EfemenaXY:

I luuurrrvvee you even better when you type like this. Easier to decode and less razz

Happy weekend babes

Onye kele Sonny, Sonny e kele ya. . . . . . Sonny Bobo!

I only post razz to counter razz o!
When you encounter madness, you join the club abi?
As the "gang" don let me rest nko, no where to kraze for NL!
Till a get an opportunity!
I show love ONLY where I get love, and vice versa!

Thanks for your warm acknowledgement.
Happy blessed new week!

Kanwulia:

I take your GOD take beg you!
Stop posting.
FOREVER!!!!!

Kanwulia:

I take your GOD take beg you!
Stop posting.
FOREVER!!!!!

Rofl, and you tell anyone about 'backwards'
You know, I was just having polite discussion with you. I'm not really sure since when this changed to silencing mess, or why on earth does it so much bother you that anyone as much dares say it's really not religions that's to blame for ignorance.

Or why are you takin this so personally and automatically assume you're being either attacked or that someone's trying to convert you when pointing out logical fallacy. But fine.

BlackLeopard:

Rofl, and you tell anyone about 'backwards'
You know, I was just having polite discussion with yo. I'm not really sure since when this changed to silencing mess, or why on earth does it so much bother you that anyone as much dares say it's really not religions that's to blame for ignorance.

Or why are you takin this so personally and automatically assume you're being either attacked or that someone's trying to convert you when pointing out logical fallacy. But fine.

You know I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE to discuss.
But you don carry go SIBERIA. . . .
RELIGION will not allow MOST Nigerians come to terms with the reality of DEPRESSION!
Especially when they start looking for that BREAKTHROUGH that comes after the 10th coming of that their Lord!

Now, in ONE SENTENCE. . . . .what is the premise of your argument?

PLEEEEEEEEEEEEASE!

Kanwulia:

You know I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE to discuss.
But you don carry go SIBERIA. . . .
RELIGION will not allow MOST Nigerians come to terms with the reality of DEPRESSION!
Especially when they start looking for that BREAKTHROUGH that comes after the 10th coming of that their Lord!

Now, in ONE SENTENCE. . . . .what is the premise of your argument?

PLEEEEEEEEEEEEASE!

Ayy, I guess I'm seeing what your issue is; we're having different arguments here.
I'm not saying religion of ANY sort is savior for depression, nah. Not at all.

I'm saying that there's nothing IN religions that should prevent people from seeking MEDICAL help.

AKA I basically was saying, it's not against anything to seek a doctor evaluation, spirituality wise.
And telling people, 'I doubt God would want you to suffer, nah, you go fi care'.

BlackLeopard:

Ayy, I guess I'm seeing what your issue is; we're having different arguments here.
I'm not saying religion of ANY sort is savior for depression, nah. Not at all.

I'm saying that there's nothing IN religions that should prevent people from seeking MEDICAL help.

AKA I basically was saying, it's not against anything to seek a doctor evaluation, spirituality wise.
And telling people, 'I doubt God would want you to suffer, nah, you go fi care'.

That's MO BETA!
Then we simply disagree.
No need to argue since there is absolutely no reason to convince each other!

Amen!

Kanwulia:

That's MO BETA!
Then we simply disagree.
No need to argue since there is absolutely no reason to convince each other!

Amen!

And yep, I'm quite fine with agreeing with disagreein

yes depression is real and it's universal. Sometimes, the cure can involve really walking closer with the lord. praying, turning the radio on and listening to some worship or gospel music. it can lift depression.. seriously

Yes many nigerians don't understand what is depression.Infact many people are depressed in Nigeria or africa at large, if you put their living standard into consideration and people's stress and complains about life in general.
I have been depressed since I was a kid.Only God knows why He is stilling keeping me here.I have thought many times about suicide since I was maybe 11-12 years old and now I'm in my late 30s and the thought never go away.But I am just managing it since I know and completely understand that it's the worst thing one can do unto himself.
Moreso, I still have a mother and now I have a 4yr old beautiful son now but my wife is nothing to talk about which doesn't make anything easier.But since I came from a polygamous home, I try not to file for divorce, just because of my little boy.
Well God knows the day I come and He surely know how I will depart from this cruel world.

