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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Nobody: 7:56pm On Dec 21, 2014

Do you bleep them before things go awry? if yes maybe you got the wrong entrance or just don't do it right or they are scared you'd take them for granted.....Relationships are about energy exchange (as most of life is) and most times the less care you show(for most young people) the more atop of the game you are

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by oathman(m): 9:20pm On Dec 21, 2014

simply bcus dey re too nyc

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by doskie(m): 9:26pm On Dec 21, 2014

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
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didn't even read the screed. im replying the ropic from what I think its about. I dont like nicr guys. I refer you to one book. its titled THE PRINCE BY NICOLO MACHIAVELLI. read it.

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by delishpot: 9:27pm On Dec 21, 2014

Same with nice girls too.
Question should be, why do nice people always get treated badly. This ish is not limited to guys only.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by mployer(m): 9:32pm On Dec 21, 2014

OohMpa:
[color=#808000]Here's why:

1) They feel you're a player cos all players start nicely

2) They see you as hypocrites who want sth. After that, hasta la vista

3) You don't live in the real world. Obviously, you can't relate to them

4) You'd always be second to the real guys. At least they don't lie to them

5) Nice gets you a relationship, real sustains a relationship. That's where they wanna be

Keep on with the nice while ooh Mpa gets realer every second. Guys like you really up ooh Mpa's statistics

#Sai[/color]

Things are changing on NL. This is the best I've read from You.

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Nobody: 9:36pm On Dec 21, 2014

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

op first of all.. i hail you in our popular tone " Foundamental boo booo..."

now ur own better... at least you don date few,my own different, they always friend zone me, while the ones i no get feeling for dey like me... i just tire..

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by gerald09(m): 9:37pm On Dec 21, 2014

dude, nothing is wrong you just like any other black man in his 20s. u will eventually find that babe that will make you go gaga, all players or wannabe players went tru the same sht eventually most of us got that prison sentence (LIFE) that sentence called marriage some of us can't explain how it happened but it did, some entered tru `I miss my period' and few of us just! got tired of the play "hahaha" could not say that with a straight face. but trust me u Will meet that babe.

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by okiezman(m): 9:38pm On Dec 21, 2014

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

Which dept are you in? Am a futoite also, final year. We go discuss one on one

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by frankmoney(m): 9:43pm On Dec 21, 2014

Through my research I have found out women don't like nice guys ...they like guys that are in control and a bit rough ...you can be nice but not too nice else she would take u for granted and feel Mr nice guy is always there .....

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by thegoodjoehunt3(m): 9:44pm On Dec 21, 2014

delishpot:
Same with nice girls too.
Question should be, why do nice people always get treated badly. This ish is not limited to guys only.

People behave the same way to both nice and playas. It is just that nice people are devoted (which takes effort and discipline) but playas are not devoted.

So nice people feel the pain of being hurt or dumped. Playas see it as normal and move on to the next one.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Zaikon(m): 9:45pm On Dec 21, 2014

andromida:
You sound nice but you know too much of anything can become a bad thing and sometimes the attraction just dies it's not your fault and there is nothing you can do. Its not because you are not a jerk maybe she is not feeling you anymore. If you have to act like a jerk before a woman likes you then she does not really like you she likes the act you are putting on and how long do you plan to keep up the act? See why it's best to be yourself?

If she likes bad boys, you may have to leave her so she can find what she is looking for and you can find someone who appreciates what you have to offer.

babe u ar on point nd if u really follow ur teachingz den ur guy wil be so lucky 4 havin an undstanding lady type.

