keppyy:



Wow!!!

This is really great...

Thank you a lot...

keppyy:


Yup...
I'm not attracted to men anymore...

Dimples192:


You're welcome sweetie :-)
Think about your future but dnt worry instead daydream and send out positive energy into your future. Picture your house and job and man create your future through daydreams and visualise it. Use all your senses to enjoy your dreams. This is praying with thoughts god hears and delivers. Ask, believe and receive. Control the negative bs. Our thoughts become physical that's why you're ill hun. Swat those negative thoughts like they're flys. I'll stop now lol sorry for the long story.

keppyy:


Random stuffs...

It's a fault I have, if there's a bomb-blast...I think

I'm bored...I think

What next...I think


I'm an "over-thinker".

Big Question: How do I stop thinking?

*sorry for derailing*

keppyy:


Yup...
I'm not attracted to men anymore...

thorpido:
I hope the attraction is not for females now......
Seriously,you just need to find or be found by the right guy.How was your last relationship?

keppyy:


I'm not attracted to females....it's kinda complicated...

bellong:


Maybe you have not met one that will "tingle" your heart. You shouldn't be attracted to men but a "Man"...

Meanwhile, what happened in your last relationship?

keppyy:



Hehehehehe...

I'm talking sexually here and not relationship....

It's been 2years since I said no to pre-marital sex...

Before then, I do admire men...As in, when you walk by and you see a wonderful specie of God's creation, your thoughts go wild but now I don't notice them anymore...

It's not about me having sex, it's about just admiring them...


My last relationship was cool.

I hope you understand...

bukatyne:


Unfavorable how?

If it is a long distance relationship, how have you both gotten to know yourselves so far?

Can't he come over a weekend? He can get 2 days leave 2wks/ 1 month in advance to see you (depending on his Company's policy)

Please do not be in a rush

MercyMercy:

Unfavorable to our communication esp cos we update each other abt almost everything.
He used to be in Lagos before he relocated to Benin. it's not easy for him coming down here cos he's d boss of his own.
Funny enuf, we aren't in a rush. Rush in d sense of bringing up children(we aren't ready in dat aspect). We want to achieve our plan for the future together not just as close friends but as a couple. He is one of the ministers in his church and I also have a calling in d ministry.

thorpido:
Herzumpther

You said your dad has some Yoruba friends.If you know any couple that are responsible,you could go talk to them about your situation and they can have some word with your dad.
I also want you to talk to your fiance about the situation.

I hope you have done your homework concerning him and you are sure he meets up to that standard of a responsible guy.I wouldn't want you disappointed.You sound like a good girl.

keppyy:


Random stuffs...

It's a fault I have, if there's a bomb-blast...I think

I'm bored...I think

What next...I think


I'm an "over-thinker".

Big Question: How do I stop thinking?

*sorry for derailing*

Herzumpther:

bellong:


I read your "tribal" story and I must tell you that yours is not a peculiar case. Fathers that are overprotective of their daughters always believe they know it all even when they are going astray making bad choices for their daughter.

The guy (Olalekan) is the person that will prove himself to your dad. He needs to pay a visit to your dad, get to talk to him and allay his fear of tomorrow. My father in law has same reservation about Lagosians, despite that he is Yoruba. He believes Lagosians are not straight-forward, insincere and care less about their wives. I got close to him, convinced him of my good intention for his daughter. With time, he gave his blessings. I am sure today, he does thank God for not pushing me away ...

Let the guy get to meet your dad first, then talk to your dad's friends to render you support.

Don't go violent against your dad, you will only compound the problem.

bellong:


What is your religious inclination?

Herzumpther:
Thank you so much. My dad believes that those from Lagos are like what you mentioned above. I love and respect my dad so much that I don't see myself going against him...as a matter of fact, I've NEVER disobeyed him before and I don't plan to. Even tho I'm his favorite , he makes it clear to me daily that I should remove my mind from the Yoruba's. I've gone totally silent on the ish and that was why I ran away on valentines day because I know what's on ground and for now can't lead olalekan on. Since Saturday I've refused to pick his call because I don't know what to say. Telling him to visit my dad.....I don't know if it will be a wise thing to do or if dad will pick offence stating that I know his stand already and I still allowed him to come. I don't know if I should just give everything space and maybe bring it up later. As strong hearted as I might make my dad look here he is very fragile and emotional. My dad is standing strong on this and that is really confusing me because any ish he stands strong takes the grace of God or his father to make him change his mind......I tire o.

keppyy:

I'm a christain...

keppyy:



Hehehehehe...

