Alexk2:
bros., the heart of the matter is a matter of the heart....you are been lead, moved by what you occupied your heart with.; that is it with every human. our actions are product of the heart's deliberatn/dicussn, so stop occupying ur heart frm those things that are leading you into sinful thinking...philipians 4:8 says 'finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things"....these are what we should occupy our mind with and not indecent things.

prov. 4:23 also says.."..above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life"..

finally, i need to ask you if you've really knw the person of Jesus...this is different frm been born into a christian home or been religious or holding teneciously to ur doctrine. your striving, struggling, prayer and fasting cant help you @ d long run because the finished work of Christ dont need 'helping' by any1...only trust in that finished work and letting Him will do.
so, check your relationshp with Him first....shalom!

Thanks for sharing this.I hope he sees ur advice and understand what you are saying.

U still don't knw urself

Buy soap.

Thugnificent:
Thanks everyone for the responses so far. I thank God for his mercies upon my life, I just graduated from the Uni and by November I will be going for service. The problem now is I can't wait anylonger. Some people are advicing me to get married forgetting the fact that I need a stable source of income first. My hormones are raging everyday, so is it a sin to self service once in a while till i get ready for marriage? I'm sure God will understand my predicament.

there are many oda sins u commit dat u don't know. self-servicing is just one of dem.
ALL SIN IS SIN

Nutase:
Bros, thank God say konji dey worry you. It shows you are normal. Some people dey pray for konji but their hormones no gree initiate the process.
Back to your question you cant fight nature but can only put it in check. Apostle paul speaking said 'I beat my body under subjection.......' Its a process which requires loads of discipline. Like the athlethe who requires loads of discipline to keep to his/her training schedule so as to keep fit and win competitions, so does a christian require discipline to win the race of life.
Discipline can come by[b] fasting and prayer, studying d word of God e[/b]tc. Once your spirit can take charge konji will still rear its face cos its natural but u will overcome it by the SOG.

Thanks a lot for the highlighted. I have found that they work, in my own life, to defeat that urge. Yes, my goal, God willing, is to beat the urge till I can find the right person to start a family with. Old school thoughts some may say, but some of us now see things differently.

Cheers

it takes a vry strong resolve nd alot of self control 2 do bt its vry possible just try nd stay away 4rm 2 much company 4rm d opposite sex cus its difficult nt 2 develop feelings 4 som1 especially wen dat person is attractive 2 u

gatiano:
it is simply time to get yourself a soul mate. A wonderful, beautiful, non-using wig and cosmetics, blackself loving great black woman. Get married if you have the opportunity, if not, get engaged.

dis list of ur ideal woman is funny 2 say d least

bushdoc9919:


I think it would be better to pray for all Satanists....rather than to pray for their deaths.

Remember,
1. suffer a "satanist" not to live.

2. pray for our enemies including Satan.
a. but no prayer point.


Therefore; anyhow we pray that will be God's command.

Get yourself married, that is the only lawful and true solution

Thugnificent:
I grew up in a strong Christian family were I was indoctrinated to believe that fornication and masturbation is a sin. Now i'm in my early 20s and the urge to fornicate grows stronger and the only solution is masturbation which is also a "sin". So how do I relieve my self of the urge without comitting any sin?

You sound like some one is forcing you to abstain; that on your own, you wouldn't want to. If you are truly born again as you claimed, you would know that sexual purity is what God requires of us. So why call it indoctrination?

Anyway, the following might help you:

1. Decide that you would never do the act no matter what happens. You will be obeying God and reserving your self for your future spouse by so doing.

2. Refocus, or redirect your mind/ attention to something else whenever the urge comes. What you focus on increases.

3. Resist the temptation to be exposed to sexually explicit movies, pictures etc. They will make it more difficult for you to cope.

4. Avoid being alone with a girl in a very private place. Anything can happen if you do. And done blame the devil if you fall.

5. Pray and ask God to help you. With God, all things are possible.

Self love is the most important aspect of anybody's life. A woman that has total self-love for a blackness and righteous nature has a total of 144,000 excellent character qualities, which gives birth to the same 144,000 ideal character of the descendants. A woman is the head or the builder of a civilization. Funny enough, only the black people can possess the 144,000 good characters.

lataziz:

dis list of ur ideal woman is funny 2 say d least

"It could make u not to think straight or clearly bro"

Pray,
Occupy yourself more with activities
Do not stay alone"
and pray again"

sonOfLucifer:
Become a Satanist. Indulge in self. Experience freedom.

Please Bro. Adopting the name (sonoflucifer) is a very dangerous idea. Its one thing to be an un believer, its another thing to take sides with the Most popular enemy of the Living God.

orble:




Remember,
1. suffer a "satanist" not to live.

2. pray for our enemies including Satan.
a. but no prayer point.


Therefore; anyhow we pray that will be God's command.

There was once a Christian minister whose father was a satanist.

Said minister never gave up praying for his dad.

Dad repented and gave his life to Christ hours before he died.

So you see.....pray for those who worship satan...that they may see the Light.

(And at no point did I suggest that one should pray for satan...so what's your point ?)

MusaIbrahim1:
If your abuna go lead you into sin... Cut it off..

how wicked can u be, its a serious issue be guided

Simple answer....Go and Marry

LucemFerre:
Buy 1 carton of dudu-osun for prevention against germs and bags of pure water don't use well water prevention against tape worm, download better mojo... Bros and Service yourself all you want... Fasting and prayers no dey cure konji... If not the next time you sneeze na sperm go comot some time later if you dey cry, your tears go thick (water+sperm)... Next you go just start to dey smell yam water from no where (catarrh + sperm).