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by gracile(f): 9:46pm On Dec 21, 2014

eeyah :' you nice guys are treated badly bah

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by TDstarr: 9:49pm On Dec 21, 2014

Read double your dating, the book changed my life, women always want to please me in a relationship now, before your nice dey learn, I am very sensitive to her every emotions but it doesn't pay bro

Go to ur google search, type in "download double your dating.pdf by David deangelo"

P.s women don't even know what dey want that's why even your mother can't help , so taking advise from females on nairaland is useless ,

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by thegoodjoehunt3(m): 9:49pm On Dec 21, 2014*

As for Girls love bad guys and hate nice guys. I do not believe it. No matter how nice a guy is to most ladies, the ladies still want something out side. Note most ladies. So when they mess up something so real and true to them, most ladies use the we love bad guys to cover up their insatiable want.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by otabuko(m): 9:50pm On Dec 21, 2014

Well,if you're too nice that's a problem cos the girls want not so nice guys,some go to the extent of putting you in that annoying friends zone after a week or so of friendship...just be hard sort of and stand on what you want I.e don't just get easily bent by what they want and they will ever want you..

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Nobody: 9:51pm On Dec 21, 2014

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

I feel for u bro,, buh I think u need to be less nice, cos most of d girls see you as mr nice, and they don't lyk it much.. PS. SOSC and SOHT girls are good at this.. Buh take ur time bro, I'm sure soonest u find a girl d@ lyks u,,, though those futo girls dey worry shaa...

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Tymax(m): 9:51pm On Dec 21, 2014

Superficial and naïve girls treat nice guys badly. A sensible woman wants peace in her life. A pity that ladies take a long time growing to understand the value of a nice guy.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Williamso(m): 9:52pm On Dec 21, 2014

Don't change what you do. Continue to be yourself. You'll definitely come across people who are looking for your type, trust me on that!!!

Forget the bad boy issh. If you aren't a bad boy naturally, you'll end up being worse with the ladies...

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by delishpot: 9:52pm On Dec 21, 2014

thegoodjoehunt3:
People behave the same way to both nice and playas. It is just that nice people are devoted (which takes effort and disciple) but playas are not devoted.

So nice people feel the pain of being hurt or dumped. Playas see it as normal and move on to the next one.

True to an extent. But I have seen lots of times people trying to hold on to friendships/ relationships that are unhealthy and one sided. Meaning the good person trying hard to keep the bad persons friendship. The good one doesnt "dump" the player rather the player dumps the good person to create space for the next victim when the percieved goodies they want from the goody goody person has been harvested.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by TDstarr: 9:55pm On Dec 21, 2014

thegoodjoehunt3:
As for Girls love bad guys and hate nice guys. I do not believe it. No matter how nice a guys is to most ladies, the ladies still want something out side. Note most ladies. Son when they mess up something so real and true to them, most ladies use the we love bad guys to cover up their insatiable want.

its obvious you are new to the dating world , ladies don't admit they love bad guys but if u watch very well, the nice guy always end as a friend or husband, while they date the guy who hurts dem , and come and complain to d nice guys, most times dey cheat on the nice guy with a bad guy, its the way their mentality is. A man is supposed to be able to fight off intruders, not be weak, they evolved like that

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by queenbesha(f): 9:56pm On Dec 21, 2014

Bimffo:
Looll.. Dont be a bad guy.. Be inbetween a Bad guy and a good guy, it works like hell.. Gonna Suit U perfectly.. Just dont be too Nice.. Nigerian girls don worth that shii

'Nigerian girls' ke? Stop generalizing it lipsrsealed

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by thegoodjoehunt3(m): 9:56pm On Dec 21, 2014

delishpot:
True to an extent. But I have seen lots of times people trying to hold on to friendships/ relationships that are unhealthy and one sided. Meaning the good person trying hard to keep the bad persons friendship. The good one doesnt "dump" the player rather the player dumps the good person to create space for the next victim when the percieved goodies they want from the goody goody person has been harvested.

The scenario you describe here, explains my point if you look closely.

The good/nice girl for instance wants to hold on to the love and make it work. She is devoted.

The playa is not devoted and wants to move on to the next one. So the good one gets dumped and the playa hardly/never gets dumped.

Same with good/nice guys. They hold on to the relationship until they see the bad side of the girl but a playa will dump the same girl and will never see her bad side.

