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"I go remain single?" — Military lady laments as civilians fear approaching her

A military lady has expressed frustration over what she described as civilians being too afraid to approach or speak to her whenever they see her.

The military lady said she was confused by the way people interacted with her, claiming that many civilians appeared hesitant to speak to her casually.

She suggested that instead of simply greeting her or calling her by her name, people often addressed her formally as “ma” or “officer”

Military lady questions civilians’ behaviour
Sharing her thoughts, the military lady wondered whether the situation could affect her chances of finding a romantic partner.

The military lady said, “I don’t know what to talk at this point because I’m very confused. I don’t know why some Civilians will see me and be afraid to approach me and be afraid to talk to me.”

She expressed further frustration over the formal greetings she receives, saying, “Una no fit say hi mama or call me by my name. Everytime Good morning ma, Good morning ma, or officer, who be officer?”

The woman appeared to be jokingly encouraging people to feel more comfortable around her, particularly those interested in starting a relationship.

She added, “Una no fit say mama can I have your number or can you be my girlfriend? Why una dey do me like this?”

Military uniform and dating concerns spark discussion
The military lady’s comments highlight the perception of authority that can sometimes make civilians hesitant to approach people in uniform, even in ordinary social situations.

Her humorous complaint about remaining single also adds a relationship angle to the conversation, as she questioned why potential admirers appeared reluctant to express their interest.

The remarks have drawn attention for their relatable and light-hearted take on the challenges some people may face when trying to approach someone they perceive as intimidating.

The military lady did not indicate that she had identified any particular civilian responsible for the behaviour she described.

I can't be a civilian in my own matrimonial home.

Make you misbehave make i come dey fear to correct you. pic.twitter.com/PNUridE9wK

— ÓMÒÉLÉRÍNJÁRÉ (@omoelerinjare) August 28, 2026

Are you truly single madam sojo?

Abi you dey find a civilian boyfriend wey your male military superiors go use do frog jump for the rest of him life?

Nonsense!

Just admit say you dey find spare boyfriend.....You know your real boyfriends.

Nobody get time for nonsense for this country again.

She is already in position of power being a soldier. It will take a man with guts or her colleague in the Army to date her. The reason is simple, power never submit so since she is in a position of power, she will need a more powerful man to make her submit. Not too many guys is ready for that power struggle rodeo.

Solders that are more testy than incel, you can't find one willing to settle down with you. What do they know that civilians don't know? 🚩☠️

Make she approach them nah

Who wan follow Major dey drag babe nau?

General’s meat..

The girl is pretty

Na the wahala that comes with this kind babe nine some men dey avoid

She may be sent to a distance location

One oga for army or one normal military guy fit eye her and decide to deal with the bl**dy civilian when dey follow am drag girl

That na why them dey leave food for the gods to chop

Make oga come shoot me

People are not afraid to approach you,the only fear is whether you are service provider to the top brasses.Nigerians understood the recruitment processes into the military.

stoicgod:
She is already in position of power being a soldier. It will take a man with guts or her colleague in the Army to date her. The reason is simple, power never submit so since she is in a position of power, she will need a more powerful man to make her submit. Not too many guys is ready for that power struggle rodeo.

Many guys like myself are ready to submit to her but their problem is that they'll be pretending to be submissive and end up marrying men who wouldn't submit to them. Afterwards they'll now start struggling for power and control with the men when they should have plainly married submissive guys and enjoy their marriages.

i been think say them belong to top commanders

As commander side chick, if civilian no approach you, you self approach them.

Commander no go later marry you o, so you better approach that bludy civilian.

She should socialize na.. you can't sit on high horse and be blaming guys for keeping distance.

That uniform is a dirty one. I will talk to you if you're a US soldier Dey your dey!

Not a big deal, majority of us in this generation will end up single.

Honestly, the competition is fierce. It’s a simple, elegant battle for dominance.

This story na every year? Four years running now, front page.

I dont blame men that avoid them....women are abusive and love taking advantage of their position to intimidate the weak ... she will hurt u and still.treat u like crap .. u will hurt her , she will call her colleagues that are simps to still deal with u... its a loss loss situation...women wey nonde take correction or accept accountability

When I'm not mad... I can't date a Nigerian military female officer.. They always have a point to argue and they're very violent..

Name one thing a military lady has that other ladies don't have. That I will now risk my peace of mind to date her.

Tell us the truth, you are looking for someone you will mishandle, that voice is the type of voice of punishment you guys use when you are trying to deal with civilians, no be me and you, if you mishandle me, who will I tell the story of my life that won't blame me for marrying a military lady

Since she refers to everyone else as "civilians", she should marry a fellow military man. Make both of them dey wake eachother with "Shun".

Leave the "civilians" alone for other "civilians", your types full warfronts and many of them are still single. Whats your business with "civilians"?

AcadaWriter0:
Honestly, the competition is fierce. It’s a simple, elegant battle for dominance.

Why are you COOKING this account and monika? 🤔

Are you preparing to use it to commit a nefarious activity here soon?

Your post pattern is consistent with the MO I'm watching 👀

We are not interested please.

Men who are afraid to toast a military lady are not men enough.
I don date a military and police girls before
The date I toasted the military girl she was on her uniform and I excused her politely and took her unaware cos she wasn't expected me to have such audacity. As a guy man I teased her and conversation begin and then we share contacts.

She's food for her Senior ogas in the military

Shey they've banned Military personnel for social media engagement. Sacking loading

What was she doing at 22
Not taking relationships serious ?
Joke