mikolo80:
do you KNOW she didn't do it? So why are you defending someone who refuse to clear the air .guys are working based on empirical evidence
90% do yanga hence prolly she did yanga
thus she should now do opposite of yanga if she truly desperate
if not,not by force
she can die alone
altho personally think its not the only way to be happy but if e de worry her she should stop the yanga

op made this thread on behalf of someone else who obviously isn't here. the post i quoted was not a suggestion.
it was plain criticism. how can you criticize someone for something she may not have done.?
and what do u mean by she should stop the yanga.?
you should say if she was the yanga type, then she should stop.

imagine if she was a shy introvert who works in a psychiatric ward somewhere and has littlle chances of meeting new people then what?

Okeycima:
PLS IT IS IGBO NOT IBO...take note and don't call a tribalist wen u sound like one

I stand to be corrected, thank you.

Two things! It is either she is a lesbian or she has spiritual problems. Lesbians find it very difficult to form emotional bonds with men and will never give their relationship with men the needed seriousness and time that it deserves. She doesn't think about the situation because she is not really into men.

Let me consult IFA for her problem. I will get back to you.

ladymichael:


My sister got married at age of 37 to a man that has never married, my close friend, a divorcee with kids got married to a single man...... I can go on to sight several instances, my dearest.

It dosen't invalidate my point.
Compared to the vast majority of women getting married, you'd find out that 35+ women getting married are a very small percentage of them.
Unless under certain compelling conditions, no sane well-to-do man would opt for a 35+ woman as his first choice.
That is the blunt and bitter truth.
May hay while the sun shines.

catchmykiss:
@OP

Your friend is not the only one facing this problem coz a lot of ladies out there are in the same shoes. I have close cousins who are above 35 sef. Foe example, in the compound where I live, the BQ (four rooms) is being occupied by four different ladies who are above 35 or even 40; and non of them is married.

So, the problem is not peculiar to your friend. It's just that men are everywhere but hubbys are very scarce to find these days. I blame it mostly on the harsh economic realities on ground and the attitude of some of our ladies who would rather remain single than settle with a man that is yet to make it.

ur head dey there my brother

ladymichael:


Chairman, your uncle don reach 48 and u still dey do tribalism.
Tribe no dey determine what maketh a wife. No, she no be ibo.

You people should be able reason properly. Every normal being, I real men or man has in his mind the ethnical group he would want a wife. It is not tribal. Would you in your sincere mind, as at today, marry from the north east? Is that tribal? I have worked for Shagari's ie NPN, worked for Obasanjo and others. No one would have known who the typical northerners is if not that a Southner is now rulling. Look at the actions of the hausa man and women. They kill themselves and blame it on GEJ. Would you sincerely marry from that zone?

Rxpetite:

op made this thread on behalf of someone else who obviously isn't here. the post i quoted was not a suggestion.
it was plain criticism. how can you criticize someone for something she may not have done.?
and what do u mean by she should stop the yanga.?
you should say if she was the yanga type, then she should stop.

imagine if she was a shy introvert who works in a psychiatric ward somewhere and has littlle chances of meeting new people then what?

ok bad choice of words ,my bad
all i'm saying is statistically yanga is no. 1 cause of female lonliness
if she shy she go online or outsource(blind dates)
2 even busy execs find time to meet ppl;hence''yanga'' still on the table

as in not yanga yanga but still yanga of a diff variety cos i'm shy but when toto begin hungry me i overcome am o,threw mysellf out there cos no time
so its up to her, she need to stop the ''yanga'' ang go and flirt /toast/greenlight guys (if she truly desperate)

Ipledge:
one word...Lagoon or Asejire

Dear what u said is more than one word. I'm sure u are confused and so did not understand what the op posted, which informs the advice u rendered.

CSTR:
It dosen't invalidate my point.
Compared to the vast majority of women getting married, you'd find out that 35+ women getting married are a very small percentage of them.
Unless under certain compelling conditions, no sane well-to-do man would opt for a 35+ woman as his first choice.
That is the blunt and bitter truth.
May hay while the sun shines.

