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Good afternoon everyone.

A friend introduced me to a lady. We chatted, vibed well, and agreed to meet on Sunday.
Then out of nowhere, she sent a voice note saying she was planning to buy a new phone, had 150k already, and would be 'happy' if I could assist with 40k.
I told her no problem, but she'd have to come to my place to collect it.
She refused. Said she wants to 'study me first' before anything physical.
I reached out to my friend who connected us he told me to abort mission. That the lady isn't serious, just after money.
Now she's been bombarding me with calls and messages since yesterday.

Did I do wrong by inviting her over? Or did I dodge a bullet?

Why didn't you ask if you can be paying her installmentally. That way, she will wait longer

Is 40k economical for one visit?

No, you dodged a bomb omooba

Na nuclear bomb you dodge lol . If a relationship begins with demonstrating your ability to meet her financial needs, it will likely continue in that manner, throughout the relationship. Plus, what is the guarantee the date will even go well to justify a 40k ‘relationship investment’?

"Did I dodge a bullet?"

Did you not say that men were walking away from women to "peace of mind" recently?

So, what is this?

Solofresh2:
➜Good afternoon everyone. A friend introduced me to a lady. We chatted, vibed well, and agreed to meet on Sunday.
Then out of nowhere, she sent a voice note saying she was planning to buy a new phone, had 150k already, and would be 'happy' if I could assist with 40k. I told her no problem, but she'd have to come to my place to collect it. She refused. Said she wants to 'study me first' before anything physical. I reached out to my friend who connected us he told me to abort mission. That the lady isn't serious, just after money.
Now she's been bombarding me with calls and messages since yesterday. Did I do wrong by inviting her over? Or did I dodge a bullet?

What bullet? She merely let you know from the get-go that you were not her type or league! That you had to contact your friend to decide whether to abort the mission speaks volumes about your intelligence!😒😒

When you go around looking for bullets to dodge, you only insult yourself! Show yourself the respect you think you deserve first; then you wouldn't have to keep running into women sending this disrespect your way from the get-go. 😒😒

Truly you dodged a bullet, and also you are so ignorant and simpish, otherwise why will you tell her to come over physically before you could give her the 40k? Meaning you already had it in mind to give her the 40k if she had come over. Nonsense

RealityKings1:
Why didn't you ask if you can be paying her installmentally. That way, she will wait longer

You want me to pay installmentally for a woman I haven't even met?

Solofresh2:
You want me to pay installmentally for a woman I haven't even met?

You can draft a payment pattern for her now.
Tag it awaiting girlfriend allowance

Mariangeles:
"Did I dodge a bullet?"

Did you not say that men were walking away from women to "peace of mind" recently?

So, what is this?

I dodged. I walked. I kept my peace. That's the whole point of the thread

Solofresh2:
I dodged. I walked. I kept my peace. That's the whole point of the thread

You shouldn't have gone in the first place, going by your words.

You went back on your word. And will still go back.

Kobojunkie:
What bullet? She merely let you know from the get-go that you were not her type or league! That you had to contact your friend to decide whether to abort the mission speaks volumes about your intelligence!😒😒

When you go around looking for bullets to dodge, you only insult yourself! Show yourself the respect you think you deserve first; then you wouldn't have to keep running into women sending this disrespect your way from the get-go. 😒😒

So asking for 40k before a first date is now 'letting me know I'm not her type'?
If I wasn't her type, she wouldn't have been blowing up my phone after I said no.
· She was interested just not in me. In my money
Contacting my friend about it doesn't mean I haven't made a personal decision

Olayinka8793:
Truly you dodged a bullet, and also you are so ignorant and simpish, otherwise why will you tell her to come over physically before you could give her the 40k? Meaning you already had it in mind to give her the 40k if she had come over. Nonsense

I deliberately told her to come over.Not to give her the 40k but to give her the lesson of her life

Mariangeles:
You shouldn't have gone in the first place, going by your words.

