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Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Babatunjo(op): 11:27am On Aug 24

A lot of Nigerian men confuse spending with game.

Money. Gifts. Hair money. Fancy dates. Surprise transfers. 😂

And yes, spending can get you a woman. Let's not pretend otherwise.

But there's a difference between a woman wanting you and wanting the benefits of being with you.

She's giving you cold energy, you send money.

She's pulling away, you buy a bigger gift.

She's not excited about you, you upgrade the date.

My brother, you're not necessarily increasing attraction. You may just be increasing the benefits of keeping you around. 😂

What makes a woman genuinely want you is deeper than spending. Your backbone. Your decisiveness. Your self-respect. That subtle masculine energy of a man who wants her but doesn't lose himself because of her.

Call it spine, balls, testosterone, whatever you like.

Spend on her if you want. Romance her. Enjoy your money together. But let the attraction be there first.

Money can amplify attraction.

It can even buy access.

But you cannot negotiate genuine desire.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by HopeNeverDies(m): 1:14pm On Aug 24

Chief... You're right lol ... Harshest truth tho💔

Spending lavishly on a banny doesn't make her love you. In fact, just make sure the attraction is from here 100%

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Anabosee(m): 1:40pm On Aug 24

Spend on a woman, pipe her and stop spending on her, case close.
The economy don make almost every woman easily accessible through money that's a fact people are ignoring.
20 years ago it was never like this, people loved genuinely.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Kriximpecable: 2:12pm On Aug 24

Anabosee:
Spend on a woman, pipe her and stop spending on her, case close.
The economy don make almost every woman easily accessible through money that's a fact people are ignoring.
20 years ago it was never like this, people loved genuinely.

This has always been my mindset too but most times I’m scared because these women are wise you might finish spending heavily on them and they start giving you attitude and run which makes it difficult for you to Pound them. So how do you do yours so you can pipe them immediately after spending

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Babatunjo(op): 3:16pm On Aug 24

Kriximpecable:
This has always been my mindset too but most times I’m scared because these women are wise you might finish spending heavily on them and they start giving you attitude and run which makes it difficult for you to Pound them. So how do you do yours so you can pipe them immediately after spending

Bro, that's exactly the point of the thread. 😂

If you're asking how much to spend so you can "pipe her immediately", you're still trying to buy with money what you should be building in yourself.

Balls and backbone cost nothing. Just knowledge, practice and self-respect.

Spend because you genuinely want to spend. If she already likes you and the attraction is mutual, you don't need to purchase the outcome.

And trust me, when she genuinely wants you too, e sweet pass the one wey you negotiate with your wallet. 😂

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Anabosee(m): 5:28am On Aug 25

Kriximpecable:
This has always been my mindset too but most times I’m scared because these women are wise you might finish spending heavily on them and they start giving you attitude and run which makes it difficult for you to Pound them. So how do you do yours so you can pipe them immediately after spending

Depends on the type of girl, some you can be blunt with them, some you can act uninterested in intimacy and they will want to have you by all means.etc

Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by bigpriik: 8:36am On Aug 25

Women want to date or marry a rich guy not a guy that has money to spend una never understand the logic,broke guys spend more on women that rich guys .
Mr op you underestimate the power of money over Nigerian girls maybe you are inexperienced.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Babatunjo(op): 1:26pm On Aug 25

bigpriik:
Women want to date or marry a rich guy not a guy that has money to spend una never understand the logic,broke guys spend more on women that rich guys .
Mr op you underestimate the power of money over Nigerian girls maybe you are inexperienced.

It's just like saying, "Do you underestimate the power of a woman's sex over a man?"

Of course money has power. So does sex.

But if she's mainly there because of the money, she's using you.

Same way we guys know that if you're mainly keeping a woman around because of the sex you're getting, you're using her too.

That's the whole point. Don't confuse using each other with genuinely wanting each other.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Portiphaaa: 10:20am On Aug 26

Do they even know what they want??

Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Gotocourt: 10:20am On Aug 26

Just pretend to be responsible and be piping her on the low with a touch of i love you cheesy

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by SmartMaster001: 10:25am On Aug 26

I pity guys with their poor mentality of making money in order to attract women. Money just amplifies genuine love. Better ask her from the onset, if the money vanishes will she still love you? Otherwise you go see wonders.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by fasho01(m): 10:29am On Aug 26

A lot of Nigerian men confuse spending with game

This here is the crux of the matter

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by EdiskyHarry: 10:42am On Aug 26

Men are always discussing about women, why? Everywhere on FB, tiktok and Instagram most topics from Men are "how to see a good wife" how to know if she's playing you" how to know if she's a virgin" this and that.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Emeskhalifa(m): 10:46am On Aug 26

I agree but my money will bring her to the bed at least. Besides, show me one Nigerian girl wey no like money? Just one

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by GenFunction: 10:47am On Aug 26

Women no Dey marry who them love,na who Dey ready to provide them Dey marry.
Most of you might not marry who love you and
Most of you might marry who no love you

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by SonOfDSoil01: 10:50am On Aug 26

Babatunjo:
A lot of Nigerian men confuse spending with game.

Money. Gifts. Hair money. Fancy dates. Surprise transfers. 😂

And yes, spending can get you a woman. Let's not pretend otherwise.

But there's a difference between a woman wanting you and wanting the benefits of being with you.

She's giving you cold energy, you send money.

She's pulling away, you buy a bigger gift.

She's not excited about you, you upgrade the date.

My brother, you're not necessarily increasing attraction. You may just be increasing the benefits of keeping you around. 😂

What makes a woman genuinely want you is deeper than spending. Your backbone. Your decisiveness. Your self-respect. That subtle masculine energy of a man who wants her but doesn't lose himself because of her.

Call it spine, balls, testosterone, whatever you like.

Spend on her if you want. Romance her. Enjoy your money together. But let the attraction be there first.

Money can amplify attraction.

It can even buy access.

But you cannot negotiate genuine desire.

very Apt…..the attraction needs to be there even though money places a major role in oiling the wheels of any relationship and that’s why their is need to strike a balance and use your head as man in dealing with the opposite sex.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by runningriot: 10:58am On Aug 26

Volume it up... Women are never submissive to financial needs but emotional needs. Their impulse works with emotional intimacy than anything. They are programmed and wired to look at any man that buys them gifts and give them money to be a weakling... I am not only speaking out of experience from others but this testimony is from someone who witnessed the said situation. My female close confidant, relations, friends and even one of my ex told me that! Apparently, they are more insecure and loyal to the heart that proves they are not their priority. Take it to the bank your gifts might be repackage for another month... So know that if you give your woman money and gifts she might love you because of it and even sharing with another man however, try and see not to give her all those things and see her reaction of her true love in you.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Kolainvest: 11:01am On Aug 26

This is for broke people who think they have money. If you have proper money and composure, without spending a dime, you would see good girls that want you like they are giving their soul to you.
They might have some crazy fantasy in their head or they might hope you’d like them after sometime so they enjoy your lifestyle with you. Even though you haven’t promised anything, they give it all for moments with your person.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Frakintayo(m): 11:03am On Aug 26

Whether you like it or not. Money will win you 95% of Nigerian women's heart. Nigerian women detest being broke.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Love800(m): 11:03am On Aug 26

You are very correct. Nobody either male or female is marrying because of love.
They are just being attracted(artificial love).

GenFunction:
Women no Dey marry who them love,na who Dey ready to provide them Dey marry.
Most of you might not marry who love you and
Most of you might marry who no love you

Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by dechriz(m): 11:10am On Aug 26

Most people have the wrong framework.

They will be like, "The more I spend on her, the more she loves me."

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by LordLicifer(m): 11:13am On Aug 26

Yea, nonsense! women nowadays don't care about attraction, attraction without money is just a myth, you will be posing and waiting for attraction some ugeeleee old bald head with money will nyash all the women including your girlfriend or wife. I stopped looking for attraction since i became able to afford women financially.

Believe it or not.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Love800(m): 11:13am On Aug 26

Just make sure you enjoy, update, invest on yourself and not her. Throwaway her opinions dat is contrary with you. Be ur original self, but make sure you do ur responsibilities as required by the society, family, earthly duties.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Omalicious1: 11:17am On Aug 26

Babatunjo:
A lot of Nigerian men confuse spending with game.

