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datibo:
I am very ashamed of some pple. Igbo this igbo that. Dem use igbo pple do una. U guys av ur own problems instead of u to address it,u luk 4 tins that wil bring down the igbos.its quite unfortunate. U feel so happy when people insult the igbos. The igbo r stil the highest in inter tribal marriage. I know many yoruba family that wil prefer to marry an iliterate yoruba instead of an educated sound igbo. I am proudly Ikeduru,Imo and my girlfriend is from ijebu in ogun state. And we planning a great future 2gda,if God wills. Stop creating enemity btwn igbo n d other tribes. Its enough. Remuv d sand in your eyes before u do 4 someone else. NONSENSE.

onyedikachukwue:
Our women feel more comfortable with us.i can't marry a girl who is not from anambra.


Proudly ANAMBRA
I REP NNEWI

CHM11:
Dear OP, please leave igbos alone if you are not igbo. Let them keep marrying themselves, its better for them.

I just pity peeps who date igbos!!,..especially igbos who live or have lived in the east...how do you cope with them??

Had to live amongst some east-based igbo guys and ladies during my NYSC..... Worst experience of my life...

VirginFinder:
I dont fancy a Yoruba lady marrying an ibo man, at all.
But the reverse is ok by me.

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

onila:
Igbo men are horrible

egoistic and love bullying pple

yoruba men are better

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

Sweetlemon:
Funny I was just about starting a thread on this.

Igbos are generally stiff but the Anambrans take the cake. Those ones will not even marry outside Anambra sef (if possible their LGA) not to talk of crossing Igbo. Abomination! Only very few exposed Anambrans have been able to marry out of Anambra after fighting through heavy resistance from their nuclear and extended families.

My favourite SE states are Imo and Enugu. Very liberal people.

CHM11:
Why insult because I wouldn't want to marry or associate myself intimately with an east based igbo... I never said igbos are bad people, just that I find it hard to understand their character and behavior and here you are insulting and talking like someone who can't control his mouth.

Smart igbo people here know what I am talking about because they too find it hard to understand yoruba's and hausa's. Please think before you comment.

CHM11:
Delta/Urhobo
Served in a PPA with 15 corpers, 11 were igbos and it was hell for the 4 of us non igbos.

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

fowowe411:
Stop sounding pathetic like you are courting sympathy.....dont read too much meaning to things

fyneboi79:
Yes I am Igbo and I understand how you feel when you see them progressing and you seem to remain stagnant. Until u get close and understand the Igbos,u may never progress.
I bet u are from the palm oil soup loving tribe Cheer up

happyzed0:
So am wastn tym wif dis anambra guy no wonder ntin gud is cmin out 4 d pass 3yrs nw I dnt knw his intension 2ward Me I dnt even knw his parentz we ar into hide n see relatnshp oh God pls help me

whatx:
@Bigfrancis21

Trying to observe nairaland rules, else i would have rained it on you.

You don't have to justify your culture nor comment on every post you come across.

If you don't have real experience, hold your peace. Am from the ibo speaking part of delta state and also a victim of such relationship.

Even being from the igbo-speaking part of delta state did not help me, as the particular family in question told my girl that it will be over their dead body.

On hearing the news i took time to strategies how to tackle this challenge, but to my surprise the babe made a shocking revelation.
She told me that the mum has actually being informing her of one spare part dealer who is from Anambra who she wants her to marry (true story), and that she has visited the guy severally (ehn ehen?).

On hearing this people i change am for hear. WHAT DO YOU MEAN? WHAT NONSENSE? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN? YOU VISITED HIM WITHOUT MY PERMISSION? Screaming at the top of my voice. I angrily went home that day from our meeting joint.

To be fair with her, she later called and tired to calming me down asking; "what do i do"? By then i have already Googled the dude from the names she gave me (serious under cover sh#t). And my people Wetin i see nor help matters oh, the guy already has a car and am still using my most trusted two leg slabaquin.
I told her to follow her heart, which is the most stupid advice i have ever given. I tried analysing it for her as a wafi man,
- you Stick with me we try make it in life together, i graduated top in my department, a chartered accountant, currently doing my msc in accounting, though no job yet but tomorrow MAY be better.
- you go with them, married the guy within the next two years, and thing may blossom between you two.
I decided to ask her one question which i didn't get the answer till date- do you love him? She replied that he is a cool guy (ukpabiokpabio okpokicha, cool guy).