The blundest truth. No normal man would actually go for a 35 year plus woman. Not today, unless under very uncontroble circumstances. Not even an average man.

andyanders:


Something is wrong somewhere.Knew of someone with similar problem.She is an MBA holder, had no job, and no man ever has asked her out.She was just in their house selling soft drinks, cookies and candies and stuffs like.Until she went to a church where a friend took her and it was there it was revealed to her that her face was exchanged with an old woman's face and her certificate buried spiritually. She was prayed for and delivered as she went through deliverance. Same week, a job she applied for and forgotten for years she was in her house when they came to deliver a letter of appointment and that was an oil company.She was given a car and an official accommodation and within same period, in less than 3 months, she got wedded and a year later was blessed with twins.After two yrs, she gave birth to another set of twins.

Something is wrong and your friend should find a solution which is to get the problem responsible out of her life. It is spiritual.

I know that some people would come here to now counter the spiritual issue but, I stand to tell you that I know that something is wrong as I am aware of this person's issue and would not want to mention her name here.Things are real and only God can save us from certain issues beyond ordinary.

too much of nollywood! Pls tell us another story

temitemi1:
She should be prayerful, there is nothing GOD can't do...

So God dey give toasters abi .nawa

My 2 cent; make she go market go buy toaster.its not expensive .she can even buy the fairly used ones .merry xmas

godsgift233:



instead of u to give a good advise u ar saying she shud pray and wait for another 35 years. because the person u ar telling her to pray to does nt exist..

I humbly present to you, another goaT.

andyanders:


Something is wrong somewhere.Knew of someone with similar problem.She is an MBA holder, had no job, and no man ever has asked her out.She was just in their house selling soft drinks, cookies and candies and stuffs like.Until she went to a church where a friend took her and it was there it was revealed to her that her face was exchanged with an old woman's face and her certificate buried spiritually. She was prayed for and delivered as she went through deliverance. Same week, a job she applied for and forgotten for years she was in her house when they came to deliver a letter of appointment and that was an oil company.She was given a car and an official accommodation and within same period, in less than 3 months, she got wedded and a year later was blessed with twins.After two yrs, she gave birth to another set of twins.

Something is wrong and your friend should find a solution which is to get the problem responsible out of her life. It is spiritual.

I know that some people would come here to now counter the spiritual issue but, I stand to tell you that I know that something is wrong as I am aware of this person's issue and would not want to mention her name here.Things are real and only God can save us from certain issues beyond ordinary.

I can't believe that people still believe in nonsense like this.

mikolo80:
ok bad choice of words ,my bad
all i'm saying is statistically yanga is no. 1 cause of female lonliness
if she shy she go online or outsource(blind dates)
2 even busy execs find time to meet ppl;hence''yanga'' still on the table

as in not yanga yanga but still yanga of a diff variety cos i'm shy but when toto begin hungry me i overcome am o,threw mysellf out there cos no time
so its up to her, she need to stop the ''yanga'' ang go and flirt /toast/greenlight guys (if she truly desperate)

merry xmas then

I dont want know how beauty,how ugle,how well behavior or how respected she is,but one thing is sure it is her right to marry therefore whatever that is covering her from the right man,you time is up!we uncover you in the name of JESUS! Amen.go and get married before year 2015 is over

memnon37:
I DISAGREE ON THAT POINT ...GOD SAID HE CREATED THEM MALE AND FEMALE...AND THE FEMALE IS A HELPMEET TO A MALE. HER MALE IS SOMEWHERE....THE LADY IN QUESTION I DO NOT MIND TO MEET WITH HER ONE ON ONE

what about priests and nuns?