You went back on your word. And will still go back.

You're trying to catch me in a contradiction , but there's none. I didn't break my rule I applied it. Peace first, always


I like the way you are moderating this romance section too
You are doing a great job 👍

Solofresh2:
➜So asking for 40k before a first date is now 'letting me know I'm not her type'?
➜ If I wasn't her type, she wouldn't have been blowing up my phone after I said no. · She was interested just not in me. In my money
➜ Contacting my friend about it doesn't mean I haven't made a personal decision

1. Read your own narrative for clues. 😒😒

2. WOW... Nigerian boys remain gullible still! The first thing a woman did was ask you for money... You say no... and then walked off, taking her blowing up your phone afterwards to mean she was interested in you all along. OMGosh! 🙄🙄🙄

3. You all deserve the kind of treatment you keep getting from those women. Make I no interrupt, abeg! 😒😒

Kobojunkie:
1. Read your own narrative for clues. 😒😒

2. WOW... Nigerian boys remain gullible still! The first thing a woman did was ask you for money... You say no... and then walked off, taking her blowing up your phone afterwards to mean she was interested in you all along. OMGosh! 🙄🙄🙄

3. You all deserve the kind of treatment you keep getting from those women. Make I no interrupt, abeg! 😒😒

You're twisting it to fit your narrative.
I didn't say her blowing up my phone meant she was interested in ME,I said it meant she was interested in the MONEY. Big difference. Read carefully.
Saying"You all deserve the treatment" is a classic deflection and It's not new to me.You women blame men for being used instead of blaming the women using them and lastly,If asking for 40k before a first date is normal to you, then we have nothing to discuss

Solofresh2:
➜ You're twisting it to fit your narrative. I didn't say her blowing up my phone meant she was interested in ME,I said it meant she was interested in the MONEY. Big difference. Read carefully.
➜ Saying"You all deserve the treatment" is a classic deflection and It's not new to me.
➜ You women blame men for being used instead of blaming the women using them and lastly,If asking for 40k before a first date is normal to you, then we have nothing to discuss

. My mistake! So, you knew she wasn't interested in you but in the money, but still had to consult your friend to know whether or not to avoid her? 😒😒

2. No deflection at all! A woman is not to blame when a man refuses to heed the warning signs before his eyes in a relationship. She asks you for money immediately, letting you know she is not interested in you but in the money. And that is not enough evidence that she is not for you? That becomes a skill issue on your part -- not that woman's fault. 😒😒

3. The same way men expect women to know to bail if a man demands sex right after(or even before) a first date is the same way a man needs to know a woman is not interested in him if she asks for money right after(or before) a first date. Suggesting women should be at fault for your lack of social intelligence is ludicrous! 😒😒

Kobojunkie:
. My mistake! So, you knew she wasn't interested in you but in the money, but still had to consult your friend to know whether or not to avoid her? 😒😒

2. No deflection at all! A woman is not to blame when a man refuses to heed the warning signs before his eyes in a relationship. She asks you for money immediately, letting you know she is not interested in you but in the money. And that is not enough evidence that she is not for you? That becomes a skill issue on your part -- not that woman's fault. 😒😒

3. The same way men expect women to know to bail if a man demands sex right after(or even before) a first date is the same way a man needs to know a woman is not interested in him if she asks for money right after(or before) a first date. Suggesting women should be at fault for your lack of social intelligence is ludicrous! 😒😒

You're arguing against a point I never made
1. I didn't say she wasn't interested at all.I said she was interested in the money FIRST. That's the problem. I consulted my friend to confirm what I already suspected.That's not weakness that's verification.

2. "A woman is not to blame when a man refuses to heed warning signs" And I DID heed them. I walked. That's literally what happened. So what exactly are you blaming me for?

