We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

The choice is yours to make are you ready to continue with her and live with the imagination of that Alfa combing her ? or you move on.

Finally guys stop snooping around your lady's phone because you will do yourself much harm by seeing things that exceeds your suspicions/expectations/intuition

Voila!

Hmnnn, to me o, I will say dump her already.

Narrating ur plight is good, at least it keeps us busy buh asking us to advice u is quite annoying.

Are u not a man, if u can live wiv a cheat y not go on nd stop askin us to mislead u....

Alfa don chop d pussssy,let her go joooo
Anytym u rember u find it hard to let go

Thank God you guys are not married yet, you can give a stop to the relationship.

Them no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall now!

Dump her sorry ass joor!

NEXT!

Yes! It's right to move on with her. But when she might have slept wit ur father, "Stop On..

Love no blind reach this place oo

look at the systematic lies she's been telling u. at the last count she claimed she didn't have an abortion. her lies have been step by step until u discover the previous lie to which she admits. why would a woman preparing for marriage be trying to scam an alfa of 5K in the name of abortion?
guys beware after they have done all the fvcking around with different t guys in the name of BF they will come and form wife material for u. shine your eye.

You see love matter eh!, I hands off. If I say leave am na that time the love go begin hungry u pass... No leave am, you go say I no sabi advice person. Na your matter; carry am for your head.

see man" a girl remains to be everybody's girl until she gets married.

It depends on how you view the concept of marriage. Ask yourself is that the type of person you want to be with for the rest of your life ( that's if you don't believe in divorce )

Dictionary didnt define ''GIRL' very well so i wont comment about it. Just be ur self bro. If ox

I have an interest in dis topic, guys keep the advice coming but with concrete reasons.

Op let her be gone with the wind so that this destiny terminator will not truncate your destiny.

This one can plan with assassin's or robbers to dispossess you of your valuables.

Shine the eyes.

Oga wear your shoe fast fast, run, flee, elope, any or all of the above

Guy free that babe. Make she go

Samiceman:
Them no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall now!

Dump her sorry ass joor!

NEXT!

Wicked*
Shebi she don beg d guy na

Kip foolin ursef o afta u marid i'l kip bangin.. U beta let go b4 u fada anoda man's child

dpoladapo604:
...but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying...

This part is really annoying.. Women are just too deceptive. I don't know how your common sense doesn't tell you to dump her. Only God knows the other guys doing her.

The fact that she even got pregnant means they did it skin2skin! Dear Lord!

To you my Nairaland brothers I say: check your girlfriend's phone today!

If you cheat on her, she will definitely go back to alfa to finish you.

Oboy, tear race.. Talking from experience.

God cries when he sees your stupidity

Dat ur gf is a big w.hore. U better dump her silly ass or else sorry wil b ur name. Even after warning her nt 2 c d alfa she stil went n dat wasn't enough, she slept wif him. Haba guy u use ur brain 4 once nau

Bro na God show u her colour. I'd advise that u let go, but just continue kpenshing d thing(Protected)until u find urself a fiancee. This one na Kpiance and a fiend not friend.

The continued Kpenshing na to pay her back and to help u heal from all the hurt.

Op,please change the topic to my dog slept with an Alfa,till she sleeps with your father,before you send her packing..

Go on with her and I bet you your next post here will be ''my wife slept with my gate man''

...and some people will say it's wrong to check or read their partners' chats.

Trust is an intangible word. Check that damn phone and chats before she gives you AIDS & truncate your destiny.

After all there are many decent fishes in the ocean, so why expose yourself to AIDS & other spiritual diseases in the name of "trust"?

Some say its a Man's world. True or not i cant say.

But what i know is this, if a man sleeps with another lady it can be overlooked, hes a striker,
his self control can be bashed.

But

For a Lady, its a complete no no, she was made to be a keeper, if she gives in, shes a hoe.
Her dignity lies on the floor man.