:
I was into one girl, she came to visit, time to go, I called bike man, the bike man said he wants to cook If he should come now or later after cooking, I asked the girl she didn't say anything then I told the bike man to come, when he came, she told me to tell him to go back, which I did but after 4 mins he said I should tell him to come, I pleaded with the bike man, after he dropped her, that was the last day I spoke to her, picked her call or reply her chat, na this morning I block her for Whatsapp

IamOrei:
WHY?
What exactly is the problem u foresaw in this?

TheMensch:
How can I be a very wicked person abeg?

Toktee:
When it comes to seex she seems not to like it and kept giving excuses that we should waite till marriage ....I believed her but after marriage it's now worst.

VenExchangee:
Copy and paste in chatgpt make e show you the problem

Manaty2nice:
Omoh, you have gone to marry red flag oh..🤔
That is Avoidant Attachment in her.

Meaning, someone who shys away from attention and affection.

Auntychi:
The "no close friends" one is so underrated. I dated someone who framed it as "I've just always been a lone wolf, I don't need a big circle." Felt flattering at first, like I was special. Turned out there was no big circle because he'd burned through it — and eventually I became the only person he had to direct all his moods at, good and bad. No one else around to dilute it or call it out.

Auntychi:
The "no close friends" one is so underrated. I dated someone who framed it as "I've just always been a lone wolf, I don't need a big circle." Felt flattering at first, like I was special. Turned out there was no big circle because he'd burned through it — and eventually I became the only person he had to direct all his moods at, good and bad. No one else around to dilute it or call it out.