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dpoladapo604:
We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

emmillyfaith:
Please let's look at this issue from a proper point of view,d lady in quetion had a dream and decided 2 seek solution from d socalled alfa,she wasn't wrong because in their conversation he never asked her out,the only way she went wrong was that she should hav obeyed her fiance's instruction. But meanwhile,I strongly believe that she was anxious 2 know d meaning of what she saw in d rem of d dream,furthermore this socalled Alfa is obviously not ordained by God therefore he was led by d flesh and wit d aid of his fetish powers he lured he in2 sex,she couldn't have known when it happend and by requesting money 4 abortion may be she wanted her pound of flesh. MY DEAR BROTHER I see no reason why u should dump ur fiancee u saw d conversation ur self she wasn't 100% faulty and besides if God can forgive den whom are we not 2 do d same. True love endureth trials and temptations obviously she loves u and if she were a cheat u wld hav seen d traits in her b4 d ALFA issue came up. Pls give her a second chance. She's human and only but a woman. GOD be wit u both. COMMENTATORS pls think twice.

emmillyfaith:
Please let's look at this issue from a proper point of view,d lady in quetion had a dream and decided 2 seek solution from d socalled alfa,she wasn't wrong because in their conversation he never asked her out,the only way she went wrong was that she should hav obeyed her fiance's instruction. But meanwhile,I strongly believe that she was anxious 2 know d meaning of what she saw in d rem of d dream,furthermore this socalled Alfa is obviously not ordained by God therefore he was led by d flesh and wit d aid of his fetish powers he lured he in2 sex,she couldn't have known when it happend and by requesting money 4 abortion may be she wanted her pound of flesh. MY DEAR BROTHER I see no reason why u should dump ur fiancee u saw d conversation ur self she wasn't 100% faulty and besides if God can forgive den whom are we not 2 do d same. True love endureth trials and temptations obviously she loves u and if she were a cheat u wld hav seen d traits in her b4 d ALFA issue came up. Pls give her a second chance. She's human and only but a woman. GOD be wit u both. COMMENTATORS pls think twice.

dpoladapo604:
We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

savanto:
@OP,

I felt for you after reading you post. I'm glad that you are not yet married to her. I will tell you the truth because I have seen it all and even worse.

The lady in question, like most ladies our society produces today, wants to 'settle down with you' she could shed a drum full of tears to convince you of her undying love for you. She does not know anything about love. You are easily moved by a woman's tears and that could be your doom. Never allow yourself to be moved by tears. There are somethings I cannot say here but I can tell you that the tears she shed will not stop her from cheating on you soon...not later!

The problem is that most women don't know where they are with themselves. They seem to want to eat their cake and have it back. They are greedy and lack the will-power to say no to men when they are in a relationship.

Let me break it down a little bit for your comprehension. If for instance, you show me this girl that just shed tears of sorrow to you a few days ago, I can get to easily sleep with her while you monitor her movements to be sure that I'm telling you the truth.
I'm not writing to condemn our women. They are great and God created them to be our helpers. But don't think with your d1ck.

Con

savanto:
@OP,

I felt for you after reading you post. I'm glad that you are not yet married to her. I will tell you the truth because I have seen it all and even worse.

The lady in question, like most ladies our society produces today, wants to 'settle down with you' she could shed a drum full of tears to convince you of her undying love for you. She does not know anything about love. You are easily moved by a woman's tears and that could be your doom. Never allow yourself to be moved by tears. There are somethings I cannot say here but I can tell you that the tears she shed will not stop her from cheating on you soon...not later!

The problem is that most women don't know where they are with themselves. They seem to want to eat their cake and have it back. They are greedy and lack the will-power to say no to men when they are in a relationship.

Let me break it down a little bit for your comprehension. If for instance, you show me this girl that just shed tears of sorrow to you a few days ago, I can get to easily sleep with her while you monitor her movements to be sure that I'm telling you the truth.
I'm not writing to condemn our women. They are great and God created them to be our helpers. But don't think with your d1ck.

Con

Kingsasian:
excellent, u also spoke to me too u just described the kind of girl I was dating.

omonnakoda:
You are a real man with game spirit. You are not selfish and really admire that.Some men when they find a good thing want to keep it to themselves but you have a generous spirit and have no problem sharing your woman.God will surely reward you.Also because you are sharing with an Alfa God will reward you double. Also your woman is a blessing to you . She tries to protect your feelings so when you ask her she denies but because she is God fearing she will eventually confess. Also she is the kind of woman who leaves her phone where can check up on what is the "latest this show that she is sincere so I will advice that you should start making plans to marry her. She must agree never to hide her phone from you and you must always forgive her when she sleeps with anyone in the future .God will bless all of you including the Alfa abundantly.

braine:
He also described mine too! We are in trouble

princeogbeide1:
see man" a girl remains to be everybody's girl until she gets married.

Kingsasian:
hahahahahahaha, especially the shedding of tears aspect.....daughters of Eve.

Odunharry:
guy u need do am o....Dnt mind her if she tries to blackmail u by crying or saying u dnt love her and all that..Girls are masters when it comes to pretence and the funny thing is many of them will always check ur phone..Atimes i wonder what is in a phone that they hide.

This Op own worst o.Me na text msg sent and recieve i see i was just playing along then i kickd her out didnt evn bother the begging or tears
Beware of girls who dnt answer call when u are 2geda or who always answer with Yes,no,later(one/two word reply)...My guy,RUNNNNNN FASTTTT

dpoladapo604:
We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

Acidosis:
...and some people will say it's wrong to check or read their partners' chats.

Trust is an intangible word. Check that damn phone and chats before she gives you AIDS & truncate your destiny.

After all there are many decent fishes in the ocean, so why expose yourself to AIDS & other spiritual diseases in the name of "trust"?

ivyT:
Wicked*
Shebi she don beg d guy na

pring:
For me, no body is perfect. Stick with her if u realy luv her.
thats the problem with guys.
the next girl ur going to meet out there may b worse.
No girl is new or perfect. even virgins still disappoint.

bamgbalaot:
To my point of view...sit her down and give her the warning of her life, tho .. Some girls are kinda naughty at times, same time she might have being under spell..just so painful u warned her and she refused to yield! No one is shield free of error/temptation. Just let go of the past and build your home to be well on Christ/Allah/Eledumare.......

braine:
I dey tell you my brother. That drama wont work anymore

eromspete:
She used the ABORTION story to try to get money from the Alfa. She' obviously a CON ARTIST.

If you get married to her, expect alot of manipulation from her to satisfy whatever she wants. If she wants money she will scam you emotionally to get it.

Separation from a partner is painful especially when emotional investments are high but you should be able to let go.

She messed up and now you have two choices:

1 - To forgive and WARN her strongly not to try it ever again as long as she's with you OR
2 - Let her go (people rarely change from already established behaviours)