I'm talking sexually here and not relationship....

It's been 2years since I said no to pre-marital sex...

Before then, I do admire men...As in, when you walk by and you see a wonderful specie of God's creation, your thoughts go wild but now I don't notice them anymore...

It's not about me having sex, it's about just admiring them...


My last relationship was cool.

I hope you understand...

ehisdan:
U will never stop thinking untill u have a mindset of leting things be the way they are either good or bad. There are things that are met to be the way they and there is noting any one can do about it except God. Seeing things happening around u and being upset over it we only deprived u of ur peace. Live and let live. Why i was growing i always think of how my life will be, how i will make my family a rich one, how i make my siblings to be great in life, how i will help those suffering in the village and so on. But each day that goes by i dnt see this dream coming to reality, it got to a point that every thing that comes to my mind was comitting suicide. It was when i became familiar with the word of God that i found the solution to my problem. The word of God is the most complete book on earth all the solution to every problem is in it. My young ones i was thinking of how to give a good life and make them reach are now grown up, one of them graduated before me and one has gotten a piece of land the funniest part of it is am still in school. God has his way of doing things which no man can never question. Permit to make it known to u that the orientation ur field is compounding ur problem. "Your worries of today over ur tomorrow never add anything to ur tomorrow but removes today's peace and joy". Cheers

bellong:


He is standing strong because he has never met him and he still sees whoever he is as one of the bad guys.

Don't let him go to see him now, let things calm down first.

Call your guy and arrange a place to talk about it. Explain the situation to him and if he is the good guy you think, he will be patient with you till your dad finally succumb. Your mum will be helpful in this situation.

Don't rush things and it will soon become a story.

NB: Your dad wouldn't be convinced in a day and easily. It will take time, patience, firmness and consistency.

bukatyne:


What if children come immediately you marry today?

I still believe that you both can wait a year. Phone and Skype calls can help with communication

Him being the boss of his own should make his time more flexible

Herzumpther:
Thank you so much. My dad believes that those from Lagos are like what you mentioned above. I love and respect my dad so much that I don't see myself going against him...as a matter of fact, I've NEVER disobeyed him before and I don't plan to. Even tho I'm his favorite , he makes it clear to me daily that I should remove my mind from the Yoruba's (especially lagosians). I've gone totally silent on the ish and that was why I ran away on valentines day because I know what's on ground and for now can't lead olalekan on. Since Saturday I've refused to pick his call because I don't know what to say. Telling him to visit my dad.....I don't know if it will be a wise thing to do or if dad will pick offence stating that I know his stand already and I still allowed him to come. I don't know if I should just give everything space and maybe bring it up later. As strong hearted as I might make my dad look here he is very fragile and emotional. My dad is standing strong on this and that is really confusing me because any ish he stands strong takes the grace of God or his father to make him change his mind......I tire o.

babyosisi:


Biko don't keep this guy wondering
Tell him what's going on

laykhorn:
Blessed is the day Nairaland was born!
Blessed is the day I find this website!
Blessed is the day I stumbled upon this thread!
God bless Seun!
God Bless Babyosisi!
God Bless Bukatyne!
God Bless Moca!
God Bless EfemenaXY!
God Bless myself too!
And most of all, God Bless the Internet!
Thank God for Technology!

thorpido:
Keppyy,if you had it then,then it's still there.You just let it go latent(as long as you haven't grown to dislike men).
If you decide to stick with your stance on pre-marital sex,you should still socialize with men.Don't worry,when the right man comes,he'll light you up again.

Herzumpther:
Yes ma'am.

keppyy:


Okay..Let me hit the streets and revive it...

babyosisi:


If you are both Christians ,pray about this.
Prayers can work wonders.From the way you talk about this man,he seems to be a good catch[

thorpido:
....not in that sense.

Herzumpther:
Hmmm. The only man that I've met and he believes so much in no sex till he takes me away? The only man that has refused me cooking for him saying if he starts doing husband things what will he be looking forward to when he marries me? My dear if I start to say it all you will understand why I said at first I tot he was TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE..... I can't spill all publicly jare, I'm sure you understand what I mean even without spilling it all. Ma'am babyosisi, a male 'V' o....