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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 4:45pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:I think its because because of the things he has seen. He really doesn't want a Yoruba man for any of us. My younger sister's fiance is from ogwu in Enugu state, she won't have problems at all. Obviously dad likes eastern men. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 4:46pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
chisom101: Have you gathered the airtight evidence I asked you to get,forwarded those messages to your own phone ? You have a shop,are you earning enough to support you and kids? Do you have Supportive parents? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 4:46pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:At least he is not a police like my dad. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 4:51pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
Ah. I remember that thread. Hell was let loose. Some people sha. babyosisi: |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 4:53pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
chisom101: Chisom101, I saw this thread you started feb 11 Please tell us more about this man How did you meet him,how much did you know him and what attracted you to this man Besides cheating and the racy text messages,he seems to have some major flaws in his character [size=18pt] Please stick to the two kids for now,no more pregnancies till this ish is sorted out[/size] |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 4:53pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
softysparky:such bad behavior 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:01pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:my Anty my Mon is late my father is very old but my brothers are very supportive.but am very pained today, I showed my pastor and his wife the text massage today he warned me never to torch my husband phone again,that I should go beg my husband I don't have any right to torch his phone. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:02pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
chisom101: Your pastor is very stupeed,you showed him a text about a woman talking about how she can't wait to see and ride his hard deek and he asks you to go beg the husband? He is probably doing same on his wife Listen to me and listen good Do not beg anything You heard me right,you've done nothing wrong,don't beg anybody ,not him,don't! Please answer my other questions Can your shop support you? Did the pastor find you this husband? Also answer the questions in my post about how you met this sicko Then I will give a more detailed response when I return from church Nonsense! 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 5:04pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
chisom101:these pastors . That's how one was pushing a girl to go kneel down and beg her husband that has been raping her since they got married. 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:05pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
From d look of things,u hv won d most part. Don't pressurize him to give u an answer now. Give him time and continue as if nothing happened. Like osisi said, go to ur uncle and drug him. U know how politicians use to drug d masses with sweet words to vote for them. Once u get ur uncle to be on ur side,then step aside and watch as things will unfold. Not to worry,ur dad will do d necessary investigation within and outside. I bet u he will succumb. Parents and over protectiveness. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:06pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
cococandy: Am I sure it wasn't the pastor that saw this husband in a vision |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:11pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
chisom101:. Pls don't mind those idiats. Most of d rabbish wives go tru at home r caused by them. No wonder most off them have dysfunctional family and children but r good at masking. Anu mpama of a pastor. Very machonistic set of people. Show me a naija pastor and I will show u a machonistic guy in d making. atulu ofia. Infact,let me vex finish. 6 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 5:11pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:He's probably a high giver and a financial pillar in the church. Who knows How many pastors like this one help intimidate young women into staying in abusive marriages because they don't want to speak against the man. Poor lady. Probably Feels overwhelmed and alone. 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:14pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
cococandy:Can u imagine? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 5:17pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
moca: Very annoying set of human beings. If you really want to get on my bad side real quick,just introduce yourself as a nigerian mushroom pastor and follow it with a useless statement like 'the lord gave me a message for you' Na pepper spray go follow The travails of nigerian pastors make me distrust a great percentage of them. 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:19pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
cococandy: And many nigerian girls ignorantly go to the pastor to confirm a husband choice or allow the man handpick God's will for them How foolish A man that I will be living with to be picked by someone else Let me not vex much I dey go church These pastors have ruined so many people Let me go to naija church today jare and get my groove on Oga is out so let me use the opportunity and worship naija style 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 5:21pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
I know some who won't make one decision without seeking their pastor's opinions. Pity their husbands in those cases. Because the pastors opinion comes before his. Anyway enjoy your Sunday babyosisi: 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:27pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:picture pls.... |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:31pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
Thanks moca. I will just watch and see how it goes. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 5:46pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:I met him in our church he was a very devoted Christian then,very calm very nice infant very body likes him .he approached me said he love me and want to marry me,our vicar and his wife then told me to marry him that he is a good man.he meet my people and marriage rite take place.to tell u the truth I don't know him well enough to marry him,but he promisedme that very thing will be alright that he will be a good husband to me.and we got married traditionally.after that I got pregnant for him our Reverend called him to fixed our wedding date he told him that he is not ready that we just did our traditional marriage.that was how we left that Church. Till today so after six months I discovered that he don't love me,loved him unconditional, hopeing that he will start loving me someday.love never come .last year before he would make love to me I will beg him,we hardly make love like husband and wife ,sometimes one year sometimes six months. Yes I have a small business am managing. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by urchbarbie(f): 6:14pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
