This thread is especially for all those whom have had to undergo the pain of a break up or perhaps divorce AND those whose current serious relationship is dwindling at the edge of a cliff .

<<<I pray this article helps>>>


Probably, you're now casting rocks at him or her but I tell you, if you look keenly, you are responsible in a way.

Almost every one is in a relationship: Platonic, Love or Marriage. Break up or Divorce as it were is an ANTI-RELATIONSHIP virus. It's always sticking its ugly nose at both of you- for separation. The ball, however is in your court.

How Do I Prevent Break Up Situations In My Relationship?


1. Be The Bigger Person.

Stop being irresponsible. There is a misunderstanding? Be the first to say, I'm sorry. It won't hurt a fly.
Do you know that by doing so he or she respects you more? Why? You just did what she's been too proud to do. I practised this once on a girl and the result was amazing and immediate. Try it today. Don't try to defend your actions anymore.


2. If He Doesn't Call You, Call Him.


Two wrongs can't make a right.
Folks are always expecting the other to call first. If she doesn't call, so you won't? I'm not referring to just casual and sexual relationship. In a serious relationship, who calls most shows who love most. Call him, you're not breaking "protocols", hun. If you love him, show it. If he's a jerk or a kid, he'll freak out and run.



3. If All Of A Sudden He Stops Calling, Don't Push It. Cut Him Some Slack


Sometimes, she has got her wedding all planned out in her mind with him in it of course. She loves him dearly and that causes her to expect soooo much. He stops calling and caring as before, she starts suspecting. She aggravates over the phone. She yells at him, "Why are you not picking my calls?". Probably, it's work stress and family stuff. Give him a little space, meanwhile text him occasionally. Patience is the word. Protect your Reputation, Morals, Dignity and Chastity This is the period where some impatient girls deem it necessary to "trap" him through sex or pregnancy. How foolish! SMH!



4. Don't Plan To Retaliate


If she bursts your balloon by not laughing at your jokes, don't try to retaliate. It is uncalled for. If she gives the attitude by not replying your question, don't retaliate. It's hard? That's the way to keep the relationship strong and going.



5. Forgive Ahead.

Decision not to sleep with grudges in your heart even while you're single is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.

Nothing separates like an unforgiving attitude. You just refuse to forgive him/ her. Perfect You! See where it has got you?



6. Being Hasty To Conclude


You hear something said against him and the next thing you're calling and yelling. How immature! How would you feel if later you discover it wasn't him. You feel like a... child.



7. Always Speak Up!



Not speaking may lead to regrets tomorrow. Misinformation might have led to your breaking up... because you didn't speak!

This is where quiet and dull girls are not good enough. You should know when to speak and when to be still joor!

You speak with Discretion, Respect and Maturity.

Discretion: Use wise words.

Respect: Use magic words.

Maturity: Know when to say what.



ASSIGNMENT: If you love him or her, Pick up the phone and call her or him. Break the damn silence! Do something about the way you disregard him or her, even in the public.

Go, Go make it work! ( Voice of Janet Jackson in Why Did I Get Married?)

Have a nice day.

Thank goodness! let me go and read now.
No 5 is so on point, it works like magic.

I was here

SUMMARY: Upgrade from being Human






*the comment above doesn't mean am in support of the op, incase yhu are planning to quote me or u already have, it's sarcasm.. yhu might wanna search dat up coz ya'all dnt seem to get any joke dz days.... una no wan sabi pass GEJ

englishmart:
just break UP if you must.

Amakwanu'm ihe nke a sef

neutrotoba:
SUMMARY: Upgrade from being Human

To?

tried all the tips and it didn't work



#kidding#

emusmith:


To?

I don't knw, buh dz things are not easy for human beings... most of us know what is right, we don't need to read tips, buh we still find pple breaking up everyday. Its jez d flesh, and Ego. If i've been calling everyday and she never returns my calls, my ego will kick in one day, tho my brain knows it's bad to retaliate..

SOLMICHAEL:
Forgive Ahead.

Yea.

I learnt something some time ago: If you expect to be disappointed, you will never be disappointed. .

woooow!!!!! wat a lovely post

*picks up phone to call mirexxx

@op, sir emusmith, pls help mirexxx and i so we can reconcile

Blackett:
This thread confirms you are a baby, and that you haven't been in a relationship.

Now listen.

In life, not everything happens as planned. What will be will be. If a man or woman is fed up of a relationship, they are fed up. They may only remain out of pity. If you like, make these points 20, a girl that has fallen in love with someone else will break up with you. Personal happiness comes before anyone else, yes, even whoever it is that you are in a relationship with. If I'm not happy in a relationship, you cannot be happy. If a lady is not happy and is tired of a relationship, give her all the money in the world, tell her everything you want to, she will leave.

Life is not a one way street where you think these _stupid points can correct everything or anything. The key to relationships is doing all you can, while accepting that in life, plans can change and you have to adjust and move on. . . Only kids use the words "magic words". Magic words simply do not exist. What works for one person doesn't work for the other.

When a person decides they no longer need you in their life, let them be. If it was meant to be, it'll be.

Getting tired of these dumbass lists.

OK

neutrotoba:
I don't knw, buh dz things are not easy for human beings... most of us know what is right, we don't need to read tips, buh we still find pple breaking up everyday. Its jez d flesh, and Ego. If i've been calling everyday and she never returns my calls, my ego will kick in one day, tho my brain knows it's bad to retaliate..

What you mean by the flesh and ego?

# serious look #

mirexxx:

Why the face?

englishmart:
just break UP if you must.

" Curbing "

NB: This thread is by no means referring to Friendship With Benefits ( FWB ).

Don't comment from that angle.

I'm referring to relationship with marriage in view.
Is that how you breakup easily? Well, it can be curbed by some changes in your character, which I offer you.

If it doesn't go well with you, ignore

Ignore abeg. The weather is hot already..

Break up if it's not working..
The grass might not be greener on the
other side...

englishmart:
ok then, just curb it if you can

Honestly, it can be curbed. Many people like pointing fingers...the beginning of their problems- Irresponsibility! SMH!

zick19:
woooow!!!!! wat a lovely post

*picks up phone to call mirexxx

@op, sir emusmith, pls help mirexxx and i so we can reconcile

Is she saying the same thing? If she is, I'll gladly offer any lil assistance required, bro

emusmith:


What you mean by the flesh and ego?

# serious look #

Flesh: an expression dat means being human... yhu don't expect me to tell yhu wot Ego means do yhu? *really serious look*

zick19:
woooow!!!!! wat a lovely post

*picks up phone to call mirexxx

@op, sir emusmith, pls help mirexxx and i so we can reconcile

lols u mad sha

Enegod:
Break up if it's not working..
The grass might not be greener on the
other side...

In a relationship heading towards marriage with 6 months left?
Over just a little misunderstanding and immaturity?

Hian! I refuse this thinking pattern!

neutrotoba:
Flesh: an expression dat means being human... yhu don't expect me to tell yhu wot Ego means do yhu? *really serious look*

Meaning:

Flesh: Cheating on her.

Ego: Too proud to apologize.

What kind of man is that? That's even a boy...

mirexxx:
lols u mad sha

@emusmith, can u see her reply i swear if itz not bcoz of u, i would av broken bottle on her head oooo.... jez help me talk to her b4 i do d unexpected

emusmith:


Meaning:

Flesh: Cheating on her.

Ego: Too proud to apologize.

What kind of man is that? That's even a boy...

when u grow up, bcome a pastor, yhu av d talent of twisting pples words to suit ur purpose... Datz if u eva grow up tho