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Penboy: 9:57pm On Dec 21, 2014

Bimffo:
Looll.. Dont be a bad guy.. Be inbetween a Bad guy and a good guy, it works like hell.. Gonna Suit U perfectly.. Just dont be too Nice.. Nigerian girls don worth that shii

lol

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Penboy: 9:59pm On Dec 21, 2014

ronald4lif:
Coz women are more attracted to the bad guys, they feel more secure around them

I honesty would like to know how bad boys behave.

Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by thegoodjoehunt3(m): 10:00pm On Dec 21, 2014

TDstarr:
its obvious you are new to the dating world , ladies don't admit they love bad guys but if u watch very well, the nice guy always end as a friend or husband, while they date the guy who hurts dem , and come and complain to d nice guys, most times dey cheat on the nice guy with a bad guy, its the way their mentality is. A man is supposed to be able to fight off intruders, not be weak, they evolved like that

I am not a kid, do not think I am talking out of inexperience.

The nice guy tolerates the nonsense of a cheating lady who does not care for him. She wants to be free and sleep around. However, she needs a shoulder to lean on and someone to treat her nice.

A playa is not ready to do that. He is not ready to stress himself to make her happy. He gives her the thrill and goes to thrill the next.

Then she runs to the nice guy to get the comfort she needs.

It all boils down to devotion. If the nice guy is not tolerant and devoted to her, he would not fall for her tricks.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Mutuwa(m): 10:07pm On Dec 21, 2014

Op?

Did you know that greed is a bottomless pit which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction.

Did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?

Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated?

Did you know the one who takes care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most?

Did you know the 3 hardest things to say are I love you, I'm sorry, and Help me.

Always shame the devil plz..don't allow trifflings like this to deter u from being nice..

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by gospi: 10:08pm On Dec 21, 2014

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Well fROm mY OBSERVATN "MoST" CHiCKS WIT ALL DAT wlD END UP LIKE WaT U JUsT DESCRIBED COS THERE ARE LOADS OF OTHER GUYS ON dIa MAtTeR. WeL i dUNO D kINdA girLS U go foR. U. r iN d D BEST POSITIoN TO KNW y IT haPPENS.

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by queenbesha(f): 10:09pm On Dec 21, 2014

Guy...although am nt an expert in this field but what I will advice u to do is to be yourself. Don't pretend to be who or what you are not.
You will definitely find a lady who loves you, not for what you are, but for who you are!

You don't need to stress yourself to impress anybody. Remember you are still young, so don't rush it.

RELAX

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by ifoundmyperfect: 10:12pm On Dec 21, 2014*

You are being groomed to a man. Enjoy the experience and don't sober. If you are as nice as you claim, when time to settle down comes, your miss nice wld come along. Don't relent. I've been tru dat same road b4. Once again, enjoy the experience. And don't quit being who you are...

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by TDstarr: 10:14pm On Dec 21, 2014

thegoodjoehunt3:
I am not a kid, do not think I am talking out of inexperience.

The nice guy tolerates the nonsense of a cheating lady who does not care for him. She wants to be free and sleep around. However, she needs a shoulder to lean on and someone to treat her nice.

A playa is not ready to do that. He is not ready to stress himself to make her happy. He gives her the thrill and goes to thrill the next.

Then she runs to the nice guy to get the comfort she needs.

It all boils down to devotion. If the nice guy is not tolerant and devoted to her, he would not fall for her tricks.

, hahaha i have seen a girl cheat on me to my face with my player friend, worse part is she knew my friend had a girlfriend. she told me and my friend that she choose my friend over me, this girl denied me sex and gave my bad boy friend sex within one week of meeting him, i have spent time reading and experiencing women way of thinking, thats why u can see a man beat his wife and she still wont leave him. my friend dumped her after one weekend of fun and she still came back to beg me....the nice mugu grin

i can give you books to read if u want , its not their fault, its in their genes sad

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Re: Why Do Nice Guys Always Get Treated Badly? by Anaskie(m): 10:19pm On Dec 21, 2014

This guy's story sounds like mine... before I became wiser.

Poor guy.

I learnt it the hard way though. Being Mr.Nice Guy doesn't pay at all

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