bedfordng:
not every girls will like or love you.most of them will take advantage by asking too for money,food stuffs etc because they know most shy guys hardly say no.most shy guys don't know how to say no.the opposite is even mostly the case when a girl noticed you are shy,just pray she does not take advantage of it by milking them dry.

lets just say some of us know where to draw the line

You've said it all. people always look down on introvert but now they are beginning to love them for who they are.
I an proud of who I am.

Some people are extroverts when they are high and introverts when they are sober, so OP how do you handle that? Infact, it's better to mix the two all the days of your life.

Hadizy:
You give people like my brother ( Ymodulus ) hope. Lol!!!! U r right. But u forget to add that these set of people are. Bold online.

Yariñya u fyn o,no be small o,can i sabi u so?

By d way i am anti-extrovert

@ arva. I quite agree with u bt does that encourage ppl like me to keep bein shy;I feel it stinkx to be 'shy'. There is no match for 'self-confidence' eventhough am the 'shy' type..

I am naturally drawn to introverts, might not be shy. I can't keep up with an extrovert, it's exhausting!
I also noticed that most introvert I have met have depth, we easily click....a perfect day will be chilling together indoors playing scrabble, and talking about all sorts; science, art, politics, nature....
I'll definitely end up with an one....it's only such ones that can flow with me

kwenu:
This op na winch, how did she know all these information about a particular sect or type of men, such as shy guys,
i am a shy guy honestly and all what u have said here is true about me

Op u must be a prohet to know all these, u are morethan a deep thinker,
as for me
i love to be alone, i enjoy walking on lonely streets, i dont enjoy the company of others during my walk
i cant stand the looks of people or anyone looking directly into my eyes, most especially females and even male, adults as well, but i m not gay
i dont give testimonies in church though i have alot to share, because i cant stand the looks from the crowd
if i ever get into a relationship, i love to death, i dont know how to play games or cheat even if i try to(its just not in me)its external
when you re shy and an introvert people take advantage of you(this happens to me)
shy guys love peace unconciously
we re easily amused,
easily pleased
Yeah we blush often
We have the inability to walk up to a lady and woo her,
we are even shy in bed
shy or fear to ask a lady for sex
in most cases we end up marrying extroverts as wives, not our wish but because extrovers are smarter than we are, to be honest . they know how to get us
so much fear of being turned down by a lady


#Teamshy

getting married to an extrovert who understand you perfectly well is the perfect blend because you will need such kind of person in your life to take some actions you shy away from.shy people don't like asking or reminding some one to pay back their money they borrowed them,in this kind of case, you need an extrovert woman to do the reminding because they have a way of doing it in a friendly manner.shy people don't like asking back their stuffs when some one borrowed it, maybe a neighbor, an extrovert woman will do the asking for you.so when you are shy, an extrovert woman that understand you is the perfect blend because that is why one is shy and the other is not so they can complement each other.but when you get married to a shy type and you too is shy,mehn,casala go burst because people will take you guys for a ride

onyichick:
I met mine in nysc camp.he doesn't drink,smoke or party.he is intelligent n nice infact everytin d op said is true but d issur I hv is his inability to be romantic like call me often n send send nice msgs.d tin don tire me

so out of all d 99 women problems, in dis 21st century, dats d one dats more pressing to you .. Speechless :x

See as everybody don dey claim Shy. Even those wey don tear eye. Well, me too I'm shy Ooo,,, *Waiting for my own Pm* Hehehehe

edubros:
@ arva. I quite agree with u bt does that encourage ppl like me to keep bein shy;I feel it stinkx to be 'shy'. There is no match for 'self-confidence' eventhough am the 'shy' type..

you can still kill some part of your shyness if you want.try and buy this novel called " why you act the way you do" by tim lahaye.your eyes will be opened to know the different temperament of people and how to study and miggle with them.its a nice book i will recommend not only for shy type but for all

Op you're % 100 right!! Im a shy guy to the CORE and i 'd do most of things you mention!

bedfordng:
getting married to an extrovert who understand you perfectly well is the perfect blend because you will need such kind of person in your life to take some actions you shy away from.shy people don't like asking or reminding some one to pay back their money they borrowed them,in this kind of case, you need an extrovert woman to do the reminding because they have a way of doing it in a friendly manner.shy people don't like asking back their stuffs when some one borrowed it, maybe a neighbor, an extrovert woman will do the asking for you.so when you are shy, an extrovert woman that understand you is the perfect blend because that is why one is shy and the other is not so they can complement each other.but when you get married to a shy type and you too is shy,mehn,casala go burst because people will take you guys for a ride

yeah u re right my mother tells me thesame, she says that i am too laid back and gentle, that i would need a rugged wife or an extrovert for a wife, so that she can challenge anyone who fights me.
she says it like this
That if my fellow man challenges me in a fight and wins me, that my wife will walk up to the mans wife and beat hell out of her, now shes been picturing the kinda wife suitable for me, but i ahve always wanted a cool and gentle lady for me as a wife because i fear that and extrovert for a wife could take advantage of me in the future, she could take advantage of my weakness, though sometimes i try to behave like an extrovert but deep down inside me i know i m not one.

and i also fear a jungle Nationa like ours today Nigeria, its survival of the fittest, that i dream daily of leaving the shores of this country.Nigeria isnt for introverts to be honest.

i pray that God gives me a good wife that wont take advantage of me, thats my prayer anytime i think of my future wife that i m yet to see

bedfordng:
then you lie if you say they can't make it.infact, most of the conglomorate you say is owned by shy guys.they just love doing things underground.they can buy a entire land but you won't know they owns it because they use people in front to handle their affairs.they don't talk too much but they make the money in ghost mode.that is their modus of operation.most shy guys are always business thinkers but they put some one in front to pilot their affairs

most rich people in Nigeria have people who front for them and it's not because they are shy, reasons range from security reasons to mode in which they made their money or being to busy to handle all their assets all at once. Yes they love doing things underground mostly for security reasons and u don't see them anywhere because they are always busy and even when they want to relax they have their circles they mingle with, most are far from being shy and introverted.

blakky97:

This is the problem- its not a guy's duty to always entertain you

Errmmm,VERY TRUE.
I'm not your comedian.

U really said well @Op. but there are sometimes that you rarely believe that we(shy/introverts) were the one did or doing something. My 100L and final year periods were typical example of mine. we do change sometimes(but not for long).

Sweetlemon:



Sorry o. So what's his duty? Coach me? Lecture me?

Abegi! Take it from me, a relationship/marraige should be at least 65% fun (which includes good sex/body language, outdoor activities/outing, doing stuff together (like eating, watching TV) playing indoor games. Then 40% of brainstorming, planning, etc.

Odawise, Odikwa very frustratingly boring.

And the girl should never be the party provider? Don't you think your opinion is too left-filled? You wrote " what's his duty?". And I bet you, even if he does more than all that list you gave, you'll still not be grateful. 90% of you.

Op I don't know why or what you saw to make you write this, that a guy is shy don't make him an introvert...do you even know d meaning of introvert! introverted guy are just no good to anybody & wen a guy is introverted, you can't even talk him into anything dat he does not ve a view of talkless of making him blush. am an extrovert mayb shy smetyms which means I'm not all bout myself & d fact that I party hard don't mean I go around talking bout the drink I had last night, I mean hu da f••k does dat! only JJCs do that cos if you know your stuff well you don't ve to make noise bout it, it'll speak 4 u & point of correct not all extroverts cheat...for all I care you're prolly tryna make ursef feel good for having to settle for an introverted guy.

pascyj:
Errmmm,VERY TRUE.
I'm not your comedian.

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@bedfordng, thanx. Funny enough, that same book is lying under my bed for years;i bght it but havn't opened it. Now i think otherwise.Also, i would like to meet some ' interested' ladies here. Can i meet someone?

indicate and lets meet on bbm.

I'M A SHY AND INTROVERT GUY.. everything you say is true but I smoke weed thou

vikkytan:
thanks for your information I.m a very gentle and shy guy but I get angry easily DAT.s my nature

I had a similar problem too. it's just about self control

Frankestein08:
Op I don't know why or what you saw to make you write this, that a guy is shy don't make him an introvert...do you even know d meaning of introvert! introverted guy are just no good to anybody & wen a guy is introverted, you can't even talk him into anything dat he does not ve a view of talkless of making him blush. am an extrovert mayb shy smetyms which means I'm not all bout myself & d fact that I party hard don't mean I go around talking bout the drink I had last night, I mean hu da f••k does dat! only JJCs do that cos if you know your stuff well you don't ve to make noise bout it, it'll speak 4 u & point of correct not all extroverts cheat...for all I care you're prolly tryna make ursef feel good for having to settle for an introverted guy.

Dude an introvert guy ,relationship can just be the only extrovert thing in his life believe that

Wolison:
mhen!!!
What a coincidence?
Which month did your birthday fell into?
Are you a piscean?
Cos it's mostly piscean that have these remarkable attributes!!!!

bro, pisceans are next after aquarians...its like all aquarians are introverts...(i knw dis kus i am one of 'em) if u still inquisitive, u can carry out a lil survey on dis and find out urself...

I'm a tad introverted, so i flirt alot, but respect my privacy and quiet times ,or I'll kill you.

you 100% right..those are my qualities.just anyone born btwn june 22 to july 22,cancer born,are all a shy type.

ggirl4real:
Why introverted guys plenty for this thread like dis? Make una park well joor

U attacking all man saying they introverts like u no send but the way I see it u like them

u ve just described me in few paragraph. can we kick de ball....

The comment to much joor, bt must add mine,
They hardly ask 4 fun time,Cus they can't tel u in ur presence bt it always in their mind to ask u.

if u r a shy type,and get angry easily,i guess u are born in btwn june 22 to july 22..cancer born possess those traits

Arva:
I have so many reasons why I should date a shy and introvert guy which I believe many of you forumites will agree to. Usually we ignore the shy and introvert guys, and date the confident, thug looking, rich, tall and ugly guys. The latter kind of guys are not usually the best in my opinion. Have you ever thought about dating a shy guy? There are so many different benefits and you'll be glad you did.

1. They are less intimidating
Confident and extrovert guys can be so intimidating because they surrounds themselves with all kinds of girls and bad manners. Shy guys are less intimidating. They are very gentle and meek and are less likely to reject you. This is one big reason to start rolling along with a shy guy. You'll love them.

2. It’s easy to make them blush
Shy guys have the tendency to blush easily with the slightest of compliments. Just compliment them about their looks and appearance and you'll see the magic of their blush. That really melts my heart a lot unlike the confident and rough guys who will only say a "thank you". That's even if they say it at all. Try dating a shy guy today. You'll love 'em

3. Shy guys won’t cheat on you
Shy guys will never cheat on you. Relationship cheating is what many girls hate and shy and introvert guys will never stoop so low to have another girl behind you but reverse is the case for confident and extrovert guys. They like to explore anything they see with boobs and big behinds even if its not human . Confident and extrovert guyz are just so awkward. You'll never like them. I prefer the introvert guys. They'll always stick to you.

4. They are so true, real and genuine
Me loves these set of guys because they are so true to themselves. They will never deceive you. They are just so charming and will never lie to you.

5. They are good listeners.
Shy and introvert guys are just awesome for one thing. They are extremely good listerners. Never will they counter you in any discussion or disrupt the flow of the discussion. All these adorable guys do is listen, listen, listen and listen. Unlike the extrovert guys who will just keep shouting to the extent that other people around you will hear the content of your discussion . Shy guys will never stoop so low to that extent. They are always very quiet and meek.

6. They don't party, drink nor smoke.
I'm begining to convince you that shy guys are cool right ? Another reason you should date a shy guy is that they don't engage in party, alcohol or weed. They being an introvert will not even allow them such bad manners. Reverse is the case for the confident guys. They'll make sure they engage in all sort of party. They being an extrovert makes them to boast about the latest and most expensive wines and alcohols they've tasted, they amount of weed the smoke daily and the number of girls they've had sex with from funmi to funke to fumilade to fumilayo That's crazy isn't it ? Shy guys are just so cool to themselves. They don't need to brag about anything. Whatever happens never leaks out.

7. Shy and introvert guys are very educated and very intelligent.
This is very true. Shy guys are very educated and very intelligent. They being very intelligent leaves them with no time for social activities. They are so charming. Date an introvert today and you'll be glad you did. I had one as a boyfriend and I wish I had him back.
Feel free to add yours.

Where to find a shy guy.
1: Shy guys are very easy to find. If you are still in the university, you can find them at the back seat of your classroom. When others are gones after a lecture, shy guys always remain alone, sitting down, alone with their thought. This is always your best time to approach them. Just compliment him on anything and watch him blush. They are very friendly.

2: During your NYSC.
During your service year, you'll find many of them at the orientation camp. I had sweet experiences with one during my NYSC days. He was so sweet and charming. You'll always find them at the back of the crowd doing almost nothing. They just stand there and clap for others engaging in one task or the other. They are very gentle set of people so don't mind them for not partaking in activites. They don't want to look rough like the extrovert guys. Those of you going for NYSC batch c come november 2014, watch out for the shy guys. You'll love them.

3: During church service
These awesome set of beings are easy to find during church service. They always sit at the back, rarely dance when its time for offering and they rarely come out to give testimonies because they are shy. Isn't that cool ? Unlike the extrovert guys that will even go the awkward length of dancing shoki and skelewu during church service . Shy guys will never do this . Oh how can I even forget the way they blush when you ask them questions during sunday school. They are so adorable.
Feel free to add yours.

How to know if a guy is shy and an introvert.

Its very easy to spot these sweet guys. They will always blush at every single thing you say. Another way to spot them is to monitor their movements. Never will you see a shy guy going out unnecessarily. They are always indoors and only come out with their charming self at night. These people are just so cool. Date one today and you'll be glad you did. I can testify to this. We dated for years and sweet memories still ring in me.
Feeel free to add yours.

Source: myself and written for nairaland forum members and guests.

Wat about the introvert girls, are the advantages of dating them?.

esmeralda1:

Water and garri




Read wot I wrote again

Story for the gods

@OP I guess you are a Phycologist...I can't believe one can put up my characters on display...what an amazing post.