Peace out.

NB.
I'm at Onelife97@mail.com/onelife97@outlook.com if anyone would like to talk.

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This is quite true,growing up in a family where my dad shows no love and my mum has to play the role of two parents is not easy.am a very quiet person naturally,so I didn't have much friends.there was a time I got depressed,lasted for a long time,kept thinking abt suicide over and over again,I guess I didn't have enough courage to do it or its the fear of what lays ahead and the love of my mum dat kept me going.
Speaking from experience,depression is not something that you can stop at once and by yourself,without the help of others.even when you think its finally gone,it hasn't totally left you.it will find the slightest opportunity to come back
I just wish that our families would try harder to understand themselves,because most introverts fall easily to depression.when an introvert is struggling with something,the person would rather suffer through it and find a solution,before telling anybody about it,and suicide is a constant thing on most depressed introverts,the smiles are mostly fake too,

shyshally:
This is quite true,growing up in a family where my dad shows no love and my mum has to play the role of two parents is not easy.am a very quiet person naturally,so I didn't have much friends.there was a time I got depressed,lasted for a long time,kept thinking abt suicide over and over again,I guess I didn't have enough courage to do it or its the fear of what lays ahead and the love of my mum dat kept me going.
Speaking from experience,depression is not something that you can stop at once and by yourself,without the help of others.even when you think its finally gone,it hasn't totally left you.it will find the slightest opportunity to come back
I just wish that our families would try harder to understand themselves,because most introverts fall easily to depression.when an introvert is struggling with something,the person would rather suffer through it and find a solution,before telling anybody about it,and suicide is a constant thing on most depressed introverts,the smiles are mostly fake too,

so true.. pls op eleojo what are the therapies one can take...

obiajulu1:

so true.. pls op eleojo what are the therapies one can take...

There are medications and other forms of therapy that can help fight depression. Please spare some time to read through the thread as some helpful points were raised by some people in the course of the discussion.

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Excelboi:
Depression is real and I have suffered from it twice. I just got over the second episode about a week ago. I'm currently on medication and everything is totally normal now. If you are feeling depressed, you need to see a psychiatrist and you maybe put on meds. Pity and hope doesn't work with depression, sometimes you can't fight it alone, you have to seek a professional help.
If you sense that you don't like doing what you like doing before, getting sad over a particular incident for a long period of time, sleeping too little or sleeping a lot, crying without helping it, then there is a possibility you are suffering from depression. The illness doesn't look face, it can affect infant, adolescent and adults and no matter how rich you are, it can attack you. An example is a case of an American celebrity who died some few weeks back. Depression led him to suicide. So try not to get shy and seek for help. And most importantly, it's not everyone you should tell that you have depression. They may make it worse.
Some people get over it through therapy, while some others are put on prozac (one of the best drug for fighting depression, though very powerful) and cognitive therapy to fight it. Sometimes exercise help. If you need advise and help on how to combat it, you can speak up here or contact your nearest psychiatrist.

Can you direct me to some of the medications that you took if you dont mind.

Afam4eva:

Can you direct me to some of the medications that you took if you dont mind.

It's better to get a prescription. A medicine that worked for someone else may not work for you, so you'll need follow-up visits.

Seun:
It's better to get a prescription. A medicine that worked for someone else may not work for you, so you'll need follow-up visits.

Yes, you're right. It's just that i'm desperate for answers. Doctors have not really been forthcoming.

Afam4eva:

Can you direct me to some of the medications that you took if you dont mind.

Depression, I have long denied it but I was made to know it exist. To avoid story that touch, denial is not the solution, face it.

My doctor gave me tryptizol which I'm still using; there are changes. I have been doing exercise to complement it. Avoid stress as much as you can, because my recovery process is affected by stress.

