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Hmmm... Pls a friend of mine is in a Wahala and I really need ur advise... D story will b short and starightforward.
She has been dating dis man close to 4 yrs now and for d past 2yrs she has loose interest in d relationship but scared of facing d man cos she scared dat he will hurt him and her mother likes d man, everytime she imagine her future with dis man she imagine sorrow in her life, she believe she will hurt her mom and and other people realted to him I.e d man's family, well she has travel to see d man now cos they av fix next week wednesday to see her parent but she didn't want this relationship and she now crying everyday. NOTE: she's not in any other realtionship but she just didn't feel happy with the man. Pls wat can she do? should she continue with dis man and stay in pain of marriage or she should end it and how?
45 mins · BlackB

Truth shall set her free

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And she has been in the relationship for four years She doesnt still know what she wants?
Its simple, talk to everyone involved in the same crocodile tears mood.
BTW, you didnt need to lie. You should have informed us its you. This is a faceless forum.

You don follow ur fwend chop my guy money finish abi. no whre to run........

Haba... Its not funny ooo its not me its a close friend of mine in dis shit of life.

laykhorn:
And she has been in the relationship for four years She doesnt still know what she wants?
Its simple, talk to everyone involved in the same crocodile tears mood.
BTW, you didnt need to lie. You should have informed us its you. This is a faceless forum.

Pls guys, can't u just advise her and stop judging her cos dis is not helping

This kind advice dey vex mii walahii,
Wat ve she been doin wiv d man for d years she no longer feels same 4 him? Chopin his money abii? Nd d mum on d oda hand is enjoying goodies frm dis same man.

D thunder wey go slap dis ur fwend still dey Jupiter.
Wasting d man's time, energy, resources nd u re here askin watin she go do bah.

MOMENT OF TRUTH
4 years u call it, why now. There is something you are hiding. Until u say it the elders av alot to talk about.

Seriously, am not hiding anything she av been fighting dis tot for 2yrs but wen dis comes to meeting her father...av try to take to her but all is in vain so I decided dat maybe If she aske d aouse...it not abt d money cos they stay in different states and dey see not everytime.

kayzdekor:
Seriously, am not hiding anything she av been fighting dis tot for 2yrs but wen dis comes to meeting her father...av try to take to her but all is in vain so I decided dat maybe If she aske d aouse...it not abt d money cos they stay in different states and dey see not everytime.

shade shiiiiiiii!!!! ur fwend dey lie, d guy dey call she dey pick, dey send money she dey withdraw dats y she forget she no love him.
shhhhhh!!!! Tell her that I said its a conflict of the mind she will get over it.

Hmmmm...its not about any money cos I was it her, fine d guy is responsible but we ar talking about marriage

amunkita:
This kind advice dey vex mii walahii,
Wat ve she been doin wiv d man for d years she no longer feels same 4 him? Chopin his money abii? Nd d mum on d oda hand is enjoying goodies frm dis same man.

D thunder wey go slap dis ur fwend still dey Jupiter.
Wasting d man's time, energy, resources nd u re here askin watin she go do bah.

No mind them

Its always"a friend of mine"...it high time ♈όϋ guys got serious jor...
She has lost interest in him for about 2 yrs now?... Iڪ it by forced to be in a relationship with him?..I guess you/she don't want to loose some benefits from τ̲̅ђe guy..τ̲̅ђe earlier you/she leave,τ̲̅ђe better..

4 years is no joke mehn. You have wasted his love, energy, time and money invested on you and above all, break his heart. Wow!... Tell him the truth no matter how difficult it seems. You might not want to keep on lying to yourself and him too.

She is a thief,afta drainin d guy.she must b stupid,u dnt lik him afta 2yrs,wch means she has exhausted d guy and she. Is tryin to back out.she is a pretender

Na wa ooo.. U guys are really funny and annoying, seriously u ar ask to help with ur advise not to insult or conclude...wat if she's reading dis, what is d advise dat u av given her... To marry him or leave I can't imagine dis what u will say, is dis an advice or accusation ur comment might make her to do something wrong remember its marriage we ar talking about and its not a joke. Try to lead a person in a write way not accusing her. HABA

She has useless the guys bank account...

No second chance...

kayzdekor:
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my brother imagine story oo...

How old is she?Maybe 26+

When she turns 32,she go understand how far


Girls should wake up..



Remember,tmao........

Op, Ur friend should just call it a quit. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. I can connect with her story cos I have been there though I didn't let it past 6months b4 I call it a quit but still I quit when he want to meet my people. I enter the r/ship with the hope that I will grow to love him, and when it seems not to be working, I try to end it but didn't want to hurt him though I tried giving him hint that i want out but it either he pretend not seeing the indication or he assumes it nothing. When he insisted on meeting my people, I know I really have to quit.
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And b4 threadmates begin to accuse me of milking him, Note: I haven't gotten any gift from him, not even birthday present(all I got on my birthday was sms), but that's not the issue.

[quote author=afolag post=28831891]You don follow ur fwend chop my guy money finish abi. no whre to run........ [/quot

lol

chaii i can feel her pains ...tell him pls
tell ur mum

talk to his people ok

Those ppl who commented b4 me have said it all...
when a thing is bad, there are no two names to it....it's bad..
The lady in question I bliv kept the hopes of the poor man alive for over four years just for material gains?...well, that's a barbaric attitude there...
Anyways, I think the lady should just open up and tell the fiance about it coz a good name is better than all the benefits she's currently entangled with...running away on the day of marriage always creep up from issues like this. So to save her parents' face and hers inclusive, it's best she just beg the man and explain to her mother the way she feels b4 further preparations are made...
A sorrowful marriage is the only feasible aftermath if she goes ahead to marry this man...she shuldn't worry what her mother or others (save her fiance) feels abt her decision coz this is a very vital decision which is gonna shape the rest of her life....it's beta to break the man's heart to which I bliv he'll get over it on a shorter while than to cry her heart out every blessed day...