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TDstarr:
, hahaha i have seen a girl cheat on me to my face with my player friend, worse part is she knew my friend had a girlfriend. she told me and my friend that she choose my friend over me, this girl denied me sex and gave my bad boy friend sex within one week of meeting him, i have spent time reading and experiencing women way of thinking, thats why u can see a man beat his wife and she still wont leave him. my friend dumped her after one weekend of fun and she still came back to beg me....the nice mugu

i can give you books to read if u want , its not their fault, its in their genes

brother you get mind o....shey you forgive am?

ronald4lif:
Coz women are more attracted to the bad guys, they feel more secure around them

seriously, this trend is getting way out of hand. you see responsible looking,soft spoken beautiful ladies dieing for goons.Why is this so?

Eeyah I reserve my comment though!

ybalogs:
seriously, this trend is getting way out of hand. you see responsible looking,soft spoken beautiful ladies dieing for goons.Why is this so?

I haven't the slightest idea

. Most girls prefer bad guys.

Princecharmin:
Lolzzzz.....

I never curse anybody papa since dem born me. no be him I go take start lai lai

Loyalty brings lot of pains. You have to be wise when dealing with ladies.

doskie:
I never curse anybody papa since dem born me. no be him I go take start lai lai

Lolzzzz ......FYM

youngice:
well thanks for the advice ,but when affection dies why does it metamorph to hate on her side

I tell you why.

It is because at that point when the attraction dies, u as the nice guy will invariably begin to think that it must have been ur fault; that u must have done something to piss her off, not really knowing that its just normal for her perception of u to have changed after spending some moments together.
And so, desperation sets in on ur part. U become desperate! U call like 6times every morning, trying to sort out the imaginary issues u think is making her ignore u. U send her txts. U smother her with attention when u shld just let her be for a while.
What u fail to understand however, is that the attention ua giving to her, the calls, the txts etc are actually pissing her off the more u try.
And then as u continue to bother her, she suddenly believes u have no life of ur own after all, that u have NO VALUE. All u do is chase her. And so she doesn't have any other than to do whatever she has to do to get rid of u from her life!
U see women are fragile and shld be treated nicely. But like someone rightly said, even too much of a good thing eventually becomes bad.
So my advice to u is this: 1. Be confident; 2. Be urself; 3. Don't go out of ur way to please anyone(not even ur women); 4. Place some value/worth on urself, don't be a yes man; 5. Don't be desperate when it comes to dating. Women can smell desperation from a thousand miles away. And I can assure u its a big turn off for them. Lastly, 6. If things don't work out, have the courage to move on and still keep trying. Nothing good comes easy anyhow. But above all, don't just build ur life around women and dating. Explore other aspects of ur life. Discover urself. Cuz when u discover urself, women will even throw themselves at u(altho it depends on what kind of women u really want/need).
All the best.

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
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my broda...dats a very bad omen..u need to see a prophet asap..dont just ignore or treat ds matter wit levity,its really a pain in d ass..go out and seek spiritual help...no go dull urself at all..i don talk my own..if u like make u use am make e work..if u like make u take am as a joke o

abayskia:
my broda...dats a very bad omen..u need to see a prophet asap..dont just ignore or treat ds matter wit levity,its really a pain in d ass..go out and seek spiritual help...no go dull urself at all..i don talk my own..if u like make u use am make e work..if u like make u take am as a joke o

Classicman47:
I tell you why.
It is because at that point when the attraction dies, u as the nice guy will invariably begin to think that it must have been ur fault; that u must have done something to piss her off, not really knowing that its just normal for her perception of u to have changed after spending some moments together.
And so, desperation sets in on ur part. U become desperate! U call like 6times every morning, trying to sort out the imaginary issues u think is making her ignore u. U send her txts. U smother her with attention when u shld just let her be for a while.
What u fail to understand however, is that the attention ua giving to her, the calls, the txts etc are actually pissing her off the more u try.
And then as u continue to bother her, she suddenly believes u have no life of ur own after all, that u have NO VALUE. All u do is chase her. And so she doesn't have any other than to do whatever she has to do to get rid of u from her life!
U see women are fragile and shld be treated nicely. But like someone rightly said, even too much of a good thing eventually becomes bad.
So my advice to u is this: 1. Be confident; 2. Be urself; 3. Don't go out of ur way to please anyone(not even ur women); 4. Place some value/worth on urself, don't be a yes man; 5. Don't be desperate when it comes to dating. Women can smell desperation from a thousand miles away. And I can assure u its a big turn off for them. Lastly, 6. If things don't work out, have the courage to move on and still keep trying. Nothing good comes easy anyhow. But above all, don't just build ur life around women and dating. Explore other aspects of ur life. Discover urself. Cuz when u discover urself, women will even throw themselves at u(altho it depends on what kind of women u really want/need).
All the best.

I think I have sorted out all these issues

youngice:
I tried being a bad guy, shit doesn't just suit me

Hve being a nice nd shy guy all ma life.....d truth is...girls like bad guys.....I'll remain a nice guy sha...weda gurls dem cme or go

youngice:
I think I have sorted out all these issues

Wow. Good for you. How did u do it? Hope u didn't listen to that fo00l asking u to go see a prophet?

abayskia:
my broda...dats a very bad omen..u need to see a prophet asap..dont just ignore or treat ds matter wit levity,its really a pain in d ass..go out and seek spiritual help...no go dull urself at all..i don talk my own..if u like make u use am make e work..if u like make u take am as a joke o

Oga try get sense abeg. Haba!! Wetin sef? Everythng is spiritual. Nonsense!!

Hm... This one is an easy case to solve. Here we go:

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day

Men, you effing crazy. You do stuff like that once a while NOT eeryday.

youngice:
... I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying

You really have no idea what happened. Lol . So cute. I'll tell you what happened. You made yourself too available. There was no mystery to your game. Girls love a challenge and you killed that challenge by being readily available blowing up her phone and revealing much all in Week 1. You should have spoon fed her with your charm and availability.

You've got to let her miss you and wonder what you're up to. That way she thinks about you and the more she thinks about you, the more her interest in you rises!

You seem to lack self control when dealing with the opposite sex. It's a marathon with 'em ladies not a sprint unless you just wanna smash 'n' dash. You dig?

Jeez, didn't you fockers learn anything in college?