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FLYGERIAN91:
my dear, forget where ur from.... North south east or west, that guy didnt do the right thing.... You re a lady and should be treated as one..... Every lady desrves a good man..... #team NIGERIA#.... Race and ethnicity shouldnt be a basis through which anybody should calculate a womans worth.... Like I said, every woman desrves to be treated as one.... Your man is still out there.... my advice, show that dude that you are more than that, dont ignore him but give him a veeeeerrrrrryyyy lllooooonnngggg yard stick..... Let him know straight up that he aint yo type o man n that you certainly aint cheap and move on with your life having no regrets whatsoever.....

Dam you make so much sense ... Wish I could carry you around in my pocket

Thank you

There is this guy who is two years older than me so I assumed he was a matured guy but dam I was so wrong.

I met him this year because we were in the same class. The guy was shy when we spoke. Long story short he came to me and confessed that he had feelings for me like two months ago and would like us to be together ...

I told him I admire his bravery for telling me how he feels but I wasn't looking to start any relationship because its almost the end of the year but I wouldn't mind being friends (Dont give me that look ... yes I friendzoned him)

He would ask to come over and chill but I always had an excuse...I didnt want awkward moments. Two weeks back I asked him to come fix something on the pc so he did and we chilled after he was done. Very good conversation...nothing awkward.

Next day around 8pm I get a message from him saying I miss you, please can I spend the night ... I lost it, I wanted to go all crazy on his ass but I just calmly asked him to explain. Without any remorse he just said that we would get snacks, watch a movie and he would sleep over!

Why poor him? How does a guy just ask a girl for sex when he isnt even dating her... you can lure a woman into sex but to blatantly ask for it

FLYGERIAN91:
my dear, I'm even surprised at some of the responses i read..... That guy in question was just plain immature..... Even if a girl u like gives you the green light, you dont just go jumping at it. you need to give her time to really know if thats what she wants, so for him to even suggest commin to spend d night at ur place is just out of place.... No matter how much u miss a girl, you should never ask to stay at HER place.... My dear, you didnt even do enough but atleast you verbally b!tch slapped his raggetty bottom.... some people may think I'm a girl disguised as a guy cos of this post but just for the knowing, I a full blooded 23yr old male with a girlfriend and trust me, I dont like the Idea of staying at my girlfriends place even tho most times i dont have a choice and thats cos SHE IS MY GF but this dude wants to spend the night in d house of a girl he's trying to impress on just d second night after she asked for his help.... Cmon.... Who does that?? My two cups of garri sha!!! sick dude....

moneyhungry:
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Ok so theres nothing about what he said that is insulting? I took it as him thinking im cheap... what fool asks a woman that. By being nice and friendly to him does it imply im open to sex?

Kinkybraids:
you are actually right... I think my response was mean but guys just dont respect women at all these days.
You know when i said does he think im cheap he just said he does that with his friends all the time.
So just because one of his female friends agreed to such then its okay to just go around asking other girls too.

I think i'm just generally angry at how guys think they can just get free sex from girl...
what has he done to deserve it nothing but fix my pc

FLYGERIAN91:
I see dead people

eckersley:

First, you deleted ur account, why?

Abt the bold
Free sex?
I seeeee. U are a commercial sex worker.
You shd have told us naaa.
Next time just ask him to pay straight up

Deserve it.
No be only deserve, na reserve.
Sop tryn to convey the impression that u are Queen Elizabeth and
ur vee hole is studded wt diamonds and precious stones.
IT'S NOT

Can u pls tell the house how much u paid him for fixing the PC
I'm into Laptop sales, maintenance and repairs.
I'm a do-gooder from a personal and religious point of view.
Pls I'm not rich ooo. At least not yet
But try to help as much as psb.
I say this with all HUMILITY and full understanding that giving is a PRIVILEGE.
That said.
I came to understand early in life and painfully that
however good/honest/pure/godly ur intentions are when trying to
DO THE FEMALE FOLKS good, their tiny brain[no offense meant] will
interpret it to mean u hv sex in mind.

[Read my post about women and the sex thing]
https://www.nairaland.com/1984853/man-two-cars-trek-around/32#27898565

LADIES CAN BE SO WORTHLESS IN THEIR THINKING THAT THEIR ONLY CURRENCY OF RECIPROCITY IS KPEKUS.
What da fk?
You can't pay a man wt sex, cos he's also gvn u sex in the process.
So how hv u paid?. You are giving each other sex.

