Take her to a renowned church such a SCOAN for deliverance.its obvious the devil is trying to distroy your marriage and he is doing that by using your wife.she isnt the enemy bro dnt go for divorse yet

Op, that's good for u, face it. Bola wey luv u with all her life... U say she no fine she no get education she no social.... Look at ur life now. Let this serve as a lesson to other gullible guys. Don't marry because of beauty or any other ungodly reasons. My guy, run away, go nd rent another house somewhere.... She fit kill u oooooo.

BABANGBALI:
how many of them have you slept with?ode oponu

I don't sleep with married women and if I ever would it would not be a dirty Yoruba wh0re.

You know your women. Stop denying it.

Op, is she from Rivers state?. Had a friend like her during my undergrad days. A very good girl who can even do anything for u when she's feeling good, but a monstrous demon when angry. She can use abusive words to unimaginable extent, engage u physically cha!. That's why i laugh at Gov Rotimi Ameachi's gragra stuff..... It took insight and tact to sideline her..... Pls don't say or do anything again, just take a walk and say "Goodbye". I repeat, Rep042 just walk away. Thnk me in yrs to come.

WombRaiders:


Shatap there.

Yoruba women are highly adultreous.

Yoruba women lead in divorcee rates.


Yoruba women are most likely to have children from multiple men.

Yoruba women are most likely to have children out of wedlock

Yoruba women are more concerned about fashion than the home because they see nothing attracting other men.


FACT!

True talk but if I click on like button ,seun will ban me

Na wa o! Dem don give marriage bad name finish o

****vexing mood*****

Who the hell does she even think she is? What set of generational women are mothers producing these days? This is too much for 1 man now ..

@OP, I blame you for virtually everything..

Firstly, you dated/courted her for 2years, and you knew she had this tongue lashing mouth, yet, u went ahead and married her? What does that make you? A good guy?

Secondly, there is a saying: "The day you ever allow a woman pay your bills, that day you become her slave". Trust me... She can be all sweet and rosy, and even plead with you to let her do it, and if finally you fall for her charm, and she does it and continously do it, you are in for the worst..

Borrowing from friends, family members etc would have being more responsible, and would have kept your respect in check than dealing with your abusive wife..

Thirdly, you fought with your wife.. You dragged her, and she dragged u!! What a disgusting scenario.. Clap for yourself!! You did well by beating a lady.. There are other better ways of treating a nagging/abusive wife..

Lastly, your wife will never CHANGE.. She is in a world of her own, coupled with the support and encouragement she is getting from her people.. She has sounded it to you.. She wants a DIVORCE.. What are you still waiting for? Until she kills you? It's obvious you don't value your life..

"The shits I keep hearing about marriages keeps me on an alert daily"..

Divorce is not the answer to marital challenges. No condition is irreparable before God who instituted marriage!

If necessary, try get both your family members to intervene on this issue, the goal should be on reconciliation.

See also that your church is involved.

Above all, be patient, and more patient with her. Forgive, and forgive her more. Continue to show her love, and more love. Love covers multitude of ills.

By God's grace, someday this storm will be over and your home will be filled with peace, joy and laughter.

Amen!

WombRaiders:


Shatap there.

Yoruba women are highly adultreous.

Yoruba women lead in divorcee rates.


Yoruba women are most likely to have children from multiple men.

Yoruba women are most likely to have children out of wedlock

Yoruba women are more concerned about fashion than the home because they see nothing attracting other men.


FACT!

FYI I'm ibo, but your stupidity knows no bounds and you will remain miserable for being bigot the rest of your life, onye efulefu ka ibu.

ifyalways:


You knew her kind of person yet you went ahead and married her. I'm sure alot of people advised you against marrying her then but you ignored them. Dear, you've made your bed, relax and enjoy or endure it.

I suggest you pray and fast, start with like 21 days fasting, report her to your pastor if the fasting thing does not work. Nothing impossible with God. Sorry dear

please don't listen to this woman/lady ok?
run away..

This is not a marriage.

Some ladies cannot build homes with a man without gossiping him to her parents, siblings, friends and neighbors. When you make your man lose his self esteem and always challenge him, then you will remain single for life..

This is too bad..

Rosarie:
i ve been married for three years .i kno nd understand every word i jst said n for ur info the 80% is just 10% that re truly happy in it.go n read ur bible abt consequence.a gal u ve not had sex wit befr marriage has higher repects cos she feels u re unpredictable.if at all she wants to show her attitude it will b in d second year if am lying d op shiuld say m lying

In as much as you re entitled to ur opinion..you need 2 realise you re so wrong in so many level

This is a typical episode of those Yoruba reality tv series,never knew the real WWE Smack down happens.

Jarus:
Any woman that will try half of this with me and still remain in my house, has not been born.

your house?
Is she a tenant?

Why won't some men have marital problems when they go about thinking the marriage is all about them and the family home is "his house".

Not nice.

I feel ur pain OP but why did u go ahead with the trad wedding when u no her behaivour were you so blinded in love sha the deed has been done my advice to you is that you should take things gently don't let one stu*pid woman give you hypertension....Always remener to put her in prayers I won't advice u divorce her firstly for ur safety and b'cos of ur child don't let him/her grow in a broken home.....The lord is ur strength....

All because you wanted to join the "I'm married" club....

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

OP... Good 4 U...

