Mynd44:

See the flaw in your whole point? Punishable by law bla bla bla. Cheating is morally wrong and so is murder. I doubt you people even know the impact of cheating when a partner trusts you with everything only to find out that you betrayed that trust.

In some cases, your cheating is as bad as killing the person so please hold your theories.

You can't cheat by mistake except you were molested. How can a grown supposedly sane adult pull off his/her clothes and cheat and when the act is over remember that it was a mistake.

Where do you people come from?

VickyyB:

They didn't support you. What are they?

Alexk2:
a cheat will always be a cheat unless there is an 'overall revolutionary change of his/her personality';

VickyyB:

Men oppress women in all rounds of life.
We are fighting for our right.
How is going to favour you?

5minsmadness:

And that my dear is the kind of thinking that makes feminists men-haters.

Nneka123:
I don't understand , lol! anyway I'm out of this thread it sickens me

VickyyB:

Many men still support us. Why?

5minsmadness:

Where did I say men don't support you?

Men and women support all sorts of things from NGOs to satanic churches.

VickyyB:

My point is that men won't support us if we are hating them.

Only anti-feminists call us men haters and they're all bunch of misogynists.

Mynd44:
Abeg how do you cheat by mistake?

Mynd44:
A woman spoke to me once about her husband. He was the loving guy and then he cheated on her. She was pissed and angry and tried to leave the husband as she had told herself she could never forgive a cheat her family members spoke to her, she said no. Then her pastor called her and the husband and the pastor said he has spoken to the husband and he has agreed to change.

The woman is living somewhere in Ibadan right now with HIV contracted from her husband who cheated and she forgave because it is just once.

Cheats are evil and have no regard for you, your love, your sanity or life. They only care about the pleasure they will get in that moment and when they get that selfishness off their body, they get sober and beg.

If he/she cheats, before you forgive and stay because of love or religion think about your life and how much that person values it.

Nonso23:

The question is:
Can cheating be considered as a mistake ?
Cheating contextual usage = Verb
Mistake: contextual usage = Noun.
Basic rule for English grammar you cannot substitute the meaning of a word as a verb for its meaning as a noun.

I.e Barge(noun), Barge(verb).

barge - /bärj/
(noun)
1. a flat-bottomed boat
for carrying freight,
typically on canals and
rivers, either under its
own power or towed by
another.
(Verb)
1. move forcefully or
roughly.
2. convey (freight) by
barge.

His definition is the correct version.
Noun for noun,
verb for verb, etc.

His question is still unanswered.

5minsmadness:

Ok sir. I daresay you are the more logical of the two. Also myndd seems to have evapourated into thin air

The word mistake has two functions. NOUN and VERB.

In the context of cheating, Mistake takes on its NOUN function. It IS a wrongful act.


In the context of stealing meat from the pot(as someone somewhere said ), It is used as a VERB in qualifying the act.

So there you have it. Ipso facto, Cheating is a wrongful act. A mistake. Let all participants and officials of this honourabe court take note!

Court ajourned!

SirShymex:


Err, I'll speak from a male perspective, since you're also a male.

Personally, I wouldn't attribute any form of cheating to being "weak willed and being easily swayed by emotions." It's deeper than that. Yes, the allure is always there. However, what you failed to acknowledge is the fact that the society sees it as a norm, in the male context. So, you can't use weakness as a premise, when it's viewed as the norm/strength albeit ridiculous morally.

You can even correlate cheating (in the male context cos I'm speaking from the perspective I understand and can relate to) with drinking alcohol - since, from a moral stand-point, both can be adjudged to be wrong. But both are normal things people do. With alcohol: you have alcoholics/drunkards, social drinkers, folks who drink cos they need to get away from something (victim of circumstance), and those who will just try it a few times for whatever reason. Once you take the different levels of drinking alcohol I alluded to, and relate it to cheating - using serial cheaters, social cheaters (passive), victim of circumstance, and those who will try it - you'll see the convergence.

So, saying a cheat can't change is akin to saying anyone who has ever tasted alcohol can never change. Even serial cheaters with habitual urge to cheat, like alcoholics, can be salvaged to an extent. It just depends on if they're either early or late bloomers.

5minsmadness:
"A cheat will always be a cheat"

I hear this saying making rounds on social media but I think it is false. Nobody is born a cheat. A person becomes a cheat when he/she is placed under certain circumstances.



A faithful husband that has been denied sex for long periods of time is more likely to cheat than if he has sex regularly. A girlfriend who is denied love and attention constantly by her lover is more likely to cheat with him over someone else. This would have been different if her boyfriend was more loving and attentive. A poor guy that shows his love, support and attention to his girl is more likely to have a loyal babe than a rich guy who hardly shows his girlfriend any attention.


Saying a cheat will always be a cheat leaves the relationship open to do whatever you like, thinking that your partner will always be faithful no matter what. It also prevents you from forgiving your partner even if he/ she makes a mistake because you think once they have started cheating they will continue cheating all their lives no matter what. That assumption is baseless.

Of course there are exceptions to the rule but should we use the stubborn few to punish the vast majority?

crackhaus:

Lmao...
You actually had to go bring my comment in response?

Lol, a lot of these folks on here can't read...
Or did you in any part of your OP state that the act of cheating is a mistake?

Na oga Mynd44 use him own hand type mistake enter this thread oo, and trust every subsequent poster to roll with it... mob mentality!

Mynd44:
Abeg how do you cheat by mistake?

ochon:


God bless you!! As in, I'm yet to read where the OP mentioned in his first post that cheating is by mistake. Some people can't read, they just jump on a thread and follow the bandwagon. Very annoying. This is how the OP has been condemned for debating an issue. SMH.

5minsmadness:
It also prevents you from forgiving your partner even if he/ she makes a mistake

LordReed:


Did you read this part:



What does he mean if not that cheating can be a mistake?

Mynd44:

See the flaw in your whole point? Punishable by law bla bla bla. Cheating is morally wrong and so is murder. I doubt you people even know the impact of cheating when a partner trusts you with everything only to find out that you betrayed that trust.

In some cases, your cheating is as bad as killing the person so please hold your theories.

You can't cheat by mistake except you were molested. How can a grown supposedly sane adult pull off his/her clothes and cheat and when the act is over remember that it was a mistake.

Where do you people come from?

ochon:


God bless you!! As in, I'm yet to read where the OP mentioned in his first post that cheating is by mistake. Some people can't read, they just jump on a thread and follow the bandwagon. Very annoying. This is how the OP has been condemned for debating an issue. SMH.

freecocoa:
Oh! Okay.

I do agree that cheating isn't a mistake.

ochon:

As long as I'm concerned, one can't 'mistakenly' sleep with another one though.

ochon:


Yeah, I read it. It said "makes a mistake" meaning it's in future tense, not a "past" mistake. And it also doesn't specify if the mistake is "cheating," meaning it could be any mistake. But if he had wrote "MADE a mistake" specifying that the mistake was that of cheating and him or her getting caught, It'd have been more specific. As long as I'm concerned, one can't 'mistakenly' sleep with another one though.

5minsmadness:

Anybody can make a mistake, not all people are saints.
A person can cheat willingly on his/her partner and realise later on it was a mistake i.e be sorry for what he/she has done.