. HOWEVER INDIGENT OR close A LADY IS, even if she's in my fellowship/church,
EVEN IF SHE'S DRESSED IN RAGS AND PLEADING AND CRYING, I NEVER, EVER DO ANYTHING FREE FOR HER.
I DON'T. NEVER EVER

Most ladies don't like paying for their services.
They want u to b kindhearted and do it for free
but as soon as u do so, they label u sth else
The do-gooder of a man is put in a catch 22 situation

If a lady in any of the above categories wants her laptop fixed or any service from me,
I CHARGE THEM OUTRAGEOUSLY [this jolts them from that he-want-to-sex-with-me-world]
Then I wait for her to bargain
Even if she's Julie, no relations [she is the only surviving member of her family and is at financial disadvantage bc of this],
I still charge.
if the job is say 10k [after much pleading etc] I then ask her how much can she can COMFORTABLY pay.
If she says 1k.
I'll still press her to ADD STH. [Not bc I need the cash. So it doesn't appear easy]
Then she'll say sth lk 1.2k
Then I'll go ahead and do it for them.

NB. This is the same job I will do TOTALLY FREE for a guy who's in a financial situation not as bad as hers

DO U KNOW THIS METHOD WORKS LIKE CHARM,
Nxt time they see me they'll so thankful as if i did d job for free.
They'll even tell their friends about me being nice, blah blah blah

BUT ATTEMPT TO DO IT FREE FOR THEM bc she's an orphan, is physically challenged etc,
U WOULD HV JUST SHOT URSELF IN THE FOOT.
EVEN THE CHRISTIAN SISTERS u think u are helping bc of Jesus think/act like the non-christian ones.

.So even if she says u know we r brethren, nooowww.

I'll say that's why I want u to pay anytn u k afford.

The moment u insist on/ mention money to a lady, it erases every fish brain-like thinking about u hvn ulterior motive.

Finally, give my the guy's number.
He needs to be schooled

Oahray:
He obviously thinks you are indecisive and need extra push to go back on your words. I agree. He just didn't know when and how hard to push.

Wolenice:
Women are very complex and complicated creatures......poor him

Equado:
Ill say the fact here...1st from all assessment from the guy's point of view you're cheap...and you woudnt b here complaining abt 'men' if it was a guy you like......

Mutendiwashe:
how does asking someone to fix a laptop equate to being indecisive... She made her thoughts known right from the word go, so how does fixing a laptop change anything?

What makes him different from a girl who thinks that a guy simply taking her out for a movie automatically means they are dating?

Wow... but you were never attracted to any of them so you didnt try anything right? like under what circumstances would you sleep over

Bimfo:
Pls how Old are U, OP

Just tell Us U r missing him, and we will tell U what to do..

U ave been ignoring him for 2 weeks, so what else do u want? U r now coming here to Complain.. Are U this stūpid Or U r just naturally Stūpid

AJ01:

Wolenice:
Women are very complex and complicated creatures......poor him

you are actually right... I think my response was mean but guys just dont respect women at all these days. You know when i said does he think im cheap he just said he does that with his friends all the time. So just because one of his female friends agreed to such then its okay to just go around asking other girls too.

I think im just generally angry at how guys think they can just get free sex from girl... what has he done to deserve it nothing but fix my pc

Dozie730:
FREE SEX REALLY ? OP WHY DIDNT U TELL HIM THE PRICE HE HAS TO PAY TO GET THAT....... YOU SHOULD AS WELL STOP GENERALIZING.................HE MADE AN INNOCENT STATEMENT BUT , TWISTING YOUR MIND NEGATIVELY DOESNT MEAN THATS WHAT HE IS AFTER.......

Chakakhan:
why are shouting at her (where ever she is)

I think she means he has not done anything worthy of the sex... I dont believe she is talking about money but effort to convince her or make her see that he is deserving of her honey pot.

So tell me if you asked me to come and spend the night... What would we be doing all night?

Chakakhan:
honestly with such comments i dont blame her for deleting her account.

So asking for a small favour gives a guys the right to demand sex Wow

Oahray:
lol. He didn't DEMAND sex. He didn't even ask, technically. I wonder where you saw that. He simply foolishly said he wanted to spend the night.

The op read that suggestion as wanting to sleep with her, just as he read her earlier action (asking him to come over to fix her pc, and then spending time with him) as a green light.

How come the op has a right to read whatever meaning she likes into something and the guy doesn't? A guy doesn't even need to do you a favour before trying to take things to the level he wants, but if you do ask for unnecessary favours when you know he wants you, you are encouraging him.

Try to know what a thread is truly about before commenting.

Chakakhan:
Maybe you should take your own advice. I will not change my view on this.... Its tacit... Implied and I feel no green lights were given. Thirst can make guys see all sort of things. No mixed signals... She said she didnt want a relationship!

Why didnt he say no to fixing the pc if he thought it was an unnecessary favour?

Anyway i can see you are just as fish brained as that guy. I give up!