Rep042:


Her sisters even supported her to wear butt pads,saying afterall some people likes it and she's one. And to signs before marriage,she once told me that she's manly(adim oke),thus hard hearted,but I advice her to pray God to remove that spirit from her ,hoping that she will eventually change.

Asking God to change another person's character when you have actually witnessed it is pure stupidity!! You guys never talked about financial responsibility. What do couples get taught at marriage classes or counseling classes? So he never wore butt pads when u were dating her? Did you not see her panties or unclothedness b4 marriage??

If all u said is true, my advice. .divorce her. if u a muslim, go to alfa to tell u the legal way of divorcing. . my man, if u dnt divorce her n0w, everything will bounce on your kid.

When I say marriage bring out the DEVIL in MOST modern day Nigerian women, people say it's because I'm not an advocate of marriage... Modern days marriages is a scam. Most sha...

@op, If you used the word 'nice' to describe that lady, then I'd be right to describe snakes as 'nicer'.
This girl will send you 6ft below if you don't do the needful ASAPly.
You no dey watch Investigation Discovery on top dstv channel 171 - crimes of passion, killer wives, I married a devil etc..Na so e dey start ooo. Consent to divorce and run for ya life ooo. Married woman, buttpad, wetin we no go see.i don talk my own ooo.

janvier27:
Though it's your side of the story, but I think you don't have a wife and she's not going to change. Record all her actions for posterity and move on big time. And be determined to make a huge success of your life with your future family. Your mum has seen enough of this evil please. But on no condition should you beat her. What will beat her for life is already in her. Time will tell. Be more careful of the choices you make in future.

i was in the same shoes and today my ex-wife is running from pillar to post to have my attention. Why, cos she couldnt place how God bleSsed me beyond human imagination in less than 3years of seperation. Eventually she has turned born-again.

donmalcolm21:
FYI I'm ibo, but your stupidity knows no bounds and you will remain miserable for being bigot the rest of your life, onye efulefu ka ibu.

Shatap there. Even the inlaws supporting their butt implant wh0re of a daughter made me know their origin.

A wise man once told me that it is better to marry a bad wife who has good parents than a good wife who had bad parents. His reasoning being that eventually there will be conflict in any marriage and the wife will seek counsel and comfort from her parents and siblings. A bad set of inlaws will always encourage her to break up.

In OP's case he married a wh0re from a very bad family who in turn see nothing wrong if their daughter is an adulteress.

This is a trait common among these people.

Now go and be your Igbo someplace else because I am not even one.

@ op

you may not know it now but spiritually you have been given a wonderful gift.
if you can settle down for a moment and contemplate on your marriage you will discover the blessings in it.

marriage is the strongest training school on earth. if you are able to master whatever challenges is thrown at you in a marriage it will take you a lot closer to spiritual mastership.

it is never about your spouse, it is all about you. how do you marshall out the positive virtues in you to counter the negative ones she throws at you.

once you successfully rise above her negativity, it will fizzle out because it will not have any impart on you again. you have mastered the situation. this will give you a very big boost in life and enable you to also master other challenges thrown to you. that is why we are here on earth.

the worst thing you can do is to run away from the situation. you will only be postponing the evil day. you will still meet those same challenges in the future even if you marry another person.

contemplate on what i have told you.

go into silence and ask God for strength and guidance

remain blessed

now I am really afraid of getting married...God please help me not to make a wrong choice in choosing a wife!

AdeniyiA:

i do tell people not to be carried away by or enter into debt because of wedding which lasts ,at most, for 3days.
You saw a pretty young lady, you got carried away by beauty, you proposed she accepted after a short time of shakara.
you are blinded by love(lust) even to her behaviours then because u are clueless about marriage.
You prepared only for wedding,not for marriage nd spent all your savings on wedding ceremonies. The reality dawn on you after you entered the real thing...


The only advice i can give you is to leave that house until she comes back to her senses

This type will never come back to her senses. She's determined to live her life without this man

The kind news we dey hear for this nairaland ehh

idu1:
Op, that's good for u, face it. Bola wey luv u with all her life... U say she no fine she no get education she no social.... Look at ur life now. Let this serve as a lesson to other gullible guys. Don't marry because of beauty or any other ungodly reasons. My guy, run away, go nd rent another house somewhere.... She fit kill u oooooo.

You know the Op outside NL?

bad market for u

This is why I am a strong advocate of long courtship periods in a relationship. That way both parties get to know each other and avoid messes like this. In my own case, I married my wife FOUR years after proposing to her. Those years got me to know her through and through. Right now, despite the usual challenges we face as a couple, I can confidently boast that I have a very blissful marriage cos I found my missing rib and now have not only a wife, but a lover, best friend, confidant, personal cheer leader, prayer warrior, and bedroom vixen (darn straight ) by my side.

@ OP, I honestly can't say same about u, and it's a pity your wife has turned out to be like this. The fact that she called in her sisters in one occasion to confront you is a major NO NO. No sane husband or wife washes his/her family's dirty linen in the public. In this case I think separation is the best idea. You don't want to die. Just make sure you cater for your child.

WombRaiders:


I don't sleep with married women and if I ever would it would not be a dirty Yoruba wh0re.

You know your women. Stop denying it.

will you shut the fok up and grow up,all the married women from your place are saints.My friend ja danu jo.