coogar:


BWAHAHAHAHA - there were 2 different cases in that article of defrauded fathers forced to pay for a child that isn't theirs.

yea right, the system isn't flawed!

Fhemmmy:


No need for us to get into that anymore, if you have a wife and there is a problem and one has to leave the house that day for peace to reign, and you will sit in the house to see your wife pack a bag and leave the house for the night and you able to sleep well, then, bro, you are not a husband but a co-tenant with such woman . . . you ought to protect her as a wife and when she is HOT, you cool her down, if MOST men could get off their high horse and reason with their wife, so many wahala could be averted.

Fhemmmy:


That is cos you know in Nigeria you could kick her and the kids out in the middle of the night and nothing will happen . . . diaris god sha oh

sukkot:
well you do know that marriage is not a necessity in life right ? this is 2015, you shouldnt let anyone pressure you into marriage. truth be told you are better off marrying when you are in your fifties and the woman is in her fifties. at that age women dont have anything to prove. they are looking for genuine companions. thats when you can truly enjoy a woman. when she is over 50. below 50 ? forget it amigos lmao. but yeah i know you may want children ? you can adopt right ? lmao

aisha2:


Like I wrote above it happens to women here everyday yet they hardly go killing their spouses. Women are abandoned after years of hardwork and left to die bitter from heart break am sure everyone knows some woman in those shoes but it doesn't mean they should go killing. I asked 3 questions above If you have the time please respond

Fhemmmy:


Lol . . . I am not trying to be on the ladies' side . . . I am just saying it as it is, my brother.
MEN hates poverty with a passion too,. . . like someone mentioned, how come most of the men that are involved in this case married nurses and doctors, that tells you that, they want a free meal ticket too . . .
There is nothing wrong if a woman is irritated by poverty, cos we all do have phobia for poverty

Fhemmmy:
IT HAS BEEN FUN PEOPLE, AND WE WILL BE BACK AT IT TOMORROW OR LATER TONITE WHEN I GET HOME . . . TREAT THEM RIGHT AND YOU WILL SEE THE ANGEL IN THEM

damiso:


When there is no love in the first place why won't there be 'pushing to snap' and 'snapping'..I know people say there is a thin line between love and hate but I honestly can't get the kind 'love' that even when it goes south will actively seek to destroy or kill the other party.

I agree that some women overdo the whole 'women have rights in the west' thing but in a way I also think it serves some of our brothers who think 'all these abroad born girls are not submissive' and then go to import a wife without actually knowing her right abit (and I am saying this as a partially imported wife ).

Hubby knows someone who actually went to naija to marry (MARRY not see MARRY) someone he had never met all cos he believed 'he can't marry someone that will be proving rights and arguing with him'..like seriously .Except you marry a mannequin how on earth do you expect to live with another human being and never argue or have divergent opinions.

I don't think some people realise that sometimes a persons character is a culmination of orientation, values,life experiences etc and not necessarily location or where you live. Some of the most well mannered calm and easygoing women I know were born or raised in the west from relatively well to do families.


All these saviour ' I saved her from poverty and brought her to america' complex does not seem to be worth the hassle of 'not marrying all these ones that will be proving right'

Idowuogbo:

Gbam!

Fhemmmy:


She married you.
Cooks for you
Warm your bed
Made your house
Make your house be a home
Yet, she has not worked?
Bro, i hail you oh

You cant never pay a woman her true worth, never, pay her for carrying your child in her womb for 9 months and disfiguring her own cute body to make YOU a father, pay her for those sleepless nights that she is in pain in that labor room, pay her for those days she burns herself to cook your favorite meal and tell you if you have what it takes to pay her. . . . We as MEN dont have what it takes to pay them, so let us show them love and appreciate them.

Fhemmmy:


No need for us to get into that anymore, if you have a wife and there is a problem and one has to leave the house that day for peace to reign, and you will sit in the house to see your wife pack a bag and leave the house for the night and you able to sleep well, then, bro, you are not a husband but a co-tenant with such woman . . . you ought to protect her as a wife and when she is HOT, you cool her down, if MOST men could get off their high horse and reason with their wife, so many wahala could be averted.

SirShymexx:


Honestly, I've never really cared about marriage. Even every time my mum brings up the topic, I just switch to a next one. And the funniest thing is that: she thinks I don't like girls.

The stress is just too much, and the institution is fundamentally flawed. Coupled with all the rights these women have. I don't want no one in my space apart from my kids, man. Just too many depressing stories for me to want to get myself entangled in something that might kill my strong spirit and freedom -and also the need to compromise.

That said: conversely (maybe an oxymoron), I also believe having a woman in ya life is a necessity and a great thing. However, once you weigh it up, you just have to ask yourself if it makes sense and/or is beneficial on the long run, based on how the institution is. Ditto the system which favours women. The holy grail is meeting a woman who's just like you and sees everything from ya perspective, but there are too many snakes/fakes out there these days to know who the real one is. Regardless, I love me some darn pum, and the badonkadonk - but I can't like anyone mess up my masterplan.

mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

aisha2:


I stand by my words all men are not beasts any one male or female who kills another is the beast. Murder is not peculiar to any gender. Any man who considers himself a beast is free to do so but know you don't speak for every man while doing so.

