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boluyongp:
Let me help you bro.
Here are the golden rules in relating with women. I learned from experience and books.
From the rules, you will realise what you did wrong.

RULES
1. Be a bit cocky. Act like you don't give a damn. Act like you don't care and not bothered about things.
2. Don't tolerate any nasty behaviour or words. Tell her you don't tolerate such and its unacceptable. She might be testing you with bad behaviour to see if you can handle her. Women like men who show they are not carried away by their beauty. They feel safe if you can correct them. She might grumble and act bitchy in front of you but in her closet she ll be so happy she has found a real man.
3. Don't do favors for her. She might start with asking you to help hold her hand bag for a minute or two for instance. Humorously turn her down. Its a mugu test if she asks for favours initially. Don't fail it pls. Don't also buy gifts, to her, she feels you are trying to buy her or impress her then she may try acting harder to get (sometimes to collect more gifts)
4. Don't spend too much time with her. All the morning texts and calling all the time shows desperation to her. She'll run away. If a dog is chasing you, won't you run? So, quit chasing.
5. Give her her space. Don't choke her. Women are attracted to men they believe are busy and have a life. Stop fixing meetings all the time. Sometimes she wants to be alone or with her female friends. Let her miss you a little. Scarce resources have more value.
6. Be mysterious. Don't pick her calls or reply texts immediately sometimes. Keep her wondering, play on her jealousy instincts. Be unpredictable, women feed on drama. It also shows you are a busy person.
7. Never let her have her way. Take the lead. Be in charge at all times, don't chicken out or bulge to her manipulations. Be calm and surprise her by not exchanging words sometimes and arguing or getting angry. Show her she doesnt have control over your emotions no matter the nonsense she says or do. It shows her you'll be happy, with or without her. Be the boss and the mature one. She ll soon come running after you.

BONUS: If you are stuck in any situation, just ask yourself "What will James Bond do?". Dude, can you imagine James Bond arguing with a woman or acting lovey-dovey? Never!!! Cos he's the boss bro.

I hope this helps. All the best.

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I ca looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the pl needed
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thegoodjoehunt3:
Nice tips. My problem with things like this is that it makes all men act the same. Walk into the bar and study how men behave, most of them do the same thing.

I believe in being yourself. Not a woosie. The real you. Find that inner man in you and live it.

dablazor:
bn watching u, strange since am not following, i like you.

Awwwwmn


Thank you

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
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MizMyColi:
I shared this post.
Nice writ.

The last line tho'
While that is true, depending on the context, me thinks it's okay to apply wisdom.

Self love's selfish y'know.

Mutuwa:
Thanks..

thegoodjoehunt3:
Myth. Do you think ladies that date nice guys do not fall for them? Most nice guys complain of their hearts being broken. Why? It was all good earlier. Rosy. She loved the way he treated her and she agreed to date him.

Why is it during Val, most guys act like Zombies to please their women. If ladies love rough bad guys, men would have been slapping them during Val. No need to take her on dates and thrill her.

It is a case of wanting more. Most women are never satisfied. No matter how nice you treat her, she wants more.

If you are mean to her and rough, she would want a GOD FEARING MAN. LOL.

youngice:
shw seizes an form of relationship and her friends start avoiding me and she ignores my calls etc

youngice:
I tried being a bad guy, shit doesn't just suit me

Princecharmin:
hmmmm...from experience hmmmm...from experience

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

IDEApro:
1. Woo a lady

2. Take her out on a date

3. Make yourself unavailable for as long as you want.
I. she calls and you promise to see her, don't go and give convincing reason
b. Give her surprise presents and don't yield to any of her request.
c.women are inquisitive in nature, don't be predictable.

4. bleep her after months of meeting her not within weeks.

5. continue the game of being unpredictable and she will naturally want to discover the real you. The more she try,the good she is obsessed and you see her displaying that weakness to be with you.

...a year later she will beg you to define the relationship because you are unpredictable.

Then tell her ''with the right attitude I will want to spend the rest of my life with you in the near future'' and you are guaranteed a steady bleep.

MizMyColi:
Awwwwmn


Thank you

kristein:
what about taking her out for a date and started buying som stuff for her,is that also mr nice aspect??

thegoodjoehunt3:
The scenario you describe here, explains my point if you look closely.

The good/nice girl for instance wants to hold on to the love and make it work. She is devoted.

The playa is not devoted and wants to move on to the next one. So the good one gets dumped and the playa hardly/never gets dumped.

Same with good/nice guys. They hold on to the relationship until they see the bad side of the girl but a playa will dump the same girl and will never see her bad side.

andromida:
You sound nice but you know too much of anything can become a bad thing and sometimes the attraction just dies it's not your fault and there is nothing you can do. Its not because you are not a jerk maybe she is not feeling you anymore. If you have to act like a jerk before a woman likes you then she does not really like you she likes the act you are putting on and how long do you plan to keep up the act? See why it's best to be yourself?
I'm
If she likes bad boys, you may have to leave her so she can find what she is looking for and you can find someone who appreciates what you have to offer.

andromida:
I see you may be doing something that turns these ladies off if her friends are avoiding you as well. While it's cool to be yourself constant rejection is bad for anyone's self esteem so i'd say you need to stop something you are doing probably you are rejecting yourself on some level you are unaware of there is a difference between a one time heart break and consistent rejection from women who seemed to be into you initially.