NB: please I am not recommending the use of the drug, consult your doctor.

sheffyUTD:


Depression, I have long denied it but I was made to know it exist. To avoid story that touch, denial is not the solution, face it.

My doctor gave me tryptizol which I'm still using; there are changes. I have been doing exercise to complement it. Avoid stress as much as you can, because my recovery process is affected by stress.

NB: please I am not recommending the use of the drug, consult your doctor.

Has there been any progress since you've been on medication?

I have got bi-polar disorder and like you said, when people findout they mostly assume I am "claiming" oyibo sickness... Even at its worse when I was suicidal and purposely over dosed on my medication ( valium), most people attributed it to spiritual attack. I have had to fight this battle on my own and learn to find my happy place when am depressed or ground myself when am manic. Trying to make people understand that being bi-polar is a condition I can't help is an uphill battle so most times I don't even bother. I have met very few people who have stood by me when I was at the worst end of either of my swings and those few remain the dearest people in my life. Thank you for this thread it really hit very close to home...

eleojo23:
This is a true life story about what happened to my friend. Yes, the events in this story happened right before my eyes.

Gabriel and I have been friends since primary school. We went to school together everyday while in secondary school. Gabriel was much better than me in terms of grades because his average scores were always higher than mine. He is naturally quiet but when we are together, he does most of the talking. He is someone who always comes up with unique ideas and views on how things should be done. He is a very confident person who can convince people to do things.

At some point in secondary school, he began having recurrent typhoid and malaria such that he treated it more than thrice a year. He missed school because of it sometimes. It became a regular thing for him to always treat malaria once in a while.
But things took a turn for the worst when he started to feel unsure of himself. There was a time he told me while we were reading together
''I don't even know what/who I am anymore''
Being naive then, I just brushed it off as one of his 'tantrums' because he could get really angry at things and blurt out words sometimes.

But his condition deteriorated. He began to have difficulty concentrating on his studies, lost interest in singing his usual songs (he has a good voice), he started skipping meals, slept little and became generally gloomy. As I would find out later, he even thought much about suicide (nobody including me knew about it)
'How could Gab possibly be thinking of suicide?'
That would have been our reaction then if he had ever told us about it.

A few years past and we were already in the university. The symptoms I stated above came back. He began to have a hard time in the university and he was already contemplating quitting school entirely.

At one time, he came down with his usual malaria and typhoid and went to the hospital. Usually when he goes to the hospital, the doctors would already conclude that he was having his usual bouts of the Plasmodium and Salmonella infection. But this time, the doctor who examined him decided to probe further and ask him some few questions. He sensed that he had a more serious problem than just malaria. The doctor called his mum and told her
'This boy looks depressed'
When I heard it, I could not bring myself to agree with the empirical diagnosis.
I said to myself 'No way, Gabriel doesn't have depression. He's just having recurrent malaria. Maybe the doctor mistook his quiet nature for depression'
But I was going to be proved wrong a month later. I guess his parents hesitated a bit before deciding to let him see the doctor again. And so after his visit to the doctor, he came back and told me the diagnosis -depression.

I asked myself 'how?!' I was shocked. I had never come across anyone who had it and if anyone should have it, why did it have to be Gabriel?
It was then it dawned on me that there are a lot of persons who may appear fine on the outside but on the inside, they are suffering from depression. And that explains the downward turn of things in the life of some of them.

My friend was placed on medication and I saw the old Gabriel come alive again.

Just like most Nigerians, I was caught up in the error of thinking that we can't have people who suffer depression.
There are many causes of depression. In the case of my friend it wasn't suffering (harsh conditions of life) or the loss of a loved one.
It was due to a chemical imbalance in his brain and maybe stress if I may say. The pathology of depression is rather complex and a lot of factors come into play. One thing however that should be clear to all is that depression is not madness as some people regard it.