Am not married o, but nwanne nke a siri ezigbo ike. By Vicar, it must be an anglican church okwa ya? I feel so burdened in my heart and av been having dis vision in my heart to run an ngo to help curtail some of these excesses. Am a very emotional person and feel it would affect me. Nne, ure already married, u won't outrighlty divorce him until he gives u strong reaasons to. As Babyosisi said, gather enuf evidence to confront him with and see his reaction. In d mean time I tink u shld av protective sex too. chisom101: 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 6:26pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
Herz A @chisom101, u r a beautiful woman. Love ur pix but pls, bring it down for now. I maro ndi oso chi egbu. Dust urself up and be ready for freedom. R u doing something now? If not get busy. Even if it's selling akara. Simply be busy. Ignore him completely. As per that ur church,if going to another church will cause problem,forget church for now and hustle. When u have gathered enough money, u can organize a meeting. Ur folk and his and table ur grievance. Listen with ur ear and mouth. His and his folks action will determine if u will still give d union another chance. But if he is not remorseful and ready to change,dear separate. U and u alone r responsible for ur happiness. U r too young to start groaning. Till when? A single day of happiness is better than living in a mansion without it. Also think about d kids. Contrary to what people say. Kids in a dysfunctional home have lots of baggage. Nne,i bu asa nwa,i nugo. I zulu ezu na nwanyi. And u should be very proud of urself. Pamper urself so that u will look like d one I saw in d picture. His bad,not urs if he doesn't retract. All d best. 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 6:37pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
Thank u moca: |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by ichidodo: 7:47pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:Yeah Go get' em, we trust anty...somebodi haff enter one chance. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:24pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
chisom101: This is sad First of all go and get tested for diseases including HIV,if it is positive ,that's another story If negative read on you are married and there are two children Your mom is late bless you,do you have two reliable no nonsense aunties that are a little like me?,preferably mom's sisters? You need one or both of them Tell them everything going on in this marriage Then go back home and confront this man with your findings and that you have told your family about this because you don't want to be infected with aids or have someone treat you like dirt and spread viscous lies about you. Then get the crazier of those aunties to call and fix a date for the visit to discuss the issues in the marriage.Let the aunty ask him to invite a family member of his in that discussion Some men at this point may plead that they don't want an outside intervention and promise heaven and earth, don't buy into this,things have gone too far and This discussion must hold Do you think you can do this? I am keeping your brothers out for now so they don't kill the guy If this man doesn't promise in front of your family members that he will treat you right,stop cheating on you and stop making up and telling wicked lies about you,you need to leave him 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by beylinko(m): 9:57pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
O God! My marriage must be different. My heart bleeds for the women and the men who are going through trying times in their marriages. God will see you through those periods of heartaches and headaches. Pls hold on, help will come your way speedily. On page 7, hope I'll be able to see this to the very end. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:01pm On Feb 22, 2015 |
My mum sister she not the talking type,even she will tell me(di bu ndidi)even if I call the whole village he will plead saying u know I love u bla blablabla and still go back to the same thing .but I Wii do as u said ,thank u ma babyosisi: |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Odillz: 6:56am On Feb 23, 2015 |
Good morning my people . Please I dreamt that Herzumpther's father accepted Leks and as I was dancing,I threw my phone inside water . Somebory shout 'AMEN'. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:00am On Feb 23, 2015 |
Odillz:Lol. You no serious. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by bukatyne(f): 8:54am On Feb 23, 2015 |
babyosisi: LOL! True Well some don't believe in the bolded I have learnt to leave everyone to whatever works for them 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by bukatyne(f): 9:57am On Feb 23, 2015 |
harveyspec: Sorry I am coming late to the party I understand where you are coming from... This lady is your first love and you invested everything in the relationship unfortunately, she is not reciprocating so you have been withdrawing from your emotional bank account without deposits and now the account is dry @ bold: The lady knows you love her genuinely that's why she keeps coming back for more unfortunately she is probably still testing the waters (not cheating on you) or feel she is still young and wants to keep you as per husband material @ 2nd bold: If you decide not to give your all in your next relationship, the lady might be principled like you and withdraw when she is burnt out. My point: Sade does not have to suffer for Titi's faults. As for your concerns: 1. Where do I start from( this was my first relationship, I don't know how to flirt or chase after girls, don't even have them as friends per say): The way you met this lady, you will meet others too. You are 28 and should be thinking of marriage meaning your next relationship should be geared towards that. 2. Will I find someone better, folks have been drumming it in my ears that the devil you know.....: That is the same line that has made many people miss out on their angels. Why don't you commit your love life into the hands of God? This lady might be the one for you but she must learn to give emotionally too She might not be the one for you and you will be led to someone better. Don't leave things at status quo because you are scared of the future. You must be cock sure she is the one before saying I do... It gives confidence in tackling challenges when they come. 3. Hope I ain't making a mistake: Refer to number two. Work on reconciliation when you are wrong.. You are not too big to say sorry (It might be an issue for your girl too) Again a number of ladies believe a guy should sweat it out in relationships because they will sweat it out in marriage (check out NL as a case study; most marriage advices are geared to the wife doing or not doing something ). It is well Have a great day... P.S.: Ladies! Ladies!! Ladies!!! don't take a man's love for granted! |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by bukatyne(f): 10:01am On Feb 23, 2015 |
djon78: Beautiful @Bold: wonderful. God bless your home |
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