madam I can feel ur pain.
I quite understand you to some xtend, ur love for the guy and the future you see and blive you have in him, mak u stick to him, hardly can we find this kind of ladies dis days, I salute you dear.
all you are saying is all abt him, for for we guys to learn from your xperience, pple say mist girls are after money in any relationship, bt come to think of it, without money things will not jst go the way we all wnt it to be. my dear I can only advise you to continue helping the guy and lift him up, despite he has no money ti carter for himself nw n u as well, yet he will av one or two positive side. and who knows if you decide to leave for a rich guys, wat abt d oda side of the rich guy, the source of his wealth n d likes.
only GOD knws tomorrow
thot you deserve better my sister, bt God will surely reward you in multiple folds, only few ladies can spend deir money on guys, if d return is nt at least x5 of wat dey are getting fr the same guy

Jenams: u r nt married to him hence ur nt his responsibility! Ur parents shud be blamed for ur pitiably poor predicament! get a job n take ur mind off his salary, is he workin for u? #nonsense

Thats how it starts. soon when he marries her and continue the same stingy act people will ask the lady if he was like that when they wete dating
It's not a crime to be broke but it is more annoying when a guy is broke and lazy or rich, stingy and avoids responsibility.
I dont have to be married to a guy to notice he can't shoulder his responsibility. Most stingy guys even act like that towards their own family.

loswhite: are your friends not enjoying the bleeping? Are your friends taking care of the thing dat does the bleeping? If no, y then do you expect the bleeper to take care of the bleeped

OMG! This made my day. Lolssss

Ilovenigeria:
Thats how it starts. soon when he marries her and continue the same stingy act people will ask the lady if he was like that when they wete dating
It's not a crime to be broke but it is more annoying when a guy is broke and lazy or rich, stingy and avoids responsibility.
I dont have to be married to a guy to notice he can't shoulder his responsibility. Most stingy guys even act like that towards their own family.

Lol, you kept hammering about stingy, broke, money, blablabla...what about you? what do you contribute to the relationships. this sense of entitlement you girls display is quite annoying. your boyfriends don't owe you any anything.

OP (OlamiB) There are some annoying truths in ur posts, buh there are some egregious faults..
u might wanna believe you in love with ur bf, but i tell u what, trust me, ur lying to urself, deep down when u see him, u would be disgusted by his guts, and what if he sees this? well..
if u really do love him and not in haste to drop him at any available window of opportunity, u wont make ur bf an outright example.
Also, i do believe a man's gotta be a man, he needs to have some money to spend on his woman if not even just fancy spendings, he needs to be able to provide, i have a couple broke friends, and i tell u, they are a burden to even me.
Am not saying am rich or anything, buh i would say am okay financially buh i would never date a broke girl, they just take from u and dont add to you, no one wants that.
Am sure u heard this song by chris brown 'Hos aint loyal' and coming from a dang rich guy he pointed out he would never date a broke girl in that song (i can make a broke b**tch rich, buh i never date a broke b**tch).. though its hiphop, buh there are still some sense in it.
I think girls need to start bn not all bout the money, money is really fucking important damn right, am a feminist, and when i see these kinda posts coming from ladies i feel disappointed okay? instead of complaining/lamenting, why cant u support him?
All am going to say to you is this, u know u wanna dump him, pls just do and stop bn in some obvious denial, if u really do love him, slug ur guts out and make him rich, afterall the sole purpose of rships/marriages is for two ppl to become one, so compliment him, and treat his shortcomings like urs and take responsibility too.
In General, if the female gender wants some gender equality in this society, they need to make something of themselves too and not act like its about the guy, make money and help him, be a human being and dont act like ur his property.

Kennedyiheme: look the dreams most guys is hve is really big, he mite get rich smeday, in america girls dnt realy care abt money, why are africans this dead in tinkin....

Shut up! why is Kim Kardashian with Kanye West, Beyonce with Jay-z and others..... Women like money, did I say like? Love money., which serves as a security for them.

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debrihachi:
Lol. ...If wishes were horses

Broke nigga lik ur BF wil ride on it...

Ilovenigeria:
Thats how it starts. soon when he marries her and continue the same stingy act people will ask the lady if he was like that when they wete dating
It's not a crime to be broke but it is more annoying when a guy is broke and lazy or rich, stingy and avoids responsibility.
I dont have to be married to a guy to notice he can't shoulder his responsibility. Most stingy guys even act like that towards their own family.

Act like that towards his family so as to give it to you, abi?

So y u come dey lament all over NL, y u de open the guy a$$ 4 public...if he's broke can't u find something meaningful to do to help him out of his 'brokeness'? Na ppl like u dey push guys to go into deals that are abominable,just to impress..#smh

I swear, ur bf will hear abt this. I pity that dude sha.guys this is the way our girls talk abt us in public, they r never satisfied. No matter what u give a girl, she would stl compare with her friends.

