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I really need your advice on this, I am a calm guy, not really too into women(womanising), and I rarely develop feelings for ladies, I never believed I could really start having feelings for someone or too concerned with where she is, who she's with, and what she's doing;simply put, I never believe in love.... I see people talking about love as just acting nollywood scripts or utterly being silly.

My story... I got to know a lady, we became friends, she was having problems with her BF, and later broke up with him.... shortly afterwards we kick started something (without any feelings of course), I just felt I should get involved with this my pretty new friend... things started changing when she came to my house to spend about a week with me, i then saw her true self, she's a very homely person and calm headed also truthful(these are traits u almost never see in girls of today)...., so I started liking her person n getting very concerned about her affairs....
Fast forward to some weeks later, she went back to school, I started seeing some traits and pictures suggesting she's still seeing her former guy. I later confronted her about that when she came to my house, of which she finally opened up and didn't deny it, she claimed I was being too possessive and suspicious of her every act, that I was policing her, and she wasn't ready for that kind of a relationship , saying she had suffered similar fate in her past relationships and won't want that again.... she told me she likes me but will prefer an open relationship, where I won't get to be "policing" her n she could have her peace....

So my romance landers, if u were in my shoes what will u Do? What do u Think?

I'll do







Noooothiiiiiing!


Maybe cos i'm not in your shoes

not a bad deal. make sure you use condóms sha

Stop bn too possessive, just show you care

damseyl:
Stop bn too possessive, just show you care

how on earth will I show I care without being concerned, when u see pictures taken in d house of her previous guy, when u call sometimes and ur calls are left unanswered, even when she picks, u hear some background noises, suggestive of things happening, why won't a concerned person that have u at heart won't want to know where u re, or what u Doing? Why won't a concerned BF, ask questions and feel slighted.

Wetin me i want know self na the meaning of this FWB wen u write.

Just lyying down; observing!b!












But come to think of it; FWB; no be bad idea oohh!!! Na wetin eevvvery oman on earth dey find...

simplemach:
Wetin me i want know self na the meaning of this FWB wen u write.

FWB - Friends With Benefit..

Raymondenyi:
FWB - Friends With Benefit..

ok, tank u sir!

damseyl:
Stop bn too possessive, just show you care

Good Thinking! I like the way you think


Keep it up



For the Op, I think you should let her be...

If she wants you, then fine but if she doesn't then don't harangue her....


Wish you luck!

killerman47:
how on earth will I show I care without being concerned, when u see pictures taken in d house of her previous guy, when u call sometimes and ur calls are left unanswered, even when she picks, u hear some background noises, suggestive of things happening, why won't a concerned person that have u at heart won't want to know where u re, or what u Doing? Why won't a concerned BF, ask questions and feel slighted.

you already no watsup abt her, so no point taking things seriously with her.

DonaldGenes:
Good Thinking! I like the way you think


Keep it up

tnkq

Op,guess u were d rebound guy...

She is not romantically into you. You are a just a good friend that loves policing.

Give her ur dick and not ur time

op you obviously have a lot of time on your hands.. get busy if shes Really into you she'll want more of you.. then you talk about being exclusive

Op, you can play mind games with her, I think this is where the game is best needed.
Stop caring about her. If you really want her, act as if you are cool with the FWB thing but be more unavailable to her.
I'm sure she will miss all the care and prolly bring the game to you (if you know what I mean... ), and right there is when you strike.

You seem not to be into girls, they have a different nature which only God understands.

What you need to do is give her space. Act as if you don't care, let her miss that caring you.

If possible make her jealous, get a side chick.

She will be the one policing you.

Goodluck

Friends by day, and make out partners by night. No clear direction of where the relationship is headed, or if there’s even really a relationship at all. Free to call themselves “single,” yet completely attached to a relationship that sometimes feels like an addiction.
Lust, sex, and physical passion—masked behind the normalcy and innocence of a “friendship.” Op, I think it's time to ask yourself who this relationship is actually benefiting.

Simple! Stop policing her

Ok, thanks All, read through your advices and suggestions, really nice, iv decided to let go, thanx