I discharge her that day thinking say my qualification go save me and thus decided to give her the silent treatment. Two weeks later she finally broke the silence with an outright personal invitation for me to their wedding (i die stand) this is a girl i have dated for the past 12 consecutive months, no break. See Wetin first silent treatment bring me, i almost poisoned my friend who gave the silent advice.

Well, that's about my experience with an Anambra babe, she is now married with one issue, leaving happily.

So bigfrancis21, i do not give what i don't have, this is my true story. That our forefathers are corrupt does not mean you should be corrupt, that everybody is going left does not mean you should go left (check ur boko alert before you move oh), that ever tribe is tribalistic dies not been you should be.
Further revelation from her on the negative pressure she received from her parents and siblings (whom i chat and play with every visit)was so shocking that i didn't even bother to go discuss with any of her family members.

I tort i was igbo until i met a lady from across the niger. just one bridge made me realised that there is difference between IGBO and IBO. Today, if you referred to me as IGBO i might slit your throat.

ADVICE: tell your friend to ask the guy directly if he is serious, thereafter discuss marriage possibility. If you must be a relationship ref, you have got to be good in what you are doing. Life is too short for wasting around.

PEACE OUT

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

onila:
Igbo men are horrible

egoistic and love bullying pple

yoruba men are better

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

CHM11:
Why insult because I wouldn't want to marry or associate myself intimately with an east based igbo... I never said igbos are bad people, just that I find it hard to understand their character and behavior and here you are insulting and talking like someone who can't control his mouth.

Smart igbo people here know what I am talking about because they too find it hard to understand yoruba's and hausa's. P
lease think before you comment.

FOLLOWJESUS:
The igbos have much value for marriag and cherish their wives and husbands somuch,the igbo trib are the only trib that practically practice the vow we make in marriag for better for worst,very faithful to each other not the woMan that will marry 10 husbands before her time is up and the man that will have 20 concobine out side.we sarching for that woman who can stand by u when the going is tough,and the man who will reciprucate.

Rhebekah:
My name is Tracy.I was raised up in a divided home where my dad have to take care of myself and my younger sister alone after my mother left us for another man.My dad did all he could for us to see us through life.He sacrificed everything for us.He chose not to get married again because of us.Without being told u should know wat it means for a man to raise two females alone.That was a difficult and time-consuming task if u ask me.Throughout these years my mother never surfaced. To cut d long story short,I'm now old enough to get married now,but my dad insisted I marry from his religion which we were also brought up wit.Now d problem is,my dad wants me to marry from his religion at all cost due to his position and d love he is getting from d members!I on my part tried dating a man from his religion when d pressure from him was much.He threatened to disown me and never attend my wedding if I go outside his religion. Hmmm!this is my lovely dad that I can't trade d love I have for him for anyone!This man he wants me to marry is poor,he has no education of any kind not even secondary school but I am a graduate!The man in question is 39 while im 27.The man loved me very well and I've even gone to see his family but my heart is very FAR from him I swear.Now I want ur honest opinion,will I not be an ingrate if I go against my fathers wish?I will only be happy if I'm allowed to marry d man of heart but at d same time I want my dads happiness,wat do I do?

sleekangel85:
My cousin dated this anambra Guy for 6 yrs,she dated d guy wen he had nothing,yet she was still with him only for this guy to get money he told my cousin dat "my mother said I shud marry from my tribe".meanwhile he claimed he loved her.y didn't he define d relationship from d onset instead of wasting her time. Come to think of it y will a Man not be able to make his own choice nd decisions for a life partner,I believe he knows nd understands her better than his mother does to know if she'll make a good life partner.it's high time grown up men not boys or babies speak for themselves.Any man who does this kind of thing will face God's punishment for life.

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks