my Marriage is just 1yr old blessed wit a baby girl,just find out dat my hubby is cheating on me,dis is d 2nd time dis is happening.He promised it wil not happen again,now is happening again,it hurt me so badly knwing hw we both started til nw,am thinking of moving away and hv a life wit my Baby i can care for her wit my job,married and experienced people pls advice

akum123:
my Marriage is just 1yr old blessed wit a baby girl,just find out dat my hubby is cheating on me,dis is d 2nd time dis is happening.He promised it wil not happen again,now is happening again,it hurt me so badly knwing hw we both started til nw,am thinking of moving away and hv a life wit my Baby i can care for her wit my job,married and experienced people pls advice

Oh my, I sympathize with you.

I always tell any single lady that cares to listen, ask yourself this question before deciding to get married: Is there any wrong my partner would commit that I cannot forgive? If the answer is yes, marriage is NOT for you.

Contrary to what many think, marriage is not meant to be enjoyed alone! it is meant to be endured and enjoyed.

This cheating of a thing is over-rated. If you leave him now, do you have any intentions of re-marrying? What are the chances that the next guy wont cheat?

Evina:


Oh my, I sympathize with you.

I always tell any single lady that cares to listen, ask yourself this question before deciding to get married: Is there any wrong my partner would commit that I cannot forgive? If the answer is yes, marriage is NOT for you.

Contrary to what many think, marriage is not meant to be enjoyed alone! it is meant to be endured and enjoyed.

This cheating of a thing is over-rated. If you leave him now, do you have any intentions of re-marrying? What are the chances that the next guy wont cheat?

Really Evina? And the word endured feels like a burden.

andromida:


Really Evina? And the word endured feels like a burden.

In marriage, you must be prepared to carry your partners burden. Marriage is NOT for the lily livered.

Challenges will come, the storms will be harsh and tough. Are you just going to quit every time it happens?

Then marriage is not for you.

Evina:


Oh my, I sympathize with you.

I always tell any single lady that cares to listen, ask yourself this question before deciding to get married: Is there any wrong my partner would commit that I cannot forgive? If the answer is yes, marriage is NOT for you.

Contrary to what many think, marriage is not meant to be enjoyed alone! it is meant to be endured and enjoyed.

This cheating of a thing is over-rated. If you leave him now, do you have any intentions of re-marrying? What are the chances that the next guy wont cheat?

Your words made quite a lot of sense

StPete:


Your words made quite a lot of sense

Thank you. it is the hard truth.

he who endures with patience is a conquerer

patience is rewarding

sorry... my heart feels for you..

we men could be jerks..... we always have our 'number one' the one we love most. but still find ourselves cheating- don't know why.

but just pray.... you're his 'number 1' I guess, let's hope he stops.

Pele

Evina:


In marriage, you must be prepared to carry your partners burden. Marriage is NOT for the lily livered.

Challenges will come, the storms will be harsh and tough. Are you just going to quit every time it happens?

Then marriage is not for you.

Is cheating a burden?

Burden in a marriage looks like finances go south, someone gets sick even crippled, someone has temper issues but you chose him/her, well along these lines is what burden looks like to me situations beyond your control where you have your partner's back no matter what. Cheating is not one of these burden like situations imo except the person has declared himself/herself a sex maniac and the partner goes on to wed such a person then you bear the burden.

Not all marriages experience storms that are harsh and tough almost warlike situations lol but if it happens to be situations beyond our control then no quitting but when you go and court problems, put your selfish needs before the marriage and your spouse no its not a burden its deliberate destruction and the other partner better recognize it if you are tired of the union have courage to walk away from it and be a free man/woman. Marriage is not by force.

Na you dey d house, relax.
Bitchess* ain't smiling you know.


Protect the interest of your kids first.




Meanwhile, keep the evidences piling until it explodes in his face.
Please, shove the thought of divorce.........for now.....

akum123:
my Marriage is just 1yr old blessed wit a baby girl,just find out dat my hubby is cheating on me,dis is d 2nd time dis is happening.He promised it wil not happen again,now is happening again,it hurt me so badly knwing hw we both started til nw,am thinking of moving away and hv a life wit my Baby i can care for her wit my job,married and experienced people pls advice

Maybe you can understand why he cheats? what makes him seek these women although its not you, its him but its a marriage too so understand the situation and what drives him out there. If he is a loving husband and father maybe you can make the effort to understand your relationship with each other some more see if you can turn things around.

Op my advice?
If divorce will make u happy, plssss go for it!.
Jst make sure you've thought it out well and can cope financially, materially and emotionally without ur man for now.
And Evina, I was almost moved to use some negative words against u but I restrained myself. Have u thought of what might have happened if the tables were turned?
Cheating is a choice and marriage is to b enjoyed.. Dat's God's original plan for us all.

Mrfils:
Op my advice?
If divorce will make u happy, plssss go for it!.
Jst make sure you've thought it out well and can cope financially, materially and emotionally without ur man for now.
And Evina, I was almost moved to use some negative words against u but I restrained myself. Have u thought of what might have happened if the tables were turned?
Cheating is a choice and marriage is to b enjoyed.. Dat's God's original plan for us all.

Use some negative word against me? How crass. If you have an opinion that differs, share it with the op and keep your negativity to yourself.

Evina:


Use some negative word against me? How crass. If you have an opinion that differs, share it with the op and keep your negativity to yourself.

I just did thanks



Jst a word of prayer, may God bless u with a replica of Op's husband, so u can carry ur burden together. Since dat's what marriage is all about

Mrfils:

I just did thanks



Jst a word of prayer, may God bless u with a replica of Op's husband, so u can carry ur burden together. Since dat's what marriage is all about

You offered a silly prayer to your dead god too late

Mr, take your frustrations out on yourself!!! Why are you so pained? Did your wife/girlfriend leave you cos she couldn't tolerate your irritant cheating self anymore? I guess this story strikes a chord.

I won't dignify your next shallow comment with a response.