3. And as for the "Skill issue" The skill is walking away early. Which I did. So where's the issue?

Solofresh2:
You're trying to catch me in a contradiction , but there's none. I didn't break my rule I applied it. Peace first, always


I like the way you are moderating this romance section too
You are doing a great job 👍

I am happy she's a moderator too. She is very okay for the position 😊

Solofresh2:
You're arguing against a point I never made
1. I didn't say she wasn't interested at all.I said she was interested in the money FIRST. That's the problem. I consulted my friend to confirm what I already suspected. That's not weakness that's verification.
2. "A woman is not to blame when a man refuses to heed warning signs" And I DID heed them. I walked. That's literally what happened. So what exactly are you blaming me for?
3. And as for the "Skill issue" The skill is walking away early. Which I did. So where's the issue?

1. She was interested in money. You knew this, yet still had to consult your friend? And you don't see how that is immediately a weakness? 😒😒

2. Not according to you! You had to consult your friend, and you want us to believe that is some sort of strength on your part. 😒

3. The skill issue here is your confessed inability to confirm warning signs without first needing to consult your friend!😒😒

SeeWahala:
I am happy she's a moderator too. She is very okay for the position 😊

Exactly

Kobojunkie:
1. She was interested in money. You knew this, yet still had to consult your friend? And you don't see how that is immediately a weakness? 😒😒

2. Not according to you! You had to consult your friend, and you want us to believe that is some sort of strength on your part. 😒

3. The skill issue here is your confessed inability to confirm warning signs without needing your friend's say! 😒😒

You're really stretching to make this a 'weakness.'
1. Consulting a friend isn't weakness,it's wisdom. Even generals have advisors. Only fools rush in alone

2. I already knew the answer. I just confirmed it. That's called due diligence not insecurity

3. You're mocking me for seeking counsel, but if I had ignored my friend and got used, you'd be mocking me for that too.

Of course! Absolutely delightful. So wonderfully witty.

Solofresh2:
I deliberately told her to come over.Not to give her the 40k but to give her the lesson of her life

lie. You wan beat her or lambast her with insults as a form of giving her the lesson of her life? Somebody you would have given silent treatment or reply her directly to about how inappropriate her request for an urgent 40k is?

Solofresh2:
So asking for 40k before a first date is now 'letting me know I'm not her type'?
If I wasn't her type, she wouldn't have been blowing up my phone after I said no.
· She was interested just not in me. In my money
Contacting my friend about it doesn't mean I haven't made a personal decision

Leave that yeye lady, that one no dey think well oo

Olayinka8793:
lie. You wan beat her or lambast her with insults as a form of giving her the lesson of her life? Somebody you would have given silent treatment or reply her directly to about how inappropriate her request for an urgent 40k is?

He wanted to knack her and dump her without giving her the money.. that's the way to teach her the lesson of her life

Solofresh2:
You're really stretching to make this a 'weakness.'
1. Consulting a friend isn't weakness,it's wisdom. Even generals have advisors. Only fools rush in alone

2. I already knew the answer. I just confirmed it. That's called due diligence not insecurity

3. You're mocking me for seeking counsel, but if I had ignored my friend and got used, you'd be mocking me for that too.

U get strength for this back and forth woman oooo

spiceadole:
➜ He wanted to knack her and dump her without giving her the money.. that's the way to teach her the lesson of her life

You mean rape her?😒😒

She ought also to have aborted mission when he told her to come and meet him in his bedroom to collect the 40k.

Solofresh2:
Good afternoon everyone.

A friend introduced me to a lady. We chatted, vibed well, and agreed to meet on Sunday.
Then out of nowhere, she sent a voice note saying she was planning to buy a new phone, had 150k already, and would be 'happy' if I could assist with 40k.
I told her no problem, but she'd have to come to my place to collect it.
She refused. Said she wants to 'study me first' before anything physical.
I reached out to my friend who connected us he told me to abort mission. That the lady isn't serious, just after money.
Now she's been bombarding me with calls and messages since yesterday.

Did I do wrong by inviting her over? Or did I dodge a bullet?

Bro please can you check your dm??