Please accept her so that she gets u broke again nd she re-dumps u

Tallesty1:
What I think?

Here is what I think...


Have you ever update an app and realize after running it that the "fixed issues" were all a lie and it will never be the same? That's what going back to an ex is like.

She will still dump you when money stops coming.

As for the pregnancy, give her all the support but don't marry her.

Reaping where one didn't sow is a sin, please don't allow her to commit that sin.

How are you even sure that the preg is yours?

Smh

Has she been demanding since you guys got back together?

Truth of the matter is most women desire safety net and there is nothing wrong in a woman pursuing her ultimate ambition so long as she makes it crystal clear.

You need to be sure she is who you want to be with simply because us men usually get stuck in the games we play when there is the need to get laid.

You are probably more matured now and thus a little more confident in speaking your mind as well as having a positive realistic outlook to life.

Does she work or she plans to be a housewife?

I honestly don't think you should have a negative mindset that things might turn around for you in the nearest future

You don't marry a woman because she is pregnant. If she left you when you were dry, she will most likely betray you again if and when she see something more appealing. Slow down on this marriage stuff, when the baby comes, take ownership of your child. You don't need to marry a fair weather friend. Marriage is meant to be for better for worse. A word is enough for the wise.

OliverQuinny:
Dear Nairalanders, I am in a relationship with someone that hurt me when I needed her most. We met a while ago while I was still hustling on the streets of PortHarcourt. I was working in a small firm then, but I was doing all I could to make her happy. The job wasn't well paying, so I had to quit to pursue my Masters Degree and professional qualifications. The money stopped rolling in and we both started having issues. She became very difficult and eventually she left me sha, for no concrete reason. But I strongly believe its cos I quit the job.

I still loved her, and wished she wud change her mind. Some years later, I got a job in one of the multinationals and was sent abroad on an official assignment. I met her again at the airport in London and we became friends. We started chatting and she visited me on a saturday. One thing led to another, and we were intimate. The feelings started rekindling, but I just couldn't forget the way she treated me when I needed her most and I am afraid that shez back cos of my wealth.

Recently, she told me shez one month pregnant and am contemplating marrying her, but the way she hurt me when we were in Nigeria keeps taunting me. I keep having these flashbacks. Am actually scared that she will repeat the same behaviour in d nearest future even though it seems she has changed.

Please ur advice is needed here. Mature minds only.

she left you becos you were hustling and reconnect after you became financially buoyant later u had sex with her she is one month pregnant and you are still asking nairaland for advise


you are very stupi.d

Pretend to be broke again... If she leaves again, you have your answer

Following the facts that she is pregnant for you, i believe you have to marry her but then you never can tell if the baby is yours self. Maybe all she wants to do is tie you down with pregnancy eish.

Wish you all the best and i pray you don't go broke again else, you will see the realest side again

U should have seek the advice first b4 u importunate her.

Don't u think it is too late to be seeking advice

Here we go again .wen u d get down wit d gal bare u no knw say u b mature man wey fit give gal belle....I totally hate dis talk....

brother, truth be told she is back because of your money...similar thing happened to me. , I just gave up and automatically believed money is the vital thing in love these days.. If u love her go for her still, cause the next u wud meet wud still boil down to money just pray to God u keep on having the money shikenna

Hmm... It's obvious she doesn't love you. You don't have much of a choice, bro

She left you without dough and is returning with dough...

Who does that? Sex Peddlers.

You wanna marry a Sex Peddler?


Now, she's claiming to be pregnant? Hian! Hope you're not blinded already through intimacy o?

Gush!

Since u said she's pregnant already, then I think u sud marry her. U fell for her trap, and it worked on u. Twale to all d naija women... Dem get those cheat codes die... Smart geh chapsly get pregnant.

Redoil:
i am havin such problem too and i am realy confuse about it. The kwestion you should ask ur self is will she be better or worse off than any other gurl you will meet if you decide to let her go ask ur self and sincerely answer the kwestion you urself.

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Thanks. So much sense in ur post

holatin:
hmmmmmmm this thing pass me oooo.
let me set a 5 man committee on this matter.

Bros, abeg, make you include me ooo.

Are u 100% sure d preg z urz? Did u knw d real reason she left u ild say ditch dat gal

Kick her to the curb. Get someone better. You deserve it.

She's after your wealth and u no that, that's y you're scared. U hv seen d inevitable, don't let pregnancy deceive u. Besides, are u really sure d pregnancy is yours? BROS, A STITCH IN TIME SAVES NINE.

The title of this thread conveniently left out the detail that she is pregnant. Oga, be a man, own up and marry her.

My der man, once a cheat always a cheat, mind u women ar d best actor when they found good life or comfort there they become an angel.........talkin 4rm experience. Dnt be a victim

OliverQuinny:
Dear Nairalanders, I am in a relationship with someone that hurt me when I needed her most. We met a while ago while I was still hustling on the streets of PortHarcourt. I was working in a small firm then, but I was doing all I could to make her happy. The job wasn't well paying, so I had to quit to pursue my Masters Degree and professional qualifications. The money stopped rolling in and we both started having issues. She became very difficult and eventually she left me sha, for no concrete reason. But I strongly believe its cos I quit the job.

