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delishpot:
Which clearly contradicts what you said at first. You said both player and good boy get dumped equaly and I said no. That players tend to get ladies/ guys who latch unto them and want to make things work out while the good ones are heart broken easily by a bad partner( player) who doesnt give a rats arse about them. Which we have all withnessed at one point in time. Players hardly ever get dumped good ones are easily dumped or used.

thegoodjoehunt3:
It does not contradict anything. Look at your words.

The playa hardly gets dumped because he lacks emotional connection. If she wants to go, he does not care. He has others. So it looks like he never gets dumped.

Have you not seen ladies fighting ton get a nice/good guy back? That is the latching on to a playa but due to the long emotional attachment, it seems only the good thus get dumped and only the bad guys have ladies fighting over them.

If a girl hates good guy, why cry when they lose a genuine good guy.

As I said, it is a myth. The playa is emotionally shielded because or his lack of devotion. The good guy is in so long until she shows another side of her.

delishpot:
Player hardly gets dumped cos he has a way of pickibg the good girls not because he picks girls that always dump him and he moves on.
On the other hand, the good boy always lands the crazy girl. The female version of a playboy. Thus the way I see it, opposites attract not that players and good boys get same class of women.
A player hardly leaves time for anyone to dump them even. So I dont believe that a player gets dumped frequently. A player dumps before the victim realizes it.
Yes players get dumped(once in a blue moon) and he is quick(pretend) to move on, but by the time 1 woman dumps a player, 10 have dumped the good boy. Its not about emmotional response here, its about tge frequency at which one gets dumped compared to tge other.
So yes, when a player is dumped he moves( or at least seems to) move on without much hassle while a good boy finds it hard to reconcile his loss with facts. But, that is by the way side. We are talking about tge frequency at which a good boy is dumped (regardless of hiw he reacts to it) versus how frequently a player is dumped.
And yes, you are right why cry over a person in his/ her right sense who has on purpose thrown away good food and settle for rotten apple?

thegoodjoehunt3:
You are wrong here. Go and check on the records of good guys. They go, there is this girl I love so much who dumped me. It is not series of women but a devotion to a woman they love and want to make it work. So the report of 10 girls dumping is not true.

On the other hands, playas get dumped regularly but they are sleeping with another girl to realise they have been dumped. Even as he is with his present girl, he is planning to hit another. Son if the present one leaves, he does not care.

So the good guy is dumped less. Even when the girl dumps him, she wants him back when she realises her mistake.

So the good girl loves bad guys is a myth.

Kingscee:
Check your Peniis size and call me later

Chuksteric:
hahaha.... bro try nekede or imsu girls. distance helps alot and futo girls feel important even the ugliest of them.... hope this helps

youngice:
I don roam owerri like mad man

youngice:
[i]I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this


I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac

GeneralShepherd:
Never listen to a woman's advice on women!

doskie:
your elder brother
and your sisters husband.

ideology:
Hmmmm …
If I should comment

One of the things men are yet to learn is to have a focus in life they really wanna be successful.
How many people who are successful in life started out with chasing ladies and stopping any woman they see on the road.

Until some men stop chasing ladies or stopping ladies because she looks good or beautiful; until then … complains will keep rising. Don't forget that there are many beautiful women infact as it is written the beautiful ones are not yet born. Will you keep chasing every lady you see.


Men; define your life, have a focus, who would you love to have as a wife, where are you seeing yourself in the next 5, 10, 25 years??

if we all learn these lessons, you won't stop just any girl on the road, mall, cinema. Etc.

Be yourself!!

being nice can be natural, but I don't think being nice includes opening doors, drinking garri and buying her Brazilian hair, and some other things I hear some guys do.
our love propels us to give, our time, money and energy to ensure the lady is happy. That doesn't mean turn to a fool.

Most times we complain of ladies but We are the ones making them believe that is the right way.
Making it worst, the elderly men.

As a man be friendly with everyone of them, have limits and respect yourself. Help anyone that comes your way as much as you can but Don't get fooled.
Love and develop yourself and ensure that you are happy.
There is time for everything.…

youngice:
its the other way round , she begins to hate me,

youngice:
its the other way round , she begins to hate me,

youngice:
I said nice not mugulicious
And yes I have a vision and I have a plan for my life in the next 15 but is it when I'm where I'm want to be I will start looking for q wife under duress

MizMyColi:
No Hun, Nooo

You shouldn't pretend. You shouldn't.

I've been in your shoes too, and that's why I can relate with how it feels for you.

Our world as we know it is so used to people having manipulative tendencies, having a motive for being nice and just plain wickedness. So it beats the imagination of most people when a person is so nice.....without any string attached really. They'd label you a hypocrite.

But then, I understand that in this world.....there are certain kinds of people who are just that way. They are models of love. Burn them all you want, use them all you want......even if they decide to stop being nice (like they can anyway)......there's this feeling of discontent, this feeling of emptiness that they feel. The reason's simple --- they don't know how to be any less.

I take it you're in that category. I am too. But one problem I've had to and I'm still learning to overcome is that of insecurity. I think you should work on that too.

You need to embrace yourself fully......your gifts. It's not a cross, it's not a burden. You need to let your value for self and your worth emanate from within.

Finally, you need to guard your heart. You need to apply wisdom. Y'see, because loving's a default setting in you, you're prone to love and become attached to just about anything lovable and attachable, here's where you need to apply restraint and caution.

It's not a bad thing to think and fall in love carefully.

It's not a bad thing to be self aware and do your best to protect your heart from people who aren't worth it.

Ladies, at times can be mean .... I for one, even though I like to be shown affection and attention ..... I prefer when it's done in moderation. I expect my partner to be sensitive enough to know when it's time to just let things be --- and vice versa.

You just keep living and keep learning. With the right guidance and actions, I'm sure there'll be this lady who shares your values and loves just as much as you do, she might be on NL for all we know!!

I kid! I kid!
All the best

ideology:
Looking for wife doesn't entail stopping any lady you see thinking she's the right one.

youngice:
I'm picky I don't stop just any lady

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments
Niaraland love experts
CC
Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

youngice:
I semi dated a bch babe she for roughly 2 yrs
SEEET wet I dey no get love