Rxpetite:
merry xmas then

und a mrry new year to you and yours

Ise aye ni o

frustratedman:
I WILL MARRY HER IF I HAVE MORE DETAILS

i dey fear ur monkey sef

zubby29:
rozzay dis is unlike u.even if she is d 1 jst drop ur advice nd make a fellow sister happy

Hmmmm ok my dear let her attend d power must change hands jan edition @ d prayer city MFM. Jesus is lord!

ladymichael:



I might get slaps for this but much as I don't agree with premarital sex, how can she learn how to do this expertly without a man in her life?

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." ------ Oga Einstein


You've done the abstinence thing for quite a while, and where has it gotten you?

Human females attain sexual maturity around 16 years of age. Do you think God would design you to have the cauldron of urges and desires you possess, going forward, if he intends for you to find a mate at 30?

Religion is a tool for mass control. Learn to think for yourself, especially in matters such as this.

You can't learn to play the piano by just reading a book. And you can't learn how to become good in bed by just reading a book either. You need quite some practice.

In theory, I know how to "curve-it-like-Beckham", but would be found extremely wanting, should I be called upon to 'curve' it in real life.


You were designed to have sex and LOVE it, so any other contrary information is a lie against God and against nature.

I suspect, the major setback you could have, initially, wouldn't be getting naked, itself. But actually letting go, and accepting yourself as a magnificent sexual being.

Finally, becoming a sexual dynamite isn't a magic bullet. You should also be a genuinely warm and pleasant person. The kind one would always look forward to coming back to.

a single lady at 28, 30 should at least be financially stable. there'll be nothing to enjoy in a marriage with a lady who is advanced in age, and yet dependent. sitting down all her life and expecting a charming prince to emerge from the blues and shoulder all her responsibilities at age 38 is totally unrealistic and appears more like a miracle that doesn't happen every day. yes! the red sea was split, david killed goliath, manna fell from sky, bread and fish multiplied, water became wine. but they happen only once or never in every blue moon. they cant be waited for. something other than sitting down, watching telemundo that makes you dwell in a fantasy garden at 30, ought to be done. if a guy is not attracted by your looks, he must be drawn by your sucess and achievements. successful ladies can even attract younger guys. something expired beauty does not do.
im yet to discover what it is that prevent women from making moves to initiating relationships as an alternative to getting lost in the rave and suave of a pity-party, when guys do not approach them first. there is something called emotional intelligence that can enable a lady determine who and who (of guys) can be approached with no dreadful consequence. there are decent and mature guys that will gladly make friends and plan dates with a lady who made the first move. white women do it all the time and yet they have not gone into extinction. we all have fears. but when you do the things you fear most, the death of fear becomes certain.

sheddyboy:
Its either your friend or your colleague, it will never be you, she don't know how to write abi? that also means she cannot read.. until you prove not to be colleague i reserve my comment.

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KAYCEEJUNIOR:
SMH, your level of reasoning is extremely poor, well I thought you are sensitive never knew that you are such a jeck and gulible, are you the one looking for a wife? how does tribalism comes to ones choice of marriage? just wondering how some people reason through their nostril......

wow,u re really Dumb.u re lucky d o p is not a bini girl.u 4 smell ur blood idiota.

KAYCEEJUNIOR:
SMH, your level of reasoning is extremely poor, well I thought you are sensitive never knew that you are such a jeck and gulible, are you the one looking for a wife? how does tribalism comes to ones choice of marriage? just wondering how some people reason through their nostril......

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xprtngnr:
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maturity has nothing to do with age.

this is why chris oyakilomeh should come in... principal of marriage

She should go into real violent prayers. She is covered spiritually so no man sees her or takes notice of her as a woman in the physical world. wish her total deliverance.

My little advice.

Dress neatly, go out more, I mean to parties and try to make a lot of friends. Have a too personality it attracts people. Be a happy strong woman, have fun. Always be optimistic. Be yourself and say what's on your mind. Most important pray to God and be thankful for your life.

But why does my instinct insist dat da supposed 35 year old single lady is da OP?
.
But mehn 4get,wat will be will be. If u're meant 2 get married u will,nothing will stop it. It can only be delayed bt not denied! Merry Christmas!!!

ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?

After dey go do shakara finish during their youthful days