I still loved her, and wished she wud change her mind. Some years later, I got a job in one of the multinationals and was sent abroad on an official assignment. I met her again at the airport in London and we became friends. We started chatting and she visited me on a saturday. One thing led to another, and we were intimate. The feelings started rekindling, but I just couldn't forget the way she treated me when I needed her most and I am afraid that shez back cos of my wealth.

Recently, she told me shez one month pregnant and am contemplating marrying her, but the way she hurt me when we were in Nigeria keeps taunting me. I keep having these flashbacks. Am actually scared that she will repeat the same behaviour in d nearest future even though it seems she has changed.

Please ur advice is needed here. Mature minds only.

You clearly were not hurt enough, because if you were, you would not be taking her clothes off and making her pregnant(that is if the pregnancy is yours) !!!
The time you were sticking your 3rd leg into her Garden, you were not having flashbacks !!!!

OliverQuinny:


I am well known on nairaland, thats y I created dis profile. Thanks for ur word...

lalasticlala


is that UUU

eminent007:





Seconded!

You meet your ex and on her first visit you don rush de f*ck her.
Were you sex starved.
Oloso biz no de go on strike ke!
Guy, go sleep jare.
If you dare quote me........

Fish

why putting her in a family way, why did u not protect urself. just marry her, u ar too educated to be wedding a pregnant woman. poor self control

Lols...
She left when u was broke and back when u is made,u might still get broke later in d future if u'r not careful (not wishing u that tho) which means she might still leave even with the kids...,my dear,weigh it joor and decide biko.



Get smart,a girl that left when u'r broke will not understand when there's a slight change in tide abi u think everything will be rosy at all times,there will be moments when storms might hit your boat hard,will she be able to stay?

OliverQuinny:


Thank u so much. You may not believe me, but I feel relieved a little with ur post. Ur right, cos if she didnt get preg, I wudnt hav thot of marryg her. Thanks again

I have said it before and I am saying it again:
Never marry someone because he/she has a 'hold' (e.g. Pregnancy) on you.
Please don't!

It's OK if you want to marry her because you are convinced she's a changed person, and want to live with and love her having totally put the past behind you.

But please, DO NOT marry her out of compulsion or a feeling of 'strandedness'.
If you do, you'll regret it. People who do ALWAYS regret.
Ask those that have been there.

Yea she left you cause of money but look at that this way ...her departure gave you the room to arrange yourself , round up your studies ..you never know . women sometimes have a way of slowing a man down who has a goal with thier presence .So its still up to you on this ..If you wanna call it off ..the earlier the better . Dont let it linger too long specially with a baby coming soon

and how is this front page worthy?


it must be from your village if u need someone to tell u to carry koboko and whip her sorry a$$ at your life

diddydiva:

you are wicked!!!

Face the truth. You got back with her to revenge.

you planned it all.

Anyways I don't blame u but the gullible lady who can't make her no a no.

it's truly your decision so make it.

which woman makes her no a no when cash is rolling?

[quote author=Oliv even though it seems she has changed.

Changed??guess shes mre ov a chameleon den

OliverQuinny:
Dear Nairalanders, I am in a relationship with someone that hurt me when I needed her most. We met a while ago while I was still hustling on the streets of PortHarcourt. I was working in a small firm then, but I was doing all I could to make her happy. The job wasn't well paying, so I had to quit to pursue my Masters Degree and professional qualifications. The money stopped rolling in and we both started having issues. She became very difficult and eventually she left me sha, for no concrete reason. But I strongly believe its cos I quit the job.

I still loved her, and wished she wud change her mind. Some years later, I got a job in one of the multinationals and was sent abroad on an official assignment. I met her again at the airport in London and we became friends. We started chatting and she visited me on a saturday. One thing led to another, and we were intimate. The feelings started rekindling, but I just couldn't forget the way she treated me when I needed her most and I am afraid that shez back cos of my wealth.

Recently, she told me shez one month pregnant and am contemplating marrying her, but the way she hurt me when we were in Nigeria keeps taunting me. I keep having these flashbacks. Am actually scared that she will repeat the same behaviour in d nearest future even though it seems she has changed.

Please ur advice is needed here. Mature minds only.

Mister Man run for your life. Shey last time she dumped you , next time she will give you rat poison . If you disobey me I hope you will remember this when you are dying. Half a word is enough for the wise.

People will always talk or advice you wrongly; but beloved, let me ask you.
Do you love this girl?
Do you see her as your wife?
Do you cherish your unborn child?
Then marry her.
Love keeps no record of wrong
People sin and God do forgive, why can't we humans forgive?
If we say we love GOD, Then we must truly love others to show them the taste of God's love in your life.
Forgive that girl and marry her
Make her happy
Make her child happy....
God bless your marriage.