Help yourself o... If God no want make you do soapy him for no allow konji torment you.

give this man a medal

wiegraf:

give this man a medal

LucemFerre:
Buy 1 carton of dudu-osun for prevention against germs and bags of pure water don't use well water prevention against tape worm, download better mojo... Bros and Service yourself all you want... Fasting and prayers no dey cure konji... If not the next time you sneeze na sperm go comot some time later if you dey cry, your tears go thick (water+sperm)... Next you go just start to dey smell yam water from no where (catarrh + sperm).

Help yourself o... If God no want make you do soapy him for no allow konji torment you.

You must be the funniest person I ever met online

MusaIbrahim1:
If your abuna go lead you into sin... Cut it off..

wat if d person na woman... How she 1 take cut am off?

Thugnificent:
I grew up in a strong Christian family were I was indoctrinated to believe that fornication and masturbation is a sin. Now i'm in my early 20s and the urge to fornicate grows stronger and the only solution is masturbation which is also a "sin". So how do I relieve my self of the urge without comitting any sin?

There is a young Christian teenager that writes about this issue. His name is Sunday Moshood. He gives free e-copies of his books. Demand for one via his mail sundaymoshood@yahoo.com

sexynabila:
wat if d person na woman... How she 1 take cut am off?

Find cement, seal everything...

UchihaMadara:


If you have goals, I believe you can achieve them a lot faster without sex being a distraction. You might be termed a geek though, but you could just bury your head in the sand and work, though I'm not a big advocate of all work and no play, but it could be more work and less play for a while.

You are wrong. You are making it sound as if sex is the only distraction that can hinder a human's progress. There are a lot of things that can be tagged distraction, it all depends on the person involved. And also, that's not what a geek means, there are lots of geeks who do have a sexual life.

Thugnificent:
Thanks everyone for the responses so far. I thank God for his mercies upon my life, I just graduated from the Uni and by November I will be going for service. The problem now is I can't wait anylonger. Some people are advicing me to get married forgetting the fact that I need a stable source of income first. My hormones are raging everyday, so is it a sin to self service once in a while till i get ready for marriage? I'm sure God will understand my predicament.

That's like saying if you fight the urge to kill for years and finally do it, God will understand. A sin is a sin, there is no small sin.

Try ur best and if you must, masturbate and don't fornicate. I say this because the idea if masturbation is a sin is all based on opinion and unclear in the bible more like how it's unclear if tattoos are a sin. So, it's basically choosing the lesser of two evils.

duni04:

maybe the question is: do people actually succeed in controlling sexual urges by exercising self discipline. If yes, then wouldn't it be easier to discipline yourself and tame your urges than self-service, whether responsibly or irresponsibly, with all the psychological and health drawbacks of wanking?

Don't also forget that what works for mr A might not work for Mr B. The fact that 1 person can suppress the urge doesn't mean everyone can. Like OP said, he has tried his best. I am not saying he should do it o, am just saying you should not look at things as black and white.

BornSad:


Blasphemy!!!

Sexual urge is now a demon?
Your own don flee? You don get miss call be that nah.

Hia! Nawa o.

Oya nah, make all of us kuku go for deliverance starting from the pastor and maybe you (no offence intended).

The devil gets blamed for everything that happens. Adam and Eve sinned because the serpent told dem to eat the fruit and the devil is blamed. You might say that the devil used the serpent to deceive eve but if you look at it, the devil never lied to eve. He told her the truth and she chose to disobey God. There's no difference between what the serpent told eve and what eve told Adam. Why don't people say the devil used eve to tempt adam?

9jatatafo:

Bro believe what you believe, I don't believe that horse shit. Is there any portion of the Bible that says spirits get married to human? Give me the chapter(s) and verse (s)

When people begin to understand the power of the human body and most especially the brain, they will realise that all these stuff are really quite simple to understand.

The brain cannot tell dream from reality. It's the reason why when you are enjoying in your dream, you wake up happy. It's why when you are falling, you wake up scared. It's why when something is chasing you or a bad thing happens, you wake up sad. It's why when you are having sex in your dream, you wake up wet. It's the reason why when you go to pee in your dream sometimes, you pee on the bed.

The problem with most religious people (not religion) is that they have selective understanding. They choose to understand some parts just to suit what they are preaching. It's why they think having tattoos is a sin yet shaving your hair or beards is not when in Leveticus 19:26-28 clearly says all those things are sinful if you do them FOR THE DEAD, but they ignore that last part.

critique101:


Dont mention God's name in such stupiid comments. you have insulted GOd. THink before you talk/write

Am not against what u just typed, but that guy typed "god"... not "God"...

@ OP,

Proverbs 23:7
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he . . .

All your actions are results of your thoughts. When you mind what goes into your heart, you will master your actions. A good book that lots of people have had success with is "Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in Your Mind" by Joyce Meyer. When I newly became a christian and still found myself falling into old sins, this book provided an excellent explanation for what I was going through and how to deal with the situation. Note that the book is not only about sexual urges, but how to generally re-new your mind to live a victorious christian life.

Hang in there bro, you will for sure overcome.

Shalom.

And if any man's seed of copulation go out from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water.

For it is better to parry than to burn. Yet, until that one man among a thousand has been found, it is written:

And every garment, and every skin, whereon is the seed of copulation, shall be washed with water.

- The Holy Homily.

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pls if u don't av work pls find one. all dis things do occur when we r lonely and we allow the thought in our heart.
so, Don't be lonely, anytime u r feeling lonely and those thought wants to set in quickly find something to do, maybe listening to music, talking to friend e.t.c. till when you will overcome it
above all continue in prayer and word of God

OLUJOSHINS:

Please Bro. Adopting the name (sonoflucifer) is a very dangerous idea. Its one thing to be an un believer, its another thing to take sides with the Most popular enemy of the Living God.

Stop preaching your useless failure of a God to me.