Money. Gifts. Hair money. Fancy dates. Surprise transfers. 😂

And yes, spending can get you a woman. Let's not pretend otherwise.

But there's a difference between a woman wanting you and wanting the benefits of being with you.

She's giving you cold energy, you send money.

She's pulling away, you buy a bigger gift.

She's not excited about you, you upgrade the date.

My brother, you're not necessarily increasing attraction. You may just be increasing the benefits of keeping you around. 😂

What makes a woman genuinely want you is deeper than spending. Your backbone. Your decisiveness. Your self-respect. That subtle masculine energy of a man who wants her but doesn't lose himself because of her.

Call it spine, balls, testosterone, whatever you like.

Spend on her if you want. Romance her. Enjoy your money together. But let the attraction be there first.

Money can amplify attraction.

It can even buy access.

But you cannot negotiate genuine desire.

A wealthy woman once told me that money only attracts broken women, and a broken woman would drain and ruin you without you even knowing, and she won't be sorry about it.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Fiscus105(m): 11:21am On Aug 26*

Kriximpecable:
This has always been my mindset too but most times I’m scared because these women are wise you might finish spending heavily on them and they start giving you attitude and run which makes it difficult for you to Pound them. So how do you do yours so you can pipe them immediately after spending

Go for ladies who like you for what/who you be, and not amount of money you want to dish out, that's why many of you enter toxic relationship, ITS NOT A MUST YOU SLEEP WITH EVERY WOMAN YOU SEE ON THE ROAD, money shouldn't be the first condition you put forward to date woman, but the last, just to make the relationship beautiful.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by LIVINGICONREBOR: 11:28am On Aug 26

LordLicifer:
Yea, nonsense! women nowadays don't care about attraction, attraction without money is just a myth, you will be posing and waiting for attraction some ugeeleee old bald head with money will nyash all the women including your girlfriend or wife. I stopped looking for attraction since i became able to afford women financially.

Believe it or not.

So many loopholes in your comment. Money!! Money!! Money!!. What happens when the "money" is gone? Cos often times than not, it will happen. Nothing beats raw primal genuine attraction/desire.
When I was in the "world" those so called women of rich men, nah my abode we dey fire down.
You must build yourself in such a way money becomes just an "addendum" in the grand scheme of things.🥱🥱

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by Fiscus105(m): 11:29am On Aug 26*

Frakintayo:
Whether you like it or not. Money will win you 95% of Nigerian women's heart. Nigerian women detest being broke.

The 95%, is it you, they want or your money? Go back and read what Op said and place it side by side with your point.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by CalmElder(m): 11:33am On Aug 26

Sometimes, you use money because you have to cure konji and not, necessarily because you want love.

It's not everyone that has the time and patience for women in the time we're in.

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Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by techWriter001: 11:33am On Aug 26

Definitely! It’s about the basics – a little investment in them happiness.

Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by GenFunction: 11:40am On Aug 26

Love800:
You are very correct. Nobody either male or female is marrying because of love.
They are just being attracted(artificial love).

I swr bro
No be child’s o
Naija ways

Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by AlabiKILLER2023: 11:49am On Aug 26

Kriximpecable:
This has always been my mindset too but most times I’m scared because these women are wise you might finish spending heavily on them and they start giving you attitude and run which makes it difficult for you to Pound them. So how do you do yours so you can pipe them immediately after spending

You sounds like a jew man

As a guy wey dey get am clear in this Tinubu economy

You can pipe 10 girls a day if you like

It's not debatable
Women hardly fend for them selves
They depend on men

Re: Men Get This Wrong: Your Money Won't Make Her Want You by AlabiKILLER2023: 11:53am On Aug 26

SmartMaster001:
I pity guys with their poor mentality of making money in order to attract women. Money just amplifies genuine love. Better ask her from the onset, if the money vanishes will she still love you? Otherwise you go see wonders.

Not everybody's looking for who to love em

Some of us just want to pipe em girls
And move on the next girl

You need money to live that kind of life style

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