MissTeaseMe:
Please leave the love birds. I love what is budding betwn them. That's how it starts

Okay Ma,

I have a friend, back in the day this brother is f***cking broke, he is really broke, he started dating this new lady around 2011, and things just changed for him, he got a lucrative job, next thing he got a nice ride.. he owe it all to his gf, they got married last year, when he talks about his wife? u would wanna dump ur gf without thinking bout it.
Girls need to know, if he aint all set, u bn set should make him set. he is a man and ur his woman, make him if he aint made, and if u cant do that, then lay single waiting for the seasonal senator to f**ck u and leave u alone every night to be with his own family, nothing good comes easy.

Actionleap: My lawyer told me of a very funny story. This guy was a yahoo boy who hit a whopping N300m! As soon as he cleared the money, he traveled out of the country and returned 3 months latter. Change all his mobile phones, got 1 trouser and 2 shirts and headed home to his village. He stopped every associations with his former yahoo boys. and posed as a very poor dude. He never had more than school cert (he didn't even pass). He met this girl which he like very much and the girl fell in love. She was feeding him 3 square meals. Her parents kicked but she stuck to her gun that she wanted to marry the broke guy. This guy on most occasions stumbles on her family during discussion and heard how they say so many unprintable things about him. He carried on for 6 months and was praying that this girl would pass this test.
After 6 months, he told the girl, he needs to get to Lagos. He traveled out and brought in 50cars (all exotic), built the biggest house in town, started a modern bakery and other sme. He never stay out beyond 5pm and he's always in-doors on weekends. He married the girl of course. Then, rumours started that he did jass for money. He just laugh his heart out and never told anyone except the lawyer how he came about the millions....

Your lawyer is definitely a nollywood fan.

Arsenate: Lol, you kept hammering about stingy, broke, money, blablabla...what about you? what do you contribute to the relationships. this sense of entitlement you girls display is quite annoying. your boyfriends don't owe you any anything.

It's not about sense of entitlement its about reality and fact. Go back to my post and this time read very carefully then you will realise I wasn't referring to only boyfriend/girlfriend relationship alone.

Having a broke and LAZY guy as a brother can be frustrating talk more of a boyfriend or husband .

loswhite: are your friends not enjoying the bleeping? Are your friends taking care of the thing dat does the bleeping? If no, y then do you expect the bleeper to take care of the bleeped

this guy is something else.

Givemejoy: Act like that towards his family so as to give it to you, abi?

Nope. When you meet guys that acts like that towards their families, the family most times ends up hating you thinking you are the one squandering their brother's money without knowing that you don't even see his kobo.

wat i can figure out here is that, u loved ur boo but u allowed 3rd party to affect ur love towards him. After 3years, i expect u to show him more love n support his dream. u shouldnt be comparing him with friend's bfs coz u should understand him better. remember! not every one that started broke will die broke. and if u think u can't bear it no more just take a walk in a matured way n stop embarrassing him. good luck.

Note: the problem might actually b ur friends n not ur bf. changing ur bf myt not b the solution. use ur head.

LushGreenz:

Me a brokeass? Lol. Think again. Sloth, listen I'll feed and cloth u for 12 months without breaking a sweat. Do u not wonder Why every male on here descended on your comments with vituperation? Co's you sound so despicable... your imbecility is so unprecedented. I've read your comments where you were torching on the forum for sugar daddies and rich dudes for a sumptuous one night stand,you Hooker. I'm just one of those Nairalanders who just occasionally like to read,observe,unwind and learn in the background. You come on here to talk thrash and expect not to be reprimanded. Fvxking b!+ch!

lushGreen or whatever you called yourself today is first of what October right??God will tarnished your image everywhere you go you bloody liar,brokeass nigga,attention seekers you will not know peace for lying.oh I can really see you are pained because I don reply your emails right

prettythicksme: chaii broke guys they can bleep heaven yet they don't have money to take care of the thing they bleep.I have friend that date them so annoying

Annoying! for real? do not blame God when u rich guy done dating u.

OJMOBILE: But seriously guys...for u to hv a gf u must hv money to take good care of urself and her..u guys need to go out hv fun,go for trips etc...if u don't hv enough u can plan with her so she can add that's for an understanding lady...being broke dude not fresh for a man in a relationship!!!

God will bless you dear,help me tell LushGreen to stop being a lazybroke ass nigga and stop attacking me because I said I am allergic to broke guys

OlamiB:
I am not. I do most of the spending and also giving him money for this career

Anh... OP, that's crazy. If I wouldn't give my gf some money, then, I'm not collecting dime from her. BTW, girls that complain of broke guys are the ones who make this broke guys go into illegal making of money with the believe that they are ripe for earning money. I do believe that I'm not yet ripe for earning or working for money. Why should I regret for not being able. Provie for my gf. Afterall, we're gfs and bfs. Not "Married"

prettythicksme: God will bless you dear,help me tell LushGreen to stop being a lazybroke ass nigga and stop attacking me because I said I am allergic to broke guys

It's good you are allergic to broke guys. At least, you won't have to push the broke ones into illegal forceful making of money. Ok. Be chirpy and don't stop dating the rich folks

nd broke guys self no b human?..or most u gals self no b broke ass bitches!,ptchew all join. well,gat this in mind "time dey com wey broke guys self go hammer!"

Of course, selfishness(or stingy stingy as ladies like to call it) is an issue....
Well, I thought I was stingy, but I would always lavish my younger siblings with gifts....Or give to the poor or to a guy who has people to take care of....

But not so when am around girls. I just couldn't.
Infact, a girl faced me one day and said that to my face at a crossroads back in school. I couldn't understand even my feelings. Was I not meant to care for, protect and cherish any girl in my life?

Well, I didn't know when I bought things, anything nice, even expensive, almost at ease, and on impulse, even wanting to spend time and listen to some girls I met who did these:

I- we talked when I met her at her shop, she had just bought a melon slice, and she remembered it because she was hungry took it out and shared it with me. We giggled and talked and ate. I thanked her and left. Never forgot. PS. she has no attitude that girls these days are fond of having.

U and C- We always clashed but they(two girls that are the same) remembers my birthday. Every birthday, they gives me stuff like a beer, a shaving stick, gel, manly stuff. Apart from birthdays, they keep surprising me with gifts. I couldn't help doing whatever I could even when I had little for these.

H- Men, this girl is from Owerri and I don't know why I don't like or trust Imo girls but they are hospitable, mind u am not from there o. During service (NYSC), I fell sick... U know what guys, with vomiting and fever and sweating, her room was my hospital ward. She won't let me sleep without taking my pills. She would wake up in the night when I started to shiver again. Boil water in the morning and pester me till I took my bath, always smiling and never with an attitude (like most girls love these days, oh well, the divas). All through service after the illness WEEK she was like that, no change. Me, I talk nonsense sometimes but she never tries to be dramatic when I have a slip of tongue. Yes, SHE EXISTS even today. Thank God.

D- She's yoruba o. And am Igbo. Well you know how it is between these two tribes sha. You wanna know how I met D? I had three full buckets to carry up a hill during camp. D was passing by, came over and picked a bucket and we climbed the hill together. I asked her name and platoon. She told me (she didn't show attitude then and till now). I did sth later, I bought a very nice gift with a note of my name, number and platoon, and liased with her platoon leader to get it to her. She called, we went out, and we are still friends.

These na my story, so hence go forth and make your own stories

majority of naija babes are alwàys hungry, if u get cash come get car join, na dem go crown u Prince Obong Itud I.

the other day i cleared somewhere to buy card, a cab cleared in front of me, a lady jumped out & rush to me, tapped my glass, when i wind down, she said "sir are u calling me"?, i said no & she said, but pls can u drop me kilometers from here? I accepted, unlocked the car & she jumped in.

When the lady braught the card, i instructed her to give her card too, she was suprise. i drove her straight to where i lodged, enough happend there for like 3hrs.
After-a-lot, she escorted me to a project meeting that lasted for hours.

After the meeting, i intend dropping her, but the smart lady left her handbag in my hotel room.
As i drove to the hotel, live band was going on by the pool bar, we go there strait. We stayed there till 11pm, she was high of alcohol & conji. This babe squash mercileslly, i was so weak because i drove 5hrs to that city.
She left the next day smilling

later in the evening the hotel manager came for inpection in my room, the inspection lasted for more than 2hrs, later in the night she came back for an all night inpection...

is it my fault?

Krak: So ladies cant work for themselves and make money again. Why must you always depend fully on your boyfriends or husbands?

. Am sure d 220 likes ds comment gained are all from the guys. Buh d post is actually true although it hurts

It could b dat u re ugly n u re nt worth spending on, or rather too wogly (according to comedian Godons) dat d rich guys re nt comin

coolzeal: What's your worth? How much have you made in your entire life? Get a job and stop depending on guys.

She already has a job,datin a Broke guy is a full time job bro

Naija aint easy, d streets aint funny buh seriously U want an angel as a gf U shld be ready to make her look and feel like an angel always. Buh d girls make una still try understand o

Ilovenigeria:
[s]Thats how it starts. soon when he marries her and continue the same stingy act[/s] people will ask the lady if he was like that when they wete dating
It's not a crime to be broke but it is more annoying when a guy is broke and lazy or rich, stingy and avoids responsibility.
I dont have to be married to a guy to notice he can't shoulder his responsibility. Most stingy guys even act like that towards their own family.

That's bullshit ma'am. When he knew he ain't gonna takup responsibilities, why did he get married to her? BTW, I hate guys like that. . I'm this type of guy that don't consider spending for your gf a necessary act. She has her parents. Lemme pay her bridal price and get her from her parents. Then, I will start spending on her. Incase she wants a divorce in the long run, I will be justified to get all my wasted money on her back. Shikeynah.

the last time i checked relationships are not job opportunities.....so what wtf