Yes people snap and get to breaking points thats why we have crimes everyday but when a crime is committed is it okay to say because so and so did this then its understandable for the criminal to commit the crime?

edwife:


Idowu idowu,online warrior..

I need to take you to my church for deliverance

sukkot:
if you love you some darn pum and badonkadonk you shouldnt get married because you dont get none of that in marriage lmao. dont be fooled now, nobody likes eating rice and beans 365 days a year . no matter how sweet it is. so if you are going into marriage thinking you will be getting constant pum and badonkadonk you better rethink marriage cuz you will be sorely disappointed

aisha2:


Its het fault when she works 16 hours a day and comes home and is expected to clean up, cook and care for the kids without complaint knowing fully well she can't get a househelp to help out abroad like we have here. A man who wants control will do anything to get it. Are there no women abroad? Why travel and marry a woman he doesn't know simply to bring her abroad and try to control her knowing the system abroad doesn't function like that?
He wants good roads, good health care a working system, a wife who earns well yet he still wants to act like an African cave man while enjoying the benefits of civilisation abroad.

I can't even deal with this line of thought, all women abroad are not evil, marry who you know and stop running to marry girls you don't know just so you can act like a barbarian abeg.
This is sad coming from someone abused so all thosr times you got beaten shebi you provoked your ex? You make it sound as if these women earn their deaths did you earn every slap and belt you received

SirShymexx:


Dun noe, bredrin.

But you know you can't pull that off with naij parents - marriage is like a big achievement to them, especially when they think you have achieved enough to "settle down". They just want to dance, and show off to their friends, but not knowing that times don change from their era - and it's now a nightmare.

Personally, I won't mind an open marriage. But the best option will always meet someone that's basically just like you, with the same outlook to life. And that's long these days. The whole institution is just overrated - and making babies with a decent chic who can be a good mum looks like the best bet.

Ohhh shiiit, finna keep the badonkadonk body count piling up till a nyggah gets bored, brev. Kind of got bored a bit a couple of years ago, but the wave is back on. That way, they won't get in ya space and start disturbing ya life with their innate emotional problems.

Bredrin, when are you going to get married? - we need old heads like you to keep educating us about ya experience!

raumdeuter:


She wasnt forced to have babies, I asked one person earlier if she would agree to marry a guy but not have kids she declined. The man simply helped her to achieve her lifelong dreams of being a mother

Go to churches and hospitals see the ones crying over kids more men or women? Go to church see the ones crying over being married more men or women

You cant so desire something at the same time seek to profit from what you have desied all your life

If the child a means to wealth?

wingman:






Aisha2
you are poorly bred. You didnt need to insult to pass ur point across.

SirShymexx:


Okay, Sir.

The same women that might end up following you as you're leaving the house? They hate being ignored when they're having emotional tantrums like they hate water touching their Brazilian hair.

Also, I don't how you can protect a disrespectful goblin who doesn't rate ya authority.

2sExy1:
Mutter nailed it. The brother to my mother's friend is a cop in the US. He went there in the 80s and built himself from scratch. When it was time to marry, he came back to Nigeria to marry and took the woman there... the snake changed her skin. they divorced and she took more than half of his wealth. Dude had to start from scratch again and he had to rent an hotel and carried his mother along. From what I head, he took one car, his clothes, and mother from the house.

Several months later going to a year, he got another apartment and started all over again. I guess he has bought a new home now. He has even renovated the house in Nigeria.

My own uncle suffered same fate from when he married a woman and took her to the US. She got him into trouble which eventually led to her own deportation and my uncle fled to Canada. dude lost a lot and last time I saw him, he wasnt the same handsome tall wide chested dude I used to run to as kid with open arms....

mutter
post=30384025:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have
everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly
going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to
Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man,
perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her
and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this
community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her
to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of
just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years!
Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this
young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are =
0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his
own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man
brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can
gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they
cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not
benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble
herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations.
That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The
children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and
manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets
dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced
discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that
he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep
struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family,
neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the
dollars.

oshaosha2014:


Na lie. Not all of them deserve to be treated right. Go treat the wrong woman right, omo u go almost kill am when she begin with u.

soulglo:



So how did a cop get his wealth? Wealthy cop. That's funny. Can we just tell these stories the way they happen. Wealth cop rotflmao. Tell us that the woman was cheating, that she was abusive and lied in court and got away with it. That I might even believe but when you start off by saying wealthy cop I just SMH at the desperate measures people go to just to believe that something is the way it's not

aisha2:


Again I was not talking to you. Thank you for pointing out my " gross stupidity "

BABE3:



In this day and age of gender equality. Oga fhemmy, you're forgetting that men and women are now equal. Why can't SHE be the one to leave? Why must HE be the one to calm her down when things get heated?

Why must HE be the one to protect her? Protect her from what sef? Hyenas and tigers?