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Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 5:25pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Just saw this article on a website and thought I'd share it with you guys.noticed that there are tons of shallow people on this site...here goes: In my opinion, the most attractive people are the ones who know that their physical appearance isn’t the most attractive thing about them. They have a certain kind of confidence, they’re usually more fun to hang out with, and they’re the kind of people who are ready to love you for who you are. Not what you are. Body image is no light subject. There are people who are suffering legitimate illnesses, mental and physical, relating to how they appear. At the bare minimum, I assume, everybody feels as though they are sub-par at some point, in some way. I am in no way trying to diminish the suffering that people experience regarding their physical appearances. I just hope that, if even for a few minutes, you can hear me out. I think that attraction that is not physical can end up being physical eventually, when you really grow to care about someone. Listen, I’m not going to lie and say that personal grooming and cleanliness aren’t important, they obviously are. But at the end of the day, you need to be with someone who wants you for who you are, and respects how you want to present yourself. Not someone who wants you to look like they want you to. How you choose to present yourself does say something about you, we can’t pretend it doesn’t. But one of the most powerful things it can say is that you care enough to take care of yourself, but you still know that it’s not the only thing great about you. Males of the universe: I’m going to tell you something right now. I do not care, even a little bit, if you are physically “perfect.” And you shouldn’t either. You don’t need to be muscular or have a stomach so tight you can bounce a penny off of it. To be honest, I’m usually turned off by those things. Maybe I’m just weird. I guess I feel like you’re spending too much time in the gym and not enough doing other things that make you an interesting human. That’s just me, though. I want you to be real; I don’t want some carbon copy of a perfect, generic male companion. I want you and all your quirks and “imperfections.” What I’m concerned about is how awesome you are, and how much we jive while we’re hanging out. Our physical appearances are going to fall to shit eventually, so might as well be interested in something beyond that, right? It always gets me when I hear guys admit that they’re ashamed or concerned about their appearance. I guess it’s because I’m so used to hearing girls lament the subject, hearing that guys do as well is both refreshing (woah, we’re all human? We all feel this way?!) but equally disturbing because it’s so unfortunate that anyone has to think like that. Yo, dudes, we’re not looking for supermen (or women). We’re looking for real, loving, genuine, kick-ass people who lift us up and make us happy. If you are interested in girls (or guys) who are made happy by how in shape you are, it may be time to look elsewhere. The point is, even if you’ll never be able to be completely satisfied with how you look, you don’t have to be to still be a perfectly worthy and beautiful person. Love yourself for everything inside you, and you’ll be able to find someone else who does as well.... |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by tempem: 5:28pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Hmm...Gonna read the epistle. |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 5:57pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Okies. .so I didnt get to read all of it. Buh I do know aesthetics isnt key neither is it least important. .you dont have to me dolled up and flawless buh u should @least be approachable and presentable. One thing is certain true love goes beyond d physical. .buh s physical mosttimes is still somewhat a prerequisite..we just can't fully explain it.you hv to bw attracted to someone first before u start nurturing emotions. .love ia indeed too complicated jare more lyk mysterious |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:00pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Annypie:Exactly but the thing is that people kinda have some fixed preferences when it come to other people...if you are not that and that they won't even give you the light of day...anyways good stuff... |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by maaft(m): 6:04pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
now. this should make FP, why? 1. I want to make FP 2. what you connoted is the absolute truth, nowadays people are too consumed with facial beauty that they forget its deception and the truthfulness of inner beauty. I for one believe you are nothing if you have no inner beauty and finally, you are what you make of yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:04pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Nice one. |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
This will not stop boys from wanting us to have faces like Beyonce, backsides like Kim Kardashian and bos.oms like Cossy's. |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:18pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
nduhunk:yeah very true..guys culd be really choosy esp wt u boobs and butt thing..gals aint excluded buh u must admit we r more flexible. It is well ooo..u need to see some guys list, so unrealistic eh, and dey most times end up with vain and superficial gals..I still believe n love sha..let it find me bikooooo |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Annypie:Hahahaha....I "had" a female friend that said that she doesn't like having ugly people as friends...I cut her off immediately...lol...anyways,love will find u...just believe... |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:28pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
MzNelly: Lol.. Thank God you said "boys" |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by PHgirl(f): 6:31pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
This is a very controversial topic. I hate to break it to you but physical attractiveness will always be an issue. The media's obsession with celebs, gaunt looking models etc. The list is endless. Oh, well. |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:33pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Akdegreat: And you are-? |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:35pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
PHgirl:I know...it will always ne an issue...am a model...agencies expect you to keep looking fit and gaunt all year round...cos why?people are obsessed with beauty...its not a stereotypical thing...if you don't have so and so,u are not good enough...anyways... |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:36pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
MzNelly: Needless to say |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:37pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Akdegreat: A man? |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:42pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
MzNelly: |
Re: Placing Too Much Importance On Physical Appearance? by Nobody: 6:57pm On Dec 27, 2014 |
Annypie:it sure will find you dearie. 1 Like |
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