While my friend was struggling with it, I could not tell anyone that he had depression.
There are many persons who are suffering from depression but cannot admit it because people around (family and friends) would not understand it and probably make them feel even worse. They tell them
'Just get over whatever it is that is disturbing you!'
There is a huge stigma attached to being depressed and it is not recognised as a valid condition that someone can suffer from. Even when it is acknowledged, it is regarded as one of those things that only 'oyinbo' people suffer. People around here are quick to demonize everything that is out of the ordinary. There are persons who become alcoholics because of depression and their lives take a turn for the worst but rather than seek for the real cause of the problem, people attribute it to witchcraft influence. What has alcoholism got to do with witchcraft? I am a christian and I know how spiritual everything is- but there is surely a place for psychology, medicine and psychiatry. Not every thing is the devil's doing. There are challenges that are not induced by the devil.
We have to accept the reality that Nigerians also suffer depression and those affected should not be left to suffer alone. We must try to help them when we come across them.

If you know anyone affected, recommend the person for professional help so that his condition can be properly handled.

Extend a helping and supporting hand to the depressed today and the very first thing they need from you is your understanding

Got a story to share? Feel free.

shyshally:
This is quite true,growing up in a family where my dad shows no love and my mum has to play the role of two parents is not easy.am a very quiet person naturally,so I didn't have much friends.there was a time I got depressed,lasted for a long time,kept thinking abt suicide over and over again,I guess I didn't have enough courage to do it or its the fear of what lays ahead and the love of my mum dat kept me going.
Speaking from experience,depression is not something that you can stop at once and by yourself,without the help of others.even when you think its finally gone,it hasn't totally left you.it will find the slightest opportunity to come back
I just wish that our families would try harder to understand themselves,because most introverts fall easily to depression.when an introvert is struggling with something,the person would rather suffer through it and find a solution,before telling anybody about it,and suicide is a constant thing on most depressed introverts,the smiles are mostly fake too,

so true, I spent yrs smiling for the world when all I felt like doing was dying so I could leave the pain behind... my dad was the first to notice my insomnia ( he's a pharmasist) and he put me on valium 5... he had to stop after I attempted suicide by overdosing on valium... to this day my mother refuses to admit I am bi-polar, she rather sees it all as my trying to punish her for not being there for us when we were younger

rill:
So depression suppresses the body's immune system?

yes it does...

Afam4eva:
Has there been any progress since you've been on medication?

Yes there is.

sheffyUTD:



Yes there is.

Good to know.

Afam4eva:

Can you direct me to some of the medications that you took if you dont mind.

Pleae and please , don't ever try taking another man's drug..

Antipsychotics are very powerful set of drugs that can screw your life up.
For antidepressants there are about 6different classes and the one will take depends on your specific type of depression,, your kidney and liver function, if you are other drugs even if its paracetamol..

For instance if you take selegiline (a type of ,,antidepressant) and you take cheese, you will have a severe hypertensive crisis..imagine treating for depression and then you get hypertension.. Some thing as harmless as cheese

Afam4eva:

Can you direct me to some of the medications that you took if you dont mind.

Hope all is well bro? The drug I took was called FLUOXETINE antidepressant. Please take notice that there are different antidepressant drugs for different kind of depression. Consult your psychologist first.

There is an outpatient psychiatric clinic in abuja when my sister was going though depression we contacted them and the doctor was able to treat her without us even traveling....the doctor (a US trained psychiatrist) was communicating with her via phone and skype...that is something they use at their center they call it telepsychiatry so that they can help people across Nigeria...their website is www.melvillehealthcarecenter.com it was really convinent since she didnt have to leave lagos.

How to Reverse the process of Depression


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Secret Signs and symptoms of Hidden Depression

http://dennisnwokah..com.ng/2016/10/5-secret-signs-of-hidden-depression.html?m=1

Good morning Lalasticlala, looking at the way depression and suicide is rampant these days, please if possible, let this thread grace the front page again. Thank you.

If you really wanted to do that, then why wouldn't you do that? Instead you do this. It makes no sense.

Please if you suffering with depression in kaduna
Call or sms me 08157043522 we can help each other.

Shadon007:
Please if you suffering with depression in kaduna
Call or sms